Holiday disruptions & New Year routines: How to support your child’s feeding, communication and regulation over the festive season

ByLondon Speech and Feeding
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Holiday disruptions & New Year routines

The festive season is a wonderful time for many families, but for children with feeding challenges, sensory differences, or autism traits, December can feel overwhelming. Changes in routine, busier environments, travel, new foods, disrupted sleep, and well-meaning relatives giving ‘advice’ can all affect a child’s feeding, communication and overall regulation.

As a speech and language therapist specialising in Early Years, I see the same pattern each year: children often make progress during the term, only to struggle in late December when everything becomes unpredictable. The good news? With a bit of preparation, children can not only cope better, but they can actually make significant developmental gains during the holidays.

This blog will help you feel confident, supported and prepared for the transition from ‘festive mode’ to a smoother, regulated start in January.

1. Why routines matter so much. Especially now

Young children thrive on predictability. For neurodivergent children or those with sensory, feeding or communication needs, routine isn’t just helpful: it’s the backbone of emotional regulation.

In December, typical patterns change:

  • Mealtimes shift or become irregular
  • Bedtime slides
  • New foods appear
  • Loud social gatherings overwhelm
  • Travel disrupts naps and comfort routines
  • Therapies pause
  • Childcare closes

Any one of these can lead to feeding refusals, more meltdowns, increased stimming, reduced communication attempts or regression in speech sounds.

It’s simply the nervous system responding to too much change.

2. Protecting feeding progress during holiday mealtimes

My last blog and insta post have a nice social story on festive meals. They are often the trickiest part of the season for families I support. Children with sensory-based feeding challenges, or ARFID traits may find holiday foods completely unfamiliar and challenging.

What helps:

  • Offer one ‘safe food’ at every meal
  • Keep portion sizes tiny
  • Use the ‘buffet rule’
  • Rehearse tricky moments

3. Supporting communication when routines are disrupted

Holiday time actually offers more opportunities for communication, just in different ways.

Strategies:

  • Slow down and follow your child’s lead
  • Use everyday routines as language opportunities
  • Keep AAC going even if casually

4. Understanding holiday ‘regressions’ and know they’re temporary

This is almost always due to nervous system overload. Children don’t truly ‘lose’ skills; they temporarily prioritise regulation over learning.

5. A gentle January reset: How to start the New Year smoothly

  • Re-establish predictability early
  • Return to preferred foods
  • Book early support if needed
  • Focus on regulation first

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

Reference:

Bronson, M. (2000). Self-regulation in early childhood. Guilford Press.

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    As speech and Language therapists (SLTs), we know that where your tongue goes, so goes your sound. This blog post will explore why tongue placement is so vital for speech correction and how we use tools and techniques to help our clients find their ‘sweet spot’ for sound production.

    Let me show you here a little video clip where I am using my dentist’s mouth/teeth model to help my clients navigate their tongue movements.

    The tongue: A tiny muscle with a big job

    The tongue is a small but mighty muscle. It’s incredibly versatile, playing a key role in eating, swallowing, and, of course, speaking. For each speech sound, the tongue, along with the lips and jaw, needs to move to a very specific spot. Think of it like a dance: every part of your mouth has a choreographed movement to produce the correct sound. If the tongue is out of sync, the sound comes out muffled, distorted, or just plain wrong.

    The trouble with our tongue movements is that most of us never think about how the tongue has to move and what it does to: swallow, chew, drink, suck and speak. Most parents when asked to think about their own tongue placement for say the /S/ sound are completely lost as to what their tongue is doing. Yet, of course, they produce a perfect /S/ and perfect speech in general. The same goes for swallowing. When did you last think about what happens in your mouth when you swallow? I bet you have not thought about it. We ‘just do it’, right?

    Why is tongue placement so important?

    Accurate tongue placement is the foundation of clear articulation. When a child struggles with a particular sound, it’s often because his or her tongue isn’t quite reaching the right spot or moving in the correct way. For example, the /S/ sound requires the tongue to be slightly raised and positioned behind the top teeth, creating a narrow channel for air to flow through. If the tongue is too far forward, you might get a /TH/ sound instead. If it’s too far back, the /S/ can sound muffled.

    Visual aids: Our secret weapon

    We SLTs love our visual aids! They’re incredibly helpful for showing clients exactly where their tongue needs to be. Here are some of our favourite tools:

    • Mirrors: Mirrors provide instant feedback. Clients can see their tongue’s position and make adjustments in real-time. We often use hand mirrors or even the mirror on a compact for quick checks.
    • Tongue depressors: These simple tools can gently guide the tongue to the correct position. We might use them to show where the tongue tip should rest for the /L/ sound or how the sides of the tongue should touch the molars for the /K/ and /G/ sounds.
    • Diagrams and models: Pictures and models of the mouth can help clients visualise the tongue’s movements. We might use a cross-section diagram of the mouth to show how the tongue forms different sounds.

    Beyond the tongue: The jaw’s role

    While the tongue takes centre stage, the jaw plays a supporting role. It provides a stable base for the tongue and helps control the opening and closing of the mouth. Sometimes, jaw stability is an issue, and we might use techniques to help clients find a comfortable and stable jaw position.

    Making it fun and engaging

    Learning correct tongue placement can be challenging, but we make it fun! We use games, stories, and playful activities to keep clients motivated. For younger children, we might use silly voices or pretend to be animals. For older children, we might incorporate their interests, like using a car analogy for tongue movements.

    The takeaway

    Correct tongue placement is essential for clear speech. By using visual aids, interactive techniques, and a bit of creativity, we can help our clients master their speech sounds and communicate with confidence.

    If you have any concerns about your child’s speech, don’t hesitate to reach out to a qualified speech and language therapist, we are here to help! Contact me via my contact form.

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    Understanding phonological processes in 3–7-year-olds: What’s typical and when to seek help

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    As a speech and language therapist, one of the most common questions I hear from parents is:

    ‘They can talk, but their speech still sounds immature. Is this normal?’

    Many children between the ages of three and seven use speech patterns that make their words sound different from adult speech. These patterns are known as phonological processes, and for younger children, they are a normal part of speech development.

    However, when these processes persist beyond the expected age, they can start to affect clarity, confidence and learning, especially once children enter school.

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    What are phonological processes?

    Phonological processes are patterns of sound simplification that children use while their speech system is developing.

    Instead of learning each sound one by one, children initially organise sounds into patterns that make speech easier to produce. This is a normal and efficient strategy for a developing brain.

    For example:

    • saying ‘tar’ instead of ‘car’
    • saying ‘poon’ instead of ‘spoon’
    • saying ‘bud’ instead of ‘bus’

    These are not ‘bad habits’. They are part of how speech develops.

    The key question is how long these patterns last.

    Common phonological processes (and when they usually disappear)

    Below are some of the most common processes parents notice in 3–7-year-olds.

    1. Final consonant deletion

    Leaving off the last sound in a word

    • ‘ca’ for cat, ‘da’ for dog
    • Typically resolved by 3–3½ years

    2. Fronting

    Replacing back sounds (k, g) with front sounds (t, d)

    • ‘tar’ for car, ‘do’ for go
    • Typically resolved by 3½–4 years

    3. Cluster reduction

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    • Typically resolves by 4–5 years (some clusters slightly later)

    4. Gliding

    Replacing /R/ or /L/ with /W/ or /Y/

    • ‘wabbit’ for rabbit, ‘yion’ for lion
    • Can be typical up to 5–6 years

    5. Weak syllable deletion

    Leaving out unstressed syllables

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    • Usually resolved by 4 years

    If these patterns continue past the expected age, speech can remain difficult to understand particularly for unfamiliar listeners such as teachers, peers, and also Auntie Karen or grandparents who visit once in a while.

    Why phonological processes matter in school-age children

    By the time children reach reception and Year 1, speech clarity becomes increasingly important.

    Persistent phonological difficulties can affect:

    • being understood by teachers and peers
    • phonics and early reading
    • spelling
    • confidence in speaking
    • willingness to participate in class

    Some children become aware that they ‘sound different’ and may speak less, avoid longer words, or become frustrated when misunderstood.

    What’s the difference between a delay and a disorder?

    This is an important distinction.

    • A phonological delay means a child is following the normal pattern of development, just more slowly.
    • A phonological disorder means the child is using atypical patterns, or continuing age-expected patterns well beyond when they should have resolved.

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    • which processes are present
    • how many are affecting speech
    • how consistent the errors are
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    Signs it may be time to seek speech therapy

    You may want to seek professional advice if your child:

    • is 3½ years or older and still hard to understand
    • is understood well by family but not by others
    • becomes frustrated or avoids talking
    • has difficulty with phonics or spelling
    • uses several phonological processes at once
    • has not made progress despite time and encouragement

    Early support does not mean something is ‘wrong’. It simply helps speech development move forward more efficiently.Research consistently shows that unresolved phonological processes beyond the expected age can impact intelligibility, literacy and confidence (Dodd, 2014; Bowen, 2015).

    How speech therapy helps phonological development

    Phonological therapy is not about drilling individual sounds endlessly.

    Instead, therapy focuses on:

    • helping children recognise sound patterns
    • building awareness of contrasts (e.g. ‘tar’ vs ‘car’)
    • practising speech in meaningful, playful ways
    • supporting generalisation so progress carries into everyday speech

    For school-aged children, therapy is usually structured, motivating and highly targeted and progress can be very encouraging.

    A final reassurance

    Many children with phonological difficulties go on to develop clear, confident speech with the right support.

    If you’re unsure whether your child’s speech is ‘just a phase’ or something that needs attention, a professional assessment can give clarity and peace of mind.

    If you’d like support or advice, please contact me and I can help guide the next steps.

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    “It’s brill-i-ant, it’s brill-ant, it’s brillnt”

    Have you ever wondered why children may pronounce a word correctly one minute and in the next breath they struggle to say the same word? It’s equally as frustrating for you as it is for your child. The biggest question of all is WHY? Why does this happen and what causes it? Whilst there are many explanations. When it persists, it might be a condition called verbal dyspraxia.

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    Verbal dyspraxia is a neurological motor speech disorder that affects the coordination and planning of muscle movements that are needed for speech production. A child may have difficulty making the precise movements needed for speech, which may result in inconsistent and unintelligible speech. Children may also have trouble sequencing sounds and syllables, producing speech sounds accurately, and coordinating the movements of their articulators (e.g., lips, tongue, teeth, jaw). This can lead to a range of speech errors (including sound distortions, substitutions, omissions, and difficulty with rhythm and prosody).

    We know that these speech errors, and not being able to get a message across, can be frustrating for children with speech difficulties. Can you imagine talking and limited people understanding you? It’s so tough on children and the people trying to communicate with them.

    Creating a person-centred therapy plan is vital. This allows your child to stay motivated, as intervention is likely to be long term. This planning may include favourite words to use during their hobby or favourite activity, or person-centred goals such as ‘giving Alexa an instruction’.

    Children with verbal dyspraxia can have several different ways of producing words, which often makes it trickier for them as there’s no consistent pattern to work with. So, we’ve put together some top tips to support their communication and make their (and your) lives a little easier in the process.

    Ten ways to make communication easier for your child with verbal dyspraxia

    • Have a list of frequently used words and practise this set. Little and often is best!
    • Use cued articulation to support speech production (ask your Speech and Language Therapist for the gestures)
    • Give time and use active listening. This means showing interest and trying not to think about what is on your never ending ‘to do’ list
    • Reduce frustration in any way that you can. This might mean allowing your child to demonstrate using gestures rather than speech. You might also give top tips for other adults or children who communicate with your child when out and about
    • Talk about the structure of words with your child (i.e., there are two beats/syllables in this word)
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    • Recognise when your child is working well and when they may need support of an Alternative and Augmentative Communication device
    • Allow all environments to have the same training and equipment (i.e., at school, home, out and about)
    • Have regular periods in the day where your child can practise their specific words in different environments. This can be effective for children with verbal dyspraxia

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  • Tele-Speechtherapy: Online, connected, and highly effective

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    A different kind of therapy. Online, connected, and highly effective

    When parents first enquire about speech and language therapy, many assume it will happen face-to-face, in a clinic room, with a therapist sitting across from their child.

    So when therapy is offered online, it’s natural for questions to arise:

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    Online therapy is not ‘less than’ in the right circumstances

    Teletherapy is not suitable for every child in every situation. However, for many school-aged children, particularly those who enjoy conversation, technology, and shared activities, online therapy can be an excellent fit.

    The child you see in this video is around eight years old and was supported for a persistent lisp. Sessions were primarily online, with the occasional in-person appointment when helpful.

    What made the difference was not the screen. It was the combination of engagement, support, and consistency.

    Parent involvement changes everything

    One of the greatest strengths of online therapy is the way it naturally invites parents in.

    In this case, parents regularly joined the video sessions:

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    This meant that therapy didn’t stay ‘on the screen’. Strategies carried over into everyday conversation, making progress faster and more meaningful.

    Speech sound therapy, including support for lisps, relies heavily on awareness, feedback, and confidence, all of which can be supported very effectively at home with the right guidance.

    Therapy through a screen can still be deeply relational

    A common concern is whether connection can truly be built online.

    In reality, many children feel more relaxed in their own home environment. They are often more willing to talk, experiment with sounds, and reflect on their speech when they feel comfortable and supported.

    Online sessions allow:

    • Shared focus and conversation
    • Clear visual feedback
    • Real-life practice in a familiar setting
    • Immediate parent support

    For some children, this actually enhances engagement rather than limits it.

    Real progress, real outcomes

    Over the course of approximately 12 online sessions, alongside a small number of in-person appointments, this child achieved resolution of their lisp.

    Progress was steady, positive, and confidence-building. Importantly, the child remained motivated and proud of their achievements throughout the process.

    While every child’s journey is different, this example highlights what is possible when:

    • The child is ready
    • Parents are involved
    • Therapy is tailored and collaborative

    If you’re considering online therapy

    If you’re unsure whether teletherapy could work for your child, it’s worth remembering that effective speech and language therapy is less about the room you’re in, and more about:

    • Relationship
    • Understanding
    • Consistency
    • Carryover into daily life

    For many families, online therapy offers flexibility, accessibility, and excellent outcomes especially when parents are active partners in the process.

    If you’re at the start of your child’s speech journey and wondering whether online therapy could be the right fit, I’m always happy to talk it through. Sometimes clarity begins with simply understanding what therapy can look like

    Teletherapy: Frequently Asked Questions

    Is online speech and language therapy really effective?

    Yes. For many children, particularly school-aged children, online therapy can be highly effective. Progress depends far more on engagement, consistency, and support than on physical location.

    What age does online therapy work best for?

    Teletherapy often works well for children from around six years and up, especially those who can attend to a screen, enjoy conversation, and follow simple instructions. That said, suitability is always considered individually and often a supportive adult is needed to help guide the child through the activities.

    Can speech sound work (such as a lisp) really be done online?

    Absolutely. Speech sound therapy relies on clear visual feedback, listening skills, and practice all of which can be supported very effectively online. Many children respond particularly well when practising in their own home environment.

    Do parents need to be involved in sessions?

    Parental involvement is strongly encouraged. Parents may sit in, join parts of the session, or support practice between appointments. This involvement often leads to quicker progress and better carryover into everyday speech.

    Will my child still build a relationship with the therapist?

    Yes. Strong therapeutic relationships can and do develop online. Many children feel more relaxed and confident communicating from home, which can actually enhance connection and learning.

    Is online therapy suitable for every child?

    Not in my experience. Some children benefit more from in-person support, or a combination of online and face-to-face sessions. A discussion and initial assessment help determine the best approach for each child.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
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    Member of ASLTIP

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  • Tongue-Tie: A complex issue requiring careful assessment

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    Tongue-tie, or ankyloglossia, is a condition where the lingual frenulum, the thin piece of tissue that connects the underside of the tongue to the floor of the mouth, is too short or tight. Tongue-tie is quite common in babies and is often not detected after birth. Tongue-tie can lead to a difficult start with breast feeding as it makes it very difficult for the baby to latch effectively.

    In my clinical experience as a feeding therapist, I have seen many babies who were not able to latch well due to the frenulum being tight. In many cases an experienced feeding speech therapist/lactation consultant can really make a difference and help a new mum to latch the baby even though the tongue is tethered to the floor of the baby’s mouth. In some cases the frenulum can be divided and once this has been done, in some cases, feeding improves immediately or soon after the division. But this is not always the case. I have seen several babies who have had as many as four tongue-tie divisions and feeding was still difficult.

    It is important to say that while tongue-tie can sometimes impact speech and feeding, it’s important to note that it’s not always the root cause of these difficulties. In recent years, there has been a surge of interest in tongue-tie division surgeries, with some cases being unnecessary. It’s crucial to understand the complexities of tongue-tie and the role of speech therapy in addressing related challenges.

    The impact of tongue-tie on speech and feeding

    When tongue-tie is severe, it can interfere with the tongue’s ability to move freely, affecting speech production and swallowing. Some common speech and feeding difficulties associated with tongue-tie include:

    • Feeding difficulties: Challenges with sucking, chewing, and swallowing.
    • Drooling: Excessive drooling due to difficulty controlling saliva.
    • Speech problems: Difficulty producing certain sounds, such as /l/, /r/, /t/, /s/ and /d/.

    The importance of comprehensive assessment

    Before considering any surgical intervention for tongue-tie, it’s essential to undergo a thorough evaluation by a qualified speech-language therapist (SLT). An SLT can assess the severity of the tongue-tie, its impact on speech and feeding, and determine if surgery is necessary.

    • Functional assessment: The SLT will assess the tongue’s range of motion, its impact on speech sounds, and the child’s overall oral motor skills.
    • Feeding evaluation: The SLT will observe the child’s feeding patterns and identify any difficulties related to tongue-tie.
    • Differential diagnosis: The SLT will rule out other potential causes of speech and feeding difficulties, such as apraxia of speech, dysarthria, or sensory processing disorders.

    The role of speech therapy

    Even in cases where tongue-tie is present, speech therapy can often be highly effective in addressing speech and feeding difficulties. Here’s how speech therapy can help:

    • Articulation therapy: Targeting specific speech sounds that may be affected by tongue-tie.
    • Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS): if the diagnosis by the SLT has shown that in fact the child has motor planning difficulties then there are very specific and effective treatment programmes that help with this and can make a real difference over time.
    • Feeding therapy: Strategies to improve swallowing, chewing, and oral-motor skills.
    • Sensory integration: Addressing underlying sensory processing issues that may contribute to feeding difficulties.

    London Speech and Feeding Case Study: The importance of comprehensive assessment

    One of my clients was initially diagnosed with tongue-tie and recommended for surgery at the age of eight years old. His speech had been perceived by parents and teachers as ‘mumbled and unclear’.

    However, after a thorough evaluation, I was able to determine that the child’s primary issue was apraxia of speech, a neurological disorder that affects motor planning for speech. Parents decided to wait with surgery and trust my judgment and we proceeded with weekly intensive speech therapy to address motor planning difficulties around tricky sounds and words. I am delighted to say that the child’s speech has improved significantly, demonstrating the importance of comprehensive assessment and individualised treatment. He is no longer seen as a candidate for an operation, which would have been traumatic for him at his age and, as it turned out, entirely unnecessary.

    Below is a short video clip of my working on the /l/ sound with this child.

    Using the Gingo Puppet from GingoTalk

    Conclusion

    Tongue-tie is a complex issue that requires careful evaluation and individualised treatment. While surgery may certainly be necessary in some cases, it’s essential to consider the potential benefits and risks. Speech therapy can be a highly effective approach for addressing speech and feeding difficulties associated with tongue-tie, even in cases where surgery is still required. By working with a qualified speech-language therapist, parents can ensure that their child receives the best possible care and support.

    Please feel free to contact me.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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