My child won’t eat! What can we do to help?

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I get lots of enquiries about this topic, parents up and down the country struggle to feed their children. Mealtimes with toddlers can sometimes feel like a war zone!

Reasons

The reasons for food refusal are many and very varied. Perhaps your child was born prematurely and had lots of tubes and things sticking to his or her face? Or maybe your child had gastro-oesophageal reflux and this caused pain every time he or she swallowed. Some children have motor problems so it was hard to coordinate swallowing with breathing and caused frustration and anxiety? Many children have sensory integration difficulties and these make it difficult for them to grasp all the different textures and colours they are eating.

When I take a case history for a new feeding client, I always try to first establish how the child learned not to feed/eat. I use the word ‘learned’ here with intent as eating is a learned behaviour. We tend to think that it must just be instinctive and natural but this is not the case. Instinct is a small part of the very beginning of feeding, in that a baby naturally roots for the breast but this only works out well and leads to more natural ‘instinctive’ feeding if that initial instinct is not interrupted or impacted on negatively by any of the above reasons.

So just as a baby learns to eat or drink the milk it can also learn not to do so. The baby can learn to avoid eating in order to bypass discomfort, or — and this is another important factor — in order to gain more positive attention from the caregiver!

Research shows that we learn about food in two ways:

  1. A connection is made between a food and a physical reaction. This needs to happen only once and it can stick: think about feeling sick after a binge on a certain food/drink… You won’t want to go near that very food again for some time, if ever! If a certain food causes pain then that connection can be made quickly and we won’t want to touch this food again.
  2.  We learn through reinforcement and punishment:
  1. Reinforcement:
  • If we get praised for eating our plate with a pudding, then we tend to eat more to get the pudding.
  • Equally if granny sits with us for hours at the table reading us a story because we do not eat or don’t eat much/quickly, we will continue this because we want granny to keep reading for us.
  1. Punishment can work in two ways:
  • Child gets punished for not eating and will eat more to avoid punishment.
  • Child eats less as the fear of punishment is so unpleasant and leads to total lack of appetite.

As speech therapists we do not endorse any of those above strategies because none of them give us the desired effect.

What do we want to achieve? We want our children to eat naturally, with enjoyment. We don’t want them to over eat, to binge eat, or to starve themselves. Eating needs to become a joyful, natural and organic behaviour if our child is to be healthy and thrive.

Recommendations

Here are three top recommendations I make regularly with good effect:

  1. Structure: have a routine at mealtimes, eating at the table, in the same room with our favourite utensils. Always helping in food preparation, perhaps setting out the table placemats etc, and then tidying up — taking the plate to the kitchen counter, scraping left overs into the recycle bin can be part of this. This way we can introduce repetition to our food/eating learning.
  • Positioning: the right chair with a good footrest, supporting our child’s trunk well, and facilitating our child eating at the table (instead of sitting in a high chair with a tray) is one of my first and favourite tips. I do favour a Tripp Trapp style chair (I have no association with that company).

Tube fed children ought to also sit at the table with the rest of the family and first of all be offered foods and drinks to handle or play with. Some tube fed children are able to eat a small amount of pureed foods and they ought to be offered this first before being topped up with their tube feeds, whilst sitting down. Lying down for your tube feed is not a normal way of eating. Tube feed infants should be offered a pacifier whilst being tube fed and be in an upright position so that they start having an association between getting full/feeling satiated and their mouth.

  • Sociability: I encourage family mealtimes, or at least the caregiver eating with their child together, so that the child is able to copy and observe what normal eating looks like. We need to be super positive about eating and food consumption so that our child can see and copy this. If the parent is a fussy eater then this may cause the child to copy exactly the same behaviour. Many parents who come to me with their fussy children are themselves also picky about food.

There are many other tips and strategies and I will be more than pleased to assist, please contact me.

Sonja McGeachie

Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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    Cued Articulation involves using specific handshapes and placement cues to guide the speaker’s articulators, such as the tongue, lips, and teeth, to produce accurate sounds. It was originally conceptualised by Jane Passy, a speech-language pathologist. But it is important to know that we can, and often do, also use other speech cues which help our student visualise what they need to do. In other words, we can mix and match our cue pictures depending on what works best with each student.

    In the beginning of my speech therapy practice I would stick religiously to Jane Passy’s method but over the years I have learned and used many different visual hand cues which all have worked with individual students.

    It is important to remember that this is not an exact science, rather than an art! The art is to find the key to each individual student’s understanding and inspire motivation to try out a sound which they find hard to do.

    As an example, the hand signs used by Caroline Bowen’s method, an Australian Speech-Language Pathologist, are quite different to Jane Passy’s signs but they can equally work very well. Caroline Bowen’s visual for the /r/ sound is the ‘rowdy rooster’ — a crazed rooster on a motorbike — and the hand signal is that of revving up the motor bike engine with both hands whilst trying out the /r/ sound! I have a good handful of students who really loved this rooster image and were able to eventually produce a good /r/ using this cue.

    So, it is horses for courses with many things, and visual images and hand cues are no exception!

    Sound picture cards:

    Again, there are a host to choose from and I tend to collect a number of different images for each sound I want to practise with my student. As an example, below are a couple of different examples I use for the sound /p/:

    The Nuffield Programme suggests to use this popper card, which works well with a student who knows these poppers and perhaps has one on their trousers.

    As an alternative, and especially for younger students, I like using the Popper Pig Card – which I also have in my room so I can quickly show how it pops. Or we can have a popping game in between saying the /p/ sound at times. (The popper card is great as I can use the real toy to help with conveying the /p/ sound as it pops.)

    Each card has its own merit and I choose the right card for the individual student.

    How I use cued articulation and the visuals in Speech Therapy

    1. Cueing and practice: I introduce the appropriate card and handshapes for the targeted sounds. We then practise producing the sounds.
    2. Reinforcement and feedback: Positive reinforcement encourages progress and builds confidence.
    3. Fading out the cues: Once my student is able to say the sound more easily, we can gradually fade out the speech cues.

    Benefits and effectiveness

    Using Cued Articulation and Speech Image Cards has been shown to be effective in improving speech production for individuals with various speech and language disorders, including:

    • Articulation disorders: Difficulty producing specific sounds accurately.
    • Apraxia of speech: A motor planning disorder that affects the ability to sequence and coordinate movements involved in speech.
    • Phonology disorders or delays: Confusion and delays in how sounds are organised in categories to convey meaning, errors in sound patterns, for example front sounds are produced at the back, or long sounds are produced as stops.
    • Stuttering: A fluency disorder characterised by interruptions in speech, such as repetitions and prolongations.

    Tips for parents and student speech therapists

    Parents can play a crucial role in supporting the implementation of cued articulation at home and in therapy sessions. Here are some tips:

    • Collaborate with your SLT: Good feedback and communication with the Speech and Language Therapist creates consistency and progress..
    • Practise Regularly: Encourage consistent practice of cued articulation at home to reinforce learning.
    • Use Visual Aids: Use the same visuals that your therapist uses in the speech clinic to help your child at home with recall and practice.

    Feel free to contact me if you need help with your child.

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    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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    If you’re worried about your child’s speech, you are absolutely not alone. Many parents I work with tell me the same thing:

    ‘I’ve been Googling…’
    ‘I asked ChatGPT what activities to try…’
    ‘TikTok said we should practise this sound every day…’

    It makes complete sense. When waiting lists are long, evenings are quiet, and your child is struggling to communicate, it’s natural to look for help wherever you can find it.

    AI tools can actually be helpful in some ways. But they also have clear limits especially for children with significant speech delays or speech sound disorders.

    Here’s an honest, balanced guide to what AI can do, and what it simply can’t.

    ✔️ What AI can help with

    1. Explaining things in simple language

    AI can be very helpful for explaining speech and language terms in a way that’s easy for parents to understand for example, what a phonological delay is, or what Childhood Apraxia of Speech means. It can also suggest possible reasons for a child’s speech delay based on the information you provide.

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    2. Suggesting games and activities

    AI is very good at suggesting ideas for games and practice, such as word lists, simple play activities, sound practice games, book suggestions, and ways to encourage talking within everyday routines. These can be especially helpful when you feel stuck or want some fresh inspiration for supporting your child at home. It can help to think of AI as a big ideas bank, somewhere to dip into when you need new, playful ways to keep practice engaging.

    3. Helping you prepare questions for a therapist

    Some parents use AI to list questions before an assessment, understand reports and organise concerns.

    This can make therapy feel less overwhelming and more collaborative.

    Used this way, AI can actually support the therapy process.

    ❌ Where and why AI cannot replace real life speech therapy

    There is substantial research supporting the effectiveness of real-life speech therapy compared to generic online resources or AI-generated suggestions. Here are some key points highlighting why in-person therapy is often more beneficial:

    • Personalisation: Speech therapists assess each child’s unique needs, strengths, and challenges through direct observation and interaction. This personalised approach allows for tailored interventions that address specific issues, which generic resources cannot provide.
    • Nuanced understanding: Therapists are trained to recognise subtle cues in speech production, including the nuances of sound articulation, language comprehension, and social communication. This expertise enables us to identify underlying issues that may not be apparent through generic assessments.
    • Motivational support: A speech therapist can provide encouragement, motivation, and emotional support, which can significantly enhance a child’s willingness to participate and engage in therapy. This relational aspect is crucial for building confidence and reducing anxiety around communication.
    • Evidence-based practices: As a highly trained and specialised speech therapist I utilise evidence-based practices that are grounded in research, ensuring that the techniques used are effective and up to date. This contrasts with generic online information, which may not always be reliable or validated.
    • Progress monitoring: In-person therapy allows for ongoing assessment and adjustments to the treatment plan. We track progress over time and modify strategies as needed, ensuring that the therapy remains effective and relevant.

    Research studies consistently show that individualised, face-to-face interventions lead to better outcomes in speech therapy than generalised approaches. For parents and caregivers, seeking professional help tends to provide a more effective path toward improving their child’s communication skills.

    The healthiest way to think about AI

    AI works best as a starting point, not a substitute. You might use it to understand your child’s report and learn how speech develops,

    But if your child has significant delay or difficulty being understood, what makes the real difference is:

    • A tailored assessment
    • A clear therapy plan
    • Expert target selection
    • Ongoing adjustment
    • Support for both child and you the parent!

    Dear parents,

    If you’ve been turning to AI for help, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It means you care!

    But please know the best outcomes usually come from combining your daily support at home with guidance and support from your speech therapist who knows you and your child.

    Many of my past and present clients tell me that they really value my ‘handholding’ and me guiding them in between the sessions. A quick check in is often all that is needed but it makes a huge difference!

    If you’d like support or advice, please contact me and I can help guide the next steps.

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    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    Conquering the ‘slushy’ /S/: Your guide to treating lateral lisps

    As a speech therapist, few things are as rewarding as helping a child find their clear, confident voice. Among the various speech sound disorders, the ‘lateral lisp’ – often described as a ‘slushy’ or ‘wet’ /S/ sound – presents a unique challenge. While it can be tricky to treat, I’m thrilled to share that I’ve had significant success in helping children overcome this particular hurdle.

    What is a lateral lisp?

    Most people are familiar with a frontal lisp, where the tongue protrudes between the front teeth, resulting in a /TH/ sound for an /S/ (e.g., ‘thun’ for ‘sun’). A lateral lisp, however, is different. Instead of the air escaping over the front of the tongue, it escapes over the sides, often giving the /S/ and /Z/ sounds a distinct, muffled, or ‘slushy’ quality. This happens because the tongue is not forming the correct central groove, allowing air to spill out laterally.

    The science behind a perfect /S/ vs. a slushy one

    To understand how to fix a lateral lisp, it’s helpful to understand how a ‘perfect’ /S/ sound is made. Imagine a narrow, focused stream of air. For a clear /S/ sound, your tongue forms a shallow groove down its centre, directing a precise, thin stream of air right down the middle, over the tip of your tongue, and out through a tiny opening between your tongue and the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth. This focused airflow creates that crisp, sharp /SSSS/ sound we recognise.

    Now, picture what happens with a lateral lisp. Instead of that neat, central channel, the tongue is often flatter or positioned in a way that allows the air to escape over one or both sides. Think of it like a river overflowing its banks – the air, instead of flowing in a controlled stream, spills out sideways, creating that characteristic ‘slushy’ sound. This lateral airflow is what we need to retrain.

    Why is it tricky to treat?

    Treating a lateral lisp can be challenging for a few reasons:

    • Habitual muscle memory: The way the tongue moves and positions itself for a lateral lisp is deeply ingrained. It’s a motor habit that needs to be unlearned and replaced with a new, more precise movement.
    • Subtle differences: The difference between a lateral lisp and a correct /S/ sound can be quite subtle to perceive, both for the child and sometimes even for parents. This makes it harder for the child to self-monitor and correct.
    • Oral motor control: It requires fine motor control of the tongue muscles to create and maintain that central groove for airflow.

    My success with children aged six years and over

    I’ve found great success in treating lateral lisps, particularly with children aged six years and older. Why this age group? By this age, children typically have:

    • Increased awareness: They are more aware of their speech and often more motivated to make changes. They can better perceive the difference between their ‘slushy’ /S/ and a clear one.
    • Improved cognitive skills: They can understand and follow more complex instructions and strategies.
    • Better self-monitoring: Their ability to listen to themselves and correct their own speech improves significantly.
    • Enhanced oral motor control: Their fine motor skills, including those of the tongue, are more developed, allowing for greater precision.

    My approach focuses on a combination of auditory discrimination, tactile cues, and targeted myofunctional exercises to help children ‘feel’ the correct airflow and tongue placement. We use a variety of engaging activities to make the process fun and effective.

    It is crucial to understand tongue functioning and focusing on correcting improper oral resting posture and muscle function, which are often significant contributors to a lateral lisp. For example, if the tongue rests low and wide in the mouth consistently, or if there’s a tongue thrust during swallowing, these habits can prevent the tongue from achieving the precise, midline placement necessary for a clear /S/ or /Z/ sound. Through targeted exercises I aim to re-educate the oral and facial muscles, promoting correct tongue posture at rest, during swallowing, and, ultimately, during speech production. By strengthening the muscles responsible for tongue lifting and encouraging a more appropriate swallowing pattern we can establish the correct oral motor skills needed to overcome a lateral lisp and achieve clearer articulation.

    The recipe for success: Little and often

    The single most crucial ingredient for success in treating a lateral lisp is daily home practice of all the strategies given. This isn’t about long, arduous sessions; it’s about consistency. Think of it like building a muscle: short, frequent workouts yield better results than sporadic, intense ones.

    My recommended formula is ‘little and often’. This means:

    • Short, focused sessions: Aim for 5-10 minutes of practice, 2-3 times a day. This prevents fatigue and keeps the child engaged.
    • Integrate into daily routines: Practise while waiting for dinner, during a car ride, or before bedtime. Make it a natural part of their day.
    • Positive reinforcement: Celebrate every small success! Encouragement goes a long way in building confidence and motivation.
    • Parental involvement: Parents play a vital role in providing consistent cues and encouragement at home. I equip families with clear, easy-to-follow strategies.

    Overcoming a lateral lisp requires dedication, but with the right guidance and consistent practice, a clear, confident /S/ sound is achievable. If your child is struggling with a ‘slushy’ /S/, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Together, we can achieve success!

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    Health Professions Council registered
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    My child is not speaking yet. What can I do?

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    My Child Is Not Speaking Yet What Can I Do?
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    SIMPLE SPEECH AND LANGUAGE THERAPY TIPS you can try out at home in daily life!

    So many new referrals come to me from parents of toddlers saying help, my little one does not speak yet, what can I do? Consider trying out those strategies, they really help:

    Increase playing with your child and try to have MORE FUN. Try and resist the urge to ‘teach’ your child. Fun activities are naturally more motivating and your child will learn new words more easily if you are both having fun together. Try and act goofy to get your child’s attention and make them laugh.

    Respect all play forms your child is interested in, not just play with typical/shop bought toys. Be a PLAY PARTNER instead of a PLAY DIRECTOR.

    My Child Is Not Speaking Yet What Can I Do?
    Go With What Your Child Is Interested In
    Go with what your child is interested in even if it isn’t that new toy you bought the other day! If you follow your child’s lead by watching him closely, you will discover what they are interested in. Then, if you wait and observe your little one he or she may try to communicate something about that favourite toy or activity.

    Use simple words and short phrases with correct grammar about your child’s interests. For example, if he gives you a toy and wants to play, use words to describe that activity, e.g. : “spinning”! “that’s spinning round and round” “wheee” “wow it’s spinning fast!”

    Your child is likely to learn the words that match activities he’s motivated and interested in.

    Show your child what words mean

    You can POINT to something as you say the word (e.g. point to a bird in the sky as you say “Look at the bird!”), ACT out what the word means (e.g. pretend to shiver as you talk about how “cold” it is), or HOLD UP OBJECT as you say it’s name (e.g. hold up your child’s coat as you say, “It’s time to put your coat on”).

    Stress key words and repeat them often. Children need to hear words several times in different situations before they really understand what they mean. Try to repeat words that are familiar to your child during everyday activities and routines. For example, you might use the word “go” when you are talking about going outside and duringva “ready steady go” game. Using the same word in different situations gives your child more information about what the word means.

    Stop asking too many questions, this is hard for adults to do as we often try to direct our children’s play.

    Respond positively to your child’s attempts to communicate, even if these attempts aren’t perfect. As children are learning about words, they sometimes attempt to say a word but don’t pronounce it correctly, or they might use an action or gesture instead of the word. When you notice your child attempt to communicate with you, respond as if he said the word. This shows him you are listening and that you understand what he is trying to tell you. It also encourages him to keep trying to communicate with you.

    Learning to say new words doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time for children to build their understanding enough that they can say a word and use it in the right situation. By using the tips above, you will give your child’s vocabulary a kickstart, and pave the way to new words.

    Do get in touch with me if you need more help. I specialise in providing individual on-line virtual coaching with parents . This is helpful and often necessary given how complex our children are and how difficult it is to acquire speech and language when for one reason or another it is not your thing!

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Why pointing matters: Unpacking the power of this simple gesture

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    As a speech and language therapist, I’m often asked about the significance of seemingly simple gestures in child development. One question that comes up frequently is, ‘Why is pointing so important?’ It might seem like a trivial action, but pointing is a powerful communication tool and a critical milestone in a child’s development.

    Why is pointing so important?

    Let’s delve into the theory behind why pointing matters:

    1. Pointing as pre verbal communication:

    Before children can use words, they use gestures to communicate their needs and interests. Pointing is one of the earliest and most important gestures. It allows children to:

    • Request: ‘I want that!’
    • Protest: ‘No, not that!’
    • Direct attention: ‘Look at that!’
    • Share interest: ‘Wow, cool!’

    2. Pointing and language development:

    Pointing is not just about communicating in the here and now; it also plays a crucial role in language development. Research shows that:

    • Early pointing predicts later language skills: Children who point more often tend to have larger vocabularies and better grammar later on.
    • Pointing helps children learn new words: When children point at something, adults tend to label it, providing valuable language input.
    • Pointing supports joint attention: Joint attention, or the shared focus of two individuals on an object or event, is essential for language learning. Pointing helps establish joint attention, creating opportunities for communication and learning.

    3. Pointing and social-emotional development:

    Pointing is not just about language; it’s also about social interaction. It allows children to:

    • Engage with others: Pointing invites others to share their focus and participate in their world.
    • Express emotions: Pointing can convey excitement, curiosity, or concern.
    • Develop social understanding: By observing how others respond to their pointing, children learn about social cues and communication.

    4. Pointing and cognitive development:

    Pointing is linked to cognitive skills, such as:

    • Understanding object permanence: The ability to know that objects exist even when they are out of sight.
    • Categorisation: The ability to group similar objects together.
    • Problem-solving: Pointing can be used to ask for help or to indicate a problem.

    5. Types of Pointing:

    It’s important to note that there are different types of pointing, each with its own significance:

    • Imperative pointing: To request something.
    • Declarative pointing: To share interest or direct attention.
    • Informative pointing: To provide information.

    If you have concerns about your child’s pointing or overall communication development, don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance from a speech-language therapist. Early intervention can make a significant difference in supporting your child’s communication journey.

    How can we create opportunities for pointing?

    • ‘Where’s the…?’ games:
      • Play games like ‘Where’s the doggy?’ or ‘Where’s the ball?’ and encourage your toddler to point to the object.
      • Start with familiar objects and gradually introduce new ones.
    • Reading together:
      • When reading picture books, ask your toddler to point to specific objects or characters on the page.
      • Use phrases like, ‘Can you point to the puppy?’
    • Everyday activities:
      • During daily routines, ask your toddler to point to things they want or need.
      • For example, ‘Do you want the apple or the banana?’
      • When walking outside say ‘LOOK’ and encourage pointing.
    • Use of toys:
      • Use toys that have buttons or points of interest that when pressed make a noise. Encourage your toddler to point to the area that makes the noise.
      • Use toys that have many different parts, and ask the toddler to point to a specific part.

    Model pointing:

    • Point yourself:
      • When you see something interesting, point to it and say the name of the object.
      • For example, ‘Look! A bird!’
    • Point to show choices:
      • When offering choices, point to each item as you name it.
      • For example, ‘Do you want the blue cup or the red cup?’ (Point to each cup).
    • Point to indicate direction:
      • When giving directions, point in the direction you want your toddler to go.
      • For example, ‘Let’s go that way!’ (Point).

    Make it rewarding:

    • Respond to pointing:
      • When your toddler points, immediately respond to their communication.
      • Give them the object they want, or acknowledge what they are pointing at.
    • Use positive reinforcement:
      • Praise and encourage your toddler when they point.
      • Say things like, ‘Good pointing!’ or ‘You showed me the car!’
    • Show excitement:
      • When they point to something, show excitement, this will encourage them to point again.

    Use specific techniques:

    • Use gestures and verbal cues:
      • Combine pointing with verbal cues and other gestures.
      • For example, say ‘Look!’ while pointing and nodding your head.
    • Simplify the environment:
      • Reduce distractions to help your toddler focus on the object you want them to point to.
    • Use exaggerated movements:
      • Use large, exaggerated pointing movements to draw your toddler’s attention.

    Consider developmental factors:

    • Age-appropriate expectations:
      • Remember that pointing develops at different rates for different children.
      • Be patient and supportive.
    • Underlying issues:
      • If your toddler is not pointing by 18 months, or if you have any concerns about their development, consult with a speech and language therapist.
      • There may be underlying sensory or motor issues.

    Key points:

    • Consistency is key. Practise these strategies regularly.
    • Make it fun and engaging for your toddler.
    • Celebrate every success, no matter how small.
    • If you have any concerns about your child’s development, contact your local health services.

    Great toys and items for pointing

    1. Interactive books:

    • Touch-and-feel books: Books with different textures, flaps to lift, and sounds encourage interaction and pointing. ‘Where’s the…?’ questions prompt pointing to specific features.
    • Books with simple pictures: Clear, uncluttered pictures make it easier for toddlers to focus and point to objects or characters.

    2. Cause-and-effect toys:

    • Activity cubes: These often have buttons, dials, and levers that produce sounds or actions when manipulated, prompting pointing and exploration.
    • Pop-up toys: Toys where figures pop up or things happen when a button is pressed encourage anticipation and pointing to the action.
    • Simple musical instruments: A toy piano, drum, or xylophone encourages pointing to the keys/surfaces to make sounds.

    3. Toys with parts to manipulate:

    • Shape sorters: Encourage pointing to the shapes and the matching holes.
    • Stacking cups or rings: Nesting cups or stacking rings invite pointing to select the correct size or order.
    • Puzzles with knobs: Simple puzzles with large knobs are easier for toddlers to grasp and point to the pieces.

    4. Toys that encourage joint attention:

    • Bubbles: Blowing bubbles and following them with your eyes and pointing encourages joint attention (shared focus).
    • Balls: Rolling a ball back and forth and pointing to where it’s going can promote joint attention and turn-taking.
    • Wind-Up Toys: Wind-up toys that move across the floor can be exciting to follow with pointing.

    5. Pretend play toys:

    • Toy telephones: Encourage pointing to the buttons and pretending to dial.
    • Dolls and stuffed animals: Pointing to the doll’s eyes, nose, mouth, etc., or asking the child to point to these features on themselves.
    • Toy food and dishes: Pretend play with food and dishes can involve pointing to request items or indicate actions (e.g., ‘Can I have the apple?’).

    Tips for using toys to encourage pointing:

    • Get involved: Play alongside your toddler, modelling pointing and using language to describe what you’re doing.
    • Follow their lead: Observe what your child is interested in and use that to encourage pointing.
    • Limit distractions: Reduce background noise and visual clutter to help your child focus.
    • Use gestures and words: Combine pointing with words and other gestures (e.g., ‘Look!’ while pointing).
    • Be patient and positive: Celebrate all attempts at pointing and provide lots of encouragement.

    Remember, the most important factor is the interaction you have with your child while playing. Use these toys as tools to create opportunities for communication and joint attention, and your toddler will be well on their way to mastering pointing!

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    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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    Are the Gestalts I model easy to mix and match later on?

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
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    Here are some examples of great phrases and Gestalts that we could use:

    • Let’s get a banana / Let’s go out / Let’s play lego / Let’s go see daddy
    • That’s nice! / That’s really good! / That’s a green one / That’s a submarine
    • Need more help / Need a wee wee / Need that / Need to run
    • How about a biscuit / How about a cuddle / How about watching tv
    • We love bananas / We love a monkey / We love a cuddle

    Why or how could these examples be mixed and matched?

    You can see I have given several examples for each, that is how later a child can take one chunk (let’s) and add another (go out) or (need) + (go out).

    What about our own grammar? Should we be using grammatical phrases?

    In general for NLA 1 (Natural Language Acquisition stage 1) we want to use short phrases and keep them quite generic, something like:

    ‘Let’s go’ or ‘let’s play’ and pick 2-3 phrases per communicative function (see next point below).

    And if we are going to say longer sentences, for example: ‘let’s go and feed the ducks now’, then we should do so with good grammar and really varied intonation. It sometimes helps me to make up a little song/jingle on the spot that has a lot of intonation, more than I would perhaps use just by speaking.

    How many varied communicative functions do we cover with our modelling?

    We want to model a variety of Gestalts other than just requesting for example. In general, we are looking at our child having one or two Gestalts in the following areas before they are ready to move on into stage 2.

    These are the most common ones I see in my practice:

    • Requesting ‘want a banana/biscuit’ ‘Wanna play ball’
    • Transitioning: ‘what now?’ ‘what next?’
    • Ask for help: ‘need help’ ‘help me’ ‘mummy help’
    • Commenting: ‘it’s big’ ‘it’s red’ ‘it’s fast’ ‘too loud’
    • Speak up for self: ‘not that one’ ‘go now’ ‘stop it’

    Is the Gestalt I am modelling meaningful to my child?

    We don’t use all available Gestalts for every child. It has to be meaningful to the individual and has to match their interests. If our child is a big fan of feeding the ducks in the park then we can think about Gestalts like:

    • I see ducks!
    • They’re over there
    • Let’s feed them?
    • Let’s get some seeds
    • They’re coming!
    • They want food / They wanna eat!
    • That’s a big one
    • It’s so hungry
    • It loves the seeds!
    • No more! All done! Finished! Let’s go home

    What is my child actually trying to tell me?

    We have to be become word/phrase detectives! Is the phrase/script/Gestalt they are using right now actually meaning what they said or does it mean something else, and if so, what?

    Here is an example from my own personal experience in my practice:

    The little boy I was working/playing with was building a tall tower with blocks. When it finally fell with a great big bang he said in a sing-song voice ‘ring-a-ring-a roses’ … then he began to collect the blocks again to make a fresh tower. I sat there and thought: why ‘ring-a-ring-a roses’? What does that mean in this context? I then sang the song (silently) to myself with my detective hat on and realised as I came to the end that it finishes with ‘we all fall down’! it was a real AHA!!! moment for me as I saw right there what the meaning of his Gestalt was. He sang the first line of the song to say ‘all fall down!’

    So realising this I waited for the next tower to fall, and there it was again, he sang the first line of the song. I replied thus, copying him at first:

    ‘RING-A-RING-A ROSES – WE ALL FALL DOWN!…

    FALL DOWN

    WE LOVE IT FALLING DOWN.’

    The process to find what we should say is not always straight forward or easy at all, and often we don’t quite know in the moment what our child is trying to say. But we can try and get to know their interests and then gradually we do know more and more what the meaning behind the Gestalt is or could be.

    What pronouns should we use?

    This can be a tricky one.

    We don’t want to use language that uses the pronouns ‘you’ or ‘you’re’. The reason is that our child will likely copy us exactly as we have said it. Therefore, using pronouns ‘you’ and ‘you’re’ will then sound wrong.

    Always try to model language that is from the child’s perspective or in other words how they would say it if they could.

    Alternatively, you can model using WE or US. For example, if the child is tired, rather than saying ‘you are so tired’ model language from his or her point of view: ‘I’m tired’ or ‘let’s go have a lie down’.

    There is so much more to talk about. Stay tuned for a blog on NLA stage 2 coming soon.

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