Top tips for the best chair when weaning / feeding your toddler

ByLondon Speech and Feeding August 24, 2021March 28, 2025

Kids Speech Therapist London — Top Tips For The Best Chair When Weaning / Feeding Your Toddler

Many times I consult families for weaning or feeding difficulties and the immediate and most obvious problem I spot, as soon as I arrive or see any video footage for analysis: the high chair has no footrest! You know the one that is so popular from a certain Swedish company…and don’t get me wrong, most of my furniture is still from that same company and I mostly love it…after assembly and a fair bit of cursing…but the very cheap chair they sell is literally one of my pet hates…perhaps ‘hate’ is a bit strong, but I just do not like this chair at all. And the reason is simply this: IT HAS NO FOOTREST!? PS: it may do now, I have not been to said store in a while, but I have not come across any improved chairs in any of my clients’ homes!

Who likes to have their feet dangling in mid-air at any time of the day? I really don’t!. I need to always have my feet firmly planted on the ground or on a footrest – should I find myself lucky enough to be sitting on a bar stool these days! As soon as I clamber up that stool and I have managed to find a hook for my handbag – here’s another bugbear, but I digress – as soon as…my feet are looking and rooting for that foot rest. Because it gives us stability and let’s face it, when on a bar stool…stability is what gets us through the evening.

So back to our toddler: why would we imagine that our toddler feels any different about dangly legs? Imagine if you will, sitting on one of those bouncy gym balls… where would your feet be? Yes of course, on the floor, because otherwise all hell will break loose or, more to the point, your tummy muscles would get a nice work out, and that is FINE, no problem. Go for it, I know I should…

But if you imagine sitting on a ball like this with your feet off the ground and now you are given a plate of food as well….. I personally don’t think that would end well.

Of course our toddler in that high chair without a footrest is not quite as wobbly as you would be on that ball, but the principle is the same: there is very little stability and now s/he is meant to be tucking into some veggies as well.

As I mentioned in my PS above, I do understand that there are now some additional footrests that can be fitted on the above Swedish chair, and if that becomes a bit more common place and is easy enough to do, then all is forgiven and please go ahead. However….. and I am not on ANY commission from the company I am about to recommend, but really, I have not come across a better chair that is so versatile and will last your child until they are about 12years old!! (Both my boys had one each and 20 years later, I still use both their hairs now for children that come to see me in my clinic. They are almost as good as new and adjust so easily and well to all different heights)

Enter, the Stokke Tripp Trapp Chair. It costs a small fortune to be fair, but it did win the “best high chair award” in 2021. There are many cheaper versions available, for example, John Lewis sell a similar chair for about half the price! So do shop around.

But what is so important to consider is that your child has a foot rest and that his trunk is at a 90 degree angle with your child’s thighs.

This affords your child maximum stability and so now we can have a look at the rest of your child’s feeding skills and see what else can be done to help things, and there are many more strategies. But this is usually the first and a hugely important bit of advice I will give and the effect of better sitting, and increased stability is huge!

Best of luck with shopping for your great new high chair. I would also say, if you have already got a chair without a footrest and you don’t want to get another one, I totally get that too. In that case, perhaps have a think about how you could enable your child to rest his/her feet on something, with the right 90 degree angle I mentioned above: perhaps a crate of some sort? a coffee/side table that could be placed under the chair for feet to rest on? a box? Once we become aware of the problem there is most often a solution to this issue. Your toddler will thank you!

I hope this is helpful, please feel free to contact me if you have struggled with finding the right position for your child or if you found this blog post helpful.

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Feeding · Reviews

Transforming Mealtimes
ByLondon Speech and Feeding June 1, 2022January 31, 2023

Transforming Mealtimes

Below are two reviews I got from grateful clients over the past 4-6 weeks; this blog is more about how Feeding Therapy can help you than blowing my own trumpet…. though that said, it is always so nice and gratifying to hear when parents are happy and hopeful about their little one’s feeding journey. Feeding Therapy is a substantial part of my work as a Children’s Speech and Language Therapist. One of my specialist subjects is Autism and we find that many children on the Autism Spectrum are very specific about eating, and will often refuse a range of typical family foods in favour of a narrow range of foods/snacks.

Mostly, feeding difficulties are a combination and complex cocktail of factors that have contributed to the current status quo: sure, there may have been some physical problems to start off with, such as reflux causing the baby discomfort, constipation, a very tight tongue tie or a swallowing problem caused by neurological difficulties and of course sensory processing difficulties are also very physical experiences. We always begin with a very thorough case history taking and information gathering, followed by an oral assessment and observation of the actual swallow to establish what might have been – or still might be – the cause for the feeding difficulties.

In most of the cases I see in my practice, the original obvious cause is no longer present, especially with older children. So, if the swallowing is fine, the reflux is no longer present, the tongue was divided (twice!) why are they still not eating much, refusing to try new foods, only accept certain textures etc.

The answer is extremely complex and multi-faceted and this little blog is not covering any factors in detail (we would be here all night) -I mentioned sensory processing difficulties earlier on. These are mostly still present but often not acknowledged or recognised by parents. And it is certainly the case that one of the contributors is parental anxiety; this tends to run very high and has been for many months, sometimes years. This in turn often leads to very tense and unpleasant, endlessly long meal times and many times children are force-fed several times a day in order to “get something down there” as otherwise they would probably starve themselves.

Additionally, parents end up only offering a very narrow range of foods because that is all their child will eat. This ends up in a vicious cycle of children being fed porridge-style food for all meal times and of course they won’t progress to more mature foods if these mature foods are never on offer.

In order to help address and disentangle some of the issues I often introduce the “Division of Responsibility in Feeding” as researched and recommended by Ellyn Satter (The Satter Feeding Dynamics Model)

Here are the main points of her approach:

Children have a natural ability with eating, they eat as much as they need and they grow in the way that is right for them and they learn to eat what their parents eat. (E Satter). The parent is responsible for WHAT the child eats, WHERE and WHEN the child eats. The child is responsible for HOW MUCH they eat or WHETHER to eat. Satter proposes that parents should guide their child’s transition from nipple feeding through semi-solids, then thick and lumpy foods to finger foods and then on to normal family meals.

Please note: this model is only appropriate for children where the original physical cause is no longer present!

Of course it’s not easy! It requires a huge shift in thinking about feeding and it requires to trust our children to know what is best for them. This is very big for most parents, as it is not how we were brought up and it is not commonly known that babies and children know what is good for them!

However, it is certainly true that parents who follow this particular approach and make small, steady changes in the way the offer foods, and in the way they create family meal times differently, children make very nice, pleasing progress and over some months we often see remarkable positive changes.

I like to work in a team and especially for this type of problem it is essential to have a multi-disciplinary approach. A knowledgeable dietician is an enormous plus in any feeding team as is of course a

Paediatrician and/ or a Gastroenterologist and the most important people in the team are the parents!

Feeding Therapy is all about collaboration and a ‘team around the child” approach. When we have this in place and there is trust amongst the team members then we make fantastic progress.

Do get in touch with me if you would like some help with your tricky feeder.

Lovely Reviews

I visited London Speech and Feeding a couple of days ago with my 8-month-old granddaughter and her mother. Sonja made us feel comfortable and at ease from our first introductions. She was able to pinpoint my granddaughter’s mum’s anxiety around weaning very quickly. She not only gave her the tools to do this successfully, but also really encouraged my granddaughter’s mum and instilled confidence that she had everything she needed to make this sometimes-difficult transition without further anxiety.

Sonja was very thorough in her initial assessment of my granddaughter’s physical milestones and her developing speech. My granddaughter felt very comfortable with Sonja and happily played along with her. Then came the big moment – trying out various foods! We were amazed to see just how easily my granddaughter, with Sonja’s expert encouragement, took to sampling the wonderful array of different delicious morsels Sonja had prepared for the session. My granddaughter even drank from a cup for the first time! Wonderful!

Sonja then emailed a summary of the session and an extensive array of resources with suggestions for my granddaughter’s mum which she has now put into action. My granddaughter’s mum couldn’t thank Sonja enough for her caring attitude, extensive knowledge, and warm professionalism. I have no hesitation in recommending Sonja, she’s a fantastic Feeding Therapist!

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Sonja (and her lovely colleague, Sandra) were stupendous. I had brought my one-year-old son to see them as I was concerned that he wasn’t eating enough. They looked at his history and we ate together to make sure they had all the information they needed to give an accurate diagnosis. Whilst our outcome was that Henry was in fact doing brilliantly (and I just needed to chill out a bit!), I would imagine if there was something more serious going on, Sonja would make you feel just as supported and empowered as she did with us. Excellent follow-ups too. Money well spent for a bit of reassurance for a stressed out mama. Thank you, Sonja!

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Speech and Language Therapy · Top tips

Discover seven activities to support young children with word-finding difficulties
ByLondon Speech and Feeding December 22, 2022January 31, 2023
Discover seven activities to support young children with word-finding difficulties

You watch your child struggle to find the right words in conversation. You’ve noticed that they describe what they mean (e.g., it lives in the trees outside, has wings to fly and squawks) but cannot think of the correct word to use (i.e., bird). You see the frustration on their face as they search for that never-ending missing word. You know that as your young person becomes older, they are likely to face an increasing frustration. You recognise the importance of putting strategies into place for their word-finding difficulties. It’s vital that this diagnosis has come from a Speech and Language Therapist, as different activities will target different needs.

Ensure activities are interesting and fun. Be creative and use the activities your young person relates to. Use words that interest them. Remember, the words we use matter.

1. Read, read, and read some more!
- Read books that rhyme, or those that talk about opposites
- Read about the semantic classes in the book such as occupations, the equipment they might use, or names of related words
- Talk about books that involve animals and their young, and the names of the animal genders (i.e., Horses have foals; horse; mare, stallion, filly, colt)
- Use books that have repetition of the same word or ones that have a silly rhyme
2. Play word-games

You could play games which transform one part of speech to another
- Today I am riding, yesterday I … (rode)
- Today I am driving, yesterday I … (drove)
You could name the odd word out from a list of items
- e.g., cat, dog, sheep, red
Why not read out a list of words and your child must guess which two go together
- e.g., television, sofa, apple, banana
Play a game of complete the sentence
- e.g., “A house is a place to live. An office is a place to …”
Play a word game involving synonyms or antonyms
- e.g., Can you think of another word for “small”? Can you think of another word for “sleepy”?
- e.g., “The opposite of hot is …” or use a question-and-answer format e.g., “What is the opposite of hot?”
Play a word game involving similarities and/or differences
- e.g., “what is the same as a car and a bus?”
- e.g., “what is the difference between a car and a bus?”
3. Use story telling

Sing rhymes or songs, and allow children to complete the sentence
- e.g., ‘Little Jack Horner sat in a …’ (corner)
4.Tell jokes

Why not tell knock-knock jokes, or riddles? These need accurate word-retrieval otherwise they wouldn’t be funny.

5. Make up words in rhymes

Use rhymes and make up words
- e.g., “Humpty Dumpty had a great… grandmother”
6. Play word category games

These games might include ones (e.g., “see how many boys’ names you can think of in one minute”. Time yourself while you do it. Categories may include tools, games, girls’ names, drinks, films, toys, animals, makes of cars, clothes, sports, items that you find in school, colours, names of places beginning with ‘B’). You could also play this in reverse, so name items in the category and your conversation partner guesses the category.

7. Play “what comes next?”
- e.g., ABCDE…
- e.g., First, second, third…
- e.g., Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday…
Knowing that you’re helping your child with their word finding is a weight off your mind. It helps you to relax knowing that you’re supporting their word-finding difficulties. Watch your child develop strategies as their word knowledge grows.

Credit: Caroline Bowen

All information in this blog originates from:

Bowen, C. (1998). Information for Families: Helping Children Who have Word Retrieval Difficulties. Retrieved from http://www.speech-language-therapy.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=100 on [15.11.2022]

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Feeding · Speech and Language Therapy · Top tips

Strategies to support children with eating difficulties
ByLondon Speech and Feeding August 25, 2023July 28, 2023
where the cause is NOT a swallowing problem, but we are having a “fussy eater” in the family, seeming for no obvious reason

When parents have a child who find mealtimes or eating difficult, it can put pressure on the whole family dynamics. Once we have observed a child’s eating and drinking skills and found that they are not swallowing impaired, but are for want of a better word “fussy” or “picky”, we can then start to look at what might be underpinning the food aversions/picky eating/food avoidance. Two of the main questions parents have (of course) are:
- ‘is my child getting the right nutrition?’
- ‘how can I have less anxiety-provoking and stressful mealtimes?’
We all tend to have an image in our minds about the ‘perfect mealtime’, and how mealtimes ‘should’ be. Speech and Language Therapists with a Feeding Specialism are the perfect professionals to help you unpick feeding issues. We are trained to look at swallowing and oral skills and we also know a lot about feeding behaviours and sensory difficulties which could be causing your child’s eating avoidance.

Here are some strategies that can support children with their eating:
1. Create and maintain a mealtime culture that suits your home and lifestyle. Then stick to that. We all need some routine in our lives to thrive. Mealtimes are no different. It might be that you eat in the same place for every meal, with the same knives and forks, concentrating on maintaining good posture. Children learn by repetition so the more familiar it is, the easier they will find it. In the physical sense, our bodies also need preparing for food, regardless of whether we are eating with our mouths or we are tube-fed. We want every child to connect all the dots of the process. It starts with their eyes, noses, expectations, memories of past experiences, feelings and then finally their mouths….
2. Be an excellent role model. Children learn through watching others, so your child will be observing you without you knowing. Ensure that you are positive about the food you are all eating, and talk about how delicious, tasty, juicy, and yummy the foods are. Make the atmosphere around the dinner table light hearted. Even though you are secretly stressed about your child not eating, try and not show this. Instead pick a topic or put on some nice music, or talk about something your child might be interested in, and try and avoid coercing your child to eat. Leave small finger foods on their plates and have a range of foods available on the table so that your child can see that everyone is eating a range of foods and enjoying them.
3. Use positive reinforcement. Try and think of mealtimes as fun and motivating. Children who are happy will likely be more inclined to try foods and take part in family mealtimes. Reward all interactions around food, so if your child merely touches a new food then praise this behaviour. Or if your child licks a food just once, again make a nice comment and praise your child for touching and licking the food. The takeaway here is to try and keep all messages positive around food.
4. Keep offering all types of food. What often happens is that parents stop serving foods they know will not be eaten. This makes sense in a way; we don’t want wastage! However, try and keep the doors open and re-offer all types of foods, even the ones that your child has not wanted in the past. Try and give your child one food they will like and one food they have tasted before and liked before, even a little, and then one new food to try. So, your child always has something to fall back on and they can join in with eating. But they can also try (or at least look at and think about trying) other foods that you and perhaps the siblings are eating.
Take a look at this website, I find it very helpful in showing parents what types of foods and how big a portion to offer

Have a go and try and implement some of the ideas above, and should you get stuck please get in touch!

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Ages and Stages · Speech and Language Therapy · Top tips

Navigating the exciting 9–18 months journey: Your baby’s communication milestones
ByLondon Speech and Feeding February 3, 2025January 31, 2025
Between 9 and 18 months, your little one undergoes a remarkable transformation, blossoming from a curious explorer into a budding communicator. This period is filled with exciting milestones in speech, language, and social development. Let’s delve into what you can expect.

9–12 months: The world opens up

Communication takes flight
- Babbling becomes more complex with a wider range of sounds. By babbling we mean syllables like: pa ga ka ma da and then ‘baba’ gohgoh’. First we hear one and two syllables together and then longer and longer strings! This is so exciting!
- First words! One day around the 12 months–14 months mark we hear a first word! My older son’s first word was ‘Licht’ which is the German word for ‘light’ as literally every time I carried him along the corridors in our home, I pointed out the light switches to him and turned them off and on a few times. And each time I said ‘Licht!’ and it stuck! PS: sadly I cannot remember what my younger son’s first word was… poor second and third babies they just have to muddle along and call loudly to get noticed!
- Understanding grows! Baby now understands simple instructions like ‘where is your ball’ and responds by looking to the ball across the room!
Social butterflies
- Your baby now starts to show interest in other children, and may try to copy their actions. Now we are getting proper traction with simple social games like peek-a-boo and patty-cake. Whilst your baby is generally interested in other people and children he or she may show separation anxiety when mum or dad or other familiar person suddenly leaves the room and they feel alone with strangers.
Fine motor skills
- Pincer grasp develops. This is where your child puts an index finger to the thumb in order to pick up of small objects, hold them and transfer them to either a box, back on the floor or into the other hand.
- Your baby may start to explore objects by banging, shaking, and mouthing.
12–15 months: Words are taking shape
- Language explosion: From our early words we now suddenly see baby’s vocabulary expanding, with new words added each week. I would highly recommend parents keep a little journal of all the words they hear. If nothing else this is a wonderful aide-memoire for years down the road when you might like to reminisce about the first ten words. I promise you otherwise you won’t recall! (especially for second and third babies; I would do this now, had I the time again).
- Understanding grows:
  
  By about 15 months our baby can follow simple two-step instructions like ‘Go get your shoes and bring them here.’
  
  Begins to understand the concept of ‘no.’ and that’s a very useful thing. Though before you breathe a sigh of relief… your toddler may well show you that he is understanding a ‘no’ though he may not stop doing what he is doing or come down off the table!
- Playtime gets interactive:
  
  Now we engage in more complex play, such as stacking blocks, pretending to eat with a spoon, and imitating actions.
  
  Many toddlers now start showing an interest in picture books.
15–18 months: Communication blossoms
- Words combine: Towards 18 months or around about then your toddler may start to put two words together, such as ‘more milk’ or ‘bye-bye dada.’
- Gestures and sounds: Now we also use gestures to communicate, such as pointing, shaking head ‘no,’ and waving ‘bye-bye.’
- Exploration and curiosity:
  
  Your toddler is now EVERYWHERE! Turn your back and he or she is gone! Your toddler now shows a strong sense of curiosity and explores their environment with enthusiasm.
- Copying
- Look out for actions and gestures your toddler will copy such as clapping hands or patting a cushion or banging a spoon on the table .
Remember
- Every child develops at his or her own pace.
- These are just general guidelines, and some children may reach certain milestones earlier or later than others.
- If you have any concerns about your child’s development, please consult with your speech and language therapist. We are always keen to hear from parents and happy to help promote all those lovely early skills.
General tips to encourage communication if you feel your child needs a little more help
- Talk, talk, talk! Engage in frequent chatting with your child.
- Listen to your child: Allow for periods of silence when playing with your child to allow them to say something or make sounds which you can then copy and respond to.
- Read aloud regularly. Use books with simple words and pictures.
- Play interactive games: Hickory Dickory Dock, Row Row the boat, Old McDonalds, 5 little monkeys jumping on the bed, chasing and catching, tickling games.
- Respond to your child’s babbling and gestures. You can copy them or if your toddler says long strings of babbling you cannot understand you could just say: ‘Oh ok!? ‘yes that’s great!’ ‘who knew!’ ‘wow you’ve got much to say!’ as if you understood.
- Limit screen time or if your child is very passionate about watching clips then sit and watch with your child so that you can see what is the best bit, which songs they like the best and what sort of phrases they love hearing.
This exciting period of rapid growth and development is a precious time for both you and your child.

By providing a loving, stimulating, and responsive environment, you will naturally nurture their communication skills! Any more questions, please get in touch!

Sonja McGeachie

Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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The importance of child-led therapy
ByLondon Speech and Feeding June 30, 2023May 31, 2023
Child-led therapy is essentially what it says, therapy sessions that are directed by your child. You may think how can my child’s Speech and Language Therapist focus on goals if sessions are led by my child.

Let us explain…

Your child will be more receptive and motivated to take part in therapy if they have some form of input. E.g., they can choose what toys they want to play with, or how they want to play with the resources available. If sessions are child-centred then they are much more likely to engage and reach their goals, making intervention valuable. They will also be able to regulate their emotions, and use movement to support their need for regulation. E.g., some children like to jump whilst others like to run. As Speech and Language Therapists we need to use what is meaningful to your child to get the most out of intervention. By focusing on child-led therapy, we can build trust, which will allow us, in time, to use new techniques and activities that your child may enjoy. We want children to be themselves, to show their true personality. Therapy is about enhancing their skills in their own individualised way and child-led therapy allows for this.

This way of working may seem daunting to some, but it doesn’t have to feel this way. Parents often feel if they are prepared then activities may go smoother. It might be the case, but perhaps it doesn’t give your child the opportunity for spontaneity. We’d like to suggest something that may lead to some surprises. Put out an activity that is your child’s favourite and then a completely new activity. Remember these activities don’t have to be complicated. Often, the simpler the better!

So, no need to plan, just place two activities out and see what happens! Look out for anything which surprises you, which activity did they prefer? Do they have any sensory preferences? The freedom of choice is a wonderful thing to explore. So, just go with the flow!

The kind of activities that are useful for child-led play can include:
- Hide and seek
- Cooking or baking
- An Exercise ball
- Small world play
- Pretend play
- Musical instruments (you could even have a go at making your own)
Child-led therapy is a very useful resource. We have it at our fingertips. We don’t need special resources. You just need yourselves and your child! Sometimes, child-led therapy can be tricky to put in place. It sounds easy but is much harder in reality. So, make sure you give it time and reflect on your experiences. Ask yourselves ‘what went well’, and ‘what could be improved’. E.g., perhaps you gave your child time to lead to begin with, but you didn’t give them enough time to think about their options during the activity.

How can parents become more child-led in the home environment?
- Pause and use silence. This gives your child the opportunity to lead.
- It’s perfectly natural to want to talk. Afterall, this is how adults maintain conversations. If you find yourself talking too much, count to ten! This will allow your child time to respond or initiate in the conversation or interaction.
- Move down to your child’s level. It’s much easier to see what’s going on if you’re at the same height.
- Videoing you and your child can really help you to see where your strengths lie. You’ll also be able to make minor tweaks to improve your communication during child-led play.
Contact Sonja for more advice on speech, language and communication during child-led play.

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Halloween without the tears: Supporting children through the Spooky Season
ByLondon Speech and Feeding October 27, 2025October 27, 2025
For many families, Halloween is an exciting time filled with costumes, decorations, and sweets. But for children who are sensory sensitive, whether they’re autistic, have sensory processing differences, or simply find new experiences overwhelming, Halloween can feel like a night of chaos rather than fun.

The bright lights, unexpected noises, strange textures, and social pressure to ‘join in’ can quickly become too much. The good news? With some thoughtful planning and gentle support, you can make Halloween a positive and manageable experience for your child.

Understanding sensory overload

Sensory overload happens when a child’s brain receives more sensory input than it can process. This might mean:
- Costumes that itch, squeeze, or feel strange on the skin.
- Loud sounds like doorbells, fireworks, or shrieking decorations.
- Crowds and unpredictability during trick-or-treating.
- Strong smells or tastes from face paint or unfamiliar sweets.
When overloaded, children may cry, cover their ears, hide, run away, or ‘shut down.’ These reactions aren’t ‘bad behaviour’, they’re signs of distress. The goal isn’t to eliminate Halloween fun, but to adjust it to your child’s comfort level.

Step 1: Choose costumes wisely

Costumes are often the biggest trigger. Scratchy fabrics, tight seams, or masks that restrict breathing can be unbearable for some children.

Try these tips:
- Go sensory-friendly: Use soft, breathable fabrics and remove tags. Many retailers now sell sensory-safe costumes.
- Test it early: Let your child wear the outfit around the house before Halloween. If it’s too much, simplify — maybe themed pyjamas or a favourite T-shirt with Halloween accessories.
- Skip the mask: Face paint can be equally challenging, always test on a small patch of skin first. A comfortable headband or hat might be enough to feel ‘in costume.’
Remember, participation doesn’t require perfection. Your child can still ‘be’ their favourite character without a full costume.

Step 2: Plan your Halloween environment

Before the big day, think about what parts of Halloween your child enjoys — and what might overwhelm them.

At home:
- Keep decorations minimal and predictable. Avoid motion-activated sounds or flashing lights.
- Practise knocking at your own front door or saying ‘trick or treat’ with a trusted adult.
- Have a ‘quiet space’ ready, a cosy corner or room where your child can retreat if things get too intense.
If you’re going out:
- Choose earlier, quieter times for trick-or-treating.
- Visit a few familiar houses instead of the whole street.
- Bring ear defenders or noise-cancelling headphones.
- Have a clear exit plan if your child needs a break.
Sometimes, watching from the window and handing out sweets can be just as enjoyable! it still offers social participation without sensory overload.

Step 3: Prepare socially and emotionally

Halloween involves a lot of unexpected social interaction: strangers at the door, unfamiliar greetings, and different rules.

Help your child by:
- Using visuals or stories: Read picture books about Halloween or make a short social story about what will happen.
- Role-playing: Practise saying ‘Trick or treat!’ or handing out sweets in a fun, low-pressure way.
- Labelling feelings: Explain that it’s okay to feel nervous or to take a break if something feels ‘too loud’ or ‘too much.’
Children feel safer when they know what to expect. Predictability reduces anxiety and makes participation more enjoyable.

Step 4: Rethink the treats

Not every child enjoys sweets; some dislike sticky textures or strong flavours. Offer non-food alternatives like stickers, glow sticks, or small toys.

If your child has feeding difficulties or oral sensitivities, it’s okay to opt out of the traditional treats entirely. They can still join in by giving treats or decorating treat bags instead.

It’s also helpful to prepare your child that others might offer sweets they don’t want. Practising polite ‘no thank you’ responses can make these moments easier. (check out my symbol download for children who struggle to speak)

Step 5: Celebrate your way

Halloween doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s version. Maybe your family watches a ‘not-too-scary’ film, carves pumpkins, or does a flashlight treasure hunt indoors. The goal is joyful connection, not conformity.

A calm, happy experience, even if it looks simple from the outside builds positive associations your child will carry into future celebrations.

In summary

Halloween can be full of sensory surprises, but with empathy, planning, and flexibility, it doesn’t have to end in tears.

The more you adapt to your child’s sensory needs, the more they learn that they are safe, understood, and included not just at Halloween, but in every celebration.

As with all things in speech and feeding development, progress starts with connection. When children feel regulated and supported, communication and confidence follow.

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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