If your child is using echolalia and/or has a diagnosis of autism, then your child’s way of processing language is most likely different to the classic way children typically learn language. We call this process Natural Language Acquisition or Gestalt Language Processing.
Step by Step guide to Gestalt Learning
Let’s explore the following stages of Gestalt Processing:
Stage 1: communicative use of whole language gestalts
(e.g., “let’s get out of here”)
Children and young people in this stage use echolalia. They need to hear more gestalts or scripts. So, your job is to model, model, model and to use functional language that your child can repeat back.
Stage 2: mitigated into chunks and re-combining these chunks
(e.g., “let’s get” + “some more”) and (e.g., “let’s get” + “out of here”)
This is when you take parts of gestalts or phrases and then combine it with other parts.
Stage 3: further mitigation (single words recombining words, formulating two-word phrases)
(e.g., “get…more”)
They are going beyond their gestalts. Furthermore, they may begin to label different objects.
Stage 4: formulating first sentences
(e.g., “let’s get more toys”)
You may see more grammatical errors during this phase as they are creating unique sentences. Please don’t worry about this, it means they are playing and experimenting with language. As communication partners, you could model the correct form of the sentence.
Stages 5 & 6: formulating more complex sentences
(e.g., “how long do you want to play inside for?”)
You can see that language learning is a process, that is trialled and tested, used in different contexts for children to be able to learn and use language appropriately.
My next blog will give you activities ideas and how you might use them specifically with a Gestalt Language Processor.
Remember early intervention is vital. So, if you have any concerns, please seek the advice of a Speech and Language Therapist.
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For many children, especially those navigating Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS), the challenge isn’t just making individual sounds. It’s the ‘speech gymnastics’ required to move smoothly from one sound to the next.
You might notice that instead of saying ‘Train’, your child says ‘Ter-ain’, or for ‘Frog’, you hear ‘Fer-og’. That sneaky little ‘uh’ sound in the middle is what we call a schwa vowel. In the world of speech science, this is known as epenthesis. It’s essentially a ‘repair strategy’ the brain uses to break up a difficult cluster of sounds into two easier pieces.
While it might seem like a small detail, that tiny vowel makes a big difference in how fluent and clear a child’s speech sounds. In today’s post (and the video below), I am working with my student on ironing out that schwa by focusing on co-articulation—the art of getting the mouth ready for the second sound while still finishing the first.
The ‘best friends’ strategy
To help my student understand this complex movement, I use visual cues and a story. There are many ways to portray two sounds living closely together, but for this session, I used the ‘Best Friends’ story.
In our story, the /T/ and the /R/ are older brother best friends who want to play together. The ‘schwa’ sound is represented by a little sister who keeps trying to jump in the middle of their game! Because my student has a younger sister, this scenario was instantly familiar and helped him visualise why we needed to ‘close the gap’ between those two sounds.
Alternative methods I often use:
Beyond stories, I often use other visual and tactile methods to show the closeness of two sounds:
The sliding finger: I draw two dots on a paper—one for /T/ and one for /R/. We slide a finger quickly from one to the other. I might say, ‘Don’t let the ‘uh’ monster jump in the gap!’
The rubber band: We stretch a rubber band as we speak. I tell my student that the word is one long, smooth stretch, rather than two separate ‘pops’.
Visual cues for ‘quiet’ sounds: I often put my finger to my lips or tap my throat to remind a child to keep the first sound voiceless. If the voice stays ‘off’ during the /T/, it’s much harder for that schwa vowel to creep in.
The importance of ‘pure’ modelling
A major hurdle in clearing up these blends is how we, as adults, model sounds. Often, when teaching the alphabet, we say ‘Kuh’, ‘Puh’ or ‘Tuh’. But if you listen closely, you’re actually adding a vowel! If a child learns that /K/ says ‘Kuh’, it’s only natural they will say ‘Kuh-R’ for /KR/.
To give your child a cleaner blueprint, try modeling ‘pure’ sounds. Think of whispering rather than talking:
The /K/ sound: A short, sharp burst of air from the back of the throat. No voice! (A quiet /K/ click).
The /P/ sound: Just a ‘pop’ of air from the lips. If your throat vibrates, the vowel has snuck in.
The /T/ sound: A tiny tap of the tongue behind the teeth.
Why is this important?
You might ask, ‘If I can still understand them, does it really matter if they say “ter-ain”?’
The goal of speech therapy isn’t just functional communication; it’s building phonological awareness. When a child adds extra vowels, it can eventually impact their literacy. If they hear ‘ter-ain,’ they are much more likely to eventually spell it as ‘terain’ or ‘traint’.
By helping them master these clusters through co-articulation now, we are setting them up for success in reading and writing. And we are giving them the confidence to speak with ease.
Feel free to contact me if your child needs help with clusters or other difficulties either aligned with Childhood Apraxia of Speech or other articulation difficulties.
Sonja McGeachie
Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist
Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.
References
Hall, N. (2011). Vowel Epenthesis. In The Blackwell Companion to Phonology (eds M. Oostendorp, C.J. Ewen, E. Hume and K. Rice). In this work, epenthesis is defined as the insertion of a vowel to break up complex consonant clusters into simpler, more manageable syllables. This is often viewed as a ‘repair strategy’ used by the brain when a transition between sounds is too complex to execute quickly.
Aichert, I., & Ziegler, W. (2004)Brain and Language 88(1):148-59. Syllable frequency and syllable structure in apraxia of speech. This research highlights that children with Apraxia often struggle specifically with word-onset clusters, leading to distortions like the schwa.
Browman, C. P., & Goldstein, L. (1992)Phonetica 1992;49(3-4):155-80. Articulatory Phonology: An Overview. This paper explains that fluent speech requires ‘gestural overlap,’ where the movements for two different sounds happen simultaneously. This supports the ‘Best Friends’ method of keeping sounds close together.
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This is a surprisingly common speech error and it can be corrected really well in my experience. I have helped lots of children of all ages learn how to control their tongue movements and produce clear, sharp /S/ sounds and good /SH/ sounds.
Initial consideration
There are some factors which need to be considered before we can dive into therapy proper and these are they, in a nutshell:
The student is not currently displaying negative oral habits such as thumb sucking or excessive sucking on clothing. This is because thumb sucking exerts pressure on the teeth and therefore can, over time, push teeth out of their natural order/position.
The student does not have a restricted lingual frenulum or tongue tie which can cause at times restricted movements of the tongue (pending on how tight the frenulum is attaching the tongue to the base of the oral cavity); equally a labial frenulum or lip-tie can restrict lip movement and therefore physically restrict good speech sound production.
The student does not have enlarged tonsils as they can sometimes push a tongue forward and also cause open mouth posture and open mouth breathing.
The student’s motivation to change their speech pattern is high. (this is an important factor though with younger students I can get round this with a lot of fun games and good parental involvement!)
When I do an Oral Assessment of my student these are the first factors I want to look at and consider. Often I will refer to other agencies such as Orthodontists, dentists or ENT specialists to advise and help with some of these factors before we can get going. However, there are strategies that we can work on almost straight away.
Most of my Lisp students present with an open mouth posture: that is where the student has their mouth always slightly open for breathing. Over time the tongue starts to fall forward and rests on the front teeth or the bottom lip instead of finding a comfortable resting place either at the alveolar ridge (the bumpy spot behind the upper front teeth) or, alternatively, resting at the bottom of the mouth behind the lower front teeth.
Another common problem is that the tongue is not moving independently from the jaw and so is reluctant to pull back or lift up inside the mouth as the tongue is guided in movement by the jaw.
Combine those two factors and your tongue is not pulling back, or lifting up or doing very much at all without the jaw moving as well. This makes for unclear speech sounds, especially all the sounds we make at the front with our tongue or with our lips: /B/ /P/ /L/ /N/ and of course /S/ and /SH/ are particularly hard to make. We often also struggle with the /Y/ sound so ‘LELLOW’ instead of ‘yellow’.
Do not fear!
But no fear, these problems can be treated over time for sure! We often start with lip, tongue, and jaw exercises that help to move the tongue independently from the Jaw, our student learns that the tongue is a muscle and can be trained to do amazing acrobatic things in the mouth! WOW! It can actually pull back, lift up, and come down again all on its own!
We work on breathing, holding our breath for a bit then pushing it out and then holding it again.
And when it comes to the actual /S/ sound I often try and go a NEW route bypassing the Snake-Sound route if that is what had previously been tried and failed so that we can create completely new sound patterns in our brain and think about our sounds in a completely new way.
We then work on producing the sound /S/ on its own for a bit, at the end of words, then on either side of complimentary sounds, for instance : ‘EASY” – the sound patterns here are EEE-S–EE : the /EEE/ sound is complimentary to the /S/ sound as the tongue is at the right hight for the /S/ already once you have it in place for /EEE/ -……see?! EASY!
And gradually we work towards saying the /S/ sound clearly at the front of short words, then phrases and then sentences.
The process takes some time and it depends on how ready the student is. This varies of course hugely so I can never promise the exact number of sessions we will take to get that Lisp fixed. A lot depends on home practice in between sessions, and this is of course crucial to all therapy! Every day 15-20 mins practice is a good average time to aim for and when this is done it shortens the therapy block drastically.
I always give plenty of home work so there is never a chance of it getting boring or there being “nothing to do”!
Do contact me. I really enjoy working with this type of student and get a great kick out of FIXING THAT LISP!
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Mealtimes can be a battleground for parents of picky eaters, especially toddlers with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID). I see a great number of toddlers with Autism traits and many of my clients are picky eaters from mild to severe. Take a look at my blog for an outline of what the issues are and how to try and help.
ARFID goes beyond typical ‘picky eating’ and can significantly impact a child’s growth, nutrition, and social-emotional well-being. If your toddler is resistant to trying new foods or has a very limited diet, here are some strategies to navigate the introduction of solids:
1. Understand ARFID:
ARFID is a diagnosable eating disorder characterised by:
Limited food variety: Eating only a small range of foods, often with specific textures or colours.
Fear of new foods: Intense anxiety or aversion to trying unfamiliar foods.
Sensory sensitivities: Heightened sensitivity to taste, smell, texture, or appearance of food.
Lack of interest in eating: May show little interest in food or mealtimes.
2. Seek professional guidance:
Paediatrician and/or gastroenterologist: Rule out any underlying medical conditions.
Registered dietitian: Assess nutritional needs and create a balanced meal plan.
Speech and language therapist (SLT): If oral-motor skills or sensory sensitivities are contributing to feeding difficulties.
Occupational therapist (OT): If sensory processing challenges are affecting mealtime behaviours.
Child psychologist: If anxiety or emotional factors are contributing to ARFID.
3. Strategies for introducing solids:
Start small: Introduce one new food at a time, in small amounts, alongside familiar favourites.
Patience is key: It can take multiple exposures (up to 10–15 times!) for a child to accept a new food. Don’t give up!
Positive reinforcement: Praise and encouragement for any interaction with the new food, even just touching or smelling it.
No pressure: Avoid forcing or pressuring the child to eat. This can create negative associations with food.
Make it fun: Present food in playful ways, use cookie cutters for fun shapes, or involve the child in food preparation.
Sensory exploration: Encourage exploration of food through touch, smell, and sight before tasting.
Role modelling: Show the child that you enjoy eating a variety of foods.
Use fun utensils: your child might like characters from ‘Frozen’ or ‘Dinosaurs’ or ‘Diggers’ there are a host of character-based cutlery and cups/plates to be had. Also, I really rate these two items very highly they are so good so I want to share these with you. Both are available online. But warning: the cup is outrageously expensive as it comes from the United States and is sold by a small scale company. But I feel this is cup very worth trying, I have had good results with this.
Gradual desensitisation: Start with foods that are similar in texture or taste to accepted foods, then gradually introduce more challenging options.
Food chaining: Introduce new foods that are similar in taste, texture, or appearance to accepted foods.
4. Mealtime Environment:
Positive and relaxed: Create a calm and enjoyable mealtime atmosphere.
No distractions: Minimise distractions like TV or toys.
Consistent schedule: Offer meals and snacks at regular times.
Child-sized portions: Offer small, manageable portions to avoid overwhelming the child.
Involve the child: Let the child choose their utensils, plate, or cup.
5. Remember:
Every child is different: What works for one child may not work for another.
Progress takes time: Be patient and celebrate small victories.
Focus on the positive: Praise any positive interaction with food.
Seek support: Connect with other parents or support groups.
Introducing solids to toddlers with ARFID can be challenging, but with patience, persistence, and professional guidance, you can help your child develop a healthier relationship with food.
Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice
The London Speech and Feeding Practice
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December is often presented as a time of perfect, reciprocal play. Children are supposed to be unwrapping toys, sharing, and engaging in imaginative scenarios with family. But for parents of young autistic children, this high-pressure, socially demanding period can often feel like a battleground.
If you’ve been told to interrupt your child’s stimming, push for eye contact, or force them to play ‘functionally’ with toys, it’s time to take a deep breath. Those traditional approaches are not only stressful—they often miss the point of your child’s communication.
As a neurodiversity-affirming Speech and Language Therapist, I want to encourage you this December: You are allowed to follow your child’s lead, validate his or her unique interests, and trust that his or her play and movement are profoundly meaningful.
1. Stimming: not a distraction, but a regulator 💡
Stimming is short for self-stimulatory behaviour and includes repetitive movements or sounds like hand flapping, humming, rocking, finger flicking, or repeating phrases (called echolalia).
For years, parents were incorrectly advised to block or eliminate these behaviours. The neurodiversity-affirming view tells us the exact opposite: Stimming is a vital and essential tool for your child’s self-regulation.
Think of stimming as an internal volume dial:
Too loud/overwhelmed: Your child may stim to reduce incoming sensory input (e.g., rocking to ground himself or herself in a busy room).
Too quiet/under-stimulated: Your child may stim to increase sensory input and focus (e.g., running back and forth to maintain alertness).
The shift: validate, don’t block
Instead of saying, ‘Stop flapping your hands’, try to understand the message behind the movement.
Observe: When does the stimming happen? Is it before a meltdown? When your child excited? When your child is bored?
Validate: Name the need, not just the behaviour. You might say, ‘I see your body needs to move fast right now. That helps you calm down!’
Co-regulate: If the stim is unsafe (e.g., head-banging), help your child find a safer, alternative stim that meets the same sensory need (e.g., pushing hard against a wall, squeezing a stress ball).
By validating your child’s need to regulate, you are building trust, reducing anxiety, and teaching him or her critical self-awareness.
2. Autistic play: Meaningful, even if it’s monologue
The traditional idea of ‘good play’ often involves turn-taking, pretending, and specific toy functions (e.g., pushing a train around a track). When an autistic child spends 30 minutes lining up cars, spinning their wheels, or scripting whole scenes from a favourite movie, it can often be dismissed as non-functional or repetitive.
In neurodiversity-affirming practice, we recognise that autistic play is authentic play. These activities are crucial for learning, deep focus, and imaginative development.
Lining up toys may be an exploration of patterns, visual organisation, and order.
Spinning wheels may be a deep interest in cause-and-effect and visual sensory input.
Scripting is often a way to process language, regulate emotions, and practise complex social situations in a safe, controlled way.
Make a change: Join your child’s world, don’t drag them to yours.
Stop trying to force the ‘right’ way to play. Instead, try these neuro-affirming strategies:
Be a co-regulator, not a director: If your child is lining up cars, sit down next to him or her. Instead of moving a car, try handing him or her another car to line up. Focus on the shared interest rather than forcing interaction.
Narrate (don’t question): Avoid constantly asking, ‘What are you doing?’ or ‘What does this car say?’ This puts pressure on your child to perform. Instead, narrate your observations using his or her interest: ‘I see you made a long, straight line of red cars. Look at all the wheels spinning!’
Validate the interest: Show genuine appreciation for your child’s focus. ‘Wow, you know so much about how magnets stick together! That’s incredible.’
3. The communication revolution: Honouring gestalt language processing
Many young autistic children communicate in ways that don’t fit the traditional model of building language word-by-word. Many use Gestalt Language Processing (GLP).
A gestalt language processor learns language in chunks or scripts (e.g., ‘what’s-in-there?’ or ‘ready-go!’). These chunks (or gestalts) are not random; they are often tied to an emotional memory or meaning. Over time, the child breaks down these big chunks into individual words then learns to recombine those words creatively.
If your child repeats movie phrases or whole sentences that seem unrelated, he or she is likely a gestalt language processor!
Affirm the script, then model something useful.
Affirm the script: When your child says a script, respond to the meaning or emotion behind it, not the literal words. If he or she says, ‘We’re going to need a bigger boat’, and he or she is looking at a messy toy pile, he or she may be trying to express overwhelm or a need for help. You can affirm: ‘That pile is too big! I can help you move it.’
Model new ‘mix and match’ scripts: To help your child move from whole scripts to single words, you can model shorter, slightly changed versions of the script, also called ‘mitigated gestalts’. If they say, ‘I want to go home now’, you might model, ‘Let’s go home, now’ or ‘I wanna go home’.
By honouring your child’s communication style, you validate his or her experience and naturally support his or her path to language development—a core part of neurodiversity-affirming SLT.
Your December gift to your little one:
This December, stop trying to make your child fit into a neurotypical box. Instead, make your home a safe space where he or she can be his or her authentic selves.
Prioritise regulation and connection over compliance.
Trust that when your child is regulated, his or her communication, learning, and engagement will flourish naturally. This is the true gift of neurodiversity-affirming practice.
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Have you ever been told that if your child’s lisp or /R/ sound isn’t improving after months of speech therapy, you should see a myofunctional therapist?
The short answer is: possibly, but not automatically. Whether it will help depends on what is behind your child’s difficulty, and finding that out is exactly what a thorough assessment is for.
I’m a Speech and Language Therapist with nearly 30 years’ experience in speech sound disorders, feeding and swallowing, and I have additional training in myofunctional therapy. Looking at how the mouth works has been an intrinsic part of my assessments for many years, so I’d like to explain what that involves and when it matters.
What is myofunctional therapy?
Myofunctional therapy (often called orofacial myofunctional therapy, or OMT) is about how the muscles of the mouth and face work. It overlaps with what speech and feeding therapists call oro-motor function, although OMT looks more specifically at things like resting posture, breathing and swallowing patterns. Depending on the therapist’s training and your child’s needs, it may include:
tongue movement, resting posture and positioning
lip closure and resting posture
jaw movement and coordination
oral habits, such as thumb sucking or dummy use
swallowing patterns
how oral function, feeding and speech affect one another.
Some children have difficulties across several of these areas. Others have one specific speech sound difficulty and no wider problem with how their mouth works.
Signs it may be worth having your child’s oral function checked
You might want an assessment if your child:
has a lisp or a tricky /R/ that hasn’t changed with therapy
often has their mouth hanging open at rest
pushes their tongue forward against or between their teeth when speaking or swallowing (sometimes called tongue thrust)
is still dribbling or drooling after 18 months
finds chewing difficult, or struggles to move their tongue up, out or from side to side
breathes mostly through their mouth.
If you are worried about tongue-tie, I can assess how your child’s tongue moves for speech and feeding. If a medical or dental opinion is needed, I will explain why, advise you on who to see and work alongside them, for example an ENT consultant or paediatric dentist.
What does a comprehensive assessment look at?
When a child has a speech sound difficulty, I look at their speech alongside how their mouth is built and how it works. Depending on the concern, that may include:
jaw: how steady it is, and how well it moves and coordinates with the lips and tongue
teeth and mouth structure: the position of the teeth, the bite, the palate and anything structural that may be relevant
lips: closure, movement and resting posture
tongue: how well it moves in different directions, where it rests and whether it pushes forward
swallowing: relevant aspects of how your child swallows and where the tongue sits
palate and voice: anything that may need further investigation, such as concerns about how the palate is working or an unusually nasal sound
habits and breathing: things like thumb sucking or mouth breathing, and any signs that a medical or dental check may be needed.
Not every child needs every part of this. The questions we are trying to answer guide what I look at and what happens next.
For example, a child with a lisp may find it hard to coordinate the tongue placement needed for an /S/ sound. They may rest their tongue low in the mouth, or they may have spent years making the /S/ sound with the tongue between the teeth. By looking at how the mouth moves, along with habits and history such as thumb sucking, I can understand what may be contributing and plan therapy accordingly.
The findings help decide whether your child needs direct speech therapy, further assessment, a different approach, or input from another professional such as an ENT consultant, dentist or orthodontist. Assessment isn’t simply about spotting something that looks unusual. It is about understanding what it means for your child and deciding what, if anything, needs to be done. This kind of clinical reasoning is a natural, daily part of my work as a Speech and Language Therapist.
What if my child isn’t making progress in speech therapy?
If your child has been attending therapy for weeks or months without meaningful progress, it is reasonable to ask for a review. In my practice I monitor progress from one session to the next, and if things aren’t moving, I would rather review the plan than simply carry on with the same approach.
Sometimes a child needs more time. Sometimes the approach needs to change. Sometimes we need more information or another professional’s input. Sometimes therapy needs to pause while an underlying issue is looked into.
Whichever it is, you can expect a clear explanation of what we are working towards and how progress will be reviewed. A lack of progress should always prompt a review of the plan.
Does myofunctional therapy help with speech difficulties?
Sometimes. Some children have speech sound difficulties alongside differences in how their mouth works, which is why I assess both and consider whether they are related. A different tongue posture, an open-mouth resting posture or an unusual swallowing pattern is always worth noting, but it is not automatically the cause of a lisp or another speech sound disorder.
For speech sound disorders, treatment should be chosen to match the nature of the speech difficulty and be supported by evidence. The routine use of non-speech oral-motor exercises, meaning exercises that don’t involve practising speech sounds, to improve speech is not supported by the available evidence (the Cochrane review of non-speech oral-motor treatment – Lee & Gibbon, 2015).
That doesn’t mean work on oral function is never appropriate. The important question is what we are trying to achieve. If the aim is clearer speech, therapy needs to work on the speech itself, with plenty of practice of the relevant sounds, syllables and words. If your child also has a separate difficulty with feeding, swallowing or another aspect of oral function, such as resting posture, that may need its own assessment and targeted therapy. This is why I combine evidence-based speech practice with myofunctional assessment and therapy where a child’s oral function needs it, and I will always explain the aim and the reasoning behind what I recommend.
Choosing the right therapist for your child
Whoever you choose, I would encourage you to ask who will be treating your child, what their training covers and whether they are well placed to meet your child’s particular needs. Good clinical practice includes recognising the limits of your own expertise and referring on or working with others when appropriate. No practitioner should feel they have to manage every part of a child’s difficulties alone.
When the main concern is your child’s speech sounds, speech clarity or expressive language, I would recommend starting with an experienced Speech and Language Therapist whose expertise matches your child’s needs. If that therapist also has additional training in myofunctional therapy, so much the better. You can check that any Speech and Language Therapist is registered using the HCPC online register, and it is always fine to ask about a practitioner’s original qualification, clinical experience and the scope of their training.
So that you know who would be working with your child, here is a little about my own training: I am an HCPC-registered Speech and Language Therapist (BSc Clinical Communication Sciences, Royal Central School of Speech and Drama, 1996) with nearly 30 years’ experience, a postgraduate diploma in dysphagia (2000) and certification in the SOS Approach to Feeding (2018) and Orofacial Myofunctional Disorders training in 2026. I also completed IBCLC lactation consultant certification in 2019 (since lapsed, 2024) and worked as a neonatal Speech and Language Therapist and Lactation Consultant at Barnet Hospital in 2019–2020.
Next steps
If your child has a lisp, a tricky /R/, an open-mouth resting posture, a tongue thrust, dribbling or difficulty chewing, I would be happy to look at the whole picture. I assess speech and oral function together, and if your child needs a dentist, orthodontist or ENT consultant, I will tell you.
You can find out more on my Speech and Feeding Difficulties page, or get in touch to arrange an assessment. If you’re not sure whether your child needs one, contact me and we can talk it through.
Sonja McGeachie
Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist
Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.
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Reference
Lee AS-Y, Gibbon FE. Non-speech oral motor treatment for children with developmental speech sound disorders. Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews 2015, Issue 3. Art. No.: CD009383. DOI: 10.1002/14651858.CD009383.pub2.
Before reading this blog, it’s important to understand what we mean by ‘social communication’ and ‘imitation’. Social communication is more complex than it first appears. It refers to many aspects of communication such as body language, voice, conversational skills, social ‘rules’ (such as being polite and using manners), interpersonal skills (such as developing friendships), and emotional literacy (such as appropriacy and developing self-awareness). Imitation refers to the simple act of copying.
You may have noticed that your child has difficulties in some of the areas mentioned above. They might be less responsive to you and appear to be quite happy in their own world. Whilst we do not want to change their unique characteristics, we do need to prepare them for future experiences, and what is socially acceptable.
How will copying my child develop their social communication?
If your child is already engaged with a certain activity, they are already interested and motivated. You’re not competing for their attention.
Both yours and your child’s attention is on the same activity which makes imitating for you (as the parent) easier.
Studies have demonstrated that when a parent imitates a child, they are more likely to look at the adult.
Imitation not only supports eye contact but supports facial expressions (such as smiling), may increase vocalisations, and encourages your child to sit closer to you.
Children learn through trial and error. They may start to try to perform new actions to gain their parents attention. Let your child lead the play!!
How do I start imitating my child?
Start with observing them. Take the time just to watch. You don’t need to make notes. Sit back and observe their actions, movements, and sounds they make.
Wait for your child’s reaction when they realise you are copying their actions. Remember they may not notice, you don’t need to remind them, simply copy them again.
Having the same set up as your child allows them to feel in control. So, you may have two sets of the same activity rather than copying using their set of toys.
This may sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Start with a ten-minute time frame where you choose to copy your child. This is where you can practise your imitation strategy. Ten minutes a day is far more effective than an hour every two weeks. You may feel self-conscious but trust the process. Build your confidence, whilst exposing your child’s to increased language and communication, enabling them to develop vital social communication skills.
Look at the video above to watch the strategy in action!
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