There’s been a long tradition with teaching staff and with Speech and Language Therapists working in schools that eye contact should be a goal. It is well known that Autistic individuals (whether that be children or adults) mostly avoid eye contact. Whilst it’s part of the way we communicate, it shouldn’t be used as a necessity for an individual who feels that it is uncomfortable. Whilst it does show that you’re listening and showing an interest, it’s not a fair expectation for neurodiverse children.
Autistic children can find making and maintaining eye contact physically and emotionally uncomfortable as well as unnatural. It adds an extra layer of stress and has been reported to increase distractions rather than reduce them. Children who engage in conversations in their own way (i.e., with reduced eye contact) are not shown to suffer with schooling, work, or social interaction.
By having fun through meaningful activities, I often experience that ‘BINGO’ moment (a phrase coined by Alex @meaningfulspeech) where the child is enjoying themselves and naturally makes eye contact. There is no demand on them, they are in a fun, engaging environment which suit their strengths and supports their needs.
Following this, I often reflect on this question ‘Should we make eye contact as a goal?’
It very much depends on the situation. If it places more demands on the child and becomes stressful. Then no. There are many strategies we can use which gain eye contact without placing extra demands on the child. We need to be mindful to adapt the environment and not place neurotypical expectations to meet the needs of neurodiverse children.
How can you encourage eye contact without demand?
If you’re using toys, try holding them up to your eye level.
You can adjust your position, try sitting face to face during play.
Always get down to your child’s level. This might mean that you lay on the floor if your child is positioned in this way.
During play, waiting is extremely powerful. Before a key part of the activity, wait and see if your child looks at you. Remember silence is golden!
The best way I find is: do something unusual during play. It might be that you spray shaving foam with the lid still on. Or you bring out a wow toy and make it spin/light up or make a noise. A balloon can be good – see video clip. Use the excitement of the activity, and wait to see if you achieve that ‘BINGO’ moment.
Create opportunities when there are no toys involved such as during ‘tickles’ or ‘hide and seek’. Autistic children find it difficult to shift their attention between a toy and an adult. So by removing one option, you’re setting them up to succeed.
Remember, it takes practice and time for you to develop these skills. Try one at a time and experiment, see which works best for your child. If you need speech, language or communication support or advice, I am always here to help.
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When most people think about speech or feeding difficulties, they picture the tongue, lips, or chewing skills, but how a child breathes at rest plays a surprisingly big role too.
Mouth breathing and open mouth resting posture can quietly influence everything from how a child’s face grows to how clearly they speak, to how confidently they chew and swallow. It’s something many parents never think about, until they start noticing the subtle signs.
Let’s explore why this happens, what to look for, and how to gently support better breathing and oral posture.
Recent research supports this link between mouth breathing and speech difficulties. For example, a 2022 study by Alhazmi et al., published in the Journal of Pharmacy and Bioallied Sciences, found that 81.7% of children aged 9–17 who breathed primarily through their mouths presented with speech sound disorders. The study highlights how mouth breathing can significantly influence orofacial development and articulation patterns.
💨 Why we’re designed to breathe through our nose
Our bodies are made for nasal breathing. When we breathe through the nose, the air is filtered, warmed, and humidified before reaching the lungs. The tongue naturally rests against the roof of the mouth, the lips close gently, and the jaw stays relaxed, all of which encourage healthy oral development.
In contrast, mouth breathing often means the tongue rests low in the mouth and the lips stay apart. Over time, this posture can subtly reshape how the muscles and bones of the face grow.
Children who breathe through their mouths most of the time may develop:
A longer face and narrower palate
Forward head posture
Slightly open lips and low tongue position at rest
A tendency toward drooling or noisy breathing
A dry mouth and consequently bad breath
At times the tongue pushes constantly against the front teeth causing them to grow forward (buck teeth)
These changes are not anyone’s fault, as they often start because of blocked noses, allergies, enlarged adenoids, low facial muscle tone or habits formed when a child was younger. But understanding the pattern helps us know how to support change.
🗣 How mouth breathing affects speech
Speech depends on precise coordination between the lips, tongue, and jaw. The resting position of these structures affects how ready they are to move.
Reduced tongue strength and placement, i.e. the tongue rests low in the mouth (as it does in mouth breathing), it’s harder for children to lift it efficiently for sounds like /T/, /D/, /N/, /L/, and /S/. This can lead to speech that sounds slightly slushy or unclear, or a frontal lisp.
Open mouth posture and resonance: An open mouth at rest may affect how air vibrates in the oral and nasal cavities. Children might have speech that sounds a bit ‘muffled’ or lacks crispness because the lips and jaw aren’t fully supporting articulation.
Fatigue and breath control: Mouth breathing can lead to drier mouths and less efficient breath support. That can make longer sentences or conversations feel tiring, especially in noisy environments.
🥄 How mouth breathing affects feeding and chewing
Feeding involves the same structures that control speech, so posture and breathing patterns matter here, too.
Chewing efficiency: Children who habitually keep their mouths open often have low tongue tone and reduced jaw stability. They may prefer softer foods, chew slowly, or struggle with mixed textures.
Swallowing pattern: A tongue that rests low may push forward when swallowing. This ‘tongue-thrust swallow’ can interfere with efficient chewing and even affect dental alignment over time.
Breathing while eating: Since it’s hard to chew, swallow, and breathe through the mouth simultaneously, children who can’t comfortably nasal breathe may rush bites or pause to catch their breath. This can contribute to coughing, choking, or food refusal.
Common signs to watch for
Parents often notice subtle clues before realising mouth breathing is a pattern. Some red flags include:
Lips habitually open at rest
Drooling after the toddler years
Snoring or noisy breathing during sleep
Preference for soft foods or grazing eating habits
Dark circles under the eyes due to allergies
Frequent colds, congestion, or mouth odour
Speech that sounds slushy or unclear despite good effort
If several of these sound familiar, it’s worth mentioning them to your child’s GP, dentist, or speech and language therapist.
👩⚕️ What can help
Address the underlying cause: If nasal blockage, allergies, or enlarged adenoids are making nasal breathing difficult, a medical assessment is the first step. ENT specialists can rule out or treat physical causes.
Encourage closed mouth rest: Gentle reminders like ‘Lips together, tongue up, breathe through your nose’ can help older children become aware of their resting posture. For younger ones, visual cues (stickers or mirrors) can make it a game.
Build oral-motor strength and awareness: Speech therapists can design activities to strengthen the tongue and lips, improve jaw stability, and encourage balanced breathing. This might include blowing games, tongue-tip lifts, use of dental-palatal devices or oral-motor exercises disguised as play.
Support good posture: Sometimes mouth breathing goes hand-in-hand with forward-head posture. Encouraging upright sitting during meals and screen time helps keep the airway open and supports better breathing habits.
Make nasal breathing part of daily routines: Gentle nose-breathing practice during calm times (reading, bedtime, car rides) helps normalise it. Avoid making it a battle: calm, consistent reminders work best.
🌱 A gentle note on change
Patterns of mouth breathing develop over time, and change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s important to approach this with curiosity, not criticism. The aim isn’t ‘perfect breathing,’ but to give your child the tools and awareness to breathe comfortably and efficiently.
Small improvements in nasal breathing and resting posture can lead to big gains in speech clarity, eating confidence, and even sleep quality.
💡 The takeaway
Breathing seems automatic, and it is! but how we breathe matters. Mouth breathing and open-mouth posture can quietly shape how a child speaks, eats, and grows.
By noticing early signs, addressing underlying causes, and building supportive habits, you can help your child move toward stronger, clearer speech and more comfortable mealtimes.
Just like every area of development, progress starts with connection, patience, and gentle consistency, one calm breath at a time.
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Over the years I have created my unique style of remediating an Interdental Lisp and as part of my treatment I sometimes use an Orthodontic Tool, called the ‘MUPPY’, which I purchase directly from Germany. I first discovered it some years ago when working with a child with Down Syndrome. Back then I was searching for additional support with my student’s jaw grading and mouth closure difficulties and that’s when I first came across this little tool as recommended by one of my colleagues, a specialist orthodontist in Germany.
I was a bit sceptical at first but I have used it now many times for three years on a variety of clients with varying degrees of lisps. I find it really helps together and in addition to all my other techniques which are language and motor based.
How do I use it?
The MUPPY is a custom-made mouth plate that gently repositions the tongue, encouraging correct tongue placement for clearer speech. It sits comfortably between the lips and teeth; a thin wire sits right behind the teeth, inside the oral cavity.
The plate I like to use for lisp correction has a pearl in the middle. As soon as it is in situ the tongue starts fishing for the pearl and thereby keeps on moving up towards the correct place on the hard palate, just behind the front teeth. This is the place where the tongue tip needs to be for all the alveolar sounds our students find so hard to make.
How does this help reduce a lisp?
A lisp results mainly from incorrect tongue placement during sound production – though at times atypical dentition also contributes to the problem. Specifically, an interdental lisp occurs when the tongue protrudes between the teeth during the production of sounds like /S/ and /Z/. The tongue is often described by parents as ‘thrusting forward’ but I find that is rarely the case. Most often the tongue simply protrudes forward, which is different to tongue thrusting, a more forceful and involuntary movement. Most often I see a habitual tongue protrusion not only for /S/ and /Z/ but also for /T/, /D/, /L/ and /N/. Often /SH/ and ZH/ are also affected.
To visualise this:
A correct /S/ sound looks like this: The tongue tip is raised and touches the alveolar ridge (the bony, slightly uneven ridge behind the upper teeth). The sides of the tongue touch the upper molars.
Interdental lisp: The tongue tip protrudes between the front teeth, creating a /TH/ sound.
Lateral lisp: Here the mechanics of the tongue are different. But using the MUPPY can help here too. To visualise a lateral lisp, the sides of the tongue are not raised high enough, allowing air to escape over the sides. This results in a ‘slushy’ or ‘wet’ sound.
Understanding the specific type of lisp is crucial for targeted therapy and successful correction.
The Vestibular Plate (Muppy) HELPS to guide the tongue towards the right place from where we shape the NEW SOUND.
Methods
Most important to my articulation work re lisping are the motor- and language-based techniques I use, as broadly described below:
A thorough oral examination, tongue movements, lip closure, dentition, jaw grading, breath coordination, cheek tonicity, palatal form
Discussion on awareness and motivation of child to work on their speech
Contrasting sounds at the beginning and end of words: sing vs thing / sink vs think / mess vs mesh etc to raise awareness that it matters what sounds we use in speech and that just one sound can change the meaning of a word completely
Exploring the oral cavity and thinking about all the parts of the tongue and the palate
Finding the alveolar ridge and placing the tongue there at rest
Then working towards a good baseline of the other alveolar sounds: /T/ /D/ /L/ /N/ and from there we work towards our NEW /S/ SOUND.
I use a variety of picture clues depending on what is most meaningful for my student:
The child likes a train set, I use the TIRED TRAIN SOUND.
The child knows about bike or car tyres, I use the FLAT TYRE SOUND.
With a student who loves a balloon I might use the FLAT BALLOON SOUND.
And we work our way from correct tongue placement to these long /SSSSSSSSS/ sounds with the help of these visual cues, but also gestural and hand cues such as Jane Passy’s Cued Articulation sound for /S/.
I really love helping children correct their speech sound, be it an articulatory difficulty like the lisp or a phonological difficulty such as ‘fronting’ or ‘gliding’ and I also love working with motor-based speech difficulties we see in Childhood Apraxia of Speech. Feel invited to get in touch if your child needs help in these areas.
Sonja McGeachie
Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist
Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice
The London Speech and Feeding Practice
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As a speech and language therapist, I’m often asked about the significance of seemingly simple gestures in child development. One question that comes up frequently is, ‘Why is pointing so important?’ It might seem like a trivial action, but pointing is a powerful communication tool and a critical milestone in a child’s development.
Why is pointing so important?
Let’s delve into the theory behind why pointing matters:
1. Pointing as pre verbal communication:
Before children can use words, they use gestures to communicate their needs and interests. Pointing is one of the earliest and most important gestures. It allows children to:
Request: ‘I want that!’
Protest: ‘No, not that!’
Direct attention: ‘Look at that!’
Share interest: ‘Wow, cool!’
2. Pointing and language development:
Pointing is not just about communicating in the here and now; it also plays a crucial role in language development. Research shows that:
Early pointing predicts later language skills: Children who point more often tend to have larger vocabularies and better grammar later on.
Pointing helps children learn new words: When children point at something, adults tend to label it, providing valuable language input.
Pointing supports joint attention: Joint attention, or the shared focus of two individuals on an object or event, is essential for language learning. Pointing helps establish joint attention, creating opportunities for communication and learning.
3. Pointing and social-emotional development:
Pointing is not just about language; it’s also about social interaction. It allows children to:
Engage with others: Pointing invites others to share their focus and participate in their world.
Express emotions: Pointing can convey excitement, curiosity, or concern.
Develop social understanding: By observing how others respond to their pointing, children learn about social cues and communication.
4. Pointing and cognitive development:
Pointing is linked to cognitive skills, such as:
Understanding object permanence: The ability to know that objects exist even when they are out of sight.
Categorisation: The ability to group similar objects together.
Problem-solving: Pointing can be used to ask for help or to indicate a problem.
5. Types of Pointing:
It’s important to note that there are different types of pointing, each with its own significance:
Imperative pointing: To request something.
Declarative pointing: To share interest or direct attention.
Informative pointing: To provide information.
If you have concerns about your child’s pointing or overall communication development, don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance from a speech-language therapist. Early intervention can make a significant difference in supporting your child’s communication journey.
How can we create opportunities for pointing?
‘Where’s the…?’ games:
Play games like ‘Where’s the doggy?’ or ‘Where’s the ball?’ and encourage your toddler to point to the object.
Start with familiar objects and gradually introduce new ones.
Reading together:
When reading picture books, ask your toddler to point to specific objects or characters on the page.
Use phrases like, ‘Can you point to the puppy?’
Everyday activities:
During daily routines, ask your toddler to point to things they want or need.
For example, ‘Do you want the apple or the banana?’
When walking outside say ‘LOOK’ and encourage pointing.
Use of toys:
Use toys that have buttons or points of interest that when pressed make a noise. Encourage your toddler to point to the area that makes the noise.
Use toys that have many different parts, and ask the toddler to point to a specific part.
Model pointing:
Point yourself:
When you see something interesting, point to it and say the name of the object.
For example, ‘Look! A bird!’
Point to show choices:
When offering choices, point to each item as you name it.
For example, ‘Do you want the blue cup or the red cup?’ (Point to each cup).
Point to indicate direction:
When giving directions, point in the direction you want your toddler to go.
For example, ‘Let’s go that way!’ (Point).
Make it rewarding:
Respond to pointing:
When your toddler points, immediately respond to their communication.
Give them the object they want, or acknowledge what they are pointing at.
Use positive reinforcement:
Praise and encourage your toddler when they point.
Say things like, ‘Good pointing!’ or ‘You showed me the car!’
Show excitement:
When they point to something, show excitement, this will encourage them to point again.
Use specific techniques:
Use gestures and verbal cues:
Combine pointing with verbal cues and other gestures.
For example, say ‘Look!’ while pointing and nodding your head.
Simplify the environment:
Reduce distractions to help your toddler focus on the object you want them to point to.
Use exaggerated movements:
Use large, exaggerated pointing movements to draw your toddler’s attention.
Consider developmental factors:
Age-appropriate expectations:
Remember that pointing develops at different rates for different children.
Be patient and supportive.
Underlying issues:
If your toddler is not pointing by 18 months, or if you have any concerns about their development, consult with a speech and language therapist.
There may be underlying sensory or motor issues.
Key points:
Consistency is key. Practise these strategies regularly.
Make it fun and engaging for your toddler.
Celebrate every success, no matter how small.
If you have any concerns about your child’s development, contact your local health services.
Great toys and items for pointing
1. Interactive books:
Touch-and-feel books: Books with different textures, flaps to lift, and sounds encourage interaction and pointing. ‘Where’s the…?’ questions prompt pointing to specific features.
Books with simple pictures: Clear, uncluttered pictures make it easier for toddlers to focus and point to objects or characters.
2. Cause-and-effect toys:
Activity cubes: These often have buttons, dials, and levers that produce sounds or actions when manipulated, prompting pointing and exploration.
Pop-up toys: Toys where figures pop up or things happen when a button is pressed encourage anticipation and pointing to the action.
Simple musical instruments: A toy piano, drum, or xylophone encourages pointing to the keys/surfaces to make sounds.
3. Toys with parts to manipulate:
Shape sorters: Encourage pointing to the shapes and the matching holes.
Stacking cups or rings: Nesting cups or stacking rings invite pointing to select the correct size or order.
Puzzles with knobs: Simple puzzles with large knobs are easier for toddlers to grasp and point to the pieces.
4. Toys that encourage joint attention:
Bubbles: Blowing bubbles and following them with your eyes and pointing encourages joint attention (shared focus).
Balls: Rolling a ball back and forth and pointing to where it’s going can promote joint attention and turn-taking.
Wind-Up Toys: Wind-up toys that move across the floor can be exciting to follow with pointing.
5. Pretend play toys:
Toy telephones: Encourage pointing to the buttons and pretending to dial.
Dolls and stuffed animals: Pointing to the doll’s eyes, nose, mouth, etc., or asking the child to point to these features on themselves.
Toy food and dishes: Pretend play with food and dishes can involve pointing to request items or indicate actions (e.g., ‘Can I have the apple?’).
Tips for using toys to encourage pointing:
Get involved: Play alongside your toddler, modelling pointing and using language to describe what you’re doing.
Follow their lead: Observe what your child is interested in and use that to encourage pointing.
Limit distractions: Reduce background noise and visual clutter to help your child focus.
Use gestures and words: Combine pointing with words and other gestures (e.g., ‘Look!’ while pointing).
Be patient and positive: Celebrate all attempts at pointing and provide lots of encouragement.
Remember, the most important factor is the interaction you have with your child while playing. Use these toys as tools to create opportunities for communication and joint attention, and your toddler will be well on their way to mastering pointing!
Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice
The London Speech and Feeding Practice
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Feeding therapy is a specialised form of therapy and support that helps children develop healthy eating habits and overcome challenges related to food. It’s often used for children with picky eating, feeding disorders, or sensory processing issues.
What is feeding therapy?
Feeding therapy involves a series of techniques designed to improve a child’s eating skills and attitudes towards food. In the UK it’s typically provided by speech and language therapists and dietitians. These professionals work closely with parents and caregivers to create a personalised treatment plan tailored to each child’s unique needs.
How does feeding therapy work?
Feeding therapy sessions are typically 30–60 minutes long and involve a variety of techniques, including:
Family counselling: Providing support and guidance to parents and caregivers. This can help address any practical, behavioural and emotional issues that may be impacting the child’s eating.
Play-based activities: Engaging children in fun activities while introducing new foods or textures. This can help alleviate anxiety and make mealtimes more enjoyable.
Sensory exploration: Helping children become more comfortable with different tastes, smells, and textures. This can be achieved through activities like touching, smelling, and tasting various foods.
Oral motor exercises: Improving chewing, swallowing, and lip coordination. These exercises can help children develop the necessary skills for eating independently.
Behavioural techniques: Using positive reinforcement to encourage healthy eating habits. This can involve rewarding children for trying new foods or eating a variety of meals.
When is feeding therapy needed?
Feeding therapy may be beneficial for children who:
Are picky eaters: Refuse to eat a variety of foods or have strong preferences.
Have feeding disorders: Experience difficulties with eating, such as swallowing or chewing.
Have sensory processing issues: Are sensitive to certain textures, smells, or tastes.
Have medical conditions: Such as autism, cerebral palsy, or gastrointestinal disorders.
Feeding therapy strategies you can try at home
While professional feeding therapy can be invaluable, there are several techniques you can try at home to support your child’s eating development:
Create a positive mealtime environment: Make mealtimes enjoyable and stress-free by avoiding distractions, limiting screen time, and creating a calm atmosphere.
Create regular mealtimes and mealtime routines: Introduce set ways of announcing meal times, including songs or short nursery rhymes, try and involve your child with table setting, even just carrying their spoon to the table and putting the beaker next to the plate and ensure that meal time finishes after about 30 minutes, again with a set routine so that the child always knows: this is how we do it in our home, now I am finished and meal time is over.
Introduce new foods gradually: Start with small amounts and gradually increase exposure. This can help reduce anxiety and make new foods less overwhelming.
Model healthy eating: Show your child how to enjoy a variety of foods by eating a balanced diet yourself.
Avoid forcing food: Allow your child to choose and explore foods at their own pace. Forcing them to eat can create negative associations with food.
Seek professional help
If you’re concerned about your child’s eating habits, consult with a feeding therapist. We can provide guidance and support.
Remember, feeding therapy is a collaborative process between parents, caregivers, and professionals. With patience, understanding, and the right strategies, you can help your child develop healthy eating habits and enjoy meals.
Would you like to know more about specific techniques or have any other questions about feeding therapy?
Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice
The London Speech and Feeding Practice
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I think my child might be autistic – how can we help? Image by macrovector on Freepik
Consulting a Specialist Speech and Language Therapist can help you in several ways: assessment, informal and formal observation, discussion and advice, onward referrals, direct intervention, parent coaching, educational support and much more, all geared towards supporting you the parents, and helping your child to flourish and thrive.
First up, we can help you with assessment and advice: with a wealth of expertise in observing childrens’ play and communication, as well as knowledge of the latest research we can see a child’s strengths and areas of struggle very quickly indeed.
Within a short space of time, we can identify the areas we need to focus on and start guiding you towards helping your child to connect, respond, react and feel better.
Early detection is key
If autism is detected in infancy, then therapy can take full advantage of the brain’s plasticity. It is hard to diagnose Autism before 18 months but there are early signs we know to look out for. Let’s have a brief look at the sorts of things we look at.
The earliest signs of Autism involve more of an absence of typical behaviours and not the presence of atypical ones.
Often the earliest signs are that a baby is very quiet and undemanding. Some babies don’t respond to being cuddled or spoken to. Baby is being described as a ‘good baby, so quiet, no trouble at all’.
Baby is very object focused: he/she may look for long periods of time at a red spot/twinkly item further away, at the corner of the room for example.
Baby does not make eye contact: we can often see that a baby looks at your glasses for example instead of ‘connecting’ with your eyes.
At around 4 months we should see a baby copying adults’ facial expressions and some body movements, gestures and then increasingly cooing sounds we make; babies who were later diagnosed with autism were not seen to be doing this.
Baby does not respond with smiles by about 6 months.
By about 9 months, baby does not share sounds in a back-and-forth fashion.
By about 12 months baby does not respond/turn their heads when their name is called.
By around 16 months we have no spoken words; perhaps we hear sounds that sound like ‘speech’ but we cannot make out what the sounds are.
By about 24 months we see no meaningful two-word combinations that are self-generated by the toddler. We might see some copying of single words.
24 months plus:
Our child is not interested in other children or people and seems unaware of others in the same room/play area.
Our child prefers to play alone, and dislikes being touched, held or cuddled.
He/she does not share an interest or draw attention to their own achievements e.g., ‘daddy look I got a dog’.
We can see our child not being aware that others are talking to them.
We see very little creative pretend play.
In the nursery our child might be rough with other children, pushing, pinching or scratching, biting sometimes; or our child might simply not interact with others and be unable to sit in a circle when asked to.
What sort of speech and language difficulties might we see?
Our child might do any of the following:
have no speech at all, but uses body movements to request things, takes adults by the hand
repeat the same word or phrase over and over; sometimes straight away after we have said it or sometimes hours later
repeat phrases and songs from adverts or videos, nursery rhymes or what dad says every day when he gets back from work etc.
copy our way of intonation
not understand questions – and respond by repeating the question just asked:
adult: Do you want apple? child: do you want apple?
not understand directions or only high frequency directions in daily life
avoid eye contact or sometimes ‘stares’
lack of pointing or other gestures
Common behaviours:
Hand flapping
Rocking back-and-forth
Finger flicking or wriggling/moving
Lining up items/toys
Wheel spinning, spinning around self
Flicking lights on and off, or other switches
Running back-and-forth in the room, needing to touch each wall/door
Loud screaming when excited
Bashing ears when frustrated or excited
Atypical postures or walking, tip toeing, can be falling over easily, uncoordinated
Can be hyper sensitive to noises, smells, textures, foods, clothing, hair cutting, washing etc.
Being rigid and inflexible, needing to stick to routines, unable to transition into new environments
Food sensitivity, food avoidance, food phobias
I mentioned this to be a ‘brief’ look at the areas and it is: each topic is looked at very deeply and each area is multi-facetted therefore a diagnosis is rarely arrived at very quickly. We want to make sure we have covered all aspects and have got to know your child very well before coming to conclusions.
Early detection is key, because we want to start helping your child to make progress as quickly as is possible. If you feel /know that your child is delayed in their speech and language development and you would like a professional opinion then please do contact me, I look forward to supporting you. It is important to know at this point, that if your child only has one or two of the above aspects it may mean that your child is simply delayed for reasons other than Autism and if that is the case, we will be able to help you iron out a few areas of need so that your child can go on thriving.
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I see a lot of minimally speaking or non-verbal children in my practice. Some children are autistic and others are severely challenged with motor planning and some are both. Some children are simply delayed in their spoken language for reasons that we don’t quite know yet.
Regardless of the causes, what is always apparent pretty quickly is that apart from the odd gestures or Makaton signs (mainly ‘more” ‘finished’ and “biscuit) we don’t have a robust alternative for speech in place. Instead, what we often have is a child with lots of frustration and tantrums and some behaviours we really don’t want like: hitting, biting, pushing, grabbing and often throwing… There are others, too many to mention, but we don’t enjoy watching our children in these states. And we are often fearful of what might happen next if we don’t find a way to calm our child.
Fear not
In my work, before I get to offer an alternative means of communication, I often have to work with a fair amount of resistance on the parents’ side as parents tend to feel that allowing such a system into their lives will prevent their child from speaking. They fear that their child will so enjoy pressing those buttons that they will become lazy and not talk at all.
I totally get it!
Parents often feel overwhelmed by the task of getting their own heads round how to use AAC, either in paper form or a computerised system. This can be a great turn-off for lots of people who feel they are not very “techy” – like myself actually! Indeed, it is true to say that I resisted operating in this field for a long time as I didn’t feel able to navigate electronic devices. But fear not. Truly, most systems are very user-friendly. The support is great. And I have managed to become quite proficient in one or two of these systems, through using it daily. It really is as simple as that.
Alternative and Augmentative Communication (AAC)
There is plenty of research on the efficacy of Alternative and Augmentative Communication (AAC). It is now very well understood and proven that, once we introduce our child to a good, attractive way of communicating that they can actually do, in time children who can speak will speak. Speaking is more effective than any AAC system. It is more versatile, more fun, and when human beings have discovered how to speak, most will do so in favour of any other system.
Many children and adults, for many reasons, were never going to speak an awful lot, or with great difficulty. Or they were not going to like to speak. Or they were going to like to speak some times but not other times… And for all those people an AAC system is invaluable and a wonderful resource.
Neuro-diversity affirming means that we do not impose one system of communication on our children (speaking with our mouth) only because it is the one we are using and most people we know too.
Of course, we want the best for our children, and we want them to have the easiest and most straight forward existence on Earth. Of course we do. Speaking with our mouth does help with that. But we must come to understand that not all children and people feel like that and they struggle to use their mouth for talking.
Personal experience
I have difficulties understanding this myself, I will be very honest here. And I will say that – shoot me down in flames SLT fraternity – but I am learning to accept that using an AAC system proficiently is a very good alternative for when speech is not coming. I am learning to accept that some people are perfectly able to speak, and might do so but not always and only when conditions are right. I came into the profession as a speech therapist with the idea that I would help anybody that came to me to speak with their mouth. But I have changed my stance on that and now am happy to help anybody that comes to me to communicate most effectively with whatever works for them. I will always try for speech if I can … Just because it’s easiest!
Acceptance
Now I will equally celebrate a child pointing to a symbol or making a sign for something. It is a fantastic moment when it happens for the parents and me and the child! And we can always hope for more speech to come as we go. Nothing wrong with our aspirations, is there?
The basic premise is this: accept any mode of communication as valid, as long as your communication partner understands what it means. Don’t require individuals to repeat themselves in another modality. Do model the response in the modality you are trying to teach. So, a child can point to a symbol and I will respond with speaking (with my mouth) but I will also respond by pointing to a symbol because that way I am signalling that both are ok and that I have understood and am encouraging the person to say some more.
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