Something that keeps surprising me…

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After thirty years of helping children with lisps, you’d think very little would still surprise me. And yet…

Girl looking at herself in a mirror and looking at her tongue

Every few weeks, a lovely, and well-informed parent will describe their five, six, or seven year-old’s slushy, sideways /S/ and then ask ‘So, how many sessions do we need to fix this? Perhaps five–six? ‘

And every time, I have to resist the urge to laugh, cry, and reach for the biscuits all at once. Because the honest answer, for an established lateral lisp in a school-aged child, is usually twenty sessions or more. Wait! Hear me out!…

‘Why so many?!’ … once you understand what’s actually going on inside your child’s mouth, the number 20+ does no longer sound outrageous and starts sounding rather reasonable.

First: not all lisps are equal

Most people picture a lisp as the gentle, even endearing /TH/ for /S/ — ‘thnake’ instead of ‘snake’. That’s an inter-dental lisp, where the tongue pokes forward between the teeth. It’s common, it’s developmentally normal in younger children, and this is the important bit, it’s usually visible. It’s still a bit tricky to correct at first but I often can show a child what to do, they can watch themselves in a mirror, and quite often we’re away. But it still takes a lot longer than parents think because just fixing the sound does not mean it will be produced correctly in normal, daily speech and conversation.

Lateral lisp

A lateral lisp on the other hand is an entirely different animal. Instead of the air flowing in a neat central stream down a groove in the middle of the tongue, it spills out over the sides, around the molars. The result is that wet, slushy, quality. It affects not just /S/ and /Z/, but very often /SH/, /CH/ and /J/ too which is a big chunk of English.

Here’s the snag: it’s happening where nobody can see it. There’s no mirror in the world that shows you the sides of your tongue as you are speaking, or chewing for that matter. We’re teaching a child to control a movement they can’t see, can’t easily feel, and have never once performed correctly in their life.

By five, six or even seven years old your child has said the /S/ sound about several hundred times a day, every day, for several years. It’s one of the most frequent sounds in English: it makes our plurals, our possessives, our verb endings. Every ‘cats’, ‘let’s’, ‘she runs’.

So we are now talking about a deeply ingrained motor habit, rehearsed tens of thousands of times, that now feels completely normal and correct to the child producing it. We’re not teaching a new skill onto a blank page; we’re overwriting a very strong habit. Think of a tennis player with a flawed serve who’s played for five years… You don’t fix that in a fortnight, and nobody expects you to.

The good news is: school children, seven-year-old and up, are brilliant at this work. They can self-monitor, they can practise independently, they can hear the difference. It just takes time.

The quiet culprit: where the tongue lives at rest…

Here’s the piece that most parents have never heard, and it explains a lot.

When the mouth is at rest, the tongue should sit up — tip resting lightly behind the top front teeth, body gently suctioned to the roof of the mouth, lips together, breathing through the nose.

Many children with a lateral lisp have a low, forward resting tongue posture. The tongue sits on the floor of the mouth, often with the lips slightly apart. This is frequently associated with a history of mouth breathing, blocked noses and allergies, enlarged tonsils or adenoids, prolonged dummy or thumb-sucking, and sometimes dental or orthodontic differences such as an open bite.

Why does this matter so much? Because a good /S/ requires the tongue’s sides to brace firmly against the upper back teeth to form that central channel. A tongue that spends 23 hours a day flopped on the floor of the mouth simply doesn’t have the habitual strength, position or awareness to do that on demand. We can teach a beautiful /S/ in the clinic — but if the tongue’s default setting is ‘down’, we’re swimming upstream all week.

So, for many children, part of the work is establishing a better resting posture alongside the sound itself. That’s foundational and it’s slow.

So what does twenty-plus sessions actually achieve?

Therapy for a lateral lisp moves through a strict hierarchy, and you cannot skip a rung:

  • Auditory discrimination: Can they hear the difference? (Often, initially, no.)
  • Eliciting the sound: Sometimes a single session, can be six.
  • Stabilisation: Building consistency in isolation, then syllables, then single words (beginning, middle, end).
  • Blends: Mastering challenging combinations like ‘spoon’, ‘street’, and ‘smile’.
  • Sentences: Moving to phrases, full sentences, and structured conversation.
  • Generalisation: Using it naturally with family, at school, when tired, or when telling a long story.
  • Self-monitoring: Training them to catch and correct themselves without therapist intervention.

Rushing a level guarantees a collapse two levels later. I’ve never once regretted going slowly; I’ve frequently regretted going fast.

The bit that decides everything: home practice

Let me be blunt in a nice way 😊 The child who practises five to ten minutes a day, six days a week, will finish in half the time of the child who practises the night before their session.

An hour with me per week is roughly 1% of your child’s waking life. The other 99% is where habits are made or unmade. What I need at home is:

  • Short and daily beats long and occasional: Five focused minutes, ideally at a consistent time.
  • Practise only at the set level: If we’re on words, don’t leap to sentences. That’s how we go backwards.
  • Give specific feedback: Say ‘that one was lovely and sharps or ‘that one slipped sideways, try again’.
  • Hold back on everyday corrections: Don’t correct them in normal conversation until we’re ready.
  • Record them occasionally: Children love hearing their own tangible progress.

The bottom line

I’m good at this. I’ve been doing it for thirty years and I love it. But I’m a therapist, not a magician, and the parents who get the best outcomes are the ones who view this as a partnership. When we work together—combining expert clinic guidance with steady, gentle practice at home, that ‘twenty-plus’ number isn’t a sentence. It’s simply the guideline to giving your child a clear, confident voice for the rest of their life.

Do get in touch with me. I would love to hear from you and help you and your child.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


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    Reference

    Bryan A (1997) Colourful semantics. In: Chiat S, Law J, and Marshall J (eds) Language disorders in children and adults: psycholinguistic approaches to therapy. London: Whurr, 143–61.


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    This is a surprisingly common speech error and it can be corrected really well in my experience. I have helped lots of children of all ages learn how to control their tongue movements and produce clear, sharp /S/ sounds and good /SH/ sounds.

    Initial consideration

    There are some factors which need to be considered before we can dive into therapy proper and these are they, in a nutshell:

    1. The student is not currently displaying negative oral habits such as thumb sucking or excessive sucking on clothing. This is because thumb sucking exerts pressure on the teeth and therefore can, over time, push teeth out of their natural order/position.
    2. The student does not have a restricted lingual frenulum or tongue tie which can cause at times restricted movements of the tongue (pending on how tight the frenulum is attaching the tongue to the base of the oral cavity); equally a labial frenulum or lip-tie can restrict lip movement and therefore physically restrict good speech sound production.
    3. The student does not have enlarged tonsils as they can sometimes push a tongue forward and also cause open mouth posture and open mouth breathing.
    4. The student’s motivation to change their speech pattern is high. (this is an important factor though with younger students I can get round this with a lot of fun games and good parental involvement!)

    When I do an Oral Assessment of my student these are the first factors I want to look at and consider. Often I will refer to other agencies such as Orthodontists, dentists or ENT specialists to advise and help with some of these factors before we can get going. However, there are strategies that we can work on almost straight away.

    Most of my Lisp students present with an open mouth posture: that is where the student has their mouth always slightly open for breathing. Over time the tongue starts to fall forward and rests on the front teeth or the bottom lip instead of finding a comfortable resting place either at the alveolar ridge (the bumpy spot behind the upper front teeth) or, alternatively, resting at the bottom of the mouth behind the lower front teeth.

    Another common problem is that the tongue is not moving independently from the jaw and so is reluctant to pull back or lift up inside the mouth as the tongue is guided in movement by the jaw.

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    But no fear, these problems can be treated over time for sure! We often start with lip, tongue, and jaw exercises that help to move the tongue independently from the Jaw, our student learns that the tongue is a muscle and can be trained to do amazing acrobatic things in the mouth! WOW! It can actually pull back, lift up, and come down again all on its own!

    We work on breathing, holding our breath for a bit then pushing it out and then holding it again.

    And when it comes to the actual /S/ sound I often try and go a NEW route bypassing the Snake-Sound route if that is what had previously been tried and failed so that we can create completely new sound patterns in our brain and think about our sounds in a completely new way.

    We then work on producing the sound /S/ on its own for a bit, at the end of words, then on either side of complimentary sounds, for instance : ‘EASY” – the sound patterns here are EEE-S–EE : the /EEE/ sound is complimentary to the /S/ sound as the tongue is at the right hight for the /S/ already once you have it in place for /EEE/ -……see?! EASY!

    And gradually we work towards saying the /S/ sound clearly at the front of short words, then phrases and then sentences.

    The process takes some time and it depends on how ready the student is. This varies of course hugely so I can never promise the exact number of sessions we will take to get that Lisp fixed. A lot depends on home practice in between sessions, and this is of course crucial to all therapy! Every day 15-20 mins practice is a good average time to aim for and when this is done it shortens the therapy block drastically.

    I always give plenty of home work so there is never a chance of it getting boring or there being “nothing to do”!

    Do contact me. I really enjoy working with this type of student and get a great kick out of FIXING THAT LISP!


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    Why tongue lateralisation matters: The hidden feeding skill that every toddler needs

    When parents think about feeding milestones, they often focus on what their child is eating. Are they accepting lumps? Will they eat vegetables? Are they managing finger foods?

    However, one of the most important skills happening behind the scenes is something many parents have never heard of: tongue lateralisation.

    Tongue lateralisation simply means the tongue’s ability to move from side to side inside the mouth. Although this sounds like a small movement, it is one of the key building blocks for safe chewing, efficient eating and later speech development.

    As a Speech and Language Therapist specialising in infant feeding, I frequently assess children who have delayed or absent tongue lateralisation. The encouraging news is that this skill can often be developed. But like many areas of development, there is an optimal window during which children learn it most naturally.

    What does the tongue actually do during eating?

    Eating is an incredibly complex process involving the lips, jaw, cheeks, tongue and swallowing muscles all working together.

    For mature chewing, the tongue needs to:

    • move food from the centre of the mouth onto the back gums and molars
    • keep the food positioned while the jaw chews
    • collect scattered pieces of food from around the mouth
    • reform the chewed food into a single cohesive bolus
    • move that bolus safely to the middle of the tongue before swallowing.

    Without good tongue lateralisation, food often stays in the middle or front of the mouth where it cannot be chewed effectively.

    Children may compensate by:

    • swallowing pieces whole
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    • relying on sucking instead of chewing
    • holding food in their cheeks
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    These children are often described as ‘fussy eaters’, when in reality they may simply lack the oral motor skills needed to manage more advanced textures comfortably.

    When should tongue lateralisation develop?

    Tongue lateralisation begins to emerge during the second half of the first year of life as babies start exploring textured foods.

    Between approximately 6 and 12 months, babies naturally begin learning to move food sideways towards their gums for early chewing. As molars develop during the second year, these movements become more refined and efficient.

    This period represents an important developmental window because babies are biologically programmed to experiment with increasingly varied textures. Repeated opportunities to chew different foods strengthen the tongue, jaw and cheek muscles while building the complex movement patterns needed for mature eating.

    If a child remains on smooth purées or very soft foods for too long, they may miss hundreds of opportunities to practise these essential movements.

    Why does this developmental window matter?

    Like learning to crawl, walk or ride a bicycle, oral motor skills develop through repeated practice.

    Children who do not experience enough chewing opportunities during infancy can sometimes continue to rely on immature sucking and munching patterns well into toddlerhood.

    This does not mean the opportunity is completely lost after infancy. Many toddlers can still learn tongue lateralisation successfully with the right support. However, the longer an immature pattern is used, the more established it becomes, making change more challenging.

    That is why early assessment is so valuable.

    Signs your toddler may have poor tongue lateralisation

    You may notice your child:

    • chews mainly with the front teeth
    • bites but does not chew efficiently
    • keeps food in the centre of the mouth
    • pockets food in the cheeks
    • frequently spits out textured foods
    • gags on lumps
    • prefers soft foods
    • swallows before food has been adequately chewed
    • takes a very long time to finish meals.

    Not every child showing these signs has an oral motor difficulty, but they do warrant further assessment.

    How can we encourage tongue lateralisation?

    The good news is that the tongue learns through experience.

    One of the best ways to encourage side-to-side movement is by offering long, resistive foods that naturally encourage the tongue to move food towards the side gums for chewing. We also call them sometimes HARD MUNCHABLES – they look like on the following image.

    Hard munchablers

    Examples include:

    • mango pits with most of the flesh removed
    • pineapple core strips
    • thick steak strips
    • cooked pork strips
    • peeled celery sticks
    • thick cucumber spears
    • roasted pepper strips
    • corn on the cob cut into manageable rounds
    • dehydrated apple rings
    • large clean cooked rib bones with a little meat remaining for supervised chewing practice.

    These foods are not intended for children to consume large pieces quickly. Instead, they provide resistance that encourages the jaw, cheeks and tongue to work together while giving valuable sensory feedback.

    A simple technique that can help

    Some toddlers struggle because they never naturally move food to the side of their mouths.

    In these cases, placing a long strip of food gently onto the side gums can sometimes trigger the chewing pattern automatically. This gives the tongue an opportunity to experience where chewing should occur.

    This should always be done calmly, with the child sitting upright and under close adult supervision.

    Every child develops differently

    Some children are more likely to experience delayed tongue lateralisation than others.

    This may include children who:

    • remained on purées for an extended period
    • have developmental delays
    • have low muscle tone
    • were born prematurely
    • have significant sensory processing differences
    • have experienced prolonged tube feeding or medical conditions affecting feeding.

    A feeding assessment can identify whether tongue movement, jaw stability, sensory processing or another factor is contributing to the difficulty.

    Early intervention makes a difference

    One of the biggest misconceptions I hear is:

    ‘They’ll grow out of it.’

    Some children do. Others don’t.

    Without intervention, inefficient chewing patterns can persist for years, affecting food variety, mealtime confidence and nutritional intake. In some cases, immature oral motor patterns may also contribute to unclear speech production later on, although feeding and speech skills do not always develop at the same rate.

    The earlier we identify a problem, the easier it usually is to help children develop more mature, efficient chewing patterns.

    Final thoughts

    Tongue lateralisation may not be a term many parents recognise, but it is one of the foundations of successful feeding.

    By offering opportunities to chew a variety of safe textures during infancy, parents help build the complex tongue movements needed for efficient eating throughout childhood.

    If your toddler still struggles with chewing, gags on textured foods, or seems unable to move food around their mouth, don’t simply wait and hope they will outgrow it. A comprehensive feeding assessment can identify exactly where the difficulty lies and provide practical strategies tailored to your child’s needs.

    Sometimes a few small changes at the right time can make a lifetime of difference. Do get in touch with me. I would love to hear from you and help your little one develop good chewing skills and eating habits.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Why open cup drinking and good sitting matter for your toddler

    When your baby reaches around 12 months, there is a lot going on developmentally. They are learning to walk, communicate, feed themselves and become increasingly independent. One small but important milestone that can sometimes get overlooked is learning to drink from an open cup.

    Many toddlers continue to have milk from a bottle well beyond their first birthday, and parents are often understandably reluctant to take it away. The bottle may be familiar, comforting and convenient, particularly at bedtime.

    But moving towards an open cup is not simply about changing the way your child drinks. It is part of their development of oral-motor skills, feeding independence and mealtime development.

    And there is another piece of the puzzle that is often overlooked: how your toddler is sitting while they eat and drink.

    The way the body is supported can make a real difference to what the mouth is able to do.

    Why introduce an open cup from around 12 months?

    Babies can begin learning to drink from an open cup much earlier than many parents realise. By around 12 months, most children should be given regular opportunities to practise drinking from an open cup alongside other suitable drinking vessels.

    An open cup encourages your toddler to learn a different pattern of drinking from the sucking pattern they have used with a bottle.

    With an open cup, your child needs to:

    • lean towards the cup and control its position
    • grade how much liquid enters the mouth
    • use their lips to help control the liquid
    • coordinate breathing and swallowing
    • develop increasingly mature tongue and jaw movements
    • learn to take a drink without relying on a teat or nipple.

    These are useful skills for developing efficient eating and drinking.

    This doesn’t mean that a toddler who still has a bottle at 14 or 18 months has somehow ‘missed their chance’. Children develop at different rates, and there is always an opportunity to work towards new skills.

    However, if a bottle remains the main or only way a child drinks for a long time, there can be fewer opportunities to practise these more mature drinking skills.

    What are the pitfalls of staying with a bottle for too long?

    The occasional bottle is not the issue. The concern is when a toddler continues to rely heavily on a bottle and therefore has little reason or opportunity to develop other drinking skills.

    A bottle encourages a sucking pattern which is appropriate for infancy. As children mature, we want to see increasing use of their lips, tongue, jaw and facial muscles in more sophisticated ways.

    Long-term bottle use can also make the transition to an open cup more difficult simply because the child has become very accustomed to the bottle.

    There can also be practical considerations around dental health, particularly when milk is offered frequently throughout the day or overnight.

    For many toddlers, the bottle has also become associated with comfort, sleep or emotional regulation. This can make giving it up feel like a very big change for the whole family.

    So rather than thinking, ‘The bottle has to disappear tomorrow’, think:

    ‘How can I gradually increase opportunities for open-cup drinking?’

    Offer the open cup regularly at meals. Let your toddler experiment. Expect spills. Keep the amount of liquid small initially and provide plenty of encouragement.

    Learning to drink is a skill. And skills need practice.

    But what has sitting got to do with drinking?

    Quite a lot!

    When we think about feeding, we naturally tend to focus on the mouth. We watch what the tongue is doing, whether a child chews, whether they cough or gag and what foods they accept.

    But feeding is a whole-body activity.

    Your child needs a stable body position before they can use their mouth efficiently.

    Think about trying to drink from a cup while sitting on a wobbly stool with your feet dangling in the air. You would probably find it much easier if your body was well supported.

    The same principle applies to toddlers.

    Tripp Trapp® Chair

    A well-designed highchair such as a Tripp Trapp chair can provide a stable base when it is correctly adjusted for the individual child. Ideally, your toddler should have:

    • hips well supported
    • knees comfortably bent
    • feet resting firmly on a footplate
    • a stable pelvis and trunk
    • the table or tray at an appropriate height

    This gives your child a solid foundation from which to move.

    And that matters because stability in the body supports movement and control in the mouth.

    Feet supported = better feeding?

    I sometimes hear parents say, ‘He doesn’t need the footrest don’t worry about it (as I crouch down with my Allenn key to adjust the Tripp Trapp chair) but I always explain it is very important to have his feet supported. Dangling legs can make it much harder to maintain a stable sitting position.

    When the feet are supported, your toddler can push gently through their feet and stabilise their pelvis and trunk. This can help them maintain a more organised position while eating and drinking.

    They can then devote more attention to the job in front of them:

    looking, reaching, grasping, chewing, swallowing and drinking.

    This is particularly important for toddlers who are developing their chewing skills or who find mealtimes physically demanding.

    A stable body supports a busy mouth

    Eating involves an extraordinary amount of coordination.

    Your toddler is managing food in their hands, bringing it to their mouth, biting, chewing, moving food around with their tongue, forming a bolus and swallowing,  often while simultaneously looking around, communicating and interacting with you.

    Drinking from an open cup adds another layer of coordination.

    Good postural support doesn’t teach a child to drink from a cup, but it can give them a much better physical foundation from which to practise the skill.

    This is why, when I assess a toddler’s feeding, I don’t just look inside the mouth.

    I also look at how the child is positioned.

    Making open-cup drinking part of everyday life

    You don’t need a complicated programme.

    At meals, offer a small amount of water in an open cup. You can help your toddler hold the cup initially, tipping it gently towards their lips and allowing them to control the drinking as much as possible.

    Some mess is completely normal!

    You might also use a small, lightweight open cup that is easy for little hands to manage.

    And remember that the goal is not to make every drink perfect. The goal is to give your child regular, positive opportunities to practise.

    If your toddler is struggling with drinking, frequently coughing or choking, refusing cups, relying heavily on a bottle, or experiencing difficulties with chewing and eating, it is worth seeking professional advice from a Speech and Language Therapist with expertise in paediatric feeding.

    The bigger picture

    Open-cup drinking and good sitting are not two unrelated developmental skills.

    They are part of the same picture.

    A stable body provides a foundation for skilled movement. Skilled movement supports feeding. And feeding skills develop through practice and opportunity.

    So as your toddler approaches and moves beyond their first birthday, think beyond simply asking, ‘How much milk are they drinking?’

    Think about how they are drinking, how they are sitting, and what opportunities they have to develop the skills they will need as they grow.

    And if you have a little one sitting beautifully at the table in a well-supported Tripp Trapp chair, remember: you’re not just creating a comfortable seat.

    You’re creating a stable foundation for eating, drinking, learning and growing.

    Do get in touch with me. I would love to hear from you and help your little one develop good sitting and drinking habits.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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