Joint attention for children with autism

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Why is joint engagement important for communication development?

It has been well-documented that the development of joint attention is impaired in children who have social communication difficulties or autism. It is, in fact, this impairment which distinguishes children with ASD from children who have other developmental delays.

A lack of joint attention in very young children is an early sign of autism as it is a signal that there is a disruption in the motivation to connect socially with others. Since this is a crucial element, I thought I would outline what we mean by Joint Attention as supported by the research undertaken at Hanen.org.

In typically developing children, the ability to shift attention between a person and an object for the purposes of connecting socially or for requesting develops around the same time. However, for children with ASD, these components emerge one at a time and in a linear fashion. Children with ASD usually start with requesting something and later they may learn to share attention for social sharing. (see pattern below as a general guide).

As with typical development, there is variation in the order that these skills emerge but the following patterns of development is commonly seen:

  • Reaching, taking adult’s arm/hand or pointing to ask for something — but without looking at the adult
  • Gradually alternating looking between person and object of desire
  • Then learning to follow the point of another — which is responding to joint attention initiated by another
  • Directing attention to share interests — without looking at the adult: pointing to a truck on the road/ helicopter circling above
  • Then directing attention to share interest by alternating gaze shift between person and object — here the child is now initiating joint attention.

What is important to note is that in order to fulfil the criteria for true joint attention, the purpose of directing the attention of another person must be social in nature. In other words, it must not be exclusively to obtain a desirable object or event/action. True Joint Attention is seen verbally or non-verbally; we want to share a thought with another person and direct them to something we are interested or excited or spooked by.

For example: we can see an amazing firework display in the distance and we want to quickly direct our friend’s attention to this. In order to do this we might be tugging their sleeve/arm whilst pointing to the display in the distance, and perhaps we might add “wow look over there!” We are doing so simply to share an interest without obtaining anything, we are just being social with each other. So True Joint Attention is not just looking at what we want to have, then look at the person who can get this for us and then point to the item. We can say that this is the precursor to true joint attention, which is purely social in nature.

Because true joint attention is an essential precursor to typical language development, the absence of joint attention in children with ASD contributes to difficulties with language learning. Beuker, K., Rommelse, N., Donders, R. & Buitelaar, J. (2013).

The Hanen programme for Parent Child Interaction teaches parents of children with Social Communication Difficulties step by step how to enable their children to learn to pay attention to an object and the parent at the same time.

We learn how to enable a child to:

  • engage take turns
  • shift eye gaze between toy and adult
  • copy adult’s actions, gestures and then words
  • play with toys in different, new ways
  • interact and for longer periods of time
  • have fun whilst playing

If you would like to know more about the Hanen programme please get in touch. I look forward to exploring the topic with you and help guide you forward if this is something your child is struggling with.


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    • Pretend play
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    Child-led therapy is a very useful resource. We have it at our fingertips. We don’t need special resources. You just need yourselves and your child! Sometimes, child-led therapy can be tricky to put in place. It sounds easy but is much harder in reality. So, make sure you give it time and reflect on your experiences. Ask yourselves ‘what went well’, and ‘what could be improved’. E.g., perhaps you gave your child time to lead to begin with, but you didn’t give them enough time to think about their options during the activity.

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    Your child’s communication journey

    The start of a new year often brings fresh hope, and sometimes fresh worries, for parents supporting their child’s communication. I am always genuinely excited to begin a new journey with children and their families, and I know that, for many parents, this kind of therapy may look very different from what they were expecting.

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    When a child’s nervous system feels calm and secure, learning becomes possible. When a child feels pressured or controlled, communication often shuts down, even if they can speak.

    🎯 Our purpose: Communication through connection

    Our goal is not simply to help your child say more words. Our goals go deeper and are built on strong foundations:

    • Trust and regulation: We focus on building a trusting relationship where your child feels safe, understood, and emotionally regulated. A calm nervous system is the starting point for all communication.
    • Motivation: We follow your child’s intrinsic motivation, the things they naturally enjoy to make communication meaningful, joyful, and purposeful.
    • Spontaneous communication: We create opportunities for your child to communicate because they want to, not because they are asked or instructed to.

    🧸 What to expect in a session

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    FeatureWhat it looks likeWhy we do this
    Minimal toysWe usually offer just 3–4 carefully chosen activities (such as bubbles, blocks, or sensory play).Less is more. Fewer choices reduce overwhelm and help children focus on what genuinely interests them.
    Child choosesYour child decides what to play with and how to engage.This immediately establishes us as a safe, non-demanding partner and increases motivation.
    The therapist’s roleWe join your child’s play, observing closely and responding naturally.We model language, share attention, and reflect your child’s experiences in a way that feels natural and supportive.
    No pressure or demandsThere are no ‘must-do’ tasks. If your child wants to spin, crash, line up toys, or repeat an activity, we follow.Reducing demands lowers anxiety and supports communication, particularly for children with demand-sensitive profiles.

    Is this really effective?

    It’s completely natural to wonder, ‘Are they just playing?’ The answer is yes, and very intentionally so.

    Our sessions are guided by nearly 30 years of speech and language therapy experience, alongside clear, achievable goals tailored to each individual child. Play is a child’s natural language and their most powerful learning tool.

    Within play, we are constantly creating opportunities to:

    • Build joint attention (sharing focus and interest)
    • Model language at the right level
    • Encourage back-and-forth communication
    • Develop a deep, authentic connection

    If your child has struggled to engage or communicate in more structured or demand-heavy settings, this child-led approach is often the key to unlocking their potential.

    💛 What this might look like at home

    You may notice that when pressure is reduced:

    • Your child begins communicating more during everyday routines
    • Language emerges through play, movement, or shared enjoyment
    • Communication feels more natural and less forced

    Small moments could be a shared smile, a look, a sound, a gesture. All matter. These are the building blocks of meaningful communication.

    📚 Resources for parents

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    I look forward to meeting you and your child. Please bring any questions, uncertainties, or curiosities to our first session, there is no such thing as a silly question. This is a journey we take together. Contact me via my contact form.

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    What is AAC in a nutshell?

    AAC encompasses a wide range of tools and strategies that supplement or replace spoken language. It’s not about replacing speech, but rather about providing additional ways for individuals to communicate effectively. Think of it as a spectrum:

    • Unaided AAC: This involves using only your body, such as gestures, facial expressions, body language, and sign language.
    • Aided AAC: This involves external tools or devices. These can range from low-tech options like picture boards and communication books to high-tech speech-generating devices (SGDs) and apps on tablets.

    The beauty of AAC lies in its flexibility and personalisation. It empowers individuals to express their wants, needs, thoughts, and feelings, fostering independence and participation in all aspects of life.

    Modelling is KEY: Showing, not just telling

    Imagine trying to learn a new language without ever hearing it spoken. It would be incredibly difficult, right? The same principle applies to AAC. Modelling is the single most important strategy for teaching and supporting AAC users. It means actively using the AAC system yourself while talking, demonstrating how to navigate the system and express messages.

    Here’s why modelling is so vital:

    • It’s how we learn language: Typically developing children learn language by hearing it constantly around them. AAC users need the same immersion.
    • It reduces pressure: When you model, you’re not asking the individual to communicate, you’re just showing them how it’s done. This takes the pressure off and makes learning more enjoyable.
    • It expands vocabulary and concepts: By modelling a variety of words and phrases, you introduce new vocabulary and demonstrate how to combine symbols to create more complex messages.
    • It demonstrates purpose: Modelling shows that AAC is a functional and effective way to communicate, not just a set of pictures.

    So, how do you model? It’s simple: point to the symbols on the communication board or device as you speak the words. For example, if you say, ‘Time to eat breakfast,’ you might point to ‘time’, ‘eat’, and ‘breakfast’ on the board.

    Low-tech AAC in action: Everyday activities

    Low-tech AAC, such as communication boards, books, or single-page displays, is incredibly versatile and can be easily incorporated into daily routines. These can be as simple as printed pages with symbols, laminated for durability.

    Let’s explore how low-tech AAC can be used throughout a typical day, with examples of symbols:

    1. Getting ready for nursery

    Mornings can be busy, but they also offer rich communication opportunities. A ‘Getting Ready’ communication board can help sequence activities and offer choices.

    Activity example:

    ‘Time to get up!’ (point to GET UP). ‘What do you want to wear today, the blue shirt or the red shirt?’ (point to GET DRESSED) ‘Then, we brush teeth’ (point to TOOTHBRUSH) and so on.

    AAC mornings symbol examples

    2. Breakfast Time

    Mealtimes are perfect for making choices, expressing preferences, and commenting. A ‘Breakfast’ communication board can focus on food items, actions, and social comments.

    Example symbols:

    AAC meal times symbol examples

    Activity example:

    ‘What do you want to eat for breakfast?’ (point to EAT). ‘Do you want cereal or toast?’ (point to CEREAL or TOAST). If they finish their milk, you could say, ‘Are you ALL DONE or do you want MORE MILK?’ (point to symbols).

    3. Catching the Bus

    Even routine transitions like catching the bus can be communication rich. A small, portable ‘Travel’ board can be useful.

    Example symbols:

    AAC catching the bus symbol examples

    3. Being on the playground

    The playground is a dynamic environment perfect for commenting, requesting actions, and engaging in social play.

    AAC playground symbol examples

    Activity example:

    ‘Let’s PLAY!’ (point to PLAY). ‘Do you want to go on the SWING or the SLIDE?’ (point to symbols). If they are on the swing, you can say, ‘Do you want to go FAST or SLOW?’ (point to symbols) and ‘Push AGAIN!’ (point to PUSH) You can also model social language like ‘It’s MY TURN.’

    Beyond the symbols: Key takeaways

    • Consistency is key: Use AAC consistently across all environments and with all communication partners.
    • Be patient: Learning a new language takes time. Celebrate small successes.
    • Make it fun: Integrate AAC into play and enjoyable activities.
    • Follow the individual’s lead: Respond to all communication attempts, even if they are imperfect.

    In the video below I model how to integrate AAC into everyday activities with a few more examples and I discuss the difference between AAC and PECS.

    If you need some inspiration with using AAC or would like your child assessed for the right type of AAC then please get in touch.

    Sonja McGeachie

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    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


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    Why pretend play is the perfect therapy vehicle for children with dyspraxia

    Picture this. A small dinosaur is stomping across a wooden floor. A tiny teacup is being filled with imaginary juice. Someone, probably you, has just been told very firmly that you are the baby and you must go to sleep now.

    To the outside world, this is just play. Joyful, chaotic, completely ordinary toddler play.

    But for a child with Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS), also known as verbal dyspraxia, what is happening inside a well-designed pretend play session is anything but ordinary. It is, in fact, some of the most powerful motor speech therapy we have.

    Let me explain why.

    First, a quick reminder: what is dyspraxia?

    Childhood Apraxia of Speech is a motor speech disorder. The difficulty does not lie in the muscles of the mouth, those are perfectly capable. The difficulty lies in the brain’s ability to plan and sequence the precise movements needed to produce speech sounds consistently and accurately.

    A child with CAS knows what they want to say. The message is there. But somewhere between the intention and the execution, the plan breaks down. Words come out differently each time, or not at all. It is effortful, unpredictable, and for many children, deeply frustrating.

    What this means for therapy is important: CAS requires motor learning, not just language stimulation. And motor learning has very specific conditions under which it thrives.

    Repetition is the medicine and pretend play delivers it without the child noticing

    One of the most well-established principles of motor learning is that new movement patterns need to be practised many, many times before they become reliable. Think of learning to ride a bike, or to touch-type. Repetition is how the motor system builds consistency.

    For speech, this means a child needs many opportunities to attempt a target word or phrase within a single session. In a formal drilling exercise, this quickly becomes tedious and dysregulating, especially for young children. After five attempts at ‘go’, most three-year-olds have mentally left the building.

    But inside a pretend play scenario? The word ‘go’ appears naturally and meaningfully dozens of times. The car goes. The train goes. Ready, steady, go. Go to sleep. Go there doggie. Every repetition is embedded in a moment that makes sense to the child, which means they are motivated to keep going, and the practice is accumulating without any sense of effort or demand.

    A relaxed brain learns better

    There is a reason I tend not to sit a dyspraxic child at a table with flashcards and ask them to repeat after me. It is not because I lack structure. Every session I run has clear targets and intentional design. It is because we know that anxiety and pressure actively interfere with motor learning.

    When a child feels observed, corrected, or under pressure to perform, the cognitive load increases and the very motor planning system we are trying to support becomes less accessible. The errors increase. The frustration escalates. The session unravels.

    Pretend play, by contrast, creates a state of engaged, relaxed absorption. The child is leading. They are safe. They are having fun. In this state, the brain is far more receptive to new motor patterns being laid down. I am not asking the child to perform speech. I am simply being present, following their lead, and slipping in carefully chosen models at exactly the right moments.

    Child-led play gives us the child’s own words to target

    Another reason pretend play works so beautifully for children with dyspraxia is that it tells us exactly which words matter most to this particular child, right now, today. When a child reaches for the toy telephone and hands it to me with enormous expectation, I know that ‘hello’ is a word worth targeting in this moment. When they are clearly trying to tell me that the baby needs feeding, ‘more’ and ‘eat’ have instant, genuine relevance.

    Targeting words a child is already motivated to say means the communication attempt is coming from them. And a self-initiated attempt, even an approximation, is neurologically far more valuable than a prompted imitation.

    What this looks like in practice

    In the short video clip below you can see this dynamic in action. Notice how the session looks relaxed and playful on the surface. The child is absorbed in the pretend play scenario we have created together.

    Notice, though, what is happening underneath:

    • the consistent, gentle modelling of target words
    • the use of Makaton signs alongside speech to provide an additional sensory pathway
    • the visual mouth cues that give the child a roadmap for how a sound is shaped
    • and running through all of it, the repetition. The same words, again and again, wrapped in play.

    This is not therapy disguised as play. It is therapy that is play, because for a child with dyspraxia, those two things are not in opposition. They are, in fact, perfectly aligned.

    If you are concerned about your child’s speech and wondering whether verbal dyspraxia might be a factor, please do not hesitate to get in touch. I would love to help you find some answers.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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