There’s often this idea that autistic children have extensive vocabulary and knowledge, but this is not always the case. In fact, 30% of autistic children have language regression.
Goldberg (2003) suggested that speech and language regression refers to the decline in a young child’s speech and communication abilities. We know that regression in speech, language and communication skills often occur before the age of two years. 25% of autistic children develop language at word level between 12 and 18 months of age before losing this language they have learned. As you’re probably aware this regression in communication is a diagnostic indicator of Autism.
We understand that you want your child to progress, and you struggle to watch as their frustration grows as you feel helpless. I want to provide you with tips so that you can feel empowered to support your autistic child and reduce the impact their communication skills have on the family.
Reduce frustration by providing visuals to support their communication
Praise the ability to communicate. Focus on what they say not how they say it. E.g., good listening, nice talking.
Provide your child with choices (using real objects to represent your choices). E.g., do you want an apple or banana?
Your child must be motivated and have a purpose to communicate. So, ensure you use highly motivating objects for conversations
Provide them with opportunities to communicate. We need to teach children that if they want something, there’s a process that you need to have the opportunity to ask for it. We find that if parents understand what their child wants (without them asking), the object is given to them, and so there’s no reason for your child to ask.
There’s this idea that we need to teach children eye contact. This is not always the case. Your child is unique, we do not want to take their unique skills away.
Model words which are concrete. E.g., words such as ‘finished’, ‘more’. You can model these several times within the day. You can use a gesture to make the word more visual (see the images below). We know that autistic children are often visual learners.
Remember that if your child has speech, language and communication regression, it doesn’t mean your child will stay static.
It’s vital that you seek support from a qualified Speech and Language Therapist. We can tell you at what point in the communication development that your child is at. And we can support you through the process. We can provide you with an individualised plan specifically for your child to ensure you maximise their potential.
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‘What kind of speech difficulty does my child have?’
It’s a very understandable question. We often hear different terms such as phonological delay, articulation difficulties, or Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS), and it can be confusing.
The reality is that many children don’t fit neatly into one single category.
In fact, quite often I see children whose speech profile includes a mixture of difficulties. They might have some phonological patterns (where they substitute one sound for another) alongside challenges with motor speech planning, where coordinating the movements needed for speech is harder.
When this happens, therapy needs to be flexible, responsive, and tailored to the child sitting in front of us.
Example
Recently I filmed a short clip from one of my therapy sessions which shows exactly how this works in practice.
The child I was working with has difficulties with several speech sounds. Part of the challenge relates to a phonological pattern called fronting.
Fronting is when sounds that should be made further back in the mouth (like /K/ or /G/) are produced further forward instead.
At the same time, this child also shows signs of motor speech planning difficulty, which means the brain has to work harder to organise and sequence the movements of the tongue, lips and jaw for speech.
This type of profile can sometimes overlap with characteristics seen in Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS).
When difficulties overlap like this, therapy cannot rely on a single approach. Instead, it needs to draw on multiple evidence-based strategies.
That is exactly what you see happening in the clip. We started out generalising the /K/ sound which until recently had been replaced by a /T/ sound. Whilst looking at a sound loaded picture of /K/ sounds we somehow got talking about a ‘dent’ (I don’t recall how we got there!) but the ‘dent’ was a ‘det’ and I decided to tackle this there and then because there are other great words that end in ‘nt’ like : ‘count’ ‘giant’ ‘point’ or ‘paint’.
Using visual cues to support motor planning
Speech is incredibly complex. For children with motor speech difficulties, the challenge is not only knowing what sound they want to say, but also how to move their mouth to produce it.
This is where visual cues can be incredibly helpful.
In the clip, you can see me using a whiteboard with pictures and simple visual prompts. These help to:
Focus attention on the target sound
Understand where the sound occurs in the word
Remember the sequence of sounds needed
Visual supports can act almost like a map for the mouth, guiding children as they practise new speech movements.
For children with motor planning difficulties, this type of cueing can make a huge difference.
Why repetition of a single word (massed practice) is so important
Another key feature you will notice in the clip is lots of repetition.
This is very deliberate.
When we are supporting children with motor speech challenges, the brain needs repeated opportunities to practise the correct movement patterns. Just like learning a musical instrument or a new sport, repetition helps the brain build stronger and more efficient pathways.
In therapy we call this massed practice.
Rather than saying a word only once or twice, we practise it many times in a structured way, helping the child stabilise the new speech pattern.
But repetition alone is not enough. The child also needs to understand why the sound matters.
Showing children that sounds change meaning
This is where another powerful therapy approach comes in: minimal pairs.
Minimal pairs are word pairs that differ by only one sound. For example:
debt
dent
In the clip, I use these two words to help the child realise that the /N/ sound makes a meaningful difference.
Without the /N/, the word becomes something else entirely.
This approach helps children recognise that speech sounds are not random: they carry meaning. If a sound is missing or substituted, the message may change.
Helping children notice these differences can be a very motivating moment in therapy. Suddenly the sound is no longer just an abstract exercise; it becomes part of real communication.
Blending approaches for the best outcomes
In this short therapy moment, I am combining:
• Visual cueing
• Motor speech practice
• High repetition (massed practice)
• Minimal pair contrasts
• Listening and awareness of sound differences
Each element supports a different part of the speech system.
Some strategies help with motor planning, others support phonological awareness, and others build accuracy and consistency.
Together they create a therapy session that is both structured and responsive.
Every child’s speech journey is unique
One of the most important things I want to convey is that speech development is not always straightforward.
Two children may both struggle with speech sounds, yet the underlying reasons may be very different.
This is why careful assessment is essential, and why therapy needs to stay flexible as we learn more about how a child’s speech system works.
Sometimes a child needs more motor-based work.
Sometimes the focus shifts towards phonological contrasts.
Often, as in this example, the most effective therapy uses both.
Small steps lead to big progress
Every session helps us understand a little more about how a child’s speech system works and what support will help them move forward.
And when the pieces start to come together, when a child realises that one tiny sound can change a whole word, that is when the real progress begins.
If you are concerned about your child’s speech sounds, clarity of speech, or possible motor speech difficulties, early support can make a significant difference. A detailed assessment can help identify the nature of the difficulty and guide a therapy approach tailored to your child’s individual needs.
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Now you’ve read Attention Autism (part one), you are familiar with the concept of ‘bucket time’ and the benefits it has to offer your child. It’s time to explore all the different stages. In sessions, it can be noisy and with so much to take in, you may want something to refer to. If you’re in need of a helping hand or memory jogger for stage two, read on…
Knowing what stage your child is working at is vital. Every stage has different aims to develop and enhance functional communication. So being familiar with your child’s goals ensures you can continue to practise at home. If you’re unsure of their goals, please ask your Speech and Language Therapist.
With all speech, language and communication goals, the aim is always to generalise skills from therapy settings to home and nursery or school life. This generalisation period will take time. Please try to stick with the plan. You will experience the benefits for your child, and it’ll make family life a little easier.
You may remember that Autistic children thrive on visuals. Let’s use their strengths to support their communication needs. It is a good idea at the start of the activity to have a visual for what’s happening now and what will happen next. If you’re anything like me, you’ll grab a pen and paper or a whiteboard and whiteboard pen, and will doodle away! You don’t need fancy photos.
The attention builder
Stage two of the Attention Autism approach is called “the attention builder”. The clue is in the name, your child’s goal is to keep focused on the activity for a longer period. The duration will be different for every child, but it’s useful to time their attention, so you can report progress back to your therapist.
Parents are often worried about doing something wrong. If it all goes a bit pear-shaped or not as you expected, don’t panic! This is the time to ask yourself, did my child have fun? Did they engage in the activity? It’s very helpful to reflect on the experience. What could you do that would make the activity easier for your child to access? (For example, did you set up the activity before your child entered the room? This would allow for a smoother session, so that waiting time was minimal.)
Three ideas for stage two activities
There are so many ideas out there, which at times can feel overwhelming. I’m always looking for the easiest options to present to you to reduce overwhelm and allow it to feel manageable.
Remember this is about having fun. Your child’s communication will benefit from you relaxing and having this structured approach.
Here are our three top ideas for stage two attention Autism activities:
1. Flour castles
You’ll need:
Container, cup or glass
Flour
Sheet (for the table/floor) (optional)
This is a fun-filled activity to try. But it can get a little messy!
Fill a small glass, cup or container with flour and flip the cup over to build flour castles. It’s great to engage your child especially with the “Splat” at the end.
2. Paint balls
Another activity which is a little bit cleaner is ‘Paint balls’.
You’ll need:
Tray, container
Paint
Rubber balls or marbles
Paper (optional)
First dip the marbles into the paint, then drop into the container and roll it around to make a pattern. You could always make a pattern on some paper.
I love to use everyday objects in therapy, so when I came across this next idea, it was added to the list. It’s simple, effective, not to mention clean!
3. Skittles
You’ll need:
A packet of skittles
Warm water
Plate
You’ll need to create a circle of skittles around the edge of the plate. Then add small amounts of warm water to the plate and watch the rainbow of colours appear.
These activities offer a sequence to build and sustain your child’s attention. Remember the key is to have fun. Create meaningful interactions that your child cannot miss! If they can learn to hold their attention, they can learn to use functional skills.
Now you’ve got ideas for stage two activities. Go ahead and carry them out.
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When working with Gestalt Language Processors, it is always advisable to use child-led therapy. What does that mean? Child led therapy involves following a child’s interests and allowing her/him to lead the play activity throughout the speech and language therapy session. In other words, instead of having my own ideas of what we might want to play with or what activities I might try and use, I provide a range of toys I know the child likes or has played well with before; then I wait for the child to pick what she/he enjoys doing.
Play can be very repetitive and we can often see our child cycling back to the same one or two toys throughout the session. But this is what she/he needs to do at that time and it means that we have focused attention and engagement. This in turn is very helpful for the therapeutic process, which is to offer great scripts and phrases/words alongside what she/he is playing with.
Monotropic minds
Often the mind of autistic children is more strongly pulled towards a smaller number of interests or hobbies as I like to call them. Dr Dinah Murray, Dr Winn Lawson and Mike Lesser have found in 2005 that autistic people have ‘monotropic’ minds. They explain that autistic children focus their energy on a narrow range of activities as the energy required to switch between several toys is much higher than we would see in the neuro-typical population.
Gestalt Language Processors are often also Gestalt Cognitive Processors. This is when experiences are retained as episodic events and memories. An event is remembered by specific parts of the same event. And, therefore, these specific parts should always be part of that event, when the event is repeated.
Should any of the specifics be changed or are missing, then this can cause great upset to Gestalt Cognitive Processors. So, for example, if the last two times in speech therapy we had the train set out and this was played with happily, then this becomes a specific part of the whole session. If, I then don’t offer the train set the third time a child comes to see me, this could be very upsetting.
This is why I tend to try this out and see what happens. Usually in the 3rd or 4th session: I might not bring out the car run that has hitherto been super successful to see if we are able to transition well to other toys. If yes, then we can have new experiences but if not then I will re-offer the car run/or whatever toy pretty quickly so as not to cause complete dysregulation.
A few pointers below which help with child-led play:
Introduce a few new toys and see what happens
Parents are encouraged to bring some familiar toys their child likes to the session. We can then introduce a couple of different toys to see how we go. Try offering a new toy alongside the familiar one; try offering new toys without the familiar one present, but be prepared to re-offer the “old” toy should our child get upset.
Rotate toys and don’t offer out too many toys
I find that children can get overwhelmed and overstimulated by too many items out all at once. I always talk to parents about toy rotation at home and I encourage storage and ‘tidy up’ of toys so that we can increase attention focus, and also maintain freshness and new interest in older toys.
Some children are not yet ready to play with toys
Here I suggest people games: these are games where the adult becomes part of a more motor-based activity. Some call it ‘rough and tumble play’ but it can be nursery rhymes such as sleeping bunnies/row row the boat or peek-a-boo for the younger ones.
Copy/Imitation is so important – try getting two identical or similar play items
When we are copying our child, it is often not desirable to ‘take turns’ with their toys/blogs/cars etc as our child may not be ready to let us take a turn. Instead, if we have the exact same toy that our child is having then we can play alongside our child and copy them perfectly without interrupting their play.
References:
Murray, D., Lesser, M., & Lawson, W. (2005). Attention, monotropism and the diagnostic criteria for autism. Autism, 9(2), 139-156.
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There are various great ways to treat speech sound disorders and I use all the approaches available selectively; I decide what works with each individual child and I also vary the approach depending on the child’s frame of mind at any given time during my session.
Some of the approaches are more “drill-based” and require a child to be able to pay attention and really participate actively in the therapy, and this is what I am showing you today with this video clip.
My little student here has been working with me for some time and from only saying a handful of words which were not very easy to understand he has come a long way. He does have some features of Verbal Dyspraxia which I shall briefly outline here:
Making sounds in general is a struggle, especially when asked to copy certain sounds, example: ‘can you say: a ee ou oo?”
Repeating sound sequences or words sequences is hard, for example: “say p-t-k in sequence” or “say fish chips fish chips fish chips
When saying the same word again and again, different mistakes can be heard
Intonation difficulties: speech sounds monotonous
Vocabulary is very limited
Some therapy approaches are more play based, for example the Core Word method: here we pick a few words at a time which are very significant to the child and therefore highly motivating to try and say. These could be characters of Pokemon or Minecraft for example, or simple words like “GO!”
When you watch the video you will see that I use a lot of visual prompting, such as showing him where the tongue is moving to or from. I do this with my index finger and this approach is called Tactile Cueing or “Cued Articulation”. Part of the approach is to give a visual prompt and then reduce the prompt as the learner is more able to produce the correct sounds. Once he can produce the sound on its own, we quickly move to the sound within a word.
I do mix and match my approaches and in fact here I am drilling but I also use the Core Word which for him (YELLOW) — it’s his favourite colour and I happen to have quite a few good games where a YELLOW something or other can be asked for….. WHO KNEW!? 🙂
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Many parents notice speech errors when their children are toddlers. At that stage it often feels quite normal. Young children are still learning the sounds of their language, and those early mispronunciations can be very endearing.
But as children grow older, parents sometimes begin to wonder:
‘Should my child still be speaking like this?’
A common concern I hear from families is that their child is still difficult to understand even after starting school. Sometimes it is a parent who notices it first. Other times it is a teacher who gently mentions that classmates occasionally struggle to understand what a child is saying.
When this happens, parents naturally wonder whether it is something their child will grow out of, or whether some extra support might help.
When should children’s speech be clear?
Children learn speech sounds gradually over several years. Some sounds develop earlier, while others take longer to master.
By the time children reach five to six years of age, most of their speech should be clear enough for unfamiliar adults to understand. There may still be a few tricky sounds developing (such as /R/ or /TH/), but overall speech should be fairly easy to follow.
If a child is frequently difficult to understand at school age, it can sometimes indicate that a speech sound difficulty has persisted beyond the stage when it would normally resolve on its own.
Why some children remain hard to understand
There are several reasons why speech clarity may still be developing in older children.
Phonological patterns
Some children continue to use speech patterns that are typical of younger children. For example:
saying ‘tat’ instead of ‘cat’
saying ‘doe’ instead of ‘go’
leaving sounds out of words
These patterns are called phonological processes. They are a normal part of early speech development, but when they persist into the school years they can make speech difficult for others to understand.
Difficulty producing specific sounds
Other children may have difficulty producing certain individual sounds clearly. This might include sounds such as:
/S/
/SH/
/R/
/TH/
These difficulties are called articulation difficulties.
A child might understand exactly what they want to say but find it hard to produce the sound accurately with their tongue, lips or airflow.
Motor speech planning challenges
For some children, the difficulty lies in the planning and coordination of the movements needed for speech.
Speech requires very precise timing between the tongue, lips, jaw and breath. If the brain finds it difficult to organise these movements consistently, speech can sound unclear or inconsistent.
In some cases this may relate to Childhood Apraxia of Speech, although only a full assessment can determine this.
Why clarity matters for school-age children
Speech clarity becomes particularly important once children start school.
At this stage, children are:
Answering questions in class
Talking with friends
Reading aloud
Developing confidence in communication
When speech is difficult to understand, children sometimes become more hesitant to speak, particularly in group situations.
This can affect confidence and participation, even when the child has lots of ideas they would like to share.
The good news: speech can improve
The encouraging news is that speech sound difficulties can often improve significantly with the right support.
Speech therapy focuses on helping children:
Learn how sounds are produced
Practise accurate speech movements
Understand how sounds change meaning in words
Build consistency through structured practice
Different children benefit from different therapy approaches. Some need support with phonological patterns, while others benefit from more motor-based practice that strengthens speech coordination.
Often therapy combines several strategies to support the child’s individual speech profile.
When to seek advice
If your child is already at school and you find that people outside the family often struggle to understand them, it can be helpful to seek advice from a speech and language therapist.
A detailed assessment can help identify:
Which sounds are causing difficulty
Whether patterns such as fronting or sound substitutions are present
Whether motor planning challenges may be contributing
Which therapy approach is likely to be most effective
Early support can help children develop clearer speech and greater confidence in communication.
Every child’s speech journey is different
Speech development is not the same for every child. Some children master speech sounds quickly, while others need a little more guidance along the way.
The important thing is that support is available when children need it.
With the right strategies and practice, many children make excellent progress and develop speech that is clearer, more confident and easier for others to understand. If you are concerned about your child’s speech clarity or ongoing speech sound errors, a speech and language assessment can help identify the underlying difficulty and guide the most appropriate support.
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Bilingualism is a beautiful aspect of our diverse world. Growing up in a bi- or multi-lingual household is a wonderful gift, allowing children to communicate with a broader range of people and access many cultures.
My own two children grew up in a bilingual German-English speaking household. They have both been so enriched by this experience, not only language- and learning-wise but of course also culturally: their world has always been so open and colourful. Growing up in inner London and having their German family and mum’s friends as well, this has been a wonderful experience. Both my boys speak German well (not quite like native speakers but like very good second language speakers) and both have very easily learned 3rd and 4th languages additionally when in secondary school.
Whilst bilingualism has untold benefits, it’s not uncommon for bilingual children to take slightly longer to reach certain speech milestones. This should not be automatically mistaken for speech disorders but rather seen as a natural part of bilingual language development.
Bilingualism and speech delays
Sometimes, of course, we do see speech delays or disorders where a child’s speech development lags significantly behind their peers. We often see a delay in both languages equally, making it extra hard for to communicate effectively. BUT PLEASE KNOW the family speaking in multi-lingual languages never caused the delay/disorder!
If there is a delay or a disorder any number of other reasons could have caused it, such as:
hearing impairments,
reduced phonological awareness,
sensory processing issues,
reduced attention and reduced joint attention,
neuro-developmental delays or difficulties,
general or specific learning difficulties
or sometimes other genetic factors.
So, to say that the difficulty is due to a child being exposed to several languages is a red herring. (no offence to herrings!)
Speech therapy
Speech therapy can be powerful to help bilingual /multilingual children with speech delays unlock their full linguistic potential. By providing individualised assessments, targeted interventions, and involving families, speech therapy can bridge the gap between speech delays and bilingualism. It’s essential for the therapist and parents to work together to support the children in their unique linguistic journeys, helping them communicate effectively and thrive in both of their languages.
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Speak your home language at home
Many parents report that they worry about speaking their home language at home and instead they have been focusing on just speaking English at home. They now rarely use their home language with their child. They fear that speaking a language other than English with their child will cause further delay and hinder their progress. All parents want the best for their child and often parents fear that their child won’t fit in or will be seen as ‘different’. So we can understand why parents feel that the English language is the only one worth having.
But the opposite is the case: it is crucial to speak in both languages freely, both at home and outside the home! Both languages will benefit your child, no matter what the delay or difficulty is. Acquiring a ‘mother tongue’ or native language is absolutely vital for children to have a good, solid linguistic grounding on which to build other languages. Bilingual children may mix languages during speaking and parents may equally mix their languages. This does not hinder language development and is a natural part of linguistic development.
Speak freely and naturally
What is far more important than the question: ‘which language should I say this in?’ Instead think: ‘let me speak freely and naturally, let me respond naturally, in good intonation and let communication flow freely to the child.’
Speech therapy can be a crucial resource for bilingual or multilingual children and their families.
We work on targeted interventions to address speech and language difficulties, helping your child develop essential communication skills. For home practice between therapy sessions, we can recommend tailored treatment plans to help you help your child in daily life. Our input could be focusing on articulation, phonological awareness, attention and listening, vocabulary development and grammar.
Family support is crucial in speech therapy. We like to work closely with parents to provide guidance and strategies for fostering language development in both languages at home.
If you have any worries about your child being delayed in a bilingual or multilingual household do get in touch and we will be happy to support you in your journey.
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