Explaining pronoun reversal: A window into gestalt language processing

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Explaining pronoun reversal: A window into gestalt language processing

Have you noticed your child referring to themselves as ‘you’, or calling you ‘me’? This seemingly confusing mix-up of pronouns, known as pronoun reversal, often raises concerns for parents. Below I outline why your child does this and want to reassure you that it is to do with his or her unique language learning style.

Gestalt language processing: Learning in chunks

Many children, particularly those on the autism spectrum, use a gestalt language processing approach. Unlike analytic language processors who learn individual words and build sentences, gestalt language processors learn language in whole ‘chunks’ or ‘gestalts’. Think of these gestalts as pre-packaged scripts they pick up from their environment — phrases, sentences, even snippets of songs or movie lines.

As Marge Blanc, author of Natural language acquisition on the autism spectrum, explains, ‘When a child picks up an entire gestalt (script), he’s got the pronoun of the original speaker. So ‘pronoun reversal’ is nothing more than that.’

So your child is simply repeating what they’ve heard, without yet understanding the individual word meanings or grammatical functions.

Imagine your child hearing ‘You want a rice cake?’ repeated frequently. They might then use this phrase to express their own desire for a rice cake, even though it doesn’t grammatically fit. So they are thinking and saying ‘You want a rice cake?’ and the meaning of this phrase is: ‘I want a rice cake’. This isn’t a sign of confusion, but a natural step in their language development. They’re working with the tools they have: the scripts they’ve acquired.

How can we support their natural language journey

Instead of trying to ‘correct’ pronoun usage, our role as caregivers and speech therapists is to support the child’s natural language progression. Here’s how we can do this:

  1. Learn about their gestalt stage and run with it: In the early stages (1–3) of gestalt language development, correcting pronouns can be counterproductive. These children are still processing language as whole units, not individual words. Direct corrections can lead to frustration and hinder their natural language exploration.
  2. Patience and trust: Gestalt language processing follows a predictable, albeit sometimes non-linear, path. By understanding their current stage, we can provide targeted support. Language sampling and scoring, guided by the Natural Language Acquisition framework, help us pinpoint their stage and tailor our approach.
  3. Model language strategically: In the early stages, avoid using pronouns like ‘you’ and ‘you’re’. Instead, model language from the child’s perspective or use joint perspectives. For example, instead of ‘Are you thirsty?’, try ‘I’m thirsty!’ or ‘Let’s get some water’,

The big picture: Language unfolds naturally

Pronoun reversal is a stepping stone, not a stumbling block. As gestalt language processors progress, they begin to break down these gestalts into smaller units and develop their own self-generated language. This is when their understanding and use of pronouns naturally emerge.

By shifting our perspective from ‘error correction’ to ‘developmental support’, we create a nurturing environment for these children to thrive. We empower them to navigate their unique language journey, ultimately leading to more meaningful and independent communication.

So, to summarise:

  • Pronoun reversal is a typical characteristic of early-stage gestalt language processing.
  • Focus on modelling language from the child’s perspective or a joint perspective.
  • Avoid correcting pronouns in the early stages.
  • Trust the process and support the child’s natural language development.

Let’s celebrate the diverse ways our children learn to communicate and empower them to find their unique voice!

If you have any questions or would like some help with understanding your little gestalt language learner, please get in touch with me via my contact form.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

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      There are other unconventional speech behaviours which include:

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      • Vocalisations such as: humming, whistling, clicking, squealing etc.

      Much research has gone into the meaning and treatment of Echolalia and the following list consists of possible functions that have been identified:

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      (Stiegler 2015, Prizant 1983)

      Echolalia does have a function and is part of the Gestalt Learning Process (where longer units of speech are memorised and then used as a whole without the individual words being meaningful).

      As a Speech and Language Therapist I promote sound and proven Intervention based on the Hanen Programme which helps provide a highly facilitative Interaction Style and I will tell you a bit more in my next blog how the “More Than Words” approach can help children with echolalia move through their Gestalt Learning into more analytic processing of language, grammar and meaning.


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      Dynamic assessment – Let’s look beyond the checklist

      As a parent, you’re always observing your child, celebrating his or her milestones, and sometimes, wondering if he or she is quite on track. When it comes to speech, language, play, attention, and listening, these early years are a whirlwind of development! It’s natural to seek guidance if you have concerns, and that’s where a truly comprehensive assessment comes in.

      But what exactly does ‘comprehensive’ mean, especially when it goes beyond a typical checklist? You can find any number of check lists online these days but whilst they can give you an overall idea of what a child is typically expected to do at any given age, it can also start leading you into a rabbit hole of anxiety of ‘what-iffery’.

      At The London Speech and Feeding Practice I believe in something far more insightful than a static evaluation: Dynamic Assessment. Think of it as an in-depth, interactive investigation into your child’s unique communication landscape, exploring not just what he or she can do, but how he or she learns and why he or she might be facing challenges. This is so important.

      What makes an assessment ‘dynamic’?

      Imagine trying to understand a child’s personality by just looking at a single photograph. It gives you a glimpse, but it hardly tells the whole story. Traditional, formal assessments, while valuable, can sometimes be like that photograph – a snapshot of skills at one specific moment.

      Dynamic assessment, on the other hand, is a living, breathing process. It’s called ‘dynamic’ because:

      • It’s interactive and responsive: It adapts to your child’s needs in real-time. It’s not about sticking rigidly to a pre-set schedule of tests. Instead, it’s about observing, gently prompting, and providing support to see how your child responds and learns. This allows me to understand his or her learning potential, not just his or her current performance.
      • It’s holistic and multi-faceted: I look at the whole child. We delve deep into not just speech and language, but also his or her play skills (a crucial window into cognitive and social development), attention and listening abilities, and his or her social engagement. These areas are intricately linked, and a delay in one can often impact others.
      • It integrates multiple perspectives: Your insights as a parent are invaluable! Before we even meet, my comprehensive onboarding questionnaire gathers essential background. During the assessment, your feedback, observations, and comments are woven into the fabric of our session. You are the expert on your child, and your voice is central to forming a complete picture.
      Dynamic assessment – Let’s look beyond the checklist

      More than just ‘speech’: A deep dive into development

      You might initially be concerned about your child’s speech sounds, or perhaps his or her ability to form sentences. These are vital areas, but my approach goes much further. I’m keen to understand:

      • The ‘why’ behind the ‘what’: Is a child struggling with language because of difficulties with understanding instructions (receptive language), or with expressing themselves (expressive language)? Are his or her attention skills impacting his or her ability to follow a conversation? Is his or her play demonstrating imaginative thought, or does he or she prefer more structured, repetitive activities? These nuances are critical.
      • Differential diagnosis: This is where the skill of an experienced clinician truly comes into its own. Through dynamic assessment, I can differentiate between a developmental delay (where a child is following a typical progression but at a slower pace) and a disorder (where his or her development is following an atypical pattern). This distinction is vital because it guides the type of support and intervention that will be most effective. Understanding the cause of the delay or disorder is paramount to creating a targeted, impactful therapy plan.

      The art of observation

      While I draw upon evidence-based practice as well as a formal, standardised assessment as well as my extensive clinical knowledge, I also rely heavily on the art of observation. From the moment your child walks into the room, I’m establishing rapport, engaging them in play, and creating a safe, fun environment. It’s through this genuine interaction – often without them even realising they’re being ‘assessed’ – that the most authentic insights emerge.

      This is where the magic happens:

      • Building rapport: A child who feels comfortable and connected will show you so much more of his or her true abilities and personality. I pride myself on creating an atmosphere where children can relax and simply be themselves.
      • Play as a window: Play isn’t just fun; it’s a child’s natural language. It reveals his or her understanding of the world, his or her problem-solving skills, his or her social engagement, and his or her ability to use symbols and language.
      • Skilled interpretation: My years of experience allow me to see beyond surface-level behaviours and interpret the subtle cues that might indicate underlying strengths or challenges. This goes far beyond what any standardised test alone can capture.

      Why choose a clinician who offers dynamic assessment?

      In essence, a dynamic assessment provides a rich, nuanced, and truly personalised understanding of your child. It’s an investment in:

      • Accuracy: Leading to a more precise diagnosis and understanding of his or her unique profile.
      • Tailored support: Enabling the creation of highly individualised therapy goals that truly meet your child where he or she is and gently guide him or her forward.
      • Empowerment: You’ll leave with not just answers, but also practical strategies and a clear path forward, feeling confident and informed.

      If you’re seeking a thorough, empathetic, and truly insightful assessment for your child’s communication development in London, I invite you to get in touch. Let’s work together to unlock your child’s full potential.

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      Support your child’s communication using books: OI FROG

      Sonja's top recommendation: Oi Frog, written by Kes Gray and Jim Field. An exciting book for children to enhance their speech, language and communication.
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      Book corner with Oi Frog! by Kes Gray and Jim Field.

      Books are an engaging way to support your child’s communication development. Even if your little one dislikes reading in the traditional sense. They will become immersed in this adventure, without realising they are taking in language and developing vital communication skills. This is one of my favourite series for children.

      Increase fun and interaction

      These books are made for fun and excitement! It may seem silly putting on different voices for different characters, but this is one way in which you can engage your child. Why not try to use different intonation patterns (e.g., you may use a deep voice for the dog, and a higher pitch for the cat)? Make your story interactive: you could ‘rawww’ like a lion and see who can make the loudest noise. Make noises to encourage interaction (e.g., when scratching his chin, make a squeaky sound!). You could also relate the experience back to your child (e.g., ‘can you scratch your chin?’).

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      Talk about what you can see on the front cover (e.g., There’s a frog on a log, how funny!) You could also ask your child to choose the rhyming words on a page in the book. Can your child tell you what rhymes with certain words (e.g., can you guess what a parrot sits on?)? Make use of every page. You could comment on your favourite frog and see if your child can talk about their favourite. You can support them by giving them an example (“my favourite frog is the one swimming backwards because he looks funny”). Then you could use this scaffold to support their answer. Your favourite is [________________] because [_________________]

      If your child is reluctant to use language, the use of commenting can take the pressure of them (“look at all those frogs” or “he’s climbing up the stool”) is a powerful way in which you (as parents) can take the pressure off your child. A top tip I like to give is to make sure you pause regularly, which creates opportunities for your child to use language.

      This book uses a subject-verb-object sentence structure (e.g., ‘hares sit on chairs’) which allows your child to hear a good model of a sentence. You could also talk about things in the book that belong in a certain category (e.g., animals, food) or begin with a specific sound. See if your child will name any more.

      Reap the reward of repetitive language

      Oi Frog uses repetitive rhyming language and puts emphasis on these words. This is important because the more your child hears a word, the more likely they are to remember, understand and use it in the correct context.

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      Talk about how the animals feel and why they may feel this emotion (e.g., the cat’s feeling annoyed because…, Lions sit on irons, how does the lion feel?). Reasons can be difficult for children with communication difficulties. Support them by giving an example or by giving them an option (e.g., “does the lion feel happy or sad? I think the lion feels sad because he’s burnt his bottom on the iron! It’s too hot!”)

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      Why not read similar stories? I highly recommend OI CAT, OI DOG and OI DUCK-BILLED PLATYPUS.

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