Before reading this blog, it’s important to understand what we mean by ‘social communication’ and ‘imitation’. Social communication is more complex than it first appears. It refers to many aspects of communication such as body language, voice, conversational skills, social ‘rules’ (such as being polite and using manners), interpersonal skills (such as developing friendships), and emotional literacy (such as appropriacy and developing self-awareness). Imitation refers to the simple act of copying.
You may have noticed that your child has difficulties in some of the areas mentioned above. They might be less responsive to you and appear to be quite happy in their own world. Whilst we do not want to change their unique characteristics, we do need to prepare them for future experiences, and what is socially acceptable.
How will copying my child develop their social communication?
If your child is already engaged with a certain activity, they are already interested and motivated. You’re not competing for their attention.
Both yours and your child’s attention is on the same activity which makes imitating for you (as the parent) easier.
Studies have demonstrated that when a parent imitates a child, they are more likely to look at the adult.
Imitation not only supports eye contact but supports facial expressions (such as smiling), may increase vocalisations, and encourages your child to sit closer to you.
Children learn through trial and error. They may start to try to perform new actions to gain their parents attention. Let your child lead the play!!
How do I start imitating my child?
Start with observing them. Take the time just to watch. You don’t need to make notes. Sit back and observe their actions, movements, and sounds they make.
Wait for your child’s reaction when they realise you are copying their actions. Remember they may not notice, you don’t need to remind them, simply copy them again.
Having the same set up as your child allows them to feel in control. So, you may have two sets of the same activity rather than copying using their set of toys.
This may sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Start with a ten-minute time frame where you choose to copy your child. This is where you can practise your imitation strategy. Ten minutes a day is far more effective than an hour every two weeks. You may feel self-conscious but trust the process. Build your confidence, whilst exposing your child’s to increased language and communication, enabling them to develop vital social communication skills.
Look at the video above to watch the strategy in action!
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There are different types of LISPS. Let me explain:
A lisp is the difficulty making a clear ‘S’ and ‘Z’. Other sounds can also be affected by the tongue protruding too far forward and touching the upper teeth or the upper lip even. ‘T’ and ‘D’ can be produced with ‘too much tongue at the front’ and this can also have an impact on ‘CH’ and often also ‘SH’.
Interdental lisp
Protruding the tongue between the front teeth while attempting ‘S’ or ‘Z’ is referred to as interdental lisp; it can make the speech sound ‘muffled’ or ‘hissy’. Often, we associate a lisp with the person sounding a bit immature. The good news is that this type of lisp is the easiest to correct and, in my practice. I have a 100% success rate with this type of lisp.
Lateral lisp
In a lateral lisp the person produces the ‘S’ and ‘Z’ sounds with the air escaping over the sides of the tongue. This renders the ‘S’ as sounding ‘slushy’ or ‘wet’. This type of lisp is a bit harder to correct than the interdental lisp. In my experience this can be fixed but it might need a bit longer, more intensive therapy than the interdental lisp.
Palatal lisp
With a palatal lisp the ‘S’ sound is attempted with the tongue touching the palate, much further back than it should be. The ‘S’ sounds ‘windy’ and ‘hissy’. This is a quite rare lisp production but it is also not difficult to correct.
These types of speech difficulties come under the category of ‘speech delay of unknown origin’ and may persist into adolescence and adulthood as ‘residual errors‘.
Some thoughts on Treatment in general:
Lisps can be treated successfully by a Speech and Language Therapist. However, for the treatment to work well, a student needs to be able to cooperate and want to improve his or her speech. Lisp remediation entails a fair amount of repetitive work and very young children or unmotivated older children don’t make the best candidates for treatment for this reason. Often students present with other speech, language or social communication difficulties and here the lisp might not be the priority for treating. For example, it might be that due to a student’s Attention Deficit Disorder they are simply not able to focus on speech practice in their daily life.
When should treatment of lisp begin?
Waiting well past 4½ years is not advisable as the longer we wait and do nothing the stronger engrained the erroneous tongue/speech habit will become. The ‘right’ age for therapy for one child may be different from the ‘right’ age for another child even within the same family. So do make an appointment with a speech and language therapist to assess and see whether your child might be ready to start therapy.
Do lots of children lisp—is it normal?
Until the age of about 4–4.5 years old it can be a perfectly normal developmental phase for some children to have the interdental lisp. But when we see and hear a lateral or palatal lisp we ought to act and see a speech and language therapist for sure.
After the age of 4.5 or 5 years old most speech therapists would agree on at least having a look to see if treatment could be started. The longer we wait the harder it is to retrain the brain pathways to adopt new speech habits.
What happens during the first Speech and Language Consultation?
The first consultation takes about an hour and involves screening relevant areas of communicative function. We take a detailed history, examine the anatomy of the child’s mouth and tongue movements. We check for tongue tie, teeth formation, palate structure and function, as well as swallowing patterns.
Then we begin straight away to try and see if any of the alveolar sounds (T/D/L/N) can be produced correctly with the right tongue placement as that would be the starting point from where to shape a good, clear ‘S’ sound.
The first consultation usually ends with home practice being given, explained to parents and another appointment being made for follow up.
Therapy – what does a session look like?
Each therapy session consists of:
Listening to sounds, discriminating sounds, identifying sounds, listening to rhyming sounds, sound awareness. We call this Auditory discrimination of single sounds: can the student hear the difference between two words that are the same apart from the first sound: ‘sing’ and ‘thing’ or ‘sigh’ and ‘thigh’?
Sound production: using a variety of different prompts and cues we will teach how to physically make the new sound. Often, we work on making a NEW sound, instead of correcting the OLD one. We work on imitation of single sounds then gradually we try and make new sounds in short words, then longer words and then phrases and sentences.
Games! We play games and try and have fun in between listening and producing our new sounds to help students stay motivated and even enjoy the therapy session and process.
How long does it take to ‘fix up’ a lisp?
It tends to take about one term with weekly sessions to help a student make good ‘S’ sounds in phrases and sentences. If the student can do the home practice every day in between the weekly sessions, then in most cases I am able to pronounce the lisp as ‘fixed’ after about one term.
After that the student needs to practise, practise, practise, at home and in daily life to keep reminding themselves of their new skills and their new sound production.
It is a matter of reminding and wanting to get it right. Occasionally a student returns to me for another term of simply practising their skills together with me as they are finding it hard for any number of reasons to practise at home. But generally, 8/10 students will be fine after some 12–13 sessions and their speech will be perceived as perfectly typical by family and friends.
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If your child says ‘dar’ instead of ‘star’, you might be wondering if they will simply outgrow it or if they require specialised support. While ‘cluster reduction’—dropping one of the sounds in a blend—is a normal part of learning to talk, we typically expect these sounds to lock into place by age four years. If these errors persist as a child approaches school age, it often signals a speech sound delay that may now no longer pass without help. As a Speech and Language Therapist, I specialise in helping children bridge this gap using evidence-based techniques like backward chaining.
This isn’t about constant correction; it’s about providing the right clinical scaffolding to move a child from ‘frustrated’ to ‘fluent’ before they hit those critical early school years.
Dropping sounds from words is a common feature of speech sound difficulties, and while it can look small on the surface, it can have a big impact on how clearly a child is understood. In this short video clip, I’m working with a child on an /ST/ sound cluster, demonstrating how I use an evidence-based speech therapy technique called backward chaining to help children build clearer speech with confidence.
What’s actually happening when a child drops the ‘S’?
Clusters like /ST/, /SP/, and /SK/ are tricky. They require:
precise timing
careful airflow
and the ability to blend sounds smoothly
For many children, especially those with speech sound difficulties, this is a big ask.
So instead of hearing:
‘star’
we might hear:
‘tar’ or ‘dar’
This isn’t laziness or refusal. It’s the child simplifying the word to make it manageable.
Why I don’t start by saying ‘say star’
Telling a child to ‘just add the S’ rarely works.
Instead, I meet them where they are already successful.
In this clip, the child can already say ‘dar’ clearly. That’s our starting point.
Backward chaining: building speech from success
Backward chaining means we:
Start with the part of the word the child can already say
Gradually add the missing sound
Keep the child feeling successful at every step
So rather than jumping straight to ‘star’, we:
secure the ending
gently introduce the /S/
and blend it in a way that feels achievable
This approach reduces frustration, builds confidence, and helps the sound stick not just in the therapy room, but out in the real world.
Why this matters beyond one word
This isn’t just about saying ‘star’.
It’s about:
teaching the mouth a new movement pattern
giving the brain time to organise the sound sequence
and helping the child feel capable, not corrected
When therapy feels safe and successful, children are far more likely to generalise their new sounds into everyday speech.
Speech therapy works best when children feel supported not tested.
If your child struggles with speech clarity
If your child:
drops sounds from words
avoids longer or trickier words
or becomes frustrated when they’re not understood
This is the kind of work I do every day building speech step by step, in a way that respects each child’s pace and strengths.
Support can be gentle, effective, and empowering.
If you’d like to learn more about how speech therapy can support your child, you’re always welcome to get in touch.
Sonja McGeachie
Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist
Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.
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You may be questioning ‘will my child grow out of having a lisp?’ There are so many myths out there that it’s sometimes difficult to find your way out of a complex maze of information.
The good news: lisps can be successfully treated by a Speech and Language Therapist and the earlier it’s resolved, the better. We know from the evidence base that some children’s lisps will resolve and, as always, it is completely age appropriate to have this speech pattern up until aged 4 ½.
As with any speech and language targets your child will need to be motivated to practise their newly acquired techniques, at home and in other settings. They will eventually be able to generalise this skill, but it takes lots of practice. So, think carefully about if your child is ready and motivated before commencing Speech and Language Therapy.
There are essentially two ways in which your child has acquired a lisp. It’s key here to mention that parents have no blame in this.
They’ve mis-learned it and now incorrect production has become a habit
Children have difficulties organising the sounds to make a clear production
You may be surprised to realise that there are different types of lisps. But all the techniques will be the same.
Interdental lisp
When your child pushes their tongue too far forward, they will make a /th/ sound instead of /s/ and /z/
Dental lisp
This is where your child’s tongue pushes against their teeth
Lateral lisp
Air comes over the top of the tongue and down the sides
Palatal lisp
Your palate is the roof of your child’s mouth. Sometimes they will touch their palate when making certain sounds (e.g., /s/ and /z/)
It’s useful for you to know what type of lisp your child has because you can then support them to make the correct production. You’ll be able to talk about where in the mouth their tongue is and where it needs to be to produce a clear sound. Your Speech and Language Therapist will be able to help you with this.
Top therapy tips for lisps
Awareness is key. Does your child know where their tongue and teeth are (i.e., are they behind their teeth)? Do they notice the air escaping? Use a mirror so that your child can see not only themselves but also you in the mirror.
Repetition! As with most therapeutic intervention, practice makes perfect. So little and often is key!
Make sessions fun, perhaps around your child’s interests or allow them to drink from a straw
Comment on how the sound is produced (e.g., /z/ is like a bee, /s/ is like a snake)
Use tactile cues. Your child’s vocal folds vibrate when they produce a sound like /z/ but not with /s/. You could use the words ‘loud’ and ‘quiet’ to describe this.
Start with a /t/ sound and gradually elongate the sound to an /s/
Having a lisp may not be problematic for some, but for other children, it can have a significant impact on their emotional wellbeing. Intervening at an early age can prevent this from happening. We always advocate for early intervention!
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There’s been a long tradition with teaching staff and with Speech and Language Therapists working in schools that eye contact should be a goal. It is well known that Autistic individuals (whether that be children or adults) mostly avoid eye contact. Whilst it’s part of the way we communicate, it shouldn’t be used as a necessity for an individual who feels that it is uncomfortable. Whilst it does show that you’re listening and showing an interest, it’s not a fair expectation for neurodiverse children.
Autistic children can find making and maintaining eye contact physically and emotionally uncomfortable as well as unnatural. It adds an extra layer of stress and has been reported to increase distractions rather than reduce them. Children who engage in conversations in their own way (i.e., with reduced eye contact) are not shown to suffer with schooling, work, or social interaction.
By having fun through meaningful activities, I often experience that ‘BINGO’ moment (a phrase coined by Alex @meaningfulspeech) where the child is enjoying themselves and naturally makes eye contact. There is no demand on them, they are in a fun, engaging environment which suit their strengths and supports their needs.
Following this, I often reflect on this question ‘Should we make eye contact as a goal?’
It very much depends on the situation. If it places more demands on the child and becomes stressful. Then no. There are many strategies we can use which gain eye contact without placing extra demands on the child. We need to be mindful to adapt the environment and not place neurotypical expectations to meet the needs of neurodiverse children.
How can you encourage eye contact without demand?
If you’re using toys, try holding them up to your eye level.
You can adjust your position, try sitting face to face during play.
Always get down to your child’s level. This might mean that you lay on the floor if your child is positioned in this way.
During play, waiting is extremely powerful. Before a key part of the activity, wait and see if your child looks at you. Remember silence is golden!
The best way I find is: do something unusual during play. It might be that you spray shaving foam with the lid still on. Or you bring out a wow toy and make it spin/light up or make a noise. A balloon can be good – see video clip. Use the excitement of the activity, and wait to see if you achieve that ‘BINGO’ moment.
Create opportunities when there are no toys involved such as during ‘tickles’ or ‘hide and seek’. Autistic children find it difficult to shift their attention between a toy and an adult. So by removing one option, you’re setting them up to succeed.
Remember, it takes practice and time for you to develop these skills. Try one at a time and experiment, see which works best for your child. If you need speech, language or communication support or advice, I am always here to help.
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Mealtimes can be a battleground for parents of picky eaters, especially toddlers with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID). I see a great number of toddlers with Autism traits and many of my clients are picky eaters from mild to severe. Take a look at my blog for an outline of what the issues are and how to try and help.
ARFID goes beyond typical ‘picky eating’ and can significantly impact a child’s growth, nutrition, and social-emotional well-being. If your toddler is resistant to trying new foods or has a very limited diet, here are some strategies to navigate the introduction of solids:
1. Understand ARFID:
ARFID is a diagnosable eating disorder characterised by:
Limited food variety: Eating only a small range of foods, often with specific textures or colours.
Fear of new foods: Intense anxiety or aversion to trying unfamiliar foods.
Sensory sensitivities: Heightened sensitivity to taste, smell, texture, or appearance of food.
Lack of interest in eating: May show little interest in food or mealtimes.
2. Seek professional guidance:
Paediatrician and/or gastroenterologist: Rule out any underlying medical conditions.
Registered dietitian: Assess nutritional needs and create a balanced meal plan.
Speech and language therapist (SLT): If oral-motor skills or sensory sensitivities are contributing to feeding difficulties.
Occupational therapist (OT): If sensory processing challenges are affecting mealtime behaviours.
Child psychologist: If anxiety or emotional factors are contributing to ARFID.
3. Strategies for introducing solids:
Start small: Introduce one new food at a time, in small amounts, alongside familiar favourites.
Patience is key: It can take multiple exposures (up to 10–15 times!) for a child to accept a new food. Don’t give up!
Positive reinforcement: Praise and encouragement for any interaction with the new food, even just touching or smelling it.
No pressure: Avoid forcing or pressuring the child to eat. This can create negative associations with food.
Make it fun: Present food in playful ways, use cookie cutters for fun shapes, or involve the child in food preparation.
Sensory exploration: Encourage exploration of food through touch, smell, and sight before tasting.
Role modelling: Show the child that you enjoy eating a variety of foods.
Use fun utensils: your child might like characters from ‘Frozen’ or ‘Dinosaurs’ or ‘Diggers’ there are a host of character-based cutlery and cups/plates to be had. Also, I really rate these two items very highly they are so good so I want to share these with you. Both are available online. But warning: the cup is outrageously expensive as it comes from the United States and is sold by a small scale company. But I feel this is cup very worth trying, I have had good results with this.
Gradual desensitisation: Start with foods that are similar in texture or taste to accepted foods, then gradually introduce more challenging options.
Food chaining: Introduce new foods that are similar in taste, texture, or appearance to accepted foods.
4. Mealtime Environment:
Positive and relaxed: Create a calm and enjoyable mealtime atmosphere.
No distractions: Minimise distractions like TV or toys.
Consistent schedule: Offer meals and snacks at regular times.
Child-sized portions: Offer small, manageable portions to avoid overwhelming the child.
Involve the child: Let the child choose their utensils, plate, or cup.
5. Remember:
Every child is different: What works for one child may not work for another.
Progress takes time: Be patient and celebrate small victories.
Focus on the positive: Praise any positive interaction with food.
Seek support: Connect with other parents or support groups.
Introducing solids to toddlers with ARFID can be challenging, but with patience, persistence, and professional guidance, you can help your child develop a healthier relationship with food.
Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice
The London Speech and Feeding Practice
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Speech therapists use a variety of tools to help children master specific sounds, and then the students are sent home with some practice sheets to use daily. Parents are able to observe what we do in the session, but I know that back at home three days later they can’t quite remember what it was all about and how to do the practice.
Here I explain the importance of visual cues, finger shapes, pictures, and semantic prompts (fancy speech therapy term for word clues!). By understanding these tools, you can turn practice time into a fun and engaging experience for both of you.
Why Visual Cues matter?
Imagine learning a new language just by listening. It’s tough, right? Young children learning new speech sounds face a similar challenge. Visual cues act like flashcards for their minds, giving them a clear picture of how to position their mouth and tongue.
Mirrors: Encourage your child to watch your face (and theirs) in the mirror as you make the sound together. This helps them see the tongue placement and lip movements required.
Mouth pictures: Speech therapy sheets often have pictures of mouths making specific sounds. Point to the picture and explain how the tongue and lips look, then have your child try to imitate it.
Your face is the best cue! Don’t underestimate the power of your own face. Over-enunciate the sound and let your child observe your mouth movements. Watch this little video clip where I am teaching the /SH/ sound to my little student. You cannot see him but we are both sitting on the floor opposite one another so that he can see me easily.
Finger fun: making sounds with our hands
Finger shapes are another powerful tool in my speech therapy arsenal. Think of them as fun reminders of how to position the tongue.
‘Open Wide’ fingers: For sounds like /AH/ and /OH/, hold your fingers wide apart, mimicking an open mouth.
‘Tongue Up’ fingers: For sounds like /T/ and /D/, touch the tip of your thumb to your other fingers, creating a little ‘wall’ like the tongue tip touches the teeth ridge.
‘Snake Tongue’ fingers: For the /S/ sound, wiggle your pinky finger to represent the snake-like tongue tip.
In this little video clip I am demonstrating the C-shape moving forward which I had taught my child, showing how the windy sound (/SH/) travels forward with lips open and slightly pursed.
Bringing sounds to life with pictures
Pictures serve as visual prompts to connect the sound with a familiar word.
Video clip: I am using the WINDY SOUND picture and the FLAT TYRE sound picture to represent /SH/ and /S/ respectively
Point and Say: Point to each picture and say the word clearly, emphasising the target sound. Encourage your child to repeat.
Unlocking sounds with semantic prompts
Semantic prompts are fancy words for clues that help your child guess the target sound. They can be simple questions or descriptive words.
‘Can you feel the wind whooshing?’ (/SH/)
Think of tyre going flat, or a balloon losing air, or a train coming to a slow halt (/S/)
Practice makes progress, but fun makes it funnier!
Remember, the key is to keep practice sessions light and engaging. Here are some extra tips:
Short and sweet: Stick to short practice times (5-10 minutes) to avoid frustration.
Make it a routine: Integrate practice time into your daily routine, like after breakfast or before bedtime.
Positive reinforcement: Celebrate your child’s efforts with praise and high fives!
Make it multisensory: Incorporate sensory activities like blowing bubbles for /F/ or feeling the wind for /SH/.
Parents you’re a vital part of your child’s speech development, and together we can make huge progress quickly.
Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice
The London Speech and Feeding Practice
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