Strategies to support children with eating difficulties

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where the cause is NOT a swallowing problem, but we are having a “fussy eater” in the family, seeming for no obvious reason

When parents have a child who find mealtimes or eating difficult, it can put pressure on the whole family dynamics. Once we have observed a child’s eating and drinking skills and found that they are not swallowing impaired, but are for want of a better word “fussy” or “picky”, we can then start to look at what might be underpinning the food aversions/picky eating/food avoidance. Two of the main questions parents have (of course) are:

  • ‘is my child getting the right nutrition?’
  • ‘how can I have less anxiety-provoking and stressful mealtimes?’

We all tend to have an image in our minds about the ‘perfect mealtime’, and how mealtimes ‘should’ be. Speech and Language Therapists with a Feeding Specialism are the perfect professionals to help you unpick feeding issues. We are trained to look at swallowing and oral skills and we also know a lot about feeding behaviours and sensory difficulties which could be causing your child’s eating avoidance.

Here are some strategies that can support children with their eating:

  1. Create and maintain a mealtime culture that suits your home and lifestyle. Then stick to that. We all need some routine in our lives to thrive. Mealtimes are no different. It might be that you eat in the same place for every meal, with the same knives and forks, concentrating on maintaining good posture. Children learn by repetition so the more familiar it is, the easier they will find it. In the physical sense, our bodies also need preparing for food, regardless of whether we are eating with our mouths or we are tube-fed. We want every child to connect all the dots of the process. It starts with their eyes, noses, expectations, memories of past experiences, feelings and then finally their mouths….
  2. Be an excellent role model. Children learn through watching others, so your child will be observing you without you knowing. Ensure that you are positive about the food you are all eating, and talk about how delicious, tasty, juicy, and yummy the foods are. Make the atmosphere around the dinner table light hearted. Even though you are secretly stressed about your child not eating, try and not show this. Instead pick a topic or put on some nice music, or talk about something your child might be interested in, and try and avoid coercing your child to eat. Leave small finger foods on their plates and have a range of foods available on the table so that your child can see that everyone is eating a range of foods and enjoying them.
  3. Use positive reinforcement. Try and think of mealtimes as fun and motivating. Children who are happy will likely be more inclined to try foods and take part in family mealtimes. Reward all interactions around food, so if your child merely touches a new food then praise this behaviour. Or if your child licks a food just once, again make a nice comment and praise your child for touching and licking the food. The takeaway here is to try and keep all messages positive around food.
  4. Keep offering all types of food. What often happens is that parents stop serving foods they know will not be eaten. This makes sense in a way; we don’t want wastage! However, try and keep the doors open and re-offer all types of foods, even the ones that your child has not wanted in the past. Try and give your child one food they will like and one food they have tasted before and liked before, even a little, and then one new food to try. So, your child always has something to fall back on and they can join in with eating. But they can also try (or at least look at and think about trying) other foods that you and perhaps the siblings are eating.

Take a look at this website, I find it very helpful in showing parents what types of foods and how big a portion to offer

Have a go and try and implement some of the ideas above, and should you get stuck please get in touch!

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    what it is”

    You might be wondering why your Speech and Language Therapist is singing this song and then presenting items from a zipped-up bag. Let me take you through stage one of this evidence-based approach.

    There are many aims of ‘bucket or bag time’. During stage one, you are simply engaging your child’s attention (whilst also exposing them to language). It’s important to remember that you are not forcing your child to say or do anything. The idea is that the items in the bag or bucket ‘offers an irresistible invitation to learn’ (Gina Davies, 2020).

    You don’t need ‘special’ expensive toys. Use what you have at home. It might be that you have some bubbles, a wind-up toy. You might have some foil that you can roll up into a ball, or a balloon. Keep these items for ‘bucket time’. This means that your child is likely to be excited and motivated for the activity. The only stipulation is that these items must be highly motivating and must be the most exciting thing in the room. You’ll want to cover up any distractions.

    So, you have your items and your opaque zipped bag, next you’ll want to put the items into the bag ensuring the zip is closed. The zip is important as it increases suspense and excitement as your child cannot see inside. You can also comment when unzipping ‘open bag’ using the signs ‘open’ + ‘bag’ to support your child’s understanding. Your Speech and Language Therapist can help with any Makaton signs that are unknown. The idea of this activity is that the item isn’t touched by your child. This can seem a little odd or feel “mean” but there is a reason for this: we want our child to look at us as well as the object or toy. As soon as we allow our child to touch and play with that toy their attention will go to the toy alone and we won’t get JOINT attention or engagement. This is the reason why we SHOW interesting things for a brief moment and then put these items back into the bag or bucket and out comes the next item. If your child wants to grab the toy and gets upset, then they may not be quite ready for this approach.

    Next, we sing the song (as above) and unzip the bag taking out one of the items. The use of pausing is important. Pause after the song: does your child try to use gesture or sound? You can also use this opportunity to model short phrases, ideally one or two words such “it’s a spinner! Wow… so many colours”. After a couple of turns, repeat the process and pull out a different item. We tend not to sing the song each time for the next item. Just sing it at the beginning and then get on with producing the amazing, wonderful things in your bag. No hard and fast rules though, apart from “don’t let the child touch the toys”.

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    The role of spinning and swinging in speech and language therapy

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    Spinning and swinging are often observed behaviours in autistic children. While these actions might seem repetitive or unusual to some, they serve crucial functions for these children. Understanding the underlying reasons for spinning and swinging can provide valuable insights into how to support autistic children and incorporate these activities into therapeutic settings.

    Why do children spin?

    Spinning is a common sensory-seeking activity in autistic children. Sensory seeking means that the child actively looks for sensory input to regulate their nervous system. Here’s why spinning can be beneficial:

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    Unlocking communication: My daily life with the Saltillo 88 Core Board

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    Introduction

    As an AAC speech and language therapist who uses the Saltillo 88 Core board every day, I can tell you it’s more than just a communication tool. It’s a doorway to independence, connection, and expressing my students’ unique voice.

    What is the Saltillo 88 and why do I use this one?

    In this blog post, I want to share practical, real-world examples of how I integrate the Saltillo 88 into various daily activities, empowering my students and parents to learn to communicate.

    There are literally hundreds of core boards out there and I have tried many different ones over the years. Which one should I use with this particular client? Should I make up my own? (I have made up tons!) or should I use a ready-made one like the one below which is what this blog is about.

    For me the best ones are boards with a good number of core words (at least 60) so that the board is versatile and can be used across a range of activities. The board needs to have a range of pronouns, verbs, descriptors, prepositions and question words to be useful and to stimulate not just requesting but commenting and asking questions. Another consideration is: can the board easily be transferred to a more robust AAC system. Once my student is used to the symbols and where they are could we move to an electronic talker/device. And if this answer is ’yes’ then we have a great board to get started with.

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    Saltillo 88 Core Board

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    1.  Getting dressed

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    The words in bold are the core words on the board and the other words are just words you say whilst pointing to the core word.

    • Goal: Express choices, needs, and preferences about clothing.
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      • ‘I want this one [specific item of clothing: ‘shirt’, ‘pants’]’
      • ‘I like that one [colour/type of clothing]’
      • ‘Help me [put/get it on/take off]’
      • ‘let’s get your socks now’
      • ‘finished let’s go’ (when dressed)

    2. Having a shower/bath

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      • ‘let’s go have a bath/shower’
      • ‘let’s turn on the tap/water’
      • ‘now turn it off’
      • ‘let’s get/have more toys/water/bubbles/tickles’
      • ‘all gone, what’s next?’
      • ‘how about washing your hands/feet’
      • ‘let’s do that again’
      • ‘need some help?’
      • ‘Stop it now, let’s do something different’

    3. Mealtimes

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      • ‘More foods/drinks/snacks’
      • ‘All done’
      • ‘that’s messy we like that (not)’
      • ‘Like’/‘Don’t like’
      • ‘Big’/‘Little’
      • ‘this is so nice!’

    4. Playing

    • Goal: This is where it’s at for children of course and we can use our core words to chat and engage with our little learners.
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      • ‘More/again’
      • ‘not it’s my My turn’/’it’s Your turn’
      • ‘that’s a Big one!’/‘let’s do Little bubbles’ (describing toys)
      • ‘let me Open it for you’ (for boxes, doors in play)
      • ‘I See it’ (to draw attention)
      • ‘Help me’ (with a tricky toy)

    5. Opening boxes/doors/etc

    • Goal: Most kids love opening boxes, doors and cabinets to see what there is to play with. Help your child to ask for what they want.
    • Ideas:
      • ‘let’s Open that box/bag/zip/door’
      • ‘get me a (toy) out of here’
      • ‘Let’s Take it out and see what it is?’
      • ‘finished’ (when finished with the task)
      • ‘I want [what’s inside]’
      • ‘What’s next? Let’s see’

    Tips for using AAC effectively

    • Consistency is key: Emphasise using it regularly, even for small things.
    • Modelling: this is crucial, the adults need to use the board for all situations first and foremost before we can expect our child to be interested.
    • Patience: Communication takes time and practice.
    • Celebrate successes: Acknowledge every communicative attempt.
    • Make it accessible: Keep the board within easy reach at all times.

    Conclusion

    If you’re considering the Saltillo 88, or TouchChat, or are already using it, I hope these examples inspire you. It’s a journey of discovery, and every word communicated is a step towards a more connected and independent life. What are your favourite ways to use the Saltillo 88 or which core board do you love using? I would love to hear your comments and stories.

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    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    Using AAC in daily life

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

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    What is AAC in a nutshell?

    AAC encompasses a wide range of tools and strategies that supplement or replace spoken language. It’s not about replacing speech, but rather about providing additional ways for individuals to communicate effectively. Think of it as a spectrum:

    • Unaided AAC: This involves using only your body, such as gestures, facial expressions, body language, and sign language.
    • Aided AAC: This involves external tools or devices. These can range from low-tech options like picture boards and communication books to high-tech speech-generating devices (SGDs) and apps on tablets.

    The beauty of AAC lies in its flexibility and personalisation. It empowers individuals to express their wants, needs, thoughts, and feelings, fostering independence and participation in all aspects of life.

    Modelling is KEY: Showing, not just telling

    Imagine trying to learn a new language without ever hearing it spoken. It would be incredibly difficult, right? The same principle applies to AAC. Modelling is the single most important strategy for teaching and supporting AAC users. It means actively using the AAC system yourself while talking, demonstrating how to navigate the system and express messages.

    Here’s why modelling is so vital:

    • It’s how we learn language: Typically developing children learn language by hearing it constantly around them. AAC users need the same immersion.
    • It reduces pressure: When you model, you’re not asking the individual to communicate, you’re just showing them how it’s done. This takes the pressure off and makes learning more enjoyable.
    • It expands vocabulary and concepts: By modelling a variety of words and phrases, you introduce new vocabulary and demonstrate how to combine symbols to create more complex messages.
    • It demonstrates purpose: Modelling shows that AAC is a functional and effective way to communicate, not just a set of pictures.

    So, how do you model? It’s simple: point to the symbols on the communication board or device as you speak the words. For example, if you say, ‘Time to eat breakfast,’ you might point to ‘time’, ‘eat’, and ‘breakfast’ on the board.

    Low-tech AAC in action: Everyday activities

    Low-tech AAC, such as communication boards, books, or single-page displays, is incredibly versatile and can be easily incorporated into daily routines. These can be as simple as printed pages with symbols, laminated for durability.

    Let’s explore how low-tech AAC can be used throughout a typical day, with examples of symbols:

    1. Getting ready for nursery

    Mornings can be busy, but they also offer rich communication opportunities. A ‘Getting Ready’ communication board can help sequence activities and offer choices.

    Activity example:

    ‘Time to get up!’ (point to GET UP). ‘What do you want to wear today, the blue shirt or the red shirt?’ (point to GET DRESSED) ‘Then, we brush teeth’ (point to TOOTHBRUSH) and so on.

    AAC mornings symbol examples

    2. Breakfast Time

    Mealtimes are perfect for making choices, expressing preferences, and commenting. A ‘Breakfast’ communication board can focus on food items, actions, and social comments.

    Example symbols:

    AAC meal times symbol examples

    Activity example:

    ‘What do you want to eat for breakfast?’ (point to EAT). ‘Do you want cereal or toast?’ (point to CEREAL or TOAST). If they finish their milk, you could say, ‘Are you ALL DONE or do you want MORE MILK?’ (point to symbols).

    3. Catching the Bus

    Even routine transitions like catching the bus can be communication rich. A small, portable ‘Travel’ board can be useful.

    Example symbols:

    AAC catching the bus symbol examples

    3. Being on the playground

    The playground is a dynamic environment perfect for commenting, requesting actions, and engaging in social play.

    AAC playground symbol examples

    Activity example:

    ‘Let’s PLAY!’ (point to PLAY). ‘Do you want to go on the SWING or the SLIDE?’ (point to symbols). If they are on the swing, you can say, ‘Do you want to go FAST or SLOW?’ (point to symbols) and ‘Push AGAIN!’ (point to PUSH) You can also model social language like ‘It’s MY TURN.’

    Beyond the symbols: Key takeaways

    • Consistency is key: Use AAC consistently across all environments and with all communication partners.
    • Be patient: Learning a new language takes time. Celebrate small successes.
    • Make it fun: Integrate AAC into play and enjoyable activities.
    • Follow the individual’s lead: Respond to all communication attempts, even if they are imperfect.

    In the video below I model how to integrate AAC into everyday activities with a few more examples and I discuss the difference between AAC and PECS.

    If you need some inspiration with using AAC or would like your child assessed for the right type of AAC then please get in touch.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    Explore how Intensive Interaction develops Autistic children’s communication

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    Intensive Interaction is an approach that I might suggest for your child. Here is an overview of this approach to increase your knowledge. There are a range of approaches that overlap and having trained in them all I use them all interchangeably to tailor to each child individually. This approach is particularly good for children who work mostly to their own agenda and find it hard to engage with others.

    So, what is Intensive Interaction?

    According to its founder, Hewett (1980), the approach “involves mirroring a person’s actions, sounds and facial expressions.” This allows your child to recognise and form communication between themselves and another, in a fun, play-based setting. Attention and listening are the fundamentals to speech and language development. By using the Intensive Interaction approach, we can increase the time your child can attend for and with another person. We are working towards a child enjoying another person’s presence. We are hoping to make gains with playing together with a child, taking turns and achieving reciprocity. That is the platform which we need to start with to build communication, language, words and perhaps even speech.

    There are many aspects that this approach supports:

    • such as using facial expressions
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    • making sounds/noises (vocalisations) that have meaning
    • and eye contact. Although, we must be careful when suggesting ‘improving’ the use of eye contact. For some individuals making eye contact can be physically painful. So be aware that we are not making our children ‘look’ we are encouraging their natural behaviour.

    Who benefits from Intensive Interaction?

    Children with more complex communication and learning delay can benefit from the Intensive Interaction approach. Each session can be adapted to the needs of the individual and the sessions can be designed to use the whole or part of the approach. It is especially useful for children who are finding it hard to engage in any way socially with another person. Autistic children who tend to work to their own agenda often benefit from this approach.

    How is Intensive Interaction implemented?

    You need to have an environment that your child is comfortable in, and to be able to come down to their level so that you can see each other. This is why I often visit children in their own homes to ensure that they are comfortable and that they can withdraw for periods of time if they need to as well.

    Ensure your child knows you’re there and you are 100% present. This is very important. I would recommend that you put your phone away for some 10 minutes or so and give your undivided attention to your child for that period of time.

    Waiting

    Waiting is very important: we need to give your child time to process what is happening around them. After waiting for a response, you might want to start copying any gestures they use, any facial expressions they make, or perhaps imitate any sounds. You’ll want to continue with this for a few minutes to see if the communication between you and your child changes. Remember always take the cues from your child; if they communicate a message with you, respond. It might be that they are ready to finish and that they’ve shown this by walking away or signing.

    Giving your child a way to respond is vital. We can use visuals to support their communication. We can create ‘yes’ and ‘no’ symbols so they can use them in a functional way.

    A top tip in these sessions is to use mirrors, so that your child can see and begin to recognise their own facial expressions.

    There are other programmes that overlap with Intensive Interaction such as Hanen with following your child’s lead and the Gina Davies Curiosity Programme.

    Now you know a bit about Intensive Interaction, why not book a call to discuss how we can support your Autistic child’s communication using this evidence-based approach.

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    Stage 2 NLA

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    Last time we asked: is our child ready tp move to Stage 2 NLA (Natural Language Acquisition stage 2) and we looked at how we can know. Now we know: he/she is ready, they are mixing and matching those scripts quite liberally! Hurrah!

    So for example we hear phrases like:

    • ‘let’s go’+ ‘downstairs’
    • ‘it’s’ + ‘downstairs’
    • ‘I see it’ + ‘downstairs‘
    • ‘I want to’ + ‘shoes downstairs’ (I want to put my shoes on downstairs)

    To recap, it’s important to listen out to a variety of contexts because if we only hear the single version of a gestalt —this is so great, hurrah!— but that’s not yet Stage 2.

    What we can now do on a daily basis to help and support at this time:

    1. We need to offer more ‘mix and match’ phrases to help our child establish this new way of communicating.

    Good phrases:

    • It’s … raining / cooking / eating / washing / brushing
    • That’s … great / cool / amazing / wow / so good
    • Let’s … see / look / go / run / chase
    • How’bout … some food / playing / I’ll chase / sleeping / we read a book
    • I see a … bird / large car / fire engine
    • I wanna … have a biscuit / have a book / have a snuggle
    • We’re … going out / going home / going in the car / going upstairs

    Here in my video clip of train play I use:

    • Let’s go
    • It’s going up the hill
    • It’s coming down
    • Ooops it falls!
    • It’s stopping
    • Let’s put on another parcel
    • Ready steady go
    • Off we go
    • It’s come off!
    • Let’s fix it
    • I can do it
    • I don’t need help

    You can offer these gestalts either with an AAC as you can see me do in the video clip or you can just verbally offer these.

    2. Watch out for Pronoun confusion or reversal:

    Gestalt kids repeat gestalts, so we don’t want to create ‘pronoun reversal’.

    Instead model from a:

    • first person perspective: ‘I’ / ‘Our’ / ‘Us’
    • joint perspective: ‘We’ / ‘Let’s’ or a
    • neutral perspective: ‘It’

    You can turn almost any sentence into a good language model once you get used to it. And you can avoid ‘you’ and ‘your’ at the same time!

    So instead of saying, ‘Do you want to go to the park?’

    You could say:

    • We wanna go to the park?
    • Let’s go out?
    • Shall we go out / to the park?

    3. Start providing ‘variation’ in your language modelling:

    Instead of just modelling something one way, start thinking about offering a pattern in a couple of other ways, in a couple of different situations, then several ways in several different situations.

    Example: once you hear your child saying: ‘it’s raining’ and you know it’s a mitigation, because you don’t often say ‘it’s raining’, or haven’t said it in a while and you know your child says other ‘it’s’ phrases.

    Repeat: ‘it’s raining!’

    Then: ‘it’s’ + ‘raining hard’ / ‘it’s wet out there’ / ‘It’s’ + ‘raining lot’s’.

    Then later think of other combinations for ‘it’s’ + ‘something’:

    • (rice) ‘It’s’ + ‘cooking’
    • (water/tap) ‘It’s’ + ‘running’
    • (radio) ‘It’s’ + ‘singing
    • (dog) ‘It’s’ + ‘peeing’ / ‘it’s’ + ‘running’ / ‘it’s’ + ‘jumping’

    In my train video clip:

    • Let’s go
    • It’s going
    • Let’s make it go
    • Ready steady go
    • Oops its gone

    4. Use natural intonation that shows you really mean what you’re saying.

    You can be animated or try for musical if your child prefers that / doesn’t mind you singing —they might not like it if their hearing is pitch perfect and your singing is off key…—

    • ‘I’m’ + ‘trying to find you!’ (animated, goofy face)
    • ‘I’m’ +’ getting tired!’ (exaggerated stretch and yawn)
    • ‘I’m’ + ‘catching up with you!’ (animated goofy)
    • ‘I’m’ + ‘gonna get you!’ (animated goofy)
    • ‘I’m’ + ‘sad right now’ (exaggerated face and tone of voice)

    5. USE SILENCE!

    Important, I might not have said this before but we need to hold back sometimes (hard I know) and not constantly offer models. Let our child sit in a bit of silence with us there just observing and waiting for their own offers. This is a very important point. Silence is golden sometimes. Try it out. I am not talking about the silence that comes with a person scrolling on their phone though, we do need to be present and receptive.

    You will see this works wonders!

    Do get in touch if you would like some in-person or on-line 1:1 support with this. It can be overwhelming to figure it all out alone.

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    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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