Five ways to increase confidence and reduce frustration in children with speech and language and communication difficulties

ByLondon Speech and Feeding
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Your child’s speech, language and communication difficulties may impact their self-esteem. And they may show signs of increased frustration. You want them to be full of confidence, increasing their participation in school and fully engaging with their peers.

1. Practise active listening

Speech difficulties can mean that it’s more challenging to understand what your child says. It’s important to show that you’re paying attention, giving them time to express themselves. Focus on what your child says rather than how they are speaking. Remember to maintain eye contact, and actively listen. Active listening and giving time can be trickier than it sounds. I can provide strategies to support your active listening skills.

2. Give other means and forms of communication

Allowing children to express themselves in a variety of ways (e.g., gesture, signs, written, use descriptions to describe a word (e.g., sand – you find it out the beach, it can have pebbles on it, it’s not the sea), use of symbols or high-tech augmentative communication methods such as a computer). Using different ways is vital in reducing frustration and communicating their message. If you’re unsure of what other forms of communication you can use, please contact me for some top tips.

3. Praise efforts

Providing specific praise allows your child to understand what they’ve achieved. E.g., you could praise the way your child listens, or how they take turns, or their resilience (e.g., “I like the way you listened” or “good listening”). Think of different ways you could praise you child during different activities, so you are prepared with phrases that you can use.

4. Have clear start and end points in activities

Some children with speech, language and communication needs have difficulties with transitioning from one activity to another. They also have difficulties with changes in routine. This can add to their frustration and changes in behaviour. So, how do you show a clear start and end to an activity? You can have a visual timetable, or you could have ‘start’ and ‘finish’ boxes where you place all the materials in the box labelled ‘start’. And once the activity has finished, you put the items in the box labelled ’finished’. If you need support with transitions, please contact me.

5. Use visuals

Visuals can support your child to understand routine and spoken language. Visuals can range from symbols to online images, to photographs, or a combination. Explore which type of visuals work well for your children. Using visuals can be powerful if used correctly. Make the most of the opportunities that visuals can provide for your family.

Increase confidence and reduce frustration in children with speech and language and communication difficulties today. Please feel free to contact me if you need any support or tips on maximising these opportunities.

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Bilingualism – should I speak only English with my speech delayed child?

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    Introduction

    Bilingualism is a beautiful aspect of our diverse world. Growing up in a bi- or multi-lingual household is a wonderful gift, allowing children to communicate with a broader range of people and access many cultures.

    My own two children grew up in a bilingual German-English speaking household. They have both been so enriched by this experience, not only language- and learning-wise but of course also culturally: their world has always been so open and colourful. Growing up in inner London and having their German family and mum’s friends as well, this has been a wonderful experience. Both my boys speak German well (not quite like native speakers but like very good second language speakers) and both have very easily learned 3rd and 4th languages additionally when in secondary school.

    Whilst bilingualism has untold benefits, it’s not uncommon for bilingual children to take slightly longer to reach certain speech milestones. This should not be automatically mistaken for speech disorders but rather seen as a natural part of bilingual language development.

    Bilingualism and speech delays

    Sometimes, of course, we do see speech delays or disorders where a child’s speech development lags significantly behind their peers. We often see a delay in both languages equally, making it extra hard for to communicate effectively. BUT PLEASE KNOW the family speaking in multi-lingual languages never caused the delay/disorder!

    If there is a delay or a disorder any number of other reasons could have caused it, such as:

    • hearing impairments,
    • reduced phonological awareness,
    • sensory processing issues,
    • reduced attention and reduced joint attention,
    • neuro-developmental delays or difficulties,
    • general or specific learning difficulties
    • or sometimes other genetic factors.

    So, to say that the difficulty is due to a child being exposed to several languages is a red herring. (no offence to herrings!)

    Speech therapy

    Speech therapy can be powerful to help bilingual /multilingual children with speech delays unlock their full linguistic potential. By providing individualised assessments, targeted interventions, and involving families, speech therapy can bridge the gap between speech delays and bilingualism. It’s essential for the therapist and parents to work together to support the children in their unique linguistic journeys, helping them communicate effectively and thrive in both of their languages.

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    Speak your home language at home

    Many parents report that they worry about speaking their home language at home and instead they have been focusing on just speaking English at home. They now rarely use their home language with their child. They fear that speaking a language other than English with their child will cause further delay and hinder their progress. All parents want the best for their child and often parents fear that their child won’t fit in or will be seen as ‘different’. So we can understand why parents feel that the English language is the only one worth having.

    But the opposite is the case: it is crucial to speak in both languages freely, both at home and outside the home! Both languages will benefit your child, no matter what the delay or difficulty is. Acquiring a ‘mother tongue’ or native language is absolutely vital for children to have a good, solid linguistic grounding on which to build other languages. Bilingual children may mix languages during speaking and parents may equally mix their languages. This does not hinder language development and is a natural part of linguistic development.

    Speak freely and naturally

    What is far more important than the question: ‘which language should I say this in?’ Instead think: ‘let me speak freely and naturally, let me respond naturally, in good intonation and let communication flow freely to the child.’

    Speech therapy can be a crucial resource for bilingual or multilingual children and their families.

    We work on targeted interventions to address speech and language difficulties, helping your child develop essential communication skills. For home practice between therapy sessions, we can recommend tailored treatment plans to help you help your child in daily life. Our input could be focusing on articulation, phonological awareness, attention and listening, vocabulary development and grammar.

    Family support is crucial in speech therapy. We like to work closely with parents to provide guidance and strategies for fostering language development in both languages at home.

    If you have any worries about your child being delayed in a bilingual or multilingual household do get in touch and we will be happy to support you in your journey.

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    Discover nine ways to support literacy in autistic children

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    We are all aware that Autism is on a spectrum. By the very nature of this, it means that every child will present differently, so an individualised approach is required. We need to remember to use a child’s strengths to support their needs. By using a person-centred approach, you’ll see your child’s literacy develop and thrive.

    I hear many parents concerns about literacy as well as communication. Will they be able to read, write and spell? How will they manage their literacy independently? The questions are endless, so let’s look at how you can support your child’s literacy skills and how together we can provide a scaffold to them becoming independent learners.

    1. The one thing we know is that Autistic children are visual learners. They succeed by us sharing pictures and demonstrating how the narrative is shown.
    2. Start reading to your child at an early age. You can never start too early. This creates a love for books and supports vital pre-literacy skills (such as increasing vocabulary, following narratives, awareness of sounds in words, and letter recognition and awareness). By supporting pre-literacy skills, you’re starting the process to create confident young readers.
    3. There are many ways to use books. You can narrate the story using different voices and tones to increase interest. You can do this even if your child isn’t interested. They are still listening and learning vital skills. You may even ask and answer questions and voice the skills that they will need for internal monitoring.
    4. Use their interests to select appropriate reading material. In addition, you can then create questions on the book and provide a scaffold to support your child with the answer.
    5. Use technology to spark their interest in reading. Demonstrate how they can read online. This is often successful as it becomes an individual activity as opposed to needing social interaction.
    6. Provide them with a choice of texts (e.g., would you like ‘Perfectly Norman or when things get too loud’) rather than an open-ended question such as ‘What book would you like to read?’
    7. Write key pieces of information down on paper. Research suggests that Autistic learners understand written text better than speech.
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    9. Reading aloud to your child can have many benefits which include understanding vocabulary to how the book is read, with appropriate intonation.

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    Great toys and books for our toddlers (around 1–2 years old)

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    As a speech and language therapist, I often get asked by parents what toys and books they should buy for their toddlers. It can feel overwhelming with so many options available! So, I’ve put together a list based on my experience and what I’ve found works well.

    Remember, every child is unique!

    Observe your toddler’s interests and play style. Some toys that are popular might not be engaging for your child.

    Here are a few ideas to get you started:

    Sensory Toys:

    • Stacking cups: These are fantastic for developing hand-eye coordination, fine motor skills, and understanding size relationships. (Various brands available) Note: You can stack many things you have around the house, like bowls or measuring cups, for a similar experience!
    • Shape sorters: Help with shape recognition, hand-eye coordination, and problem-solving. (Melissa & Doug, Vtech)
    • Sensory balls: Balls with different textures (soft, bumpy, squishy) provide tactile stimulation. (Various brands)
    • Push and pull toys: Encourage gross motor development and exploration. (Vtech, Fisher-Price)

    Communication-focused toys:

    • Picture books with flaps: Engage curiosity and encourage language development. (Various brands)
    • Talking toys: Introduce new vocabulary and encourage imitation. (Vtech, Fisher-Price)
    • Simple puzzles: Develop hand-eye coordination, problem-solving, and spatial awareness. (Melissa & Doug, Ravensburger)
    • Musical instruments: Encourage exploration of sounds and develop auditory skills. (Bright Starts, Fisher-Price)

    Now, let’s talk about books:

    • The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle: A classic with repetitive text and vibrant illustrations, great for introducing vocabulary and concepts like days of the week.
    • Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? by Bill Martin Jr. and Eric Carle: Simple, repetitive text and engaging illustrations make this a favourite for many toddlers.
    • Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown: A soothing bedtime story with calming illustrations.
    • Pat the Bunny by Dorothy Kunhardt: An interactive book with textures and flaps to engage young children.
    • Corduroy by Don Freeman: A heartwarming story about a teddy bear who loses his button.

    Remember:

    • Observe your child’s interests: Choose toys and books that capture their attention and encourage exploration.
    • Engage with your child: Play with the toys together and read books aloud with enthusiasm.
    • Keep it simple: Start with a few toys and books and gradually introduce new ones.
    • Rotate toys: Keep playtime fresh by rotating toys and books regularly.
    • Most importantly, have fun! Reading and playing with your child should be a joyful experience for both of you.

    Also consider the power of open-ended play

    In today’s world filled with electronic gadgets, it’s easy to overlook the value of open-ended play. Open-ended toys lack specific functions or prescribed outcomes, allowing children to use their imaginations to explore and create. Unlike toys with pre-determined ways to play, open-ended toys encourage:

    • Creative thinking: Children can use them in countless ways, developing their own rules and narratives. A block can become a car, a house, or a spaceship, depending on the child’s imagination.
    • Problem-solving skills: Children learn to figure out how to use the toys, experimenting and adapting as they go. Don’t immediately rush in and fix things for your little one, let them think for themselves and then communication incentive: let them come and find you!
    • Fine motor skills: Many open-ended toys, like blocks, encourage the development of fine motor skills like grasping, stacking, and building.
    • Cognitive development: Children learn about cause and effect, spatial relationships, and problem-solving as they play with open-ended toys.
    • Social-emotional development: Open-ended play can foster social interaction and cooperation as children play together and share ideas.

    Simple toys with big impact

    Some of the best toys for toddlers are often the simplest ones. Here are a few examples:

    • Wooden blocks: Building towers, bridges, and forts encourages creativity and problem-solving.
    • Balls: Throwing, kicking, and rolling balls promote gross motor skills and hand-eye coordination.
    • Fabric: Bits of fabric can be draped, draped, and used for imaginative play.
    • Empty boxes: From cardboard boxes to tissue boxes, these can be transformed into anything a child can imagine: a car, a house, a spaceship!
    • Natural materials: Sticks, leaves, pinecones, and rocks can be used for imaginative play and sensory exploration.

    Remember, the key to open-ended play is to let children explore and discover

    Step back and observe, allowing your child to use his or her imaginations without too much direction. You might be surprised at the creative ways he or she uses simple toys!

    Happy play times with your little one!

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    The power of containment: A therapeutic approach for autistic children

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
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    The practice of wrapping or swaddling children, often referred to as ‘containment,’ has been used for centuries to soothe and comfort infants. I use this therapeutic approach with autistic children at the London Speech and Feeding Practice. While it might seem counterintuitive, the act of being tightly wrapped can provide significant benefits for children who struggle with sensory processing, emotional regulation, and communication.

    Understanding sensory processing and autism

    Autistic persons often experience challenges with sensory processing, which is their brain’s ability to interpret and respond to sensory information. This can lead to sensory overload or under-responsivity. Containment can be a valuable tool in helping children regulate their sensory input.

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    To summarise, here are some of the benefits of containment:

    • Sensory Regulation:
      • Provides deep pressure input: The tight, enveloping sensation of being wrapped can provide deep pressure input, which is calming and organising for many children.
      • Reduces sensory overload: By creating a controlled sensory environment, containment can help to reduce overstimulation and promote a sense of safety.
    • Emotional Regulation:
      • Containment creates a sense of security: Being wrapped tightly can mimic the feeling of being in the womb, providing a sense of security and comfort.
      • Facilitates calming: The deep pressure input can help to calm the nervous system and reduce anxiety.
    • Improved Body Awareness:
      • Enhances proprioception: Containment can improve the child’s awareness of their body in space, which is essential for motor development and sensory integration. I often provide extra pressure on a child’s arms and legs sticking out of the yoga mat; this helps my child understand where their limbs are in space: I can feel my legs and I can feel my arms and I can feel where they are right now, i.e. they are under Sonja’s hand, I can feel them.
    • Facilitates Communication – and this is obviously where I come in as a Speech and Language Therapist:
      • Swaddling creates a safe space: When a child feels calm and secure, they are more likely to engage in communication.
      • Enhances joint attention: The shared experience of being wrapped can foster joint attention, which is essential for language development. You can see this one in my highlights where I swaddle my student in the yoga mat (picture above). She absolutely loves it, and what is more she is calm and steady when usually this child likes to be on the move constantly. Here we have a wonderful moment of joint engagement. She looks at me, she can listen to what I say or sing, and she can tell me in her own way to carry on rolling her or to carry on singing or providing calming pressure to her legs and arms or to stop.

    A few pointers for when you try this at home: How to practise containment safely and effectively

    • Create a safe environment: Ensure the wrapping material is soft, breathable, and free from any hazards.
    • Observe your child’s cues: Pay attention to your child’s body language and verbal cues to determine their comfort level.
    • Respect your child’s boundaries: If your child shows signs of distress, stop the containment immediately – this might seem obvious but sometimes we adults get so carried away with some ‘great idea’ that we have seen work elsewhere. And so we can be a little too ‘determined’ sometimes to ‘make it happen’… perhaps this rings a bell with some of my readers.
    • MAKE IT FUN: Start carefully and take it step by step. See if the student is having a nice time. It is all about trust and therefore it might not work the very first time you do it.

    It’s important to remember that containment is not a one-size-fits-all approach. Some children may respond better to other sensory-based interventions. However, for many autistic children containment can be a valuable tool in their journey towards improved communication and emotional regulation.

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  • Tele-Speechtherapy: Online, connected, and highly effective

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
    A different kind of therapy. Online, connected, and highly effective

    When parents first enquire about speech and language therapy, many assume it will happen face-to-face, in a clinic room, with a therapist sitting across from their child.

    So when therapy is offered online, it’s natural for questions to arise:

    Can this really work? Will my child engage? Will progress be slower?

    This short video offers a glimpse into what online therapy can look like: calm, interactive, relationship-based, and surprisingly effective.

    Online therapy is not ‘less than’ in the right circumstances

    Teletherapy is not suitable for every child in every situation. However, for many school-aged children, particularly those who enjoy conversation, technology, and shared activities, online therapy can be an excellent fit.

    The child you see in this video is around eight years old and was supported for a persistent lisp. Sessions were primarily online, with the occasional in-person appointment when helpful.

    What made the difference was not the screen. It was the combination of engagement, support, and consistency.

    Parent involvement changes everything

    One of the greatest strengths of online therapy is the way it naturally invites parents in.

    In this case, parents regularly joined the video sessions:

    • Listening in
    • Taking part when appropriate
    • Learning how to support practice gently between sessions

    This meant that therapy didn’t stay ‘on the screen’. Strategies carried over into everyday conversation, making progress faster and more meaningful.

    Speech sound therapy, including support for lisps, relies heavily on awareness, feedback, and confidence, all of which can be supported very effectively at home with the right guidance.

    Therapy through a screen can still be deeply relational

    A common concern is whether connection can truly be built online.

    In reality, many children feel more relaxed in their own home environment. They are often more willing to talk, experiment with sounds, and reflect on their speech when they feel comfortable and supported.

    Online sessions allow:

    • Shared focus and conversation
    • Clear visual feedback
    • Real-life practice in a familiar setting
    • Immediate parent support

    For some children, this actually enhances engagement rather than limits it.

    Real progress, real outcomes

    Over the course of approximately 12 online sessions, alongside a small number of in-person appointments, this child achieved resolution of their lisp.

    Progress was steady, positive, and confidence-building. Importantly, the child remained motivated and proud of their achievements throughout the process.

    While every child’s journey is different, this example highlights what is possible when:

    • The child is ready
    • Parents are involved
    • Therapy is tailored and collaborative

    If you’re considering online therapy

    If you’re unsure whether teletherapy could work for your child, it’s worth remembering that effective speech and language therapy is less about the room you’re in, and more about:

    • Relationship
    • Understanding
    • Consistency
    • Carryover into daily life

    For many families, online therapy offers flexibility, accessibility, and excellent outcomes especially when parents are active partners in the process.

    If you’re at the start of your child’s speech journey and wondering whether online therapy could be the right fit, I’m always happy to talk it through. Sometimes clarity begins with simply understanding what therapy can look like

    Teletherapy: Frequently Asked Questions

    Is online speech and language therapy really effective?

    Yes. For many children, particularly school-aged children, online therapy can be highly effective. Progress depends far more on engagement, consistency, and support than on physical location.

    What age does online therapy work best for?

    Teletherapy often works well for children from around six years and up, especially those who can attend to a screen, enjoy conversation, and follow simple instructions. That said, suitability is always considered individually and often a supportive adult is needed to help guide the child through the activities.

    Can speech sound work (such as a lisp) really be done online?

    Absolutely. Speech sound therapy relies on clear visual feedback, listening skills, and practice all of which can be supported very effectively online. Many children respond particularly well when practising in their own home environment.

    Do parents need to be involved in sessions?

    Parental involvement is strongly encouraged. Parents may sit in, join parts of the session, or support practice between appointments. This involvement often leads to quicker progress and better carryover into everyday speech.

    Will my child still build a relationship with the therapist?

    Yes. Strong therapeutic relationships can and do develop online. Many children feel more relaxed and confident communicating from home, which can actually enhance connection and learning.

    Is online therapy suitable for every child?

    Not in my experience. Some children benefit more from in-person support, or a combination of online and face-to-face sessions. A discussion and initial assessment help determine the best approach for each child.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    Principles of motor learning in Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS)

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    We use powerful motor learning principles to help children with CAS (Childhood Apraxia of Speech) learn how to produce better, clearer speech sounds in words, phrases and sentences.

    What are these principles?

    Principle 1: MASSED PRACTICE

    This is where you see a child for lots of sessions in a shorter period of time, so for instance six weeks of three times weekly for 30 minutes.

    This leads to motor performance or automaticity.

    Principle 2. DISTRIBUTED PRACTICE

    This is what I use, as most of my clients are not able to come and see me that often on a weekly basis. It is hard to travel in London and life is hectic. So I favour one session a week over say a term or two terms and a session is usually 45 minutes long.

    This leads to improved Motor Learning and good generalisation.

    During either Massed or Distributed Practice, we choose between 4 variables:

    Principle 3: Constant vs Variable

    Principle 4: Blocked vs Random

    To explain:

    Constant Practice is where we repeat the practice of a small handful of target words.

    We practise the same target sound in the same word position, e.g. at the beginning of a word: ‘bee’, ‘bye’, ‘bow’, ‘baa’ or ‘key’, ‘car’, ‘cow’, ‘Kaye’ etc.

    We keep the rate, pitch and intonation constant.

    Variable Practice is where we vary the rate, volume, pitch and intonation of the targets

    We use a larger number of sounds, and words that are motivating to say for the child.

    For example, if a child loves Peppa Pig then I might choose the words: ‘Peppa’, ‘Daddy Pig’, ‘George’, ‘Mummy Pig’ and a couple of other favourite characters. My child might struggle with a number of sound sequences there but we will target them one by one.

    We can also select simpler words like ‘cape’ and ‘cake’ or ‘tick’ and ‘tip’.

    Blocked Practice is where we practise one target word for say five minutes then we move to another target word for the next five minutes and then we revert back to the first target word again and so on, so blocks of practice.

    Random Practice means we practise several target words at the same time.

    How do I decide on what to use?

    Good question!

    I always opt for distributed practice (weekly for up to 45 minutes).

    Within that, I tend to find it most successful to start out with constant practice when a child is finding a certain sound sequence really hard and we need to just ‘nail it’. Bearing in mind I only pick sounds that my student can actually make in isolation, so we are not working on articulation! (where we focus on trying to elicit single sounds correctly – or even at all sometimes) Here in CAS work, we are working with sounds the student can make but is having trouble to add together, into a sequence that is needed to make a word sound right.

    As soon as I feel we have some traction I will go to variable practice, i.e. I pick words that are either funny or interesting for the child and it can be a slightly larger number.

    I tend to use blocked practice in the beginning or when working on vowels. That’s because it is more important we get our vowels right. They carry a word and are very important for overall speech intelligibility. Once we are on a roll, I tend to go more for random practice.

    Example

    Here in the video clip, we try and work the /e/ vowel in short words likes ‘bell’, ’fell’, ‘dell’, ‘sell’, ‘smell’ and I am using an AAC device to give a child’s voice as auditory feedback as well as using the PROMPT approach to help my student shape his vowels.

    So this is:

    1. Distributed (1 x week for 45 minutes)
    2. Constant – we are practising the /e/ vowel in the same position in six different words
    3. Blocked – we did this: several repetitions of each word and after the sixth we moved to another sound, and then later we came back to this.

    Please feel free to contact me if your child has speech sound difficulties. It is my passion. I love supporting children with apraxia.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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