Tongue-Tie: A complex issue requiring careful assessment

Tongue-tie, or ankyloglossia, is a condition where the lingual frenulum, the thin piece of tissue that connects the underside of the tongue to the floor of the mouth, is too short or tight. Tongue-tie is quite common in babies and is often not detected after birth. Tongue-tie can lead to a difficult start with breast feeding as it makes it very difficult for the baby to latch effectively.

In my clinical experience as a feeding therapist, I have seen many babies who were not able to latch well due to the frenulum being tight. In many cases an experienced feeding speech therapist/lactation consultant can really make a difference and help a new mum to latch the baby even though the tongue is tethered to the floor of the baby’s mouth. In some cases the frenulum can be divided and once this has been done, in some cases, feeding improves immediately or soon after the division. But this is not always the case. I have seen several babies who have had as many as four tongue-tie divisions and feeding was still difficult.

It is important to say that while tongue-tie can sometimes impact speech and feeding, it’s important to note that it’s not always the root cause of these difficulties. In recent years, there has been a surge of interest in tongue-tie division surgeries, with some cases being unnecessary. It’s crucial to understand the complexities of tongue-tie and the role of speech therapy in addressing related challenges.

The impact of tongue-tie on speech and feeding

When tongue-tie is severe, it can interfere with the tongue’s ability to move freely, affecting speech production and swallowing. Some common speech and feeding difficulties associated with tongue-tie include:

  • Feeding difficulties: Challenges with sucking, chewing, and swallowing.
  • Drooling: Excessive drooling due to difficulty controlling saliva.
  • Speech problems: Difficulty producing certain sounds, such as /l/, /r/, /t/, /s/ and /d/.

The importance of comprehensive assessment

Before considering any surgical intervention for tongue-tie, it’s essential to undergo a thorough evaluation by a qualified speech-language therapist (SLT). An SLT can assess the severity of the tongue-tie, its impact on speech and feeding, and determine if surgery is necessary.

  • Functional assessment: The SLT will assess the tongue’s range of motion, its impact on speech sounds, and the child’s overall oral motor skills.
  • Feeding evaluation: The SLT will observe the child’s feeding patterns and identify any difficulties related to tongue-tie.
  • Differential diagnosis: The SLT will rule out other potential causes of speech and feeding difficulties, such as apraxia of speech, dysarthria, or sensory processing disorders.

The role of speech therapy

Even in cases where tongue-tie is present, speech therapy can often be highly effective in addressing speech and feeding difficulties. Here’s how speech therapy can help:

  • Articulation therapy: Targeting specific speech sounds that may be affected by tongue-tie.
  • Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS): if the diagnosis by the SLT has shown that in fact the child has motor planning difficulties then there are very specific and effective treatment programmes that help with this and can make a real difference over time.
  • Feeding therapy: Strategies to improve swallowing, chewing, and oral-motor skills.
  • Sensory integration: Addressing underlying sensory processing issues that may contribute to feeding difficulties.

London Speech and Feeding Case Study: The importance of comprehensive assessment

One of my clients was initially diagnosed with tongue-tie and recommended for surgery at the age of eight years old. His speech had been perceived by parents and teachers as ‘mumbled and unclear’.

However, after a thorough evaluation, I was able to determine that the child’s primary issue was apraxia of speech, a neurological disorder that affects motor planning for speech. Parents decided to wait with surgery and trust my judgment and we proceeded with weekly intensive speech therapy to address motor planning difficulties around tricky sounds and words. I am delighted to say that the child’s speech has improved significantly, demonstrating the importance of comprehensive assessment and individualised treatment. He is no longer seen as a candidate for an operation, which would have been traumatic for him at his age and, as it turned out, entirely unnecessary.

Below is a short video clip of my working on the /l/ sound with this child.

Using the Gingo Puppet from GingoTalk

Conclusion

Tongue-tie is a complex issue that requires careful evaluation and individualised treatment. While surgery may certainly be necessary in some cases, it’s essential to consider the potential benefits and risks. Speech therapy can be a highly effective approach for addressing speech and feeding difficulties associated with tongue-tie, even in cases where surgery is still required. By working with a qualified speech-language therapist, parents can ensure that their child receives the best possible care and support.

Please feel free to contact me.

Sonja McGeachie

Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

The London Speech and Feeding Practice


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    Core boards belong to the category of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC ) and they can be really useful for:

    • Children or adults who cannot speak at all or who are very hard to understand.
    • Children who are slow to speak and have difficulty expressing themselves verbally, due to genetic conditions as Down Syndrome, Verbal dyspraxia, Autism or any other learning difficulty that means a child is slow to develop speech.

    Here is what a Core board might look like, in fact this is one that I love to use. It is made by Beautiful Speech Life, there are a ton of similar boards out there for free. I have also made my own, you can check it out on my Instagram feed.

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    What is Core Vocabulary/ Core words?

    Core vocabulary consists of the most common words used by children throughout a day. In 2003 Banajee and Dicarlo et al found that 50 % of pre-schoolers in their project used nine words consistently across their daily play and meal routines. These words are Core words and are typically the ones you can see on a board, like the one above.

    How To Use It

    Adults always first need to consistently model and show their child how to use a board. This is key! For example: Adult can point to “YOU” “WANT” ‘MORE” and then point to the cup of Water on the counter. Child could then reply either by shaking his/her head and/or pointing to “NOT” which also stands for “NO”. Then adult can point to “NOT” “MORE” and do an OK sign as well. Eventually Child can initiate a request and point to “I” “ WANT” “MORE” and then point to the cup on the counter.

    This is not as cumbersome or limited as it first sounds or appears. Here’s why: As adult you can talk normally and, of course, many words you are using will not be on this board. But some will be, and you will be surprised how many you can find when you start using it. So you could say quite normally: Hey lovely (name of your child) would YOU LIKE some MORE water? The words in capital are on the board which you can point to as you speak normally. Basically, you are showing/saying to your child: “We can speak and these are the pictures we can use to help us; We call this TOTAL COMMUNICATION, as communication is so much more than just words! Great communication can be silent, where we use our facial expression, our smile, our eyes, our hand gestures, body movements and yes, of course, words. But when words fail us, these boards are so helpful.

    This still does not answer your original question of: why would I want to do this, I want my child to talk!? You are a SPEECH Therapist, please help my child TALK, not point to pictures, that is not what I had in mind.

    Let Me Explain

    When speech is difficult for a child it doesn’t mean that there is nothing to talk about! Of course, we want all our children and all people to speak because it is the easiest and most effective way of communicating, no doubt! However, sometimes this is very hard for some children and whilst we are always working towards speech where possible, we also want to make sure that whilst figuring out how to speak, your child has a MEANS TO COMMUNICATE. Using a board like this might well be a temporary strategy but whilst you are using it and working on their speech you will find a reduction in tantrums and frustration as you child is able to express themselves more effectively.

    Often we find that as soon as we offer a CORE VOCABULARY like the above sample a child who has had no or very few words suddenly blossoms and starts to point to new words on the board and starts to PRACTICE USING THESE WORDS!! Practice makes perfect, right? Yes it totally does! There is lots of evidence that tells us that using Core Vocabulary Boards ENHANCE AND SUPPORT SPEECH PRODUCTION AND NOT HINDER IT. Using a board like this will only ever be helpful to your child and will never make your child “lazy” – too lazy to speak? NO SUCH THING!

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    K Connolly, Mother of Tom (aged 3.5 years).

    Reading and hearing this makes me so happy!

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    My experience as a speech therapist in private practice:

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    • careful listening for the specific qualities of hypernasality,
    • and a deep understanding of the physiological requirements for clear speech sound production.

    When I suspect an SMCP, I refer these children to Great Ormond Street Hospital where a fantastic multidisciplinary team, typically including ENT surgeons and a specialist speech-language therapist can conduct more definitive assessments. These assessments often involve instrumental analyses such as videofluoroscopy or nasoendoscopy, which provide objective measures of velopharyngeal function and visual confirmation of the anatomical deficit.

    The path to resolution: surgery, therapy, and successful outcomes

    Surgery

    The journey for these children, once diagnosed, often involves surgical intervention. It’s not uncommon for children with SMCP to undergo multiple operations to achieve optimal velopharyngeal closure. These procedures aim to reconstruct or augment the velopharyngeal mechanism, enabling it to effectively separate the oral and nasal cavities during speech. The specific surgical approach depends on the individual child’s anatomy and the severity of the velopharyngeal insufficiency. It’s a testament to the skill of these specialised surgeons that such intricate repairs can be performed with remarkable success.

    Speech therapy

    Following surgery these children embark on the crucial phase of speech therapy. While surgery addresses the structural problem, speech therapy helps a child learn to utilise their newly improved anatomy. It involves intensive work on developing oral airflow, establishing correct articulatory placement, and reducing learned compensatory strategies that have developed due to the original structural deficit. It is immensely gratifying to witness the transformation. Children who once struggled to produce basic sounds, whose speech was difficult to understand, gradually develop clear speech.

    Next steps?

    If you’re a parent concerned about your child’s speech and feeding, you’re not alone. The journey can feel confusing, but professional guidance can make all the difference. Never hesitate to have a second opinion when you have that niggling feeling that there is something that has not yet been explored. At London Speech and Feeding I specialise in being thorough and thinking outside the box.

    I am here to provide the support you need. Reach out to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards helping your child communicate and thrive.

    Sonja McGeachie

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    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
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    My child is hard to understand at school age. Should I be concerned?

    Many parents notice speech errors when their children are toddlers. At that stage it often feels quite normal. Young children are still learning the sounds of their language, and those early mispronunciations can be very endearing.

    But as children grow older, parents sometimes begin to wonder:

    ‘Should my child still be speaking like this?’

    A common concern I hear from families is that their child is still difficult to understand even after starting school. Sometimes it is a parent who notices it first. Other times it is a teacher who gently mentions that classmates occasionally struggle to understand what a child is saying.

    When this happens, parents naturally wonder whether it is something their child will grow out of, or whether some extra support might help.

    When should children’s speech be clear?

    Children learn speech sounds gradually over several years. Some sounds develop earlier, while others take longer to master.

    By the time children reach five to six years of age, most of their speech should be clear enough for unfamiliar adults to understand. There may still be a few tricky sounds developing (such as /R/ or /TH/), but overall speech should be fairly easy to follow.

    If a child is frequently difficult to understand at school age, it can sometimes indicate that a speech sound difficulty has persisted beyond the stage when it would normally resolve on its own.

    Why some children remain hard to understand

    There are several reasons why speech clarity may still be developing in older children.

    Phonological patterns

    Some children continue to use speech patterns that are typical of younger children. For example:

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    • saying ‘doe’ instead of ‘go’
    • leaving sounds out of words

    These patterns are called phonological processes. They are a normal part of early speech development, but when they persist into the school years they can make speech difficult for others to understand.

    Difficulty producing specific sounds

    Other children may have difficulty producing certain individual sounds clearly. This might include sounds such as:

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    These difficulties are called articulation difficulties.

    A child might understand exactly what they want to say but find it hard to produce the sound accurately with their tongue, lips or airflow.

    Motor speech planning challenges

    For some children, the difficulty lies in the planning and coordination of the movements needed for speech.

    Speech requires very precise timing between the tongue, lips, jaw and breath. If the brain finds it difficult to organise these movements consistently, speech can sound unclear or inconsistent.

    In some cases this may relate to Childhood Apraxia of Speech, although only a full assessment can determine this.

    Why clarity matters for school-age children

    Speech clarity becomes particularly important once children start school.

    At this stage, children are:

    • Answering questions in class
    • Talking with friends
    • Reading aloud
    • Developing confidence in communication

    When speech is difficult to understand, children sometimes become more hesitant to speak, particularly in group situations.

    This can affect confidence and participation, even when the child has lots of ideas they would like to share.

    The good news: speech can improve

    The encouraging news is that speech sound difficulties can often improve significantly with the right support.

    Speech therapy focuses on helping children:

    • Learn how sounds are produced
    • Practise accurate speech movements
    • Understand how sounds change meaning in words
    • Build consistency through structured practice

    Different children benefit from different therapy approaches. Some need support with phonological patterns, while others benefit from more motor-based practice that strengthens speech coordination.

    Often therapy combines several strategies to support the child’s individual speech profile.

    When to seek advice

    If your child is already at school and you find that people outside the family often struggle to understand them, it can be helpful to seek advice from a speech and language therapist.

    A detailed assessment can help identify:

    • Which sounds are causing difficulty
    • Whether patterns such as fronting or sound substitutions are present
    • Whether motor planning challenges may be contributing
    • Which therapy approach is likely to be most effective

    Early support can help children develop clearer speech and greater confidence in communication.

    Every child’s speech journey is different

    Speech development is not the same for every child. Some children master speech sounds quickly, while others need a little more guidance along the way.

    The important thing is that support is available when children need it.

    With the right strategies and practice, many children make excellent progress and develop speech that is clearer, more confident and easier for others to understand. If you are concerned about your child’s speech clarity or ongoing speech sound errors, a speech and language assessment can help identify the underlying difficulty and guide the most appropriate support.

    Feel free to contact me on my contact page.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    The role of spinning and swinging in speech and language therapy

    Sonja with a child on a swinging with a stuffed monkey

    Spinning and swinging are often observed behaviours in autistic children. While these actions might seem repetitive or unusual to some, they serve crucial functions for these children. Understanding the underlying reasons for spinning and swinging can provide valuable insights into how to support autistic children and incorporate these activities into therapeutic settings.

    Why do children spin?

    Spinning is a common sensory-seeking activity in autistic children. Sensory seeking means that the child actively looks for sensory input to regulate their nervous system. Here’s why spinning can be beneficial:

    • Vestibular input: Spinning stimulates the vestibular system, which is located in the inner ear and is responsible for balance and spatial orientation. For children with sensory processing difficulties, spinning can provide essential sensory input.
    • Calming effect: For some children, spinning can be a self-regulating strategy. The rhythmic motion can help to calm the nervous system and reduce anxiety.
    • Sensory exploration: Spinning allows children to explore their sensory experiences. It can help them understand their bodies and how they move in space.

    The allure of swinging

    The rhythmic back-and-forth motion of a swing offers several benefits:

    • Vestibular input: Like spinning, swinging stimulates the vestibular system, helping to improve balance and coordination.
    • Proprioceptive input: Swinging provides proprioceptive input, which is the sense of where your body is in space. This information is crucial for motor planning and coordination.
    • Calming and organising: The rhythmic motion of swinging can have a calming effect on the nervous system, helping to regulate emotions and improve focus.
    • Social interaction: Swinging can be a shared experience, fostering social interaction and communication.
    • Facilitating communication: While swinging, children are so much more relaxed and open to communication. The rhythmic motion can also help facilitate singing, humming, listening to my singing, non-verbal communication for sure but also more verbal and mouth words can be heard from children on my swing. If nothing else, it is so fun and helps build trust and rapport between my child and me.

    Therapeutic Activities Combining Spinning, Swinging, and Speech and Language Therapy

    Here are some therapeutic techniques that I use at London Speech and Feeding to combine movement with speech and language development:

    • Swinging with verbal prompts: While the child is swinging, I provide simple verbal prompts such as ‘up’, ‘down’, ‘fast’, and ‘slow.’ This helps to develop receptive language skills and improve auditory processing.
    • Sensory-motor play: I like to combine swinging with tactile activities like playing with textured balls or bean bags. This can facilitate language development through descriptive language, words and scripts like: ‘that’s so soft’, ‘oooh tickle tickle tickle!’
    • Storytelling on the swing: Often I manage to create a story while the child is swinging. This can improve narrative skills, vocabulary, and imagination. Recently I did the ‘Tiger who came to tea’ story and each time the swing stopped the tiger came and ‘ate some more cakes’ and ‘tickled their tummy’ whilst eating. It may make not much sense but my child loved it and we had ‘more tiger eat more’.
    • Song and rhyme time: Often I sing the ‘rumble in the jungle’ song while swinging my child to enhance phonological awareness, rhythm, and timing.
    • Visual supports always help: I use LAMP Words for Life AAC support during swinging and show core words such as: ‘go’ / ‘stop’/ ‘more’ / ‘tickle tickle’ etc. #lampwordsforlife #aac
    • Movement-based activities: We can incorporate activities that require sequencing, such as imitating animal movements or following simple commands while swinging. This can improve motor planning and language comprehension.

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    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice


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    Managing mealtime sensory overload at holiday gatherings: Supporting children with allergies and feeding differences

    Managing mealtime sensory overload at holiday gatherings: Supporting children with allergies and feeding differences

    Holiday meals are meant to be joyful and something we all look forward to. But for many children and their families, these occasions can be overwhelming and be the cause of dread and worry. The combination of new smells, unfamiliar foods, loud environments, social expectations, and allergy anxieties can quickly turn what should be a festive time into a stressful one.

    For parents of children with sensory processing differences, selective eating challenges, or food allergies, holiday gatherings often require careful planning and a big dose of tolerance and compassion. The good news is that with awareness and a few gentle strategies, you can support your child to feel safe, regulated, and included during festive meals without pressure, tears, or discomfort.

    Let’s explore how to make holiday mealtimes calmer, safer, and more connected this season.

    🎄 Why holiday meals feel so overwhelming

    Holiday gatherings usually combine several sensory triggers all at once:

    • Noisy, chaotic rooms
    • Strong smells from a mix of foods we don’t normally cook
    • Multiple conversations happening at once
    • Bright lights, Christmas décor, flickering candles
    • Unfamiliar foods with unexpected textures
    • Expectations to ‘try everything’ or ‘enjoy it’s sooo good!’
    • New environments, seating arrangements, or routines

    For children with sensory sensitivities, this can feel like a tidal wave of input. Research shows that children who are sensory-sensitive often have heightened responses to smell, taste, and texture, which may lead to avoidance or distress at mealtimes (Cermak, Curtin, & Bandini, 2010).

    Add food allergies into the picture and anxiety increases even further for both children and parents. A 2020 study by DunnGalvin et al. found that children with food allergies experience significantly higher stress in shared eating environments, especially when food preparation or contamination risk is hard to control.

    So, if your child becomes tearful, shuts down, or refuses to sit at the festive table, it isn’t ‘bad behaviour.’ It’s sensory overload, heightened vigilance, or discomfort communicating through their body.

    🌟 Preparing your child for a calmer festive meal

    Preparation is especially important for sensory-sensitive or allergy-aware children. Here’s how to set them up for success:

    1. Offer predictability through previewing

    Before the event, show your child pictures of:

    • where you’re going
    • who will be there
    • the types of foods that might be served
    • where they might sit

    A visual schedule or social story can help reduce anxiety and give your child a sense of control.

    2. Pack safe foods without apology

    If your child has allergies or selective eating, bring:

    • ‘Safe foods’ you know they will eat
    • Backup snacks
    • A separate (their own) plate, if needed
    • Emergency medication

    Announce clear, firm boundaries such as:

    ‘Ok people, these are Jamie’s safe foods — we’ll stick with these today.’ This will help relatives understand without pressure or judgement.

    3. Choose seating that supports sensory regulation

    If possible, seat your child:

    • at the end of the table
    • near a familiar adult
    • away from the kitchen (strong smells)
    • away from noise clusters
    • give them their favourite toy or fidget whilst waiting

    Let them take breaks when needed. This isn’t ‘rude,’ it’s self-regulation.

    🍽️ Supporting children during the meal

    1. Focus on connection, not consumption

    The holidays are not the time to expand your child’s food range. Keeping mealtimes low-pressure actually supports long-term progress.

    In fact, the research is clear: pressuring children to eat decreases acceptance and increases refusal (Galloway et al., 2006).

    So instead of ‘Just try it!’ try:

    • ‘You don’t have to eat it, you can look at it.’
    • ‘You’re in charge of what goes in your mouth.’
    • ‘You can keep your safe foods on your plate.’

    2. Protect your child’s allergy safety

    Holiday meals often include:

    • cross-contamination risks
    • shared utensils
    • buffets
    • homemade dishes without ingredient lists

    Use gentle but firm scripts:

    • ‘Because of Ellie’s allergies, we’ll keep her plate separate.’
    • ‘We’ll serve her food ourselves to make sure she stays safe.’

    Confidence in your boundary helps others respect it.

    3. Manage sensory load in real time

    Offer:

    • headphones
    • a small chew or fidget toy
    • a designated ‘calm corner’
    • time outside for fresh air
    • a predictable signal for breaks (e.g., a hand squeeze or card)

    Remember, sensory regulation is healthcare, not ‘giving in.’

    4. Model calm eating

    Children learn most from watching.

    Slow, happy bites and relaxed facial expressions tell the nervous system: ‘This environment is safe’.

    💛 What to say to well-meaning relatives

    Families often have big feelings about food. You can prepare nice phrases like:

    • ‘We’re focusing on helping him feel safe around food today.’
    • ‘She has allergies, so we’re sticking to our plan.’
    • ‘We’re avoiding pressure because it helps him eat better long term.’
    • ‘We’re celebrating together, eating is not the goal today.’

    Setting expectations ahead of time can reduce awkward moments later.

    🎁 The bigger picture: It’s about safety, not ‘picky eating’

    Children with allergies, sensory differences, or feeding challenges aren’t trying to be difficult. They are trying to stay safe, regulated, and comfortable.

    Your calm presence, gentle boundaries, and preparation create the conditions for a holiday that feels peaceful, not pressured.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

    📚Research References

    Cermak, S. A., Curtin, C., & Bandini, L. G. (2010). Food selectivity and sensory sensitivity in children with autism spectrum disorders. Journal of the American Dietetic Association, 110(2), 238–246.

    DunnGalvin, A. et al. (2020). APPEAL-2: A pan-European qualitative study to explore the burden of peanut-allergic children, teenagers and their caregivers. Clinical & Experimental Allergy, 50(11), 1238–1248.

    Galloway, A. T., Fiorito, L. M., Francis, L. A., & Birch, L. L. (2006). ‘Finish your soup!’ Counterproductive effects of pressuring children to eat on intake and affect. Appetite, 46(3), 318–323.

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  • A Day In The Life Of An Independent Speech And Language Therapist

    A Day In The Life Of An Independent Speech And Language Therapist

    A Day In The Life Of An Independent Speech And Language Therapist

    I often get asked how many clients/children I see per working day or what my working day/life looks like. I always reply that every day is different, which is true, but there is a sort of average working day which looks a bit like this:

    I usually start preparing for my first client of the day at around 9.30 am: I clean the room, wipe down all the toys and materials (that’s if they are coming to my clinic room) and then it takes me about 30 minutes to select and sometimes make suitable materials, games and activities for the child’s therapy programme. Client arrives at 10.30 am and the fun begins. They leave around 11.30am, and the cleaning and wiping down starts again – yes it’s the pandemic but to be fair I would do this anyway. I quickly write up my notes and send home work to the client via email. Now it’s 12 noon and I start preparing for the next client at 12.30 pm. This might be online parent-child interaction coaching and so I need different materials and activities that are suitable for teletherapy. We finish around 1.30 pm and I will write up my notes before having some lunch.

    Lunch tends to not be around 30 minutes. Around 2.00 pm I start prepping again for the next client: selecting activities, going over their last session, making sure I have everything I need to start at 2.45pm – we finish at 3.45pm, I write up my notes and then have a cuppa. The next client might be more on-line coaching or a child coming to see me: room cleaned and tidy, materials and activities prepared: client arrives at 4.30 pm and we finish at 5.30 pm. I clean the toys again, write up my notes and it is 6.00 pm ready for dinner. So that was four clients between 9 am and 6pm allowing for preparation, aftercare, cleaning and coffee and lunch.

    Other days I might see three clients and do more admin like ordering toys or books or teletherapy activities, or making materials (we therapist make tons of materials, we’d put Blue Peter to shame!) Sometimes I do two home visits, one in the morning and one in the afternoon – the travelling/parking in London is so time consuming that it really reduces the number of clients I can see which is why I don’t do many of those.

    I hand pick my clients to make sure that we are a good fit, and my service is bespoke: no one client gets the same treatment as another; each client is unique, usually very well-known and always highly valued. That takes time and means that in reality each client gets about 2 hours of my time, that is the actual session plus all the preparation and aftercare.

    I love this way of working and would not ever want to return to seeing tons of clients each day, not knowing any of them really well, due to high caseload numbers, staff shortages and an overload of administration.

    My way of working affords all my lovely clients the help they need to be able to feel empowered and to then support their children to make progress; when working with children they make the best progress they can make, fulfilling their potential. My lovely reviews and testimonials tell me that my clients appreciate the extra attention.


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