Your child’s communication journey

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Understanding our neurodiversity-affirming, child-led approach

Welcome to a different kind of therapy!

Your child’s communication journey

The start of a new year often brings fresh hope, and sometimes fresh worries, for parents supporting their child’s communication. I am always genuinely excited to begin a new journey with children and their families, and I know that, for many parents, this kind of therapy may look very different from what they were expecting.

Parents (and children!) are often surprised to discover that our sessions are playful, joyful, and intentionally low-pressure. You won’t see demands for eye contact, sitting still, or being told to ‘do it this way’ or ‘put the red square there’. Instead, you’ll see your child being met exactly where they are.

For families who have previously experienced more adult-led or behaviour-based approaches including Applied Behaviour Therapy, this difference can feel unfamiliar at first. Because of that, I want to take a moment to prepare you for what child-led, neurodiversity-affirming therapy looks like, so you can feel confident, comfortable, and reassured from day one.

Why doesn’t child-led therapy look like ‘traditional’ therapy?

Many people picture speech and language therapy as sitting at a table, using flashcards, or practising words through repetition. While those approaches can work well for some children, they are often not effective or appropriate for many neurodivergent children—including children with autistic profiles, ADHD, or demand-sensitive nervous systems.

Our approach is grounded in a simple and powerful truth:

Children learn best when they feel safe, motivated, and emotionally connected.

When a child’s nervous system feels calm and secure, learning becomes possible. When a child feels pressured or controlled, communication often shuts down, even if they can speak.

🎯 Our purpose: Communication through connection

Our goal is not simply to help your child say more words. Our goals go deeper and are built on strong foundations:

  • Trust and regulation: We focus on building a trusting relationship where your child feels safe, understood, and emotionally regulated. A calm nervous system is the starting point for all communication.
  • Motivation: We follow your child’s intrinsic motivation, the things they naturally enjoy to make communication meaningful, joyful, and purposeful.
  • Spontaneous communication: We create opportunities for your child to communicate because they want to, not because they are asked or instructed to.

🧸 What to expect in a session

Our sessions are intentionally child-led and often look very much like play.

FeatureWhat it looks likeWhy we do this
Minimal toysWe usually offer just 3–4 carefully chosen activities (such as bubbles, blocks, or sensory play).Less is more. Fewer choices reduce overwhelm and help children focus on what genuinely interests them.
Child choosesYour child decides what to play with and how to engage.This immediately establishes us as a safe, non-demanding partner and increases motivation.
The therapist’s roleWe join your child’s play, observing closely and responding naturally.We model language, share attention, and reflect your child’s experiences in a way that feels natural and supportive.
No pressure or demandsThere are no ‘must-do’ tasks. If your child wants to spin, crash, line up toys, or repeat an activity, we follow.Reducing demands lowers anxiety and supports communication, particularly for children with demand-sensitive profiles.

Is this really effective?

It’s completely natural to wonder, ‘Are they just playing?’ The answer is yes, and very intentionally so.

Our sessions are guided by nearly 30 years of speech and language therapy experience, alongside clear, achievable goals tailored to each individual child. Play is a child’s natural language and their most powerful learning tool.

Within play, we are constantly creating opportunities to:

  • Build joint attention (sharing focus and interest)
  • Model language at the right level
  • Encourage back-and-forth communication
  • Develop a deep, authentic connection

If your child has struggled to engage or communicate in more structured or demand-heavy settings, this child-led approach is often the key to unlocking their potential.

💛 What this might look like at home

You may notice that when pressure is reduced:

  • Your child begins communicating more during everyday routines
  • Language emerges through play, movement, or shared enjoyment
  • Communication feels more natural and less forced

Small moments could be a shared smile, a look, a sound, a gesture. All matter. These are the building blocks of meaningful communication.

📚 Resources for parents

If you’d like to explore these ideas further, you may find the following helpful:

I look forward to meeting you and your child. Please bring any questions, uncertainties, or curiosities to our first session, there is no such thing as a silly question. This is a journey we take together. Contact me via my contact form.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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  • Cycles Approach speech therapy: Why syllables come first

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    and why it matters more than you might think!

    If your child’s speech is difficult to understand, it can feel tempting to focus straight away on individual sounds: those tricky /S/, /K/, or /SH/ sounds that just won’t come out clearly.

    But in therapy, we don’t always start there.

    When a child is very difficult to understand, and I have ruled out that the underlying cause is motor-based, I often opt for the Cycles Phonological Approach. This is helpful for those kids where we can feel like we don’t know where to start! The Cycles Approach helps to generate a broad overall increase in speech clarity by sequentially targeting a variety of speech patterns over the course of 8–10 weeks.

    So rather than working on one sound until it’s ‘fixed,’ we:

    • Work on patterns (not just individual sounds)
    • Target each pattern for a short period of time
    • Then cycle to the next one
    • And come back around again later

    This mirrors how speech development naturally happens: gradually, with increasing accuracy over time.

    Why don’t we start by fixing erroneous sounds straight away?

    To use a metaphor, if a child doesn’t have a strong syllable structure, working on individual sounds is like decorating a house that doesn’t have solid walls yet.

    Many children with speech sound difficulties:

    • Drop syllables (e.g. ‘banana’ → ‘nana’)
    • Simplify longer words
    • Struggle to maintain rhythm and stress patterns

    So, before we refine speech sounds, we need to build the framework of speech.

    Why syllables come first in every cycle

    In the Cycles Approach, we always begin with 2- and 3-syllable words, even if that’s not the main concern.

    Why?

    Because syllable awareness supports:

    • Speech clarity (intelligibility)
    • Word structure and sequencing
    • Prosody (rhythm and stress)
    • Motor planning for longer words

    Without this, even perfectly produced sounds can still be hard to understand in real speech.

    What do ‘2 and 3 beats’ mean?

    When we talk about ‘beats’ we mean syllables you can clap.

    Try it:

    • ‘Table’ → ta-ble (2 beats 👏👏)
    • ‘Banana’ → ba-na-na (3 beats 👏👏👏)

    In therapy, we help children:

    • Hear the beats
    • Feel the rhythm
    • Produce the full word (without dropping parts)

    What this looks like in therapy

    In my sessions, this part of the cycle is active, visual, and repetitive.

    You might see me using:

    • 👏 Clapping or tapping out syllables
    • 🧩 Using visual supports or blocks for each beat
    • 🎲 Play-based repetition of target words
    • 🎯 High-frequency practice (lots of turns!)

    I also keep the focus on success and flow, rather than correction.

    If you’re watching the video clip I’ve shared here, you’ll notice:

    • I’m not over-correcting every sound
    • I’m prioritising getting the whole word out
    • I’m building rhythm, confidence, and consistency

    Why this stage is so powerful

    It can look simple, but it’s doing a lot of heavy lifting.

    Working on syllables helps children:

    • Say longer words more clearly
    • Reduce ‘mumbling’ or collapsing of words
    • Improve overall intelligibility quickly
    • Prepare for more precise sound work later

    Often, parents notice early wins like:

    ✨ ‘They’re easier to understand already’

    ✨ ‘They’re saying longer words!’

    ✨ ‘They’re more confident speaking’

    And that’s before we’ve even fully targeted specific sounds.

    But will my child still learn their sounds?

    Yes. Absolutely.

    The Cycles Approach is structured so that after syllables, we move into:

    • Early developing sounds
    • Then more complex patterns (like fronting or clusters)

    And  importantly, we come back around again.

    Nothing is missed. It’s just sequenced in a way that supports success.

    A different way of thinking about progress

    One of the biggest mindset shifts with the Cycles Approach is this:

    👉 We’re not aiming for perfection straight away

    👉 We’re aiming for gradual system-wide change

    That means:

    • Your child doesn’t need to ‘master’ something before moving on
    • Progress builds across cycles
    • Speech becomes clearer over time, not overnight

    So, to sum up

    Starting with syllables might seem unexpected but it’s one of the most powerful foundations we can give a child whose speech is hard to understand.

    By building rhythm, structure, and confidence first, we make everything that comes next more effective.

    If your child is starting speech therapy and you notice we’re clapping words like ‘banana’ or ‘elephant’, there’s a very good reason for it.

    We’re not going backwards.

    We’re building from the ground up.

    We’re making later sound work more effective and more likely to generalise into everyday talking.

    Next steps:

    If you’re concerned about your child’s speech clarity or wondering whether they might benefit from a structured approach like this, feel free to get in touch. I offer individualised assessments and therapy plans tailored to each child’s speech profile whether that’s early sound development, phonology, or motor speech difficulties.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

    Parent FAQ section

    Why is my child practising words like ‘banana’ instead of sounds like /K/ or /S/?

    Because your child first needs to be able to hold and produce the full shape of a word. If they’re dropping syllables (e.g. ‘banana’ → ‘nana’), working on individual sounds won’t carry over into real speech. We build the structure first, then refine the sounds.

    What if my child can already say some long words?

    That’s great. But we’re looking for consistency and clarity across many words, not just a few familiar ones. This stage helps stabilise that skill so it becomes reliable in everyday talking.

    How long will we stay on syllables?

    Usually, this is a short but important phase within each cycle. We revisit it regularly, but we also move on to other patterns (like specific sounds or sound processes) within the same therapy block.

    Will this delay my child learning their sounds?

    No. In fact, it often speeds things up overall. Once the syllable structure is in place, children are much more able to use correct sounds in longer words and sentences.

    What can I do at home?

    Keep it simple and playful:

    • Clap out words together (e.g. ‘el-e-phant’)
    • Emphasise full words naturally in conversation
    • Repeat back what your child says with the full structure (without pressure)

    Consistency and exposure matter more than correction.

    My child gets frustrated. Will this help?

    Yes. Many children become frustrated when they’re not understood. Improving syllable structure often leads to quick wins in clarity, which can boost confidence and reduce that frustration.

    Building clearer speech: Why we practise syllables first

    What are syllables?

    Syllables are the ‘beats’ in words.

    • ‘Table’ = 2 beats (ta-ble)
    • ‘Banana’ = 3 beats (ba-na-na)

    Why is my child working on this?

    If your child:

    • Drops parts of words (‘banana’ → ‘nana’)
    • Mumbles longer words
    • Is hard to understand

    …then we need to build the structure of words first.

    This helps your child:

    ✔ Say longer words clearly

    ✔ Be easier to understand

    ✔ Feel more confident speaking

    What does this look like in therapy?

    We practise:

    • Clapping or tapping out beats 👏
    • Saying full words with rhythm
    • Repeating target words through play
    • Using visuals or actions to support learning

    How you can help at home

    Keep it light and playful, little and often!

    Try this:

    • Clap words together أثناء play (e.g. toys, food, animals)
    • Model full words naturally (‘Yes, ba-na-na!’)
    • Repeat and expand what your child says

    Example:

    Child: ‘nana’

    You: ‘Yes! Ba-na-na‘

    Important to know

    • This is a key first step in speech therapy
    • We will move on to sounds—but this helps them stick
    • Small changes here can make a big difference in clarity
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    How to use Attention Autism to develop language and communication

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    Now you’ve read Attention Autism (part one), you are familiar with the concept of ‘bucket time’ and the benefits it has to offer your child. It’s time to explore all the different stages. In sessions, it can be noisy and with so much to take in, you may want something to refer to. If you’re in need of a helping hand or memory jogger for stage two, read on…

    Knowing what stage your child is working at is vital. Every stage has different aims to develop and enhance functional communication. So being familiar with your child’s goals ensures you can continue to practise at home. If you’re unsure of their goals, please ask your Speech and Language Therapist.

    With all speech, language and communication goals, the aim is always to generalise skills from therapy settings to home and nursery or school life. This generalisation period will take time. Please try to stick with the plan. You will experience the benefits for your child, and it’ll make family life a little easier.

    You may remember that Autistic children thrive on visuals. Let’s use their strengths to support their communication needs. It is a good idea at the start of the activity to have a visual for what’s happening now and what will happen next. If you’re anything like me, you’ll grab a pen and paper or a whiteboard and whiteboard pen, and will doodle away! You don’t need fancy photos.

    On the left is a bag with Now written above it and Bag below. On the right are three children playing with Net written above and Play written below.

    The attention builder

    Stage two of the Attention Autism approach is called “the attention builder”. The clue is in the name, your child’s goal is to keep focused on the activity for a longer period. The duration will be different for every child, but it’s useful to time their attention, so you can report progress back to your therapist.

    Parents are often worried about doing something wrong. If it all goes a bit pear-shaped or not as you expected, don’t panic! This is the time to ask yourself, did my child have fun? Did they engage in the activity? It’s very helpful to reflect on the experience. What could you do that would make the activity easier for your child to access? (For example, did you set up the activity before your child entered the room? This would allow for a smoother session, so that waiting time was minimal.)

    Three ideas for stage two activities

    There are so many ideas out there, which at times can feel overwhelming. I’m always looking for the easiest options to present to you to reduce overwhelm and allow it to feel manageable.

    Remember this is about having fun. Your child’s communication will benefit from you relaxing and having this structured approach.

    Here are our three top ideas for stage two attention Autism activities:

    1. Flour castles

    You’ll need:

    • Container, cup or glass
    • Flour
    • Sheet (for the table/floor) (optional)

    This is a fun-filled activity to try. But it can get a little messy!

    Fill a small glass, cup or container with flour and flip the cup over to build flour castles. It’s great to engage your child especially with the “Splat” at the end.

    2. Paint balls

    Another activity which is a little bit cleaner is ‘Paint balls’.

    You’ll need:

    • Tray, container
    • Paint
    • Rubber balls or marbles
    • Paper (optional)

    First dip the marbles into the paint, then drop into the container and roll it around to make a pattern. You could always make a pattern on some paper.

    I love to use everyday objects in therapy, so when I came across this next idea, it was added to the list. It’s simple, effective, not to mention clean!

    3. Skittles

    You’ll need:

    • A packet of skittles
    • Warm water
    • Plate

    You’ll need to create a circle of skittles around the edge of the plate. Then add small amounts of warm water to the plate and watch the rainbow of colours appear.

    These activities offer a sequence to build and sustain your child’s attention. Remember the key is to have fun. Create meaningful interactions that your child cannot miss! If they can learn to hold their attention, they can learn to use functional skills.

    Now you’ve got ideas for stage two activities. Go ahead and carry them out.

    Have fun!

    If you need speech, language or communication support or advice, I am always here to help.

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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  • The tricky /R/: Mastering tongue placement for clear speech

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    The /R/ sound is notoriously challenging for many children (and even some adults!). It’s one of the most complex sounds in the English language, with various pronunciations depending on its position in a word. If your child is struggling with their /R/s, you’re not alone. As Speech and Language Therapists (SLTs), we frequently work on this sound, and a key component of our therapy is focusing on proper tongue placement.

    Why is the /R/ so difficult?

    The /R/ sound requires precise coordination of the tongue, jaw, and lips. Unlike sounds like /P/ or /B/ that involve simple lip movements, the /R/ involves intricate tongue movements and tension. There are also different ways to produce the /R/ sound, which adds to the complexity:

    • Retroflex /R/: The tongue tip curls up and back towards the roof of the mouth.
    • Bunched /R/: The body of the tongue bunches up towards the roof of the mouth, while the tongue tip remains down.

    The importance of tongue placement

    Regardless of which /R/ variation is being targeted, accurate tongue placement is crucial. Even a slight deviation can result in a distorted or inaccurate sound. That’s why SLTs dedicate significant time to teaching and practising tongue positioning.

    Speech therapy techniques: Focusing on the tongue

    Here’s a glimpse into how I address /R/ sound difficulties, with a focus on tongue placement:

    • Visual aids:
      • Mirrors: I use a mirror to help children see their tongue movements and make adjustments.
      • Tongue diagrams and models: These visual tools provide a clear representation of where the tongue should be positioned.
    • Tactile cues:
      • Tongue depressors: These can be used to gently guide the tongue into the correct position.
      • Food-grade tools: Sometimes, I use flavoured tongue depressors or other tools to provide tactile feedback and increase awareness of tongue placement.
    • Auditory discrimination:
      • I help children distinguish between correct and incorrect /R/ sounds.
      • I use auditory cues and verbal feedback to reinforce proper pronunciation.
    • Exercises and drills:
      • Tongue strengthening exercises: Strengthening the tongue muscles can improve control and coordination.
      • Tongue placement drills: We practise positioning the tongue in the desired location and holding it there.
      • Sound approximation techniques: Sometimes we use other sounds to help approximate the /R/ sound. For example, I use the /L/ sound, to help achieve the correct tongue placement. Once my child has found the /L/ sound it is then a matter of pulling back just slightly to get a good /R/.
    • Contextual practice:
      • Once the child can produce the /R/ sound in isolation, we gradually introduce it into syllables, words, phrases, and sentences.
      • We also practise the /R/ sound in different contexts, such as at the beginning, middle, and end of words.

    Tips for Parents:

    • Be patient and supportive: Learning the /R/ sound takes time and practice.
    • Practise regularly: Short, frequent practice sessions are more effective than long, infrequent ones.
    • Make it fun! Use games, stories, and other engaging activities to keep your child motivated.
    • Work with an SLT: A qualified SLT can provide personalised guidance and support.

    In conclusion:

    The /R/ sound can be challenging, but with targeted speech therapy and a focus on tongue placement, most children can achieve clear and accurate pronunciation.

    I hope this blog post is helpful!

    Get in touch with me via my contact form if you need support

    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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  • Using AAC – Augmentative and Alternative Communication for non-verbal and early verbal children

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    Using a Core Vocabulary Board

    Your Speech Therapist might have been advising you to introduce words to your child with the help of a CORE BOARD. What on earth is she talking about and why would we want to do this, I hear you think – and in fact this is what I get asked a lot, as I often do recommend using Core Boards.

    Core boards belong to the category of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC ) and they can be really useful for:

    • Children or adults who cannot speak at all or who are very hard to understand.
    • Children who are slow to speak and have difficulty expressing themselves verbally, due to genetic conditions as Down Syndrome, Verbal dyspraxia, Autism or any other learning difficulty that means a child is slow to develop speech.

    Here is what a Core board might look like, in fact this is one that I love to use. It is made by Beautiful Speech Life, there are a ton of similar boards out there for free. I have also made my own, you can check it out on my Instagram feed.

    Using a Core Vocabulary Board

    What is Core Vocabulary/ Core words?

    Core vocabulary consists of the most common words used by children throughout a day. In 2003 Banajee and Dicarlo et al found that 50 % of pre-schoolers in their project used nine words consistently across their daily play and meal routines. These words are Core words and are typically the ones you can see on a board, like the one above.

    How To Use It

    Adults always first need to consistently model and show their child how to use a board. This is key! For example: Adult can point to “YOU” “WANT” ‘MORE” and then point to the cup of Water on the counter. Child could then reply either by shaking his/her head and/or pointing to “NOT” which also stands for “NO”. Then adult can point to “NOT” “MORE” and do an OK sign as well. Eventually Child can initiate a request and point to “I” “ WANT” “MORE” and then point to the cup on the counter.

    This is not as cumbersome or limited as it first sounds or appears. Here’s why: As adult you can talk normally and, of course, many words you are using will not be on this board. But some will be, and you will be surprised how many you can find when you start using it. So you could say quite normally: Hey lovely (name of your child) would YOU LIKE some MORE water? The words in capital are on the board which you can point to as you speak normally. Basically, you are showing/saying to your child: “We can speak and these are the pictures we can use to help us; We call this TOTAL COMMUNICATION, as communication is so much more than just words! Great communication can be silent, where we use our facial expression, our smile, our eyes, our hand gestures, body movements and yes, of course, words. But when words fail us, these boards are so helpful.

    This still does not answer your original question of: why would I want to do this, I want my child to talk!? You are a SPEECH Therapist, please help my child TALK, not point to pictures, that is not what I had in mind.

    Let Me Explain

    When speech is difficult for a child it doesn’t mean that there is nothing to talk about! Of course, we want all our children and all people to speak because it is the easiest and most effective way of communicating, no doubt! However, sometimes this is very hard for some children and whilst we are always working towards speech where possible, we also want to make sure that whilst figuring out how to speak, your child has a MEANS TO COMMUNICATE. Using a board like this might well be a temporary strategy but whilst you are using it and working on their speech you will find a reduction in tantrums and frustration as you child is able to express themselves more effectively.

    Often we find that as soon as we offer a CORE VOCABULARY like the above sample a child who has had no or very few words suddenly blossoms and starts to point to new words on the board and starts to PRACTICE USING THESE WORDS!! Practice makes perfect, right? Yes it totally does! There is lots of evidence that tells us that using Core Vocabulary Boards ENHANCE AND SUPPORT SPEECH PRODUCTION AND NOT HINDER IT. Using a board like this will only ever be helpful to your child and will never make your child “lazy” – too lazy to speak? NO SUCH THING!

    Here is what one of my parents says about the core board we use with her little boy:

    “the board has been a game changer, my son is a visual learner so it really helps to have the board as he associates communication so much easier this way. We have incorporated his twin sister who models it’s use and have definitely seen improvement in speech through its support and his frustration around being unable to verbally communicate at times has definitely lessened”

    K Connolly, Mother of Tom (aged 3.5 years).

    Reading and hearing this makes me so happy!

    In addition to general core board above I also sometimes use a Core Board that is specific to an activity, such as for example BLOWING BUBBLES. Below is an example of such a board, which you can use very nicely during a bubble blowing activity and sometimes it is a nice place to start for newcomers, this can be an easy introduction. You can download this and many similar boards on www.widgit.com for free!

    Using a Core Vocabulary Board

    There is so much more to say about AAC and using Coreboards, visit my Instagram you can find a bit more information on how I use them.

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Something that keeps surprising me…

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    After thirty years of helping children with lisps, you’d think very little would still surprise me. And yet…

    Girl looking at herself in a mirror and looking at her tongue

    Every few weeks, a lovely, and well-informed parent will describe their five, six, or seven year-old’s slushy, sideways /S/ and then ask ‘So, how many sessions do we need to fix this? Perhaps five–six? ‘

    And every time, I have to resist the urge to laugh, cry, and reach for the biscuits all at once. Because the honest answer, for an established lateral lisp in a school-aged child, is usually twenty sessions or more. Wait! Hear me out!…

    ‘Why so many?!’ … once you understand what’s actually going on inside your child’s mouth, the number 20+ does no longer sound outrageous and starts sounding rather reasonable.

    First: not all lisps are equal

    Most people picture a lisp as the gentle, even endearing /TH/ for /S/ — ‘thnake’ instead of ‘snake’. That’s an inter-dental lisp, where the tongue pokes forward between the teeth. It’s common, it’s developmentally normal in younger children, and this is the important bit, it’s usually visible. It’s still a bit tricky to correct at first but I often can show a child what to do, they can watch themselves in a mirror, and quite often we’re away. But it still takes a lot longer than parents think because just fixing the sound does not mean it will be produced correctly in normal, daily speech and conversation.

    Lateral lisp

    A lateral lisp on the other hand is an entirely different animal. Instead of the air flowing in a neat central stream down a groove in the middle of the tongue, it spills out over the sides, around the molars. The result is that wet, slushy, quality. It affects not just /S/ and /Z/, but very often /SH/, /CH/ and /J/ too which is a big chunk of English.

    Here’s the snag: it’s happening where nobody can see it. There’s no mirror in the world that shows you the sides of your tongue as you are speaking, or chewing for that matter. We’re teaching a child to control a movement they can’t see, can’t easily feel, and have never once performed correctly in their life.

    By five, six or even seven years old your child has said the /S/ sound about several hundred times a day, every day, for several years. It’s one of the most frequent sounds in English: it makes our plurals, our possessives, our verb endings. Every ‘cats’, ‘let’s’, ‘she runs’.

    So we are now talking about a deeply ingrained motor habit, rehearsed tens of thousands of times, that now feels completely normal and correct to the child producing it. We’re not teaching a new skill onto a blank page; we’re overwriting a very strong habit. Think of a tennis player with a flawed serve who’s played for five years… You don’t fix that in a fortnight, and nobody expects you to.

    The good news is: school children, seven-year-old and up, are brilliant at this work. They can self-monitor, they can practise independently, they can hear the difference. It just takes time.

    The quiet culprit: where the tongue lives at rest…

    Here’s the piece that most parents have never heard, and it explains a lot.

    When the mouth is at rest, the tongue should sit up — tip resting lightly behind the top front teeth, body gently suctioned to the roof of the mouth, lips together, breathing through the nose.

    Many children with a lateral lisp have a low, forward resting tongue posture. The tongue sits on the floor of the mouth, often with the lips slightly apart. This is frequently associated with a history of mouth breathing, blocked noses and allergies, enlarged tonsils or adenoids, prolonged dummy or thumb-sucking, and sometimes dental or orthodontic differences such as an open bite.

    Why does this matter so much? Because a good /S/ requires the tongue’s sides to brace firmly against the upper back teeth to form that central channel. A tongue that spends 23 hours a day flopped on the floor of the mouth simply doesn’t have the habitual strength, position or awareness to do that on demand. We can teach a beautiful /S/ in the clinic — but if the tongue’s default setting is ‘down’, we’re swimming upstream all week.

    So, for many children, part of the work is establishing a better resting posture alongside the sound itself. That’s foundational and it’s slow.

    So what does twenty-plus sessions actually achieve?

    Therapy for a lateral lisp moves through a strict hierarchy, and you cannot skip a rung:

    • Auditory discrimination: Can they hear the difference? (Often, initially, no.)
    • Eliciting the sound: Sometimes a single session, can be six.
    • Stabilisation: Building consistency in isolation, then syllables, then single words (beginning, middle, end).
    • Blends: Mastering challenging combinations like ‘spoon’, ‘street’, and ‘smile’.
    • Sentences: Moving to phrases, full sentences, and structured conversation.
    • Generalisation: Using it naturally with family, at school, when tired, or when telling a long story.
    • Self-monitoring: Training them to catch and correct themselves without therapist intervention.

    Rushing a level guarantees a collapse two levels later. I’ve never once regretted going slowly; I’ve frequently regretted going fast.

    The bit that decides everything: home practice

    Let me be blunt in a nice way 😊 The child who practises five to ten minutes a day, six days a week, will finish in half the time of the child who practises the night before their session.

    An hour with me per week is roughly 1% of your child’s waking life. The other 99% is where habits are made or unmade. What I need at home is:

    • Short and daily beats long and occasional: Five focused minutes, ideally at a consistent time.
    • Practise only at the set level: If we’re on words, don’t leap to sentences. That’s how we go backwards.
    • Give specific feedback: Say ‘that one was lovely and sharps or ‘that one slipped sideways, try again’.
    • Hold back on everyday corrections: Don’t correct them in normal conversation until we’re ready.
    • Record them occasionally: Children love hearing their own tangible progress.

    The bottom line

    I’m good at this. I’ve been doing it for thirty years and I love it. But I’m a therapist, not a magician, and the parents who get the best outcomes are the ones who view this as a partnership. When we work together—combining expert clinic guidance with steady, gentle practice at home, that ‘twenty-plus’ number isn’t a sentence. It’s simply the guideline to giving your child a clear, confident voice for the rest of their life.

    Do get in touch with me. I would love to hear from you and help you and your child.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    The power of imitation in supporting children with autism

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
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    Imitation, the act of mirroring someone else’s actions, gestures, sounds, or words, is a fundamental skill that plays a crucial role in human development. It’s how babies learn to wave ‘bye-bye’, how toddlers pick up new words, and how children acquire social skills. But for children with autism imitation can be a significant challenge and understanding why it’s important and how to foster it becomes a key focus for parents, educators, and speech and language therapists.

    Why is imitation important?

    Imitation is a building block for a wide range of developmental skills:

    • Social interaction: Imitation is the foundation of social reciprocity. When a child imitates, he or she is engaging in a shared experience, connecting with another person, and learning to take turns in social exchanges.
    • Communication development: Imitation is closely linked to language acquisition. Children often imitate sounds and words before they can produce them independently. Imitation also helps them understand the meaning of gestures and facial expressions, which are vital for nonverbal communication.
    • Cognitive development: Imitation plays a role in problem-solving, learning new skills, and understanding cause and effect. By imitating actions, children explore their environment and learn how things work.
    • Emotional development: Imitation helps children understand and share emotions. When a child imitates a smile, he or she may begin to understand the feeling of happiness.

    Imitation challenges in autism

    Many children with autism face challenges with imitation, which can affect their development in these key areas. These challenges can manifest in different ways:

    • Difficulty imitating motor actions: Children with autism may struggle to imitate simple motor movements, such as clapping hands, waving, or playing ‘peek-a-boo’.
    • Limited vocal imitation: Imitating sounds, words, and phrases can be difficult for some children with autism, which can impact their speech development.
    • Challenges with social imitation: Imitating social cues, such as facial expressions, gestures, and body language, can be particularly challenging for children with autism, affecting their ability to engage in social interactions.

    Why do children with autism struggle with imitation?

    The exact reasons for imitation difficulties in autism are complex and not fully understood. However, several factors may contribute:

    • Neurological differences: Research suggests that differences in brain structure and function, particularly in areas involved in social perception and motor control, may play a role.
    • Sensory processing differences: Some children with autism may have sensory differences that make it difficult to attend to and process the movements or sounds they are expected to imitate.
    • Attention and motivation: Challenges with attention, focus, and social motivation can also affect a child’s ability to engage in imitation.

    How to foster imitation in children with autism

    Fortunately, imitation skills can be developed and improved through targeted interventions and strategies. Here are some approaches that I use in my practice as a speech and language therapist working with autistic children and their families:

    • Create a playful and engaging environment: Children are more likely to imitate when they are having fun and feel motivated. I use toys, games, and activities that the child enjoys.
    • Start with simple imitation: Begin by imitating simple motor movements that the child is already capable of and gradually introduce more complex actions.
    • Imitate the child first: As the Hanen Program emphasises, imitating the child’s actions, sounds, and words can encourage him or her to interact and communicate more.
    • Use visual supports: Visual aids, such as pictures, photos or videos, can help children with autism understand what is expected of them and make imitation easier.
    • Break down complex actions: Divide complex actions into smaller, more manageable steps. For example, to teach a child to brush their teeth, break it down into steps like ‘pick up toothbrush’, ‘put toothpaste on brush’, and ‘move brush on teeth’.
    • Reinforce imitation attempts: Provide positive reinforcement, such as praise, smiles, or preferred activities, when the child attempts to imitate, even if the imitation is not perfect.
    • Integrate imitation into daily routines: Incorporate imitation into everyday activities, such as imitating sounds during playtime, imitating gestures during songs, or imitating actions during self-care routines.

    The role of speech therapy

    Speech-language therapists play a crucial role in helping children with autism develop imitation skills, particularly in the areas of vocal and verbal imitation. As part of my therapeutic role, I offer the following:

    • Assessing a child’s imitation abilities.
    • Developing individualised therapy plans to target specific imitation goals.
    • Using a variety of techniques to encourage vocal imitation.
    • Working with parents and caregivers to provide strategies and support for promoting imitation at home.

    Summary

    Imitation is a fundamental skill that is essential for social, communication, cognitive, and emotional development. While children with autism may face challenges with imitation, it is a skill that can be developed and improved with targeted interventions and support. By understanding the importance of imitation and using effective strategies to foster it, parents, educators, and therapists can make a significant difference in the lives of children with autism, helping them to connect with others, learn new skills, and reach their full potential.

    Do get in touch via my contact form if you have any question or need help with supporting your little one.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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