Unlocking connection: Why the Hanen ‘More Than Words®’ approach works (BEST online!!)

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As a Speech and Language Therapist, one of the most rewarding parts of my job isn’t just working on speech sounds or vocabulary lists. It’s helping parents truly connect with their autistic children.

Recently, I had a 1-hour initial online session with the parent of a 7-year-old boy. In just 75 minutes, we achieved a massive breakthrough in perspective, all without parents setting foot into my traditional clinic setting or me visiting them at home.

I had been sent some video footage of their child along with detailed parent questionnaire and both gave me so much information from which I then worked online with the parent.

Here is a glimpse into what the Hanen More Than Words® approach is, how I structure my initial sessions, and why doing this work online with parents is often far more powerful than traditional therapy.

What is the Hanen More Than Words® approach?

The Hanen More Than Words® programme is an evidence-based framework designed specifically for parents of autistic children or children with social communication difficulties. Rather than treating communication as a clinical ‘lesson’ taught by a therapist, Hanen empowers parents to become their child’s primary communication partner. It focuses on turning everyday interactions, routines, and play into natural opportunities for a child to build connection, express themselves, and initiate communication at their own pace.

How I structure the first session: Reframing expectations

When parents first come to speech therapy, they often arrive with understandable anxiety and big, sometimes overwhelming, expectations. My primary goal in session one is to take those expectations, reframe them into realistic, hopeful goals, and establish a clear baseline of where we are right now.

To do this, I use the Hanen Social Communication Checklist.

In my session with any parent this tool is always a game-changer. Today, for example, it allowed us to celebrate every single achievement our child has already made, while highlighting the specific micro-skills we want to consolidate next. Instead of focusing on ‘fixing’ speech, our baseline focused on three functional social goals:

  • Responding to comments from others.
  • Initiating his own comments, requests, or questions (in whatever way he can).
  • Taking a single, natural conversational turn, even if that turn takes time to come.

Why online therapy for Hanen works so well

People often ask me: ‘Can speech therapy really be effective over Zoom?’

My answer is an emphatic yes. And for Hanen, online is often superior to a clinic.

In a clinic, a child is in an unfamiliar environment with a new adult, which can feel demanding or artificial. Online, the child stays in their safe, natural home environment. I get to coach the parent directly in real time, giving them immediate tools they can use every single day. In just one hour online today with one parent, for example, we got a massive amount of foundational work done without causing a single moment of stress for the child.

Key takeaways: The power of silence, OWL, and agenda-free fun

If you are looking to support an autistic child’s social communication at home, here are the core principles we put into home practice after our first session:

1. Embrace the power of O.W.L. (Observe, Wait, Listen)

We live in a fast-paced world where adults feel compelled to fill every quiet moment with questions (‘What’s that?’, ‘What colour is the car?’). Hanen flips this script.

  • Observe: Step back and see what truly captures your child’s interest.
  • Wait: Be comfortable with silence. Give your child the extra time they need to process their thoughts and formulate a response.
  • Listen: Pay attention to every sound, gesture, or attempt at communication.

2. Become a buddy, not a teacher

Try to play alongside your child the way another 5-to-7-year-old peer would. A peer doesn’t quiz, direct, or lecture; they do their own thing nearby, make occasional fun comments, and signal that they simply enjoy being together. Shift your role from communication director to play buddy.

3. Comment naturally. Don’t ‘state the obvious’

Once you master silence, narration should feel natural, spontaneous, and genuine.

  • Avoid: Pointing out things they already know just to test them (e.g., ‘That’s a blue car!’).
  • Try: Generic, enthusiastic reactions that invite connection without demanding a answer (e.g., ‘Whoa, look at that!’, ‘Goodness!’, ‘Hey, that’s cool!’).

4. Have fun with no agenda

School and daily routines carry a lot of demands for a 7-year-old. Take time every day to simply join your child’s world and have fun with zero clinical agenda. Laughter and genuine connection are the ultimate foundations for all communication.

Interested in learning how the Hanen programme can support your family? Get in touch today to learn more about our online parent coaching sessions.

Sonja McGeachie

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Something that keeps surprising me…

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    After thirty years of helping children with lisps, you’d think very little would still surprise me. And yet…

    Girl looking at herself in a mirror and looking at her tongue

    Every few weeks, a lovely, and well-informed parent will describe their five, six, or seven year-old’s slushy, sideways /S/ and then ask ‘So, how many sessions do we need to fix this? Perhaps five–six? ‘

    And every time, I have to resist the urge to laugh, cry, and reach for the biscuits all at once. Because the honest answer, for an established lateral lisp in a school-aged child, is usually twenty sessions or more. Wait! Hear me out!…

    ‘Why so many?!’ … once you understand what’s actually going on inside your child’s mouth, the number 20+ does no longer sound outrageous and starts sounding rather reasonable.

    First: not all lisps are equal

    Most people picture a lisp as the gentle, even endearing /TH/ for /S/ — ‘thnake’ instead of ‘snake’. That’s an inter-dental lisp, where the tongue pokes forward between the teeth. It’s common, it’s developmentally normal in younger children, and this is the important bit, it’s usually visible. It’s still a bit tricky to correct at first but I often can show a child what to do, they can watch themselves in a mirror, and quite often we’re away. But it still takes a lot longer than parents think because just fixing the sound does not mean it will be produced correctly in normal, daily speech and conversation.

    Lateral lisp

    A lateral lisp on the other hand is an entirely different animal. Instead of the air flowing in a neat central stream down a groove in the middle of the tongue, it spills out over the sides, around the molars. The result is that wet, slushy, quality. It affects not just /S/ and /Z/, but very often /SH/, /CH/ and /J/ too which is a big chunk of English.

    Here’s the snag: it’s happening where nobody can see it. There’s no mirror in the world that shows you the sides of your tongue as you are speaking, or chewing for that matter. We’re teaching a child to control a movement they can’t see, can’t easily feel, and have never once performed correctly in their life.

    By five, six or even seven years old your child has said the /S/ sound about several hundred times a day, every day, for several years. It’s one of the most frequent sounds in English: it makes our plurals, our possessives, our verb endings. Every ‘cats’, ‘let’s’, ‘she runs’.

    So we are now talking about a deeply ingrained motor habit, rehearsed tens of thousands of times, that now feels completely normal and correct to the child producing it. We’re not teaching a new skill onto a blank page; we’re overwriting a very strong habit. Think of a tennis player with a flawed serve who’s played for five years… You don’t fix that in a fortnight, and nobody expects you to.

    The good news is: school children, seven-year-old and up, are brilliant at this work. They can self-monitor, they can practise independently, they can hear the difference. It just takes time.

    The quiet culprit: where the tongue lives at rest…

    Here’s the piece that most parents have never heard, and it explains a lot.

    When the mouth is at rest, the tongue should sit up — tip resting lightly behind the top front teeth, body gently suctioned to the roof of the mouth, lips together, breathing through the nose.

    Many children with a lateral lisp have a low, forward resting tongue posture. The tongue sits on the floor of the mouth, often with the lips slightly apart. This is frequently associated with a history of mouth breathing, blocked noses and allergies, enlarged tonsils or adenoids, prolonged dummy or thumb-sucking, and sometimes dental or orthodontic differences such as an open bite.

    Why does this matter so much? Because a good /S/ requires the tongue’s sides to brace firmly against the upper back teeth to form that central channel. A tongue that spends 23 hours a day flopped on the floor of the mouth simply doesn’t have the habitual strength, position or awareness to do that on demand. We can teach a beautiful /S/ in the clinic — but if the tongue’s default setting is ‘down’, we’re swimming upstream all week.

    So, for many children, part of the work is establishing a better resting posture alongside the sound itself. That’s foundational and it’s slow.

    So what does twenty-plus sessions actually achieve?

    Therapy for a lateral lisp moves through a strict hierarchy, and you cannot skip a rung:

    • Auditory discrimination: Can they hear the difference? (Often, initially, no.)
    • Eliciting the sound: Sometimes a single session, can be six.
    • Stabilisation: Building consistency in isolation, then syllables, then single words (beginning, middle, end).
    • Blends: Mastering challenging combinations like ‘spoon’, ‘street’, and ‘smile’.
    • Sentences: Moving to phrases, full sentences, and structured conversation.
    • Generalisation: Using it naturally with family, at school, when tired, or when telling a long story.
    • Self-monitoring: Training them to catch and correct themselves without therapist intervention.

    Rushing a level guarantees a collapse two levels later. I’ve never once regretted going slowly; I’ve frequently regretted going fast.

    The bit that decides everything: home practice

    Let me be blunt in a nice way 😊 The child who practises five to ten minutes a day, six days a week, will finish in half the time of the child who practises the night before their session.

    An hour with me per week is roughly 1% of your child’s waking life. The other 99% is where habits are made or unmade. What I need at home is:

    • Short and daily beats long and occasional: Five focused minutes, ideally at a consistent time.
    • Practise only at the set level: If we’re on words, don’t leap to sentences. That’s how we go backwards.
    • Give specific feedback: Say ‘that one was lovely and sharps or ‘that one slipped sideways, try again’.
    • Hold back on everyday corrections: Don’t correct them in normal conversation until we’re ready.
    • Record them occasionally: Children love hearing their own tangible progress.

    The bottom line

    I’m good at this. I’ve been doing it for thirty years and I love it. But I’m a therapist, not a magician, and the parents who get the best outcomes are the ones who view this as a partnership. When we work together—combining expert clinic guidance with steady, gentle practice at home, that ‘twenty-plus’ number isn’t a sentence. It’s simply the guideline to giving your child a clear, confident voice for the rest of their life.

    Do get in touch with me. I would love to hear from you and help you and your child.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Unlocking language and thinking skills: The power of sequencing

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
    Sonja demonstrates the power of sequencing

    As speech and language therapists, we often use a variety of techniques to help children develop their communication and cognitive skills. One incredibly valuable tool in our toolkit is the use of sequencing activities. But what exactly is sequencing, and why is it so beneficial?

    What is sequencing?

    Sequencing, at its core, involves arranging items, events, or actions in a specific order. This could involve putting pictures in the correct order to tell a story, following the steps in a recipe, or understanding the order of daily routines like brushing teeth or getting dressed.

    The link between sequencing and language

    Sequencing is fundamental to language development and is quintessential to executive functioning skills in several ways:

    • Narrative skills: Storytelling, whether oral or written, relies heavily on sequencing. A child needs to understand the order of events (beginning, middle, end) to construct a coherent narrative.
    • Explanations and instructions: Providing clear explanations or instructions requires the ability to sequence information logically. For example, explaining how to play a game or how to get from one place to another. In the video clip below we are working on ‘how do make a sandwich’.
    • Vocabulary development: Sequencing helps children understand temporal words and phrases like ‘first,’ ‘then,’ ‘next,’ ‘before,’ and ‘after’.
    • Sentence structure: Constructing grammatically correct sentences often involves sequencing words in a specific order (e.g., subject-verb-object).

    Beyond language, sequencing plays a crucial role in developing executive functioning skills. These are higher-level cognitive skills that help us plan, organise, and manage our time and actions.

    Sequencing activities can help children improve in the following areas:

    • Planning and organisation: Sequencing tasks require children to think ahead, plan the steps involved, and organise them in a logical order.
    • Problem-solving: When they are faced with a problem, sequencing helps children break it down into smaller, more manageable steps.
    • Working memory: Holding information in mind and manipulating it, such as remembering the steps in a multi-step direction, is supported by sequencing skills.
    • Cognitive flexibility: Being able to adjust to changes in a sequence or think of alternative sequences promotes cognitive flexibility.

    Examples of sequencing activities

    Here are some practical examples of sequencing activities you can do with your child:

    • Picture sequencing: Use a set of picture cards to tell a short story or illustrate a process (e.g., making a sandwich, going to the park). Ask your child to arrange the cards in the correct order.
    • Story retelling: After reading a story, have your child retell it, focusing on the order of events.
    • Following instructions: Give your child multi-step instructions to follow (e.g., ‘First, get your shoes. Then, put on your coat. Next, go to the door.’).
    • Sequencing during play: Integrate sequencing into everyday play. For example, while building with blocks, talk about the steps: ‘First, we put this block here. Next, we add this one…’
    • Daily routines: Create visual schedules for daily routines, like getting ready for school or bedtime, to help children understand the sequence of events.
    • In the video clip below I am using an on-line language activity which is often fun for children as they can use their finger to swipe the pictures effortlessly into the right place and, if we realise at the end of the story that we have made a little error, we can then easily re-jig the pictures into their correct place.

    In conclusion

    Sequencing activities offer a powerful way to support children’s language development and enhance their executive functioning skills. By helping children understand and create order, we equip them with essential tools for communicating, learning, and navigating the world around them.

    Do get in touch via my contact form if you are concerned about your child’s development.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Speech prompts and strategies I use in Speech Sound Therapy

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    This particular student has a mild motor planning difficulty and six weeks ago he came to me with a very strong lisp. In addition to the lisp he is struggling to produce a number of sounds, SH and L on its own and all the clusters (FL/BL/KL/PL) but also CH together with some vowel difficulties.

    The prompts are a mix partially from the DTTC (Dynamic Temporal and Tactile Cueing) model by Dr Edythe Strand as well as phonological models I have learned over the years, and some of them are my own.

    Visual/picture prompts and Images

    Here I use the ‘Flat Tyre’ Sound, to offer as an image for a new S sound and the ‘Tick Tock’ Sound for a new image of the T sound. Both cards are from the Bjorem Speech Sound Deck, which I love and use almost daily.

    Gestural Cues

    I like to use all the ‘cued articulation’ hand cues by Jane Passy for consonants and fricatives. Here we use our fingers and hand to illustrate what our tongue does, and we also show whether a sound is voiced or voiceless. When I use one finger it is voiceless (k/f/s/p) and when I use two fingers for the same cue it means that the voice needs to be turned on: (g/v/z/b/n/m). For vowels I like to use Pam Marshalla’s cue system.

    Simultaneous production

    We say the word together.

    Direct imitation

    I say the word and my student copies me directly.

    Imitation after a delay

    I say the word and then after a little wait my student says the word.

    Spontaneous production

    My student has now learned to say the word by him/herself.

    Offering feedback

    It sounds like… I just heard… I didn’t hear the first sound there? Can you try again?

    Letting the student reflect

    By just shaking my head or by looking quizzical so that my student realises something didn’t quite go right.

    Postitive reinforcement

    ‘Yes that was it, do it again, nice one…’

    Cognitive reframing

    This is a technique where we identify different semantic cues and metaphors or imagery cues, so instead of teaching or focusing on a sound we try out viewing each syllable from a different point of view.

    For example: ‘yellow’. I have had great success with this one: we start with just saying ‘yeah yeah yeah’. I might make a little joke and say something like ‘imagine your mum says tidy your bedroom, what do you say or what do you think?’ Answer: ‘yeah yeah yeah’. Then we practice ‘low’ together, I might blow some bubbles high and low and we talk about ‘low’. And then we put ‘Yeah’ and ‘Low’ together and now we have YELLOW!! It might at first still sound a bit odd, like ‘yea-low’ but we soon shape that up and have the real word.

    Each student is different and having a great rapport is crucial to our success.

    Then a little game break after some 7–10 or so repetitions and always trying to finish on a positive note.

    What game breaks do I use:

    Very quick ones! Students can post something, place a counter in a game, take out a Jenga block from the tower, pop in a counter for ‘connect 4’, stick a sword into the Pop the Pirate barrel or add a couple of Lego blocks to something they are building.

    I hope this is helpful, please contact me for any questions.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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    Neurodiversity affirming Speech and Language Therapy

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    Introduction

    I am a neurodiversity affirming therapist and I love and endorse play-based therapy. I use it alongside a strengths-focused approach in all my sessions. Find out why we should use these transformative therapy methodologies in all our work and play with our children.

    I always have a range of different toys and activities up my sleeve so that when one toy is no longer interesting, that’s fine. ‘Look here’s a new one, how about we try this one?’ When therapy feels like play, children are more likely to be engaged and attentive, which leads to better outcomes.

    By using play as a context for Speech and Language Therapy we can create opportunities for children to use and practise their communication skills in a natural, real-life setting. This helps bridge the gap between the therapy room and everyday life.

    Goals and targets

    What about goals and targets I hear you say? Of course, as Speech and Language Therapists we always have our goals for any particular child. They can be speech goals (we want Bobbi to produce a ‘k’ sound at the end of words) or communication goals (we want Fatima to ask for something by pointing to it rather than grabbing it). And these goals can be achieved where there is a reciprocation and a positive, playful relationship between the adult and the child. That relationship comes through play and fun.

    Play and fun

    Play is how a child interacts and learns. If it’s fun, interesting, exciting or pleasurable then that is where the magic happens. And that is what we need to return to repeatedly and then see if we can fold our targets into the activity as we go.

    As soon as we expect our child to do something and we try and shape their behaviours towards a certain outcome we no longer ‘play’. We are now in teaching mode, where we direct and where we are ‘in charge’. As a neurodiversity affirming therapist, I believe that all play is valid. We must not get into the trap of thinking that only functional play is valid, that there is only one way to play with that car ramp/puzzle/potato head. Our autistic children often need to play in a particular way to navigate their world and we must not try and stop that.

    When we affirm and validate our child’s play and copy their play with enthusiasm and respect then, in my experience, all children regardless where they are on the neurodiversity spectrum will begin to engage with us, copy us, and learn how to communicate effectively about things that matter to them.

    Play-based therapy allows therapists to tailor interventions to each child’s unique interests and abilities. This individualised approach increases the likelihood of success and progress.

    Strengths-Focused Speech Therapy

    Strengths-focused therapy emphasizes a child’s strengths and abilities rather than their deficits. It recognises that every person has unique strengths that can be harnessed to overcome challenges.

    Focusing on strengths helps us build a positive self-image. This is especially important for children with communication disorders, as it can boost their confidence and self-esteem.

    When we encourage children to play in ways that they enjoy and are good at they feel empowered and more in control of their lives and play. This can lead to increased motivation and a sense of ownership over their progress.

    Now, imagine the powerful impact that can be achieved by combining play-based therapy and strengths-focused therapy in speech therapy sessions. This dynamic combination brings out the best of both worlds. It creates a therapeutic environment that is not only effective but also enjoyable for children and their families.

    As Speech Therapists we can use the child’s strengths and interests as a foundation for play-based activities. This personalisation not only makes therapy more engaging but also more effective.

    An example

    Charlie, a 3-year-old with social communication challenges, had a deep interest in anything that spins. We used this strength and interest to create a variety of spinning activities. As he is allowed to engage in his spinners, we can practise lots of speech and language and provide great phrases alongside his interest and activities: Ready steady go! Stop! ‘another one’ ‘the red one’ ‘again again’ ‘I love it’ ‘it’s a spinner’ ‘Charlie loves this toy’ ‘it’s going fast’ ‘it’s so fun’ etc..

    Over time Charlie started to copy some of these word models and then used them to create his own little phrases, such as ‘the blue one again’. When this occurred, we felt like celebrating because it had come naturally and appropriately to the situation without any coercion or direction. That is what communication is about! Well done Charlie!

    Conclusion

    Play-based and strengths-focused speech therapy approaches are powerful tools and by combining these approaches, we create a therapeutic environment that is not only effective but also enjoyable and empowering for our clients.

    Contact me if you would like your child to have neurodiversity affirming speech and language therapy.

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    Ten games to support communication in primary school aged children

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    When parents visit me with their child, their stress is palpable. Often parents don’t relish or even expect to be asked to practise strategies at home with their child between sessions. Let alone to practise whilst on holiday. I understand that you don’t necessarily want anything extra added to your daily ‘to do’ lists. This is why we try our best to incorporate all speech and language therapy practice into children’s daily activities.

    For example:

    1. during bath time;
    2. mealtimes;
    3. getting ready for bedtime;
    4. story time
    5. yes, playtime!

    These are activities that all parents will engage with anyway, so it seems to make sense to incorporate both. This is to avoid adding extra pressure on parents’ already stressful and time-poor daily lives. I am hoping my blog will come in handy, especially for the summer holidays.

    On holiday you are unlikely to have your usual games and toys with you – so here is a nice little list of things you can use instead of traditional games and toys:

    If you can think of any other alternatives on holiday and would like to tell me about them, I would love to see your comments below. We can never have too many holiday games!!

    If you are at home over the summer and you do have some games in the cupboard you might want to dust these ones down or buy one or two new ones (if you want to).

    Most games have multiple uses, and it’s always best to adapt a game to match your child’s interests and what motivates them.

    So let’s start…

    1. Pop up pirate: pop a sword into the barrel and watch the pirate pop up randomly. Practise social skills, speech sounds, expressive language (e.g., put a sword on a picture, say the word/sentence then pick up the sword and push it into the barrel).
    2. Word games such as ‘ISpy’, ‘I went to the shop and I bought…’, ‘describe a person and guess who they are’: perfect for when you’re on the move, whether travelling or walking. You can play this anywhere and still support speech, language and communication. You could play ISpy using your child’s special sound, or ‘I went to the shop and bought all things beginning with [insert special sound here]’.
    3. Shopping list: Orchard game is a game to practise categorising. We explain the analogy of the brain being like a filing cabinet. If information is all in the correct place, it’s easier to find, retrieve and use. You can also practise specific speech sounds in this activity. You could also put the words in a sentence to add more of an expressive language element.
    4. Wiggly worms: this Orchard game is all about phonological (awareness of sounds) awareness. Matching a letter with the word. You can also practise the sounds in the words (e.g, g-o-l-d = gold; m-a-ke = make). Talk about the elements, e.g., ‘g-o-l-d’ has 4 sounds, 1 syllable; ‘m-a-ke has 3 sounds, one syllable. You can talk about what words rhyme with the different words and what makes a rhyming word (i.e., the middle and end sounds remain the same).
    5. Sound detectives: this Orchard game allows children to identify sounds. It also has an app (if your child prefers a tech-way of learning). Children identify the sound then they can add the picture card to their path and become closer to being a successful detective. This game can also support memory skills.
    6. Conversation cubes: throw the dice and start building a story. You can also create and use ‘colourful semantics’ sentence strips to support expressive (spoken) language as support to build the narrative.
    7. Think words: ‘name it, press it, pass it’. A great game to expand word knowledge. You can talk about the words at the end of each round exploring semantic (meanings) and phonemic (sounds) links. Your child can also develop social skills (such as attention, listening and turn-taking).
    8. Poo bingo: this is perfectly disgusting but equally fun for kids of about 3.5 years plus – if your child’s target is to practise /p/ sound this is the one for you. You can also learn all about the different animal’s poo, which I am sure you have always wanted to do!! The more we know about a word, the easier it is to store, retrieve and use. Yes, even talking about poo can help!! Also, it’s great for our visual learners.
    9. Simon says: a game that can be played indoors or outdoors. Parents can take turns being “Simon” and give various commands that your child must follow. This means that your child can practise their receptive (understanding of) language as well as their expressive language, speech sounds and social skills (such as turn-taking and initiating).
    10. Ker-plunk: this is perfect for practising your child’s special sound. Repetition is very important, but also can be monotonous, so finding a game that they enjoy is vital. Take turns to pull out a stick. Next, your child can either say their special sound or word (depending on what stage they are at) or hear a good model from other players.

    Do you still have questions? Contact Sonja for support.

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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  • What is Total Communication, and why your child might need it more than just speech

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
    Sonja smiling

    When a child’s speech is difficult to understand, it can feel overwhelming for everyone involved. As a parent, your instinct is often to focus on helping your child ‘talk properly’. And that makes complete sense. Speech is important. But here’s the key message I want to share with you:

    Speech is just one way to communicate.

    And when speech is not yet clear, not yet reliable, or not yet available, children need other ways to get their message across.

    This is where Total Communication comes in.

    What is Total Communication?

    Total Communication is an approach that encourages the use of all available ways to communicate, not just speech.

    This can include:

    • spoken words
    • gestures and pointing
    • facial expressions
    • signing (such as Makaton)
    • pictures or symbols
    • drawing
    • electronic AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication), such as apps like LAMP Words for Life

    It’s not about replacing speech. It’s about supporting communication in every possible way.

    Think of it like this: if speech is currently unclear or limited, why restrict a child to the hardest route? Why not give them more tools to succeed?

    ‘But won’t this stop my child from talking?’

    This is one of the most common concerns I hear in clinic.

    Parents often worry that if a child starts using signs or a communication device, they will become ‘dependent’ on it and stop trying to talk.

    The research tells us something very different.

    Studies consistently show that AAC does not prevent speech development. In fact, it often supports it.

    • A review by Millar, Light & Schlosser (2006) found that AAC interventions do not reduce speech production and may actually increase it.
    • Romski & Sevcik (2005) demonstrated that children given AAC often develop stronger overall communication skills, including spoken language.
    • More recent work continues to show that providing AAC early can accelerate language development, not delay it.

    So rather than ‘giving up on speech’, using AAC is actually building the foundations that speech needs.

    Why Total Communication matters, especially for unintelligible children

    When a child is very difficult to understand, they are often experiencing a hidden frustration:

    ‘I know what I want to say, but no one understands me.’

    Over time, this can lead to:

    • reduced confidence
    • behavioural frustration
    • withdrawal from communication
    • fewer opportunities to practise language

    If a child cannot successfully communicate, they communicate less. And when they communicate less, their language development slows down.

    Total Communication breaks this cycle.

    By giving a child reliable ways to be understood, we:

    • reduce frustration
    • increase interaction
    • build confidence
    • create more opportunities for language learning

    And importantly, we allow them to show us what they already know.

    AAC is a bridge, not a barrier

    Using AAC (whether that’s pointing to pictures, signing, or using a device) does something powerful:

    It separates language from speech.

    A child might have lots of ideas, vocabulary, and understanding but their speech system (especially in cases like phonological disorder or childhood apraxia of speech) cannot yet keep up.

    AAC allows the child to:

    • express complex ideas now
    • practise sentence structure
    • develop vocabulary
    • take part in conversations

    All while their speech is still developing.

    In other words, AAC doesn’t replace speech. It keeps language moving forward while speech catches up.

    What does this look like in real life?

    In therapy, I often use a combination of approaches:

    • modelling simple signs alongside speech
    • pointing to symbols while talking
    • encouraging children to gesture or show
    • using drawings to support understanding
    • incorporating an AAC device such as LAMP Words for Life

    You might see a child:

    • say part of a word
    • point to a symbol
    • use a gesture
    • and look at you expectantly

    That is communication success.

    And success builds motivation.

    ‘I just want them to talk’

    Of course you do. And I do too!! That’s always the goal.

    But here’s the important shift in thinking:

    Children learn to talk by communicating, not by waiting until speech is perfect.

    If we hold out for clear speech before allowing other communication methods, we risk:

    • limiting their ability to interact
    • reducing practice opportunities
    • increasing frustration

    But if we support all communication, we give them:

    • more chances to express themselves
    • more positive communication experiences
    • more input and feedback

    And that is what drives progress.

    A balanced approach

    Total Communication doesn’t mean ‘speech is no longer important’.

    It means:

    • we continue targeted speech therapy
    • we work on sounds and clarity
    • and we support communication in the meantime

    It’s not either/or.

    It’s both/and.

    Final thought

    If your child’s speech is difficult to understand, the most important question is not:

    ‘Are they talking clearly yet?’

    It’s:

    ‘Can they successfully communicate?’

    Because communication is the foundation of:

    • relationships
    • learning
    • confidence
    • wellbeing

    And every child deserves a voice, in whatever form that voice takes right now.

    Feel free to contact me if your child needs help with speech and communication.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    References (parent-friendly):

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