Managing mealtime sensory overload at holiday gatherings: Supporting children with allergies and feeding differences

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Managing mealtime sensory overload at holiday gatherings: Supporting children with allergies and feeding differences

Holiday meals are meant to be joyful and something we all look forward to. But for many children and their families, these occasions can be overwhelming and be the cause of dread and worry. The combination of new smells, unfamiliar foods, loud environments, social expectations, and allergy anxieties can quickly turn what should be a festive time into a stressful one.

For parents of children with sensory processing differences, selective eating challenges, or food allergies, holiday gatherings often require careful planning and a big dose of tolerance and compassion. The good news is that with awareness and a few gentle strategies, you can support your child to feel safe, regulated, and included during festive meals without pressure, tears, or discomfort.

Let’s explore how to make holiday mealtimes calmer, safer, and more connected this season.

🎄 Why holiday meals feel so overwhelming

Holiday gatherings usually combine several sensory triggers all at once:

  • Noisy, chaotic rooms
  • Strong smells from a mix of foods we don’t normally cook
  • Multiple conversations happening at once
  • Bright lights, Christmas décor, flickering candles
  • Unfamiliar foods with unexpected textures
  • Expectations to ‘try everything’ or ‘enjoy it’s sooo good!’
  • New environments, seating arrangements, or routines

For children with sensory sensitivities, this can feel like a tidal wave of input. Research shows that children who are sensory-sensitive often have heightened responses to smell, taste, and texture, which may lead to avoidance or distress at mealtimes (Cermak, Curtin, & Bandini, 2010).

Add food allergies into the picture and anxiety increases even further for both children and parents. A 2020 study by DunnGalvin et al. found that children with food allergies experience significantly higher stress in shared eating environments, especially when food preparation or contamination risk is hard to control.

So, if your child becomes tearful, shuts down, or refuses to sit at the festive table, it isn’t ‘bad behaviour.’ It’s sensory overload, heightened vigilance, or discomfort communicating through their body.

🌟 Preparing your child for a calmer festive meal

Preparation is especially important for sensory-sensitive or allergy-aware children. Here’s how to set them up for success:

1. Offer predictability through previewing

Before the event, show your child pictures of:

  • where you’re going
  • who will be there
  • the types of foods that might be served
  • where they might sit

A visual schedule or social story can help reduce anxiety and give your child a sense of control.

2. Pack safe foods without apology

If your child has allergies or selective eating, bring:

  • ‘Safe foods’ you know they will eat
  • Backup snacks
  • A separate (their own) plate, if needed
  • Emergency medication

Announce clear, firm boundaries such as:

‘Ok people, these are Jamie’s safe foods — we’ll stick with these today.’ This will help relatives understand without pressure or judgement.

3. Choose seating that supports sensory regulation

If possible, seat your child:

  • at the end of the table
  • near a familiar adult
  • away from the kitchen (strong smells)
  • away from noise clusters
  • give them their favourite toy or fidget whilst waiting

Let them take breaks when needed. This isn’t ‘rude,’ it’s self-regulation.

🍽️ Supporting children during the meal

1. Focus on connection, not consumption

The holidays are not the time to expand your child’s food range. Keeping mealtimes low-pressure actually supports long-term progress.

In fact, the research is clear: pressuring children to eat decreases acceptance and increases refusal (Galloway et al., 2006).

So instead of ‘Just try it!’ try:

  • ‘You don’t have to eat it, you can look at it.’
  • ‘You’re in charge of what goes in your mouth.’
  • ‘You can keep your safe foods on your plate.’

2. Protect your child’s allergy safety

Holiday meals often include:

  • cross-contamination risks
  • shared utensils
  • buffets
  • homemade dishes without ingredient lists

Use gentle but firm scripts:

  • ‘Because of Ellie’s allergies, we’ll keep her plate separate.’
  • ‘We’ll serve her food ourselves to make sure she stays safe.’

Confidence in your boundary helps others respect it.

3. Manage sensory load in real time

Offer:

  • headphones
  • a small chew or fidget toy
  • a designated ‘calm corner’
  • time outside for fresh air
  • a predictable signal for breaks (e.g., a hand squeeze or card)

Remember, sensory regulation is healthcare, not ‘giving in.’

4. Model calm eating

Children learn most from watching.

Slow, happy bites and relaxed facial expressions tell the nervous system: ‘This environment is safe’.

💛 What to say to well-meaning relatives

Families often have big feelings about food. You can prepare nice phrases like:

  • ‘We’re focusing on helping him feel safe around food today.’
  • ‘She has allergies, so we’re sticking to our plan.’
  • ‘We’re avoiding pressure because it helps him eat better long term.’
  • ‘We’re celebrating together, eating is not the goal today.’

Setting expectations ahead of time can reduce awkward moments later.

🎁 The bigger picture: It’s about safety, not ‘picky eating’

Children with allergies, sensory differences, or feeding challenges aren’t trying to be difficult. They are trying to stay safe, regulated, and comfortable.

Your calm presence, gentle boundaries, and preparation create the conditions for a holiday that feels peaceful, not pressured.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

📚Research References

Cermak, S. A., Curtin, C., & Bandini, L. G. (2010). Food selectivity and sensory sensitivity in children with autism spectrum disorders. Journal of the American Dietetic Association, 110(2), 238–246.

DunnGalvin, A. et al. (2020). APPEAL-2: A pan-European qualitative study to explore the burden of peanut-allergic children, teenagers and their caregivers. Clinical & Experimental Allergy, 50(11), 1238–1248.

Galloway, A. T., Fiorito, L. M., Francis, L. A., & Birch, L. L. (2006). ‘Finish your soup!’ Counterproductive effects of pressuring children to eat on intake and affect. Appetite, 46(3), 318–323.

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    Have you ever stopped to think about how we learn to speak, understand, and communicate effectively? It’s a complex dance of various cognitive skills, and one often overlooked but absolutely crucial player in this orchestra is auditory memory. It’s not just about remembering sounds. It’s about remembering sequences of sounds, which is fundamental to language development.

    What exactly is auditory memory?

    At its core, auditory memory is our ability to take in, process, store, and recall information that we hear. Think of it as your brain’s internal recording studio. When someone speaks to you, your auditory memory is busy at work, capturing the individual sounds, the order in which they appear, and the rhythm and intonation of the words. This isn’t just for long-term recall; it’s also vital for working auditory memory, which allows us to hold onto a small amount of auditory information for a short period, just long enough to make sense of it.

    For speech and language, auditory memory is essential for:

    • Understanding spoken language: To comprehend a sentence, we need to remember the beginning of the sentence by the time we hear the end.
    • Following instructions: Remembering a sequence of commands relies heavily on auditory memory.
    • Learning new words: We hear a word, remember its sound, and connect it to its meaning.
    • Developing phonological awareness: This is the ability to recognise and manipulate the sounds in spoken language, a critical precursor to reading. Auditory memory helps children distinguish between similar-sounding words (e.g., ‘cat’ vs. ‘bat’) and segment words into individual sounds.
    • Producing clear speech: To articulate words correctly, we need to recall the precise sequence of sounds that make up that word.
    • Developing conversational skills: Remembering what was just said helps us formulate appropriate responses.

    When auditory memory falls short: The impact on speech

    When auditory memory is poor, particularly in young children, the ripple effects on speech and language development can be significant. Children might struggle with:

    • Following multi-step directions: ‘Put on your shoes, get your coat, and meet me at the door’ can become an overwhelming jumble of sounds.
    • Learning new vocabulary: They might hear a new word repeatedly but struggle to retain its sound pattern, making it difficult to recognise or use later.
    • Understanding stories or conversations: Missing key details or losing the thread of a narrative because they can’t hold enough information in their working memory.
    • Developing phonological skills: Difficulty with rhyming, identifying initial sounds in words, or blending sounds together to form words, which can impact early literacy.
    • Speech production: They might mispronounce words, omit sounds, or struggle with the correct sequencing of sounds within words.
    • Social communication: Difficulty participating in group discussions, remembering names, or recalling what their peers have said.
    • Academic performance: Auditory memory challenges can impact a child’s ability to learn in a classroom setting, where much of the instruction is delivered verbally.

    It’s important to note that poor auditory memory isn’t a sign of low intelligence, but rather a specific processing challenge that can be addressed with targeted support.

    Nurturing auditory memory in under 5s: Preparing for schooling

    The good news is that auditory memory is a skill that can be strengthened and developed, especially during the crucial early years. For children under five, laying a strong foundation in auditory memory is an invaluable gift as they prepare for the demands of formal schooling. Here’s what we can do to help:

    1. Read aloud regularly: This is perhaps one of the most powerful tools. As you read, encourage your child to listen for specific words, predict what happens next, and retell parts of the story. Vary your voice, use different intonations, and pause to emphasise key words.
    2. Play auditory memory games:
      • ‘Simon says’: This classic game is fantastic for following multi-step instructions. Start with one command and gradually increase the number.
      • ‘I Spy’ with sounds: Instead of colours, describe sounds. ‘I spy with my little ear something that goes “moo”.’
      • Rhyming games: Sing rhyming songs, read rhyming books, and encourage your child to come up with words that rhyme.
      • Sound matching: Use everyday objects to make sounds (e.g., shaking keys, tapping a spoon) and have your child identify or match them.
      • ‘Memory chain’: Start a sentence and have your child add to it, remembering everything that came before: ‘I went to the market and bought an apple.’ ‘I went to the market and bought an apple and a banana.’
    3. Sing songs and nursery rhymes: Repetitive songs and nursery rhymes are excellent for developing auditory memory, rhythm, and phonological awareness. The predictable patterns help children anticipate and remember sequences of sounds and words.
    4. Give multi-step instructions (and praise!): Start with two-step instructions and gradually increase the complexity as your child’s skills improve. Always give positive reinforcement when they succeed. ‘Please pick up the red block and put it in the box.’
    5. Engage in active listening: Model good listening skills yourself. When your child is speaking, give them your full attention. Ask clarifying questions to encourage them to elaborate and organise their thoughts.
    6. Reduce background noise: A quiet environment makes it easier for young children to focus on auditory information. Minimise distractions like TV or loud music during activities that require listening.
    7. Use visual cues: While we’re focusing on auditory memory, sometimes pairing auditory information with visual cues can be helpful, especially initially. For example, when giving instructions, demonstrate the action as you say it.
    8. Be patient and consistent: Developing auditory memory takes time and consistent practice. Celebrate small victories and create a playful, supportive environment for learning.

    By actively engaging in these strategies, we can empower our youngest learners to build robust auditory memory skills, setting them up for success not only in speech and language development but also in their overall academic journey. It’s an investment that truly pays dividends in their future communication and learning abilities.

    Any comments or if you need help and support with your child’s speech please do not hesitate to get in touch with me: simply fill out the contact form here on the website. I endeavour to reply within 48 hours.

    Sonja McGeachie

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    Why pointing matters: Unpacking the power of this simple gesture

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    As a speech and language therapist, I’m often asked about the significance of seemingly simple gestures in child development. One question that comes up frequently is, ‘Why is pointing so important?’ It might seem like a trivial action, but pointing is a powerful communication tool and a critical milestone in a child’s development.

    Why is pointing so important?

    Let’s delve into the theory behind why pointing matters:

    1. Pointing as pre verbal communication:

    Before children can use words, they use gestures to communicate their needs and interests. Pointing is one of the earliest and most important gestures. It allows children to:

    • Request: ‘I want that!’
    • Protest: ‘No, not that!’
    • Direct attention: ‘Look at that!’
    • Share interest: ‘Wow, cool!’

    2. Pointing and language development:

    Pointing is not just about communicating in the here and now; it also plays a crucial role in language development. Research shows that:

    • Early pointing predicts later language skills: Children who point more often tend to have larger vocabularies and better grammar later on.
    • Pointing helps children learn new words: When children point at something, adults tend to label it, providing valuable language input.
    • Pointing supports joint attention: Joint attention, or the shared focus of two individuals on an object or event, is essential for language learning. Pointing helps establish joint attention, creating opportunities for communication and learning.

    3. Pointing and social-emotional development:

    Pointing is not just about language; it’s also about social interaction. It allows children to:

    • Engage with others: Pointing invites others to share their focus and participate in their world.
    • Express emotions: Pointing can convey excitement, curiosity, or concern.
    • Develop social understanding: By observing how others respond to their pointing, children learn about social cues and communication.

    4. Pointing and cognitive development:

    Pointing is linked to cognitive skills, such as:

    • Understanding object permanence: The ability to know that objects exist even when they are out of sight.
    • Categorisation: The ability to group similar objects together.
    • Problem-solving: Pointing can be used to ask for help or to indicate a problem.

    5. Types of Pointing:

    It’s important to note that there are different types of pointing, each with its own significance:

    • Imperative pointing: To request something.
    • Declarative pointing: To share interest or direct attention.
    • Informative pointing: To provide information.

    If you have concerns about your child’s pointing or overall communication development, don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance from a speech-language therapist. Early intervention can make a significant difference in supporting your child’s communication journey.

    How can we create opportunities for pointing?

    • ‘Where’s the…?’ games:
      • Play games like ‘Where’s the doggy?’ or ‘Where’s the ball?’ and encourage your toddler to point to the object.
      • Start with familiar objects and gradually introduce new ones.
    • Reading together:
      • When reading picture books, ask your toddler to point to specific objects or characters on the page.
      • Use phrases like, ‘Can you point to the puppy?’
    • Everyday activities:
      • During daily routines, ask your toddler to point to things they want or need.
      • For example, ‘Do you want the apple or the banana?’
      • When walking outside say ‘LOOK’ and encourage pointing.
    • Use of toys:
      • Use toys that have buttons or points of interest that when pressed make a noise. Encourage your toddler to point to the area that makes the noise.
      • Use toys that have many different parts, and ask the toddler to point to a specific part.

    Model pointing:

    • Point yourself:
      • When you see something interesting, point to it and say the name of the object.
      • For example, ‘Look! A bird!’
    • Point to show choices:
      • When offering choices, point to each item as you name it.
      • For example, ‘Do you want the blue cup or the red cup?’ (Point to each cup).
    • Point to indicate direction:
      • When giving directions, point in the direction you want your toddler to go.
      • For example, ‘Let’s go that way!’ (Point).

    Make it rewarding:

    • Respond to pointing:
      • When your toddler points, immediately respond to their communication.
      • Give them the object they want, or acknowledge what they are pointing at.
    • Use positive reinforcement:
      • Praise and encourage your toddler when they point.
      • Say things like, ‘Good pointing!’ or ‘You showed me the car!’
    • Show excitement:
      • When they point to something, show excitement, this will encourage them to point again.

    Use specific techniques:

    • Use gestures and verbal cues:
      • Combine pointing with verbal cues and other gestures.
      • For example, say ‘Look!’ while pointing and nodding your head.
    • Simplify the environment:
      • Reduce distractions to help your toddler focus on the object you want them to point to.
    • Use exaggerated movements:
      • Use large, exaggerated pointing movements to draw your toddler’s attention.

    Consider developmental factors:

    • Age-appropriate expectations:
      • Remember that pointing develops at different rates for different children.
      • Be patient and supportive.
    • Underlying issues:
      • If your toddler is not pointing by 18 months, or if you have any concerns about their development, consult with a speech and language therapist.
      • There may be underlying sensory or motor issues.

    Key points:

    • Consistency is key. Practise these strategies regularly.
    • Make it fun and engaging for your toddler.
    • Celebrate every success, no matter how small.
    • If you have any concerns about your child’s development, contact your local health services.

    Great toys and items for pointing

    1. Interactive books:

    • Touch-and-feel books: Books with different textures, flaps to lift, and sounds encourage interaction and pointing. ‘Where’s the…?’ questions prompt pointing to specific features.
    • Books with simple pictures: Clear, uncluttered pictures make it easier for toddlers to focus and point to objects or characters.

    2. Cause-and-effect toys:

    • Activity cubes: These often have buttons, dials, and levers that produce sounds or actions when manipulated, prompting pointing and exploration.
    • Pop-up toys: Toys where figures pop up or things happen when a button is pressed encourage anticipation and pointing to the action.
    • Simple musical instruments: A toy piano, drum, or xylophone encourages pointing to the keys/surfaces to make sounds.

    3. Toys with parts to manipulate:

    • Shape sorters: Encourage pointing to the shapes and the matching holes.
    • Stacking cups or rings: Nesting cups or stacking rings invite pointing to select the correct size or order.
    • Puzzles with knobs: Simple puzzles with large knobs are easier for toddlers to grasp and point to the pieces.

    4. Toys that encourage joint attention:

    • Bubbles: Blowing bubbles and following them with your eyes and pointing encourages joint attention (shared focus).
    • Balls: Rolling a ball back and forth and pointing to where it’s going can promote joint attention and turn-taking.
    • Wind-Up Toys: Wind-up toys that move across the floor can be exciting to follow with pointing.

    5. Pretend play toys:

    • Toy telephones: Encourage pointing to the buttons and pretending to dial.
    • Dolls and stuffed animals: Pointing to the doll’s eyes, nose, mouth, etc., or asking the child to point to these features on themselves.
    • Toy food and dishes: Pretend play with food and dishes can involve pointing to request items or indicate actions (e.g., ‘Can I have the apple?’).

    Tips for using toys to encourage pointing:

    • Get involved: Play alongside your toddler, modelling pointing and using language to describe what you’re doing.
    • Follow their lead: Observe what your child is interested in and use that to encourage pointing.
    • Limit distractions: Reduce background noise and visual clutter to help your child focus.
    • Use gestures and words: Combine pointing with words and other gestures (e.g., ‘Look!’ while pointing).
    • Be patient and positive: Celebrate all attempts at pointing and provide lots of encouragement.

    Remember, the most important factor is the interaction you have with your child while playing. Use these toys as tools to create opportunities for communication and joint attention, and your toddler will be well on their way to mastering pointing!

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    How to model AAC with our minimally speaking students?

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    modelling AAC

    How should we start? Should we use prompts? What kind of prompts? hand-over-hand or just pointing? Should we wait, and, if so, how long? Introducing an alternative communication system (AAC) to our child is for many of us a confusing and sometimes scary prospect, but it needn’t be! Let me reassure you and share some tricks of my practice in this area.

    Once we have decided to try for a picture based communication system, I usually start with a paper-based single page with between 48–88 core-words. I choose the number of words depending on where the child is developmentally and also verbally.

    If a child does have a small handful of words already, I might start with the 88-cell board below. If, on the other hand, my student is completely non-speaking and still quite little then I might go for the 48-cell below here or I might have even less cells to start with. Again, sometimes I start with an electronic device in my clinic just to trial and introduce the idea and to see if, or how, a student responds. 

    Below are some samples: a 49-cell board which I made for a child in a nursery setting

    Below a Saltillo WordPower board that can be downloaded from the Saltillo website:

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    And here below one example of a board I made for a specific activity for a child who loves water and sand play:

    It is perfectly possible to be very flexible and create a suitable board for any student, starting with as few as 2–5 cells and working up to over a 100 (very small ones) on a sheet of A4 or A3 paper.

    So once we have a good board for our child, what now? How do we start introducing this into our daily life?

    We can start by showing/pointing to the word GO within a play activity. For example:

    • a car run,
    • or a marble run,
    • or a spinner activity,
    • a wind-up toy,
    • anything that can be stopped and started easily.

    How to start?

    I will talk us through each of the steps using the example for the word ‘GO’.

    First phase

    The first phase is a TEACHING/ LEARNING PHASE. In this phase we do not expect our student to do anything, to copy us or to point to the board. If they do that it is of course a huge bonus and we will celebrate it.

    Our job is to simply MODEL/SHOW/GIVE EXAMPLES of how we can use the board, by steadily and regularly pointing to the chosen word or words. We do so across the day and across settings:

    • play
    • meal time
    • getting dressed/undressed
    • bath time
    • going to the car/shops
    • etc

    Once we can be sure that our student has been submerged and SOAKED in seeing the coreboard being used, say after some 3–4 weeks of using it consistently…

    Second phase

    We can begin to move into the second phase which is the PRACTICE PHASE. By now the student has seen the boards and he or she has seen the word GO (as a example) modelled many times.

    Now we can start to see if we can tempt our student into trying this out for themselves.

    What sort of TEMPTING are we talking about? Take a look at the Prompt Hierarchy below, which shows us what to do to get our student to be independently communicating as soon as possible. 

    The PROMPT HIERARCHY: what sort of prompting should we do, should we expect something from our student or how should we view this stage?

    1.  TEMPT AND PAUSE

    I have the AAC near to the toy and each time the child starts another round of the activity I say clearly ‘GO’ and I point to the picture as do so. I then pause and wait to see what happens. NOTHING? Then…

    1. USE SIGNS AND BODY LANGUAGE

    Next time the child starts another round I might be very animated and do a Makaton sign for GO as I say ‘GO’ and I make a very over point to the picture again. Then I wait. STILL NOTHING? OK then…

    1. OPEN-ENDED QUESTION

    Now I might say ‘GO’ and follow with: ‘OOH I WONDER IF THERE IS A PICTURE TO POINT TO…’

    ‘OH LOOK HERE IS GO!’ I then point to GO.

     STILL NO RESPONSE?

    1. ASK FOR A RESPONSE

    I might say ‘GO’ followed by ‘LOOK! LET’S POINT TO GO HERE ON THE PICTURE.’

    STILL NO RESPONSE? 

    1.  PHYSICAL TOUCH

    Next time I say ‘GO’ I will try and take the student’s hand, help isolate their finger and help him or her to point to the actual picture.

    REMEMBER: Prompting serves a very important function in scaffolding learning for students BUT if we are constantly prompting kids, then we are teaching them to only communicate when someone tells them to. We want our student to become as independent in speaking and using words as possible.

    So once I have done Physical Prompting I will try and phase back down to number 1 where all I need to do is point to the picture or look at the board with the aim that the student will then point to the picture.

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    • Keep the learning phase pressure-free and model without expecting our student to jump in. In other words, let’s model first without expectation. Later we can have a little bit of expectation.
    • After they’ve been exposed to and have been ‘soaked’ in plenty of AAC input, then, YES, we can create an opportunity to help them say or point to the word on their own.
    • We can model BOTH with and without expectation.
    • Only after LOTS of exposure, use the least to most prompting hierarchy and start creating opportunities for a student to become an independent communicator.

    Do get in touch if you have any questions or comments or if you would like some practical help.

    I am always pleased to hear from you.

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    Seeing sounds: How visual gestures boost speech sound learning

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    Learning to produce new speech sounds can be a complex process for young children, especially those facing challenges with speech sound disorders or motor planning difficulties. It’s not just about knowing what a sound ‘should’ sound like; it’s about figuring out where to put your tongue, how to shape your lips, and how much air to push out. This is where the power of visual gestures comes in – literally helping children see how to make sounds.

    As speech and language therapists, we frequently use visual cues and hand gestures to teach articulation. These techniques are incredibly effective, particularly when a child is struggling with the motor planning aspect of speech production.

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    • the /SH/ sound: the hand makes a C-shape and moves forward showing both how the lips are positioned and the air flowing forward
    • the /S/ sound: the index finger shows a snake like movement going forward- also showing the air flow again
    • the /W/ sound: my right hand moves forward and fingers splay out showing that the lips open up at the end of the sound
    • the /K/ sound: my finger points to the back of my throat where the tongue needs to raise.

    An overview of motor planning for speech – what do we mean by that?

    Think about learning to ride a bike or play a musical instrument. You don’t just know how to do it instantly. You have to plan the movements, practise them, and make adjustments. Speaking is similar! Our brains must:

    1. Plan the sequence of movements needed for each sound and word (e.g., /B/ requires lips together, then release, while /T/ requires the tongue tip behind the top teeth, then release).
    2. Execute those plans rapidly and precisely.

    For some children, especially those with conditions like Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS) or other severe articulation disorders, this motor planning process is disrupted. They know what they want to say, but their brain struggles to send the correct, consistent messages to their articulators (lips, tongue, jaw, velum). This can make speech sound learning incredibly frustrating.

    Why use visual gestures?

    Visual gestures provide an additional, powerful sensory input that can help bridge the gap between knowing a sound and producing it. Here’s how and why they are so beneficial:

    1.      Providing a visual map:

    • How it helps: Many speech sounds are ‘hidden’ inside the mouth. It’s hard for a child to see where their tongue needs to go for a /K/ sound (back of the tongue to the roof of the mouth) or a /T/ sound (tongue tip behind teeth). A simple hand gesture can visually represent this mouth movement. For example, a hand gesture for /K/ might involve sweeping the hand back towards the throat, while for /T/, it might be a tap on the chin.
    • Why it works: Children are highly visual learners. Seeing a physical representation of an abstract mouth movement gives them a concrete ‘map’ to follow, making the process less mysterious and more manageable.

    2.      Enhancing motor planning and memory:

    • How it helps: When a child simultaneously moves their hand (the visual gesture) and attempts to make the sound, they are engaging multiple sensory systems (visual, tactile, proprioceptive – body awareness). This multi-sensory input strengthens the neural pathways associated with that speech sound.
    • Why it works: This multi-modal learning helps to solidify the motor plan for the sound in the brain. It’s like having more ‘hooks’ to hang the information on, making the sound easier to recall and produce consistently. The gesture becomes a built-in reminder.

    3.      Reducing cognitive load:

    • How it helps: Instead of just hearing the sound and trying to figure out the complex motor sequence, the child has a visual cue to guide them. This reduces the mental effort required to decode the sound production.
    • Why it works: When cognitive load is lower, the child can focus more effectively on the specific motor execution of the sound, leading to faster progress and less frustration.

    4.      Increasing engagement and success:

    • How it helps: Gestures can make therapy more interactive and fun! When a child successfully produces a sound with the help of a gesture, it’s a tangible victory.
    • Why it works: Success is a powerful motivator. When children experience success, they are more likely to stay engaged, participate actively, and feel more confident in their ability to learn new sounds.

    5.      Supporting self-correction:

    • How it helps: Once a child learns the gesture associated with a sound, he or she can use it as a self-monitoring tool. If he or she makes an error, he or she can use the gesture to remind himself or herself of the correct mouth position or movement.
    • Why it works: This promotes independent learning and reduces reliance on constant adult prompting.

    Conclusion

    The journey of speech development can be challenging, but visual gestures offer a powerful and effective tool for teaching new sounds, especially when motor planning is a factor. By providing a clear visual map, strengthening motor memory, reducing cognitive load, and fostering engagement, these gestures pave the way for clearer communication and greater confidence. If your child is struggling with speech sounds, consider talking to a Speech and Language Therapist to get guidance on how visual gestures might be incorporated into the therapy plan. Because sometimes, seeing truly is believing (and speaking!).

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    Discover more about Verbal Dyspraxia

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    What is Verbal Dyspraxia?

    Apraxia or dyspraxia is a difficulty in motor planning, which sometimes can be seen in both gross and fine motor skills, as well as speech. Gross motor refers to difficulties in coordinating the whole body (e.g., bumping into things frequently, often falling over hurting themselves or others through being “clumsy” or unsteady). Fine motor movements refer to smaller, more precise movements (e.g., difficulties doing anything with their hands such as holding a spoon or pen).

    Verbal dyspraxia

    In Dyspraxia of Speech, instead of seeing a coordinated smooth way of talking, we see the articulators (tongue, lips, cheeks) and voice coordinating very smoothly. The voice can be very quiet or very loud. Muscle tone can be weaker at times. Speech sounds are very unintelligible, with a flat voice that can sound forced. It may be that the timings of verbalisation appear random and that children can say a certain word once and never again. This is often what we hear from parents.

    It is interesting to note that many of our autistic clients are either non-speaking or are reluctant speakers. Sometimes they say a word once and then never again. Others say lots of words but the words are very hard to make out. Did you know that about 40% of autistic people have verbal dyspraxia? (Richard, 1997). Because the problem is one of motor planning, not of automatic motor execution, once a plan has become automatic, it is easier to get back to it and this is why we often see repetitive patterns that can be called ‘stims’ (Marge Blanc, 2004).

    How can Speech and Language Therapy help?

    Children with verbal dyspraxia can make great progress!

    We provide frequent and appropriate speech movement opportunities and with time and the right support, children will move forward and begin to speak more fluently and with greater intelligibility. It is important to know this can take time.

    We provide Oral Motor Therapy using a variety of approaches to practise breathing, vocalising on the outbreath, and sequencing our speech movements.

    We design carefully tailored programmes focusing on words that have a lot of power (e.g., NO, GO, UP, IN, OUT, LET’S GO, STOP).

    We offer shared enjoyment, and laughter. This helps a child find their voice. Other ways of finding our voices include singing or humming, or even yelling/shouting!

    The most difficult phase of verbal dyspraxia is initiation, that is to start talking, to start producing a word. Frequent “automatic” repetition supports children with initiation because it removes the element of “thinking to start”. I often ask a child to repeat a word 5-10 times (with rewards at the end. A little game works well). You can see that with repetition the act of initiating is taken out of the equation as you are “on a roll “as it were.

    Once a child starts to find their voice, we will be able to hear them talk lot… And if we give them credit and presume that what they are saying has meaning, we will find in time that their words become clearer and more intelligible. If we listen carefully, we can detect real words and phrases.

    For more tips and support, please get in touch!

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  • Six ways to prepare your child for the Christmas festivities

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    It feels like the Christmas festivities start earlier and earlier every year. This makes it harder for your child with communication difficulties to process what is happening. Whilst you can’t do anything about the events that happen around your child, you can start to put into practice strategies which may support them and allow them to regulate their emotions.

    Speech Therpaist in London
    Six ways to prepare your child for the Christmas festivities

    Explore six ideas here:

    1. Print off or buy a blank calendar to use at home

    You can start to write in activities out of the usual routine and add a picture to allow your child to understand what it’s about. You can also use it as a countdown to Christmas Day to try to prevent ‘how long’ questions.

    2. Make use of visual timetables

    These are useful in everyday settings and activities but also when change occurs.

    3. Be aware of any non-uniform days

    Days like ‘Christmas Jumper Day’ can make your child feel uncomfortable and may affect their behaviour. By giving yourself time, you can have conversations with your child’s teacher to find a more suitable alternative. For example, they can wear a Christmas t-shirt that they find more comfortable.

    4. Think about what will benefit your child

    Do they like being surrounded by people or do they prefer a quiet space on a 1:1 basis? Christmas activities often involve lots of group work in school (e.g., rehearsing for carol concerts or plays). They might prefer to pre-record their part in the Christmas play or create pieces of art which can be used. At home, they may prefer one guest visiting at a time, rather than all at once.

    5. Explore how your child is feeling

    It’s important to find out how your young person is feeling and how these impact on the activities of that day. It might be that your child doesn’t like surprises and the intensity of opening gifts is too much for them. They may prefer gifts to be left unwrapped and given throughout the day, rather than all at once.

    6. Consider sensory needs

    Ensure your young person has everything they need to meet their sensory needs. This can be e.g. noise cancelling headphones, fidget toys, or comforting items. These will particularly be helpful with routines changing, often with little notice. If at home, you may wish to not put lights on the Christmas tree if visual stimuli become too much.

    Remember clear communication between home, school and other family members is vital during this time. By having clear communication and expectations, your young person will feel more secure. And you can have a Christmas that is right for you and your family.

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