Cycles Approach speech therapy: Why syllables come first

and why it matters more than you might think!

If your child’s speech is difficult to understand, it can feel tempting to focus straight away on individual sounds: those tricky /S/, /K/, or /SH/ sounds that just won’t come out clearly.

But in therapy, we don’t always start there.

When a child is very difficult to understand, and I have ruled out that the underlying cause is motor-based, I often opt for the Cycles Phonological Approach. This is helpful for those kids where we can feel like we don’t know where to start! The Cycles Approach helps to generate a broad overall increase in speech clarity by sequentially targeting a variety of speech patterns over the course of 8–10 weeks.

So rather than working on one sound until it’s ‘fixed,’ we:

  • Work on patterns (not just individual sounds)
  • Target each pattern for a short period of time
  • Then cycle to the next one
  • And come back around again later

This mirrors how speech development naturally happens: gradually, with increasing accuracy over time.

Why don’t we start by fixing erroneous sounds straight away?

To use a metaphor, if a child doesn’t have a strong syllable structure, working on individual sounds is like decorating a house that doesn’t have solid walls yet.

Many children with speech sound difficulties:

  • Drop syllables (e.g. ‘banana’ → ‘nana’)
  • Simplify longer words
  • Struggle to maintain rhythm and stress patterns

So, before we refine speech sounds, we need to build the framework of speech.

Why syllables come first in every cycle

In the Cycles Approach, we always begin with 2- and 3-syllable words, even if that’s not the main concern.

Why?

Because syllable awareness supports:

  • Speech clarity (intelligibility)
  • Word structure and sequencing
  • Prosody (rhythm and stress)
  • Motor planning for longer words

Without this, even perfectly produced sounds can still be hard to understand in real speech.

What do ‘2 and 3 beats’ mean?

When we talk about ‘beats’ we mean syllables you can clap.

Try it:

  • ‘Table’ → ta-ble (2 beats 👏👏)
  • ‘Banana’ → ba-na-na (3 beats 👏👏👏)

In therapy, we help children:

  • Hear the beats
  • Feel the rhythm
  • Produce the full word (without dropping parts)

What this looks like in therapy

In my sessions, this part of the cycle is active, visual, and repetitive.

You might see me using:

  • 👏 Clapping or tapping out syllables
  • 🧩 Using visual supports or blocks for each beat
  • 🎲 Play-based repetition of target words
  • 🎯 High-frequency practice (lots of turns!)

I also keep the focus on success and flow, rather than correction.

If you’re watching the video clip I’ve shared here, you’ll notice:

  • I’m not over-correcting every sound
  • I’m prioritising getting the whole word out
  • I’m building rhythm, confidence, and consistency

Why this stage is so powerful

It can look simple, but it’s doing a lot of heavy lifting.

Working on syllables helps children:

  • Say longer words more clearly
  • Reduce ‘mumbling’ or collapsing of words
  • Improve overall intelligibility quickly
  • Prepare for more precise sound work later

Often, parents notice early wins like:

✨ ‘They’re easier to understand already’

✨ ‘They’re saying longer words!’

✨ ‘They’re more confident speaking’

And that’s before we’ve even fully targeted specific sounds.

But will my child still learn their sounds?

Yes. Absolutely.

The Cycles Approach is structured so that after syllables, we move into:

  • Early developing sounds
  • Then more complex patterns (like fronting or clusters)

And  importantly, we come back around again.

Nothing is missed. It’s just sequenced in a way that supports success.

A different way of thinking about progress

One of the biggest mindset shifts with the Cycles Approach is this:

👉 We’re not aiming for perfection straight away

👉 We’re aiming for gradual system-wide change

That means:

  • Your child doesn’t need to ‘master’ something before moving on
  • Progress builds across cycles
  • Speech becomes clearer over time, not overnight

So, to sum up

Starting with syllables might seem unexpected but it’s one of the most powerful foundations we can give a child whose speech is hard to understand.

By building rhythm, structure, and confidence first, we make everything that comes next more effective.

If your child is starting speech therapy and you notice we’re clapping words like ‘banana’ or ‘elephant’, there’s a very good reason for it.

We’re not going backwards.

We’re building from the ground up.

We’re making later sound work more effective and more likely to generalise into everyday talking.

Next steps:

If you’re concerned about your child’s speech clarity or wondering whether they might benefit from a structured approach like this, feel free to get in touch. I offer individualised assessments and therapy plans tailored to each child’s speech profile whether that’s early sound development, phonology, or motor speech difficulties.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

Parent FAQ section

Why is my child practising words like ‘banana’ instead of sounds like /K/ or /S/?

Because your child first needs to be able to hold and produce the full shape of a word. If they’re dropping syllables (e.g. ‘banana’ → ‘nana’), working on individual sounds won’t carry over into real speech. We build the structure first, then refine the sounds.

What if my child can already say some long words?

That’s great. But we’re looking for consistency and clarity across many words, not just a few familiar ones. This stage helps stabilise that skill so it becomes reliable in everyday talking.

How long will we stay on syllables?

Usually, this is a short but important phase within each cycle. We revisit it regularly, but we also move on to other patterns (like specific sounds or sound processes) within the same therapy block.

Will this delay my child learning their sounds?

No. In fact, it often speeds things up overall. Once the syllable structure is in place, children are much more able to use correct sounds in longer words and sentences.

What can I do at home?

Keep it simple and playful:

  • Clap out words together (e.g. ‘el-e-phant’)
  • Emphasise full words naturally in conversation
  • Repeat back what your child says with the full structure (without pressure)

Consistency and exposure matter more than correction.

My child gets frustrated. Will this help?

Yes. Many children become frustrated when they’re not understood. Improving syllable structure often leads to quick wins in clarity, which can boost confidence and reduce that frustration.

Building clearer speech: Why we practise syllables first

What are syllables?

Syllables are the ‘beats’ in words.

  • ‘Table’ = 2 beats (ta-ble)
  • ‘Banana’ = 3 beats (ba-na-na)

Why is my child working on this?

If your child:

  • Drops parts of words (‘banana’ → ‘nana’)
  • Mumbles longer words
  • Is hard to understand

…then we need to build the structure of words first.

This helps your child:

✔ Say longer words clearly

✔ Be easier to understand

✔ Feel more confident speaking

What does this look like in therapy?

We practise:

  • Clapping or tapping out beats 👏
  • Saying full words with rhythm
  • Repeating target words through play
  • Using visuals or actions to support learning

How you can help at home

Keep it light and playful, little and often!

Try this:

  • Clap words together أثناء play (e.g. toys, food, animals)
  • Model full words naturally (‘Yes, ba-na-na!’)
  • Repeat and expand what your child says

Example:

Child: ‘nana’

You: ‘Yes! Ba-na-na‘

Important to know

  • This is a key first step in speech therapy
  • We will move on to sounds—but this helps them stick
  • Small changes here can make a big difference in clarity
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    Conquering the ‘slushy’ /S/: Your guide to treating lateral lisps

    Conquering the ‘slushy’ /S/: Your guide to treating lateral lisps

    As a speech therapist, few things are as rewarding as helping a child find their clear, confident voice. Among the various speech sound disorders, the ‘lateral lisp’ – often described as a ‘slushy’ or ‘wet’ /S/ sound – presents a unique challenge. While it can be tricky to treat, I’m thrilled to share that I’ve had significant success in helping children overcome this particular hurdle.

    What is a lateral lisp?

    Most people are familiar with a frontal lisp, where the tongue protrudes between the front teeth, resulting in a /TH/ sound for an /S/ (e.g., ‘thun’ for ‘sun’). A lateral lisp, however, is different. Instead of the air escaping over the front of the tongue, it escapes over the sides, often giving the /S/ and /Z/ sounds a distinct, muffled, or ‘slushy’ quality. This happens because the tongue is not forming the correct central groove, allowing air to spill out laterally.

    The science behind a perfect /S/ vs. a slushy one

    To understand how to fix a lateral lisp, it’s helpful to understand how a ‘perfect’ /S/ sound is made. Imagine a narrow, focused stream of air. For a clear /S/ sound, your tongue forms a shallow groove down its centre, directing a precise, thin stream of air right down the middle, over the tip of your tongue, and out through a tiny opening between your tongue and the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth. This focused airflow creates that crisp, sharp /SSSS/ sound we recognise.

    Now, picture what happens with a lateral lisp. Instead of that neat, central channel, the tongue is often flatter or positioned in a way that allows the air to escape over one or both sides. Think of it like a river overflowing its banks – the air, instead of flowing in a controlled stream, spills out sideways, creating that characteristic ‘slushy’ sound. This lateral airflow is what we need to retrain.

    Why is it tricky to treat?

    Treating a lateral lisp can be challenging for a few reasons:

    • Habitual muscle memory: The way the tongue moves and positions itself for a lateral lisp is deeply ingrained. It’s a motor habit that needs to be unlearned and replaced with a new, more precise movement.
    • Subtle differences: The difference between a lateral lisp and a correct /S/ sound can be quite subtle to perceive, both for the child and sometimes even for parents. This makes it harder for the child to self-monitor and correct.
    • Oral motor control: It requires fine motor control of the tongue muscles to create and maintain that central groove for airflow.

    My success with children aged six years and over

    I’ve found great success in treating lateral lisps, particularly with children aged six years and older. Why this age group? By this age, children typically have:

    • Increased awareness: They are more aware of their speech and often more motivated to make changes. They can better perceive the difference between their ‘slushy’ /S/ and a clear one.
    • Improved cognitive skills: They can understand and follow more complex instructions and strategies.
    • Better self-monitoring: Their ability to listen to themselves and correct their own speech improves significantly.
    • Enhanced oral motor control: Their fine motor skills, including those of the tongue, are more developed, allowing for greater precision.

    My approach focuses on a combination of auditory discrimination, tactile cues, and targeted myofunctional exercises to help children ‘feel’ the correct airflow and tongue placement. We use a variety of engaging activities to make the process fun and effective.

    It is crucial to understand tongue functioning and focusing on correcting improper oral resting posture and muscle function, which are often significant contributors to a lateral lisp. For example, if the tongue rests low and wide in the mouth consistently, or if there’s a tongue thrust during swallowing, these habits can prevent the tongue from achieving the precise, midline placement necessary for a clear /S/ or /Z/ sound. Through targeted exercises I aim to re-educate the oral and facial muscles, promoting correct tongue posture at rest, during swallowing, and, ultimately, during speech production. By strengthening the muscles responsible for tongue lifting and encouraging a more appropriate swallowing pattern we can establish the correct oral motor skills needed to overcome a lateral lisp and achieve clearer articulation.

    The recipe for success: Little and often

    The single most crucial ingredient for success in treating a lateral lisp is daily home practice of all the strategies given. This isn’t about long, arduous sessions; it’s about consistency. Think of it like building a muscle: short, frequent workouts yield better results than sporadic, intense ones.

    My recommended formula is ‘little and often’. This means:

    • Short, focused sessions: Aim for 5-10 minutes of practice, 2-3 times a day. This prevents fatigue and keeps the child engaged.
    • Integrate into daily routines: Practise while waiting for dinner, during a car ride, or before bedtime. Make it a natural part of their day.
    • Positive reinforcement: Celebrate every small success! Encouragement goes a long way in building confidence and motivation.
    • Parental involvement: Parents play a vital role in providing consistent cues and encouragement at home. I equip families with clear, easy-to-follow strategies.

    Overcoming a lateral lisp requires dedication, but with the right guidance and consistent practice, a clear, confident /S/ sound is achievable. If your child is struggling with a ‘slushy’ /S/, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Together, we can achieve success!

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    How to use Attention Autism to develop language and communication

    Now you’ve read Attention Autism (part one), you are familiar with the concept of ‘bucket time’ and the benefits it has to offer your child. It’s time to explore all the different stages. In sessions, it can be noisy and with so much to take in, you may want something to refer to. If you’re in need of a helping hand or memory jogger for stage two, read on…

    Knowing what stage your child is working at is vital. Every stage has different aims to develop and enhance functional communication. So being familiar with your child’s goals ensures you can continue to practise at home. If you’re unsure of their goals, please ask your Speech and Language Therapist.

    With all speech, language and communication goals, the aim is always to generalise skills from therapy settings to home and nursery or school life. This generalisation period will take time. Please try to stick with the plan. You will experience the benefits for your child, and it’ll make family life a little easier.

    You may remember that Autistic children thrive on visuals. Let’s use their strengths to support their communication needs. It is a good idea at the start of the activity to have a visual for what’s happening now and what will happen next. If you’re anything like me, you’ll grab a pen and paper or a whiteboard and whiteboard pen, and will doodle away! You don’t need fancy photos.

    On the left is a bag with Now written above it and Bag below. On the right are three children playing with Net written above and Play written below.

    The attention builder

    Stage two of the Attention Autism approach is called “the attention builder”. The clue is in the name, your child’s goal is to keep focused on the activity for a longer period. The duration will be different for every child, but it’s useful to time their attention, so you can report progress back to your therapist.

    Parents are often worried about doing something wrong. If it all goes a bit pear-shaped or not as you expected, don’t panic! This is the time to ask yourself, did my child have fun? Did they engage in the activity? It’s very helpful to reflect on the experience. What could you do that would make the activity easier for your child to access? (For example, did you set up the activity before your child entered the room? This would allow for a smoother session, so that waiting time was minimal.)

    Three ideas for stage two activities

    There are so many ideas out there, which at times can feel overwhelming. I’m always looking for the easiest options to present to you to reduce overwhelm and allow it to feel manageable.

    Remember this is about having fun. Your child’s communication will benefit from you relaxing and having this structured approach.

    Here are our three top ideas for stage two attention Autism activities:

    1. Flour castles

    You’ll need:

    • Container, cup or glass
    • Flour
    • Sheet (for the table/floor) (optional)

    This is a fun-filled activity to try. But it can get a little messy!

    Fill a small glass, cup or container with flour and flip the cup over to build flour castles. It’s great to engage your child especially with the “Splat” at the end.

    2. Paint balls

    Another activity which is a little bit cleaner is ‘Paint balls’.

    You’ll need:

    • Tray, container
    • Paint
    • Rubber balls or marbles
    • Paper (optional)

    First dip the marbles into the paint, then drop into the container and roll it around to make a pattern. You could always make a pattern on some paper.

    I love to use everyday objects in therapy, so when I came across this next idea, it was added to the list. It’s simple, effective, not to mention clean!

    3. Skittles

    You’ll need:

    • A packet of skittles
    • Warm water
    • Plate

    You’ll need to create a circle of skittles around the edge of the plate. Then add small amounts of warm water to the plate and watch the rainbow of colours appear.

    These activities offer a sequence to build and sustain your child’s attention. Remember the key is to have fun. Create meaningful interactions that your child cannot miss! If they can learn to hold their attention, they can learn to use functional skills.

    Now you’ve got ideas for stage two activities. Go ahead and carry them out.

    Have fun!

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  • The tricky /R/: Mastering tongue placement for clear speech

    The /R/ sound is notoriously challenging for many children (and even some adults!). It’s one of the most complex sounds in the English language, with various pronunciations depending on its position in a word. If your child is struggling with their /R/s, you’re not alone. As Speech and Language Therapists (SLTs), we frequently work on this sound, and a key component of our therapy is focusing on proper tongue placement.

    Why is the /R/ so difficult?

    The /R/ sound requires precise coordination of the tongue, jaw, and lips. Unlike sounds like /P/ or /B/ that involve simple lip movements, the /R/ involves intricate tongue movements and tension. There are also different ways to produce the /R/ sound, which adds to the complexity:

    • Retroflex /R/: The tongue tip curls up and back towards the roof of the mouth.
    • Bunched /R/: The body of the tongue bunches up towards the roof of the mouth, while the tongue tip remains down.

    The importance of tongue placement

    Regardless of which /R/ variation is being targeted, accurate tongue placement is crucial. Even a slight deviation can result in a distorted or inaccurate sound. That’s why SLTs dedicate significant time to teaching and practising tongue positioning.

    Speech therapy techniques: Focusing on the tongue

    Here’s a glimpse into how I address /R/ sound difficulties, with a focus on tongue placement:

    • Visual aids:
      • Mirrors: I use a mirror to help children see their tongue movements and make adjustments.
      • Tongue diagrams and models: These visual tools provide a clear representation of where the tongue should be positioned.
    • Tactile cues:
      • Tongue depressors: These can be used to gently guide the tongue into the correct position.
      • Food-grade tools: Sometimes, I use flavoured tongue depressors or other tools to provide tactile feedback and increase awareness of tongue placement.
    • Auditory discrimination:
      • I help children distinguish between correct and incorrect /R/ sounds.
      • I use auditory cues and verbal feedback to reinforce proper pronunciation.
    • Exercises and drills:
      • Tongue strengthening exercises: Strengthening the tongue muscles can improve control and coordination.
      • Tongue placement drills: We practise positioning the tongue in the desired location and holding it there.
      • Sound approximation techniques: Sometimes we use other sounds to help approximate the /R/ sound. For example, I use the /L/ sound, to help achieve the correct tongue placement. Once my child has found the /L/ sound it is then a matter of pulling back just slightly to get a good /R/.
    • Contextual practice:
      • Once the child can produce the /R/ sound in isolation, we gradually introduce it into syllables, words, phrases, and sentences.
      • We also practise the /R/ sound in different contexts, such as at the beginning, middle, and end of words.

    Tips for Parents:

    • Be patient and supportive: Learning the /R/ sound takes time and practice.
    • Practise regularly: Short, frequent practice sessions are more effective than long, infrequent ones.
    • Make it fun! Use games, stories, and other engaging activities to keep your child motivated.
    • Work with an SLT: A qualified SLT can provide personalised guidance and support.

    In conclusion:

    The /R/ sound can be challenging, but with targeted speech therapy and a focus on tongue placement, most children can achieve clear and accurate pronunciation.

    I hope this blog post is helpful!

    Get in touch with me via my contact form if you need support

    Sonja McGeachie

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    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice


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    How can I incorporate AAC into my speech therapy sessions?

    Many parents are surprised when I bring AAC into a session, especially if they’ve come to see me primarily for speech sound work.

    They might wonder: ‘If we’re working on pronunciation, why are we using a communication device?’

    The simple answer is this: speech therapy is about communication first, and speech sounds second. Supporting a child’s ability to express themselves clearly and confidently is always the priority, and AAC can be a powerful tool alongside spoken speech.

    What do we mean by AAC?

    AAC stands for Augmentative and Alternative Communication.

    This can include:

    • A speech-generating device (such as LAMP Words for Life or GRID as I used in the photo below)
    • A communication app on a tablet
    • A symbol board or communication book
    • Gestures, signs, or visual supports

    AAC does not replace speech. Instead, it supports language development, reduces frustration, and builds communication success while speech skills are developing.

    Pretend Play using Speech and AAC in my clinic room

    But I mainly work on speech sounds… So how does AAC fit?

    Most of the children I see are working on:

    • Articulation difficulties
    • Phonological delay
    • Motor planning challenges (including apraxia/dyspraxia)
    • Unclear speech affecting confidence

    For these children, AAC isn’t a separate therapy. It’s simply woven naturally into what we are already doing.

    If a child brings their device to sessions, I actively include it. If they don’t yet use AAC but could benefit from visual or symbolic support, I may introduce simple options within activities.

    Using AAC to support speech practice

    Let’s say we are working on early speech targets like: ‘GO’.

    We might practise:

    • Saying the word verbally
    • Listening for the target sound
    • Using play (TOY TRAIN GOING ROUND A TRACK)

    Now we can extend this using AAC.

    On the device or communication board, we might model: ‘LET’S GO’ or ‘IT’s GOING up the hill’.

    This allows the child to:

    • Practise their speech sound target
    • Build a simple sentence
    • Experience successful communication even if speech is not fully clear yet

    All responses are valid and supported.

    AAC helps children communicate more than they can say

    Many children can understand and think in longer phrases than they can physically say.

    For example:

    • A child who verbally says single words may build longer phrases on AAC.
    • A child who struggles to plan speech movements may use AAC to communicate smoothly while still practising verbal attempts.
    • A child who becomes frustrated when misunderstood gains a reliable backup system.

    Rather than slowing speech progress, AAC often:

    • Reduces communication pressure
    • Increases participation in therapy
    • Encourages more attempts at speech
    • Supports language growth

    When children feel understood, they usually become more motivated to try speaking.

    There are no ‘prerequisites’ for AAC

    One of the biggest myths I hear is: ‘My child isn’t ready for AAC yet.’

    In reality, children do not need to:

    • Reach a certain speech level
    • Use pictures first
    • Prove they understand everything
    • Show immediate interest

    Instead, we presume competence and introduce AAC in meaningful, playful ways.

    That means:

    • Modelling words while blowing bubbles
    • Commenting during playdough activities
    • Choosing words during games
    • Building simple phrases in shared reading

    AAC should never feel like extra ‘work’. It’s simply another way to join in communication.

    My goal is always the same: to help each child communicate as clearly, confidently, and successfully as possible, using every helpful tool available.

    If your child uses AAC (or might benefit from it)

     Please feel free to:

    • Bring the device to sessions
    • Show me how your child currently uses it
    • Share advice from school or other therapists

    I am very happy to incorporate AAC into our work together so that speech practice, language development, and real communication all move forward hand-in-hand. Because ultimately, therapy isn’t just about producing perfect sounds. It’s about helping your child be heard and understood.

    If you’d like support or advice, please contact me and I can help guide the next steps.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


      Health Professions Council registered
      Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
      Member of ASLTIP

      Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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      Managing mealtime sensory overload at holiday gatherings: Supporting children with allergies and feeding differences

      Managing mealtime sensory overload at holiday gatherings: Supporting children with allergies and feeding differences

      Holiday meals are meant to be joyful and something we all look forward to. But for many children and their families, these occasions can be overwhelming and be the cause of dread and worry. The combination of new smells, unfamiliar foods, loud environments, social expectations, and allergy anxieties can quickly turn what should be a festive time into a stressful one.

      For parents of children with sensory processing differences, selective eating challenges, or food allergies, holiday gatherings often require careful planning and a big dose of tolerance and compassion. The good news is that with awareness and a few gentle strategies, you can support your child to feel safe, regulated, and included during festive meals without pressure, tears, or discomfort.

      Let’s explore how to make holiday mealtimes calmer, safer, and more connected this season.

      🎄 Why holiday meals feel so overwhelming

      Holiday gatherings usually combine several sensory triggers all at once:

      • Noisy, chaotic rooms
      • Strong smells from a mix of foods we don’t normally cook
      • Multiple conversations happening at once
      • Bright lights, Christmas décor, flickering candles
      • Unfamiliar foods with unexpected textures
      • Expectations to ‘try everything’ or ‘enjoy it’s sooo good!’
      • New environments, seating arrangements, or routines

      For children with sensory sensitivities, this can feel like a tidal wave of input. Research shows that children who are sensory-sensitive often have heightened responses to smell, taste, and texture, which may lead to avoidance or distress at mealtimes (Cermak, Curtin, & Bandini, 2010).

      Add food allergies into the picture and anxiety increases even further for both children and parents. A 2020 study by DunnGalvin et al. found that children with food allergies experience significantly higher stress in shared eating environments, especially when food preparation or contamination risk is hard to control.

      So, if your child becomes tearful, shuts down, or refuses to sit at the festive table, it isn’t ‘bad behaviour.’ It’s sensory overload, heightened vigilance, or discomfort communicating through their body.

      🌟 Preparing your child for a calmer festive meal

      Preparation is especially important for sensory-sensitive or allergy-aware children. Here’s how to set them up for success:

      1. Offer predictability through previewing

      Before the event, show your child pictures of:

      • where you’re going
      • who will be there
      • the types of foods that might be served
      • where they might sit

      A visual schedule or social story can help reduce anxiety and give your child a sense of control.

      2. Pack safe foods without apology

      If your child has allergies or selective eating, bring:

      • ‘Safe foods’ you know they will eat
      • Backup snacks
      • A separate (their own) plate, if needed
      • Emergency medication

      Announce clear, firm boundaries such as:

      ‘Ok people, these are Jamie’s safe foods — we’ll stick with these today.’ This will help relatives understand without pressure or judgement.

      3. Choose seating that supports sensory regulation

      If possible, seat your child:

      • at the end of the table
      • near a familiar adult
      • away from the kitchen (strong smells)
      • away from noise clusters
      • give them their favourite toy or fidget whilst waiting

      Let them take breaks when needed. This isn’t ‘rude,’ it’s self-regulation.

      🍽️ Supporting children during the meal

      1. Focus on connection, not consumption

      The holidays are not the time to expand your child’s food range. Keeping mealtimes low-pressure actually supports long-term progress.

      In fact, the research is clear: pressuring children to eat decreases acceptance and increases refusal (Galloway et al., 2006).

      So instead of ‘Just try it!’ try:

      • ‘You don’t have to eat it, you can look at it.’
      • ‘You’re in charge of what goes in your mouth.’
      • ‘You can keep your safe foods on your plate.’

      2. Protect your child’s allergy safety

      Holiday meals often include:

      • cross-contamination risks
      • shared utensils
      • buffets
      • homemade dishes without ingredient lists

      Use gentle but firm scripts:

      • ‘Because of Ellie’s allergies, we’ll keep her plate separate.’
      • ‘We’ll serve her food ourselves to make sure she stays safe.’

      Confidence in your boundary helps others respect it.

      3. Manage sensory load in real time

      Offer:

      • headphones
      • a small chew or fidget toy
      • a designated ‘calm corner’
      • time outside for fresh air
      • a predictable signal for breaks (e.g., a hand squeeze or card)

      Remember, sensory regulation is healthcare, not ‘giving in.’

      4. Model calm eating

      Children learn most from watching.

      Slow, happy bites and relaxed facial expressions tell the nervous system: ‘This environment is safe’.

      💛 What to say to well-meaning relatives

      Families often have big feelings about food. You can prepare nice phrases like:

      • ‘We’re focusing on helping him feel safe around food today.’
      • ‘She has allergies, so we’re sticking to our plan.’
      • ‘We’re avoiding pressure because it helps him eat better long term.’
      • ‘We’re celebrating together, eating is not the goal today.’

      Setting expectations ahead of time can reduce awkward moments later.

      🎁 The bigger picture: It’s about safety, not ‘picky eating’

      Children with allergies, sensory differences, or feeding challenges aren’t trying to be difficult. They are trying to stay safe, regulated, and comfortable.

      Your calm presence, gentle boundaries, and preparation create the conditions for a holiday that feels peaceful, not pressured.

      Sonja McGeachie

      Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

      Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


      Health Professions Council registered
      Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
      Member of ASLTIP

      Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

      📚Research References

      Cermak, S. A., Curtin, C., & Bandini, L. G. (2010). Food selectivity and sensory sensitivity in children with autism spectrum disorders. Journal of the American Dietetic Association, 110(2), 238–246.

      DunnGalvin, A. et al. (2020). APPEAL-2: A pan-European qualitative study to explore the burden of peanut-allergic children, teenagers and their caregivers. Clinical & Experimental Allergy, 50(11), 1238–1248.

      Galloway, A. T., Fiorito, L. M., Francis, L. A., & Birch, L. L. (2006). ‘Finish your soup!’ Counterproductive effects of pressuring children to eat on intake and affect. Appetite, 46(3), 318–323.

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      Living life with a lisp

      You may be questioning ‘will my child grow out of having a lisp?’ There are so many myths out there that it’s sometimes difficult to find your way out of a complex maze of information.

      The good news: lisps can be successfully treated by a Speech and Language Therapist and the earlier it’s resolved, the better. We know from the evidence base that some children’s lisps will resolve and, as always, it is completely age appropriate to have this speech pattern up until aged 4 ½.

      As with any speech and language targets your child will need to be motivated to practise their newly acquired techniques, at home and in other settings. They will eventually be able to generalise this skill, but it takes lots of practice. So, think carefully about if your child is ready and motivated before commencing Speech and Language Therapy.

      There are essentially two ways in which your child has acquired a lisp. It’s key here to mention that parents have no blame in this.

      1. They’ve mis-learned it and now incorrect production has become a habit
      2. Children have difficulties organising the sounds to make a clear production

      You may be surprised to realise that there are different types of lisps. But all the techniques will be the same.

      1. Interdental lisp

      When your child pushes their tongue too far forward, they will make a /th/ sound instead of /s/ and /z/

      1. Dental lisp

      This is where your child’s tongue pushes against their teeth

      1. Lateral lisp

      Air comes over the top of the tongue and down the sides

      1. Palatal lisp

      Your palate is the roof of your child’s mouth. Sometimes they will touch their palate when making certain sounds (e.g., /s/ and /z/)

      It’s useful for you to know what type of lisp your child has because you can then support them to make the correct production. You’ll be able to talk about where in the mouth their tongue is and where it needs to be to produce a clear sound. Your Speech and Language Therapist will be able to help you with this.

      Top therapy tips for lisps

      1. Awareness is key. Does your child know where their tongue and teeth are (i.e., are they behind their teeth)? Do they notice the air escaping? Use a mirror so that your child can see not only themselves but also you in the mirror.
      2. Repetition! As with most therapeutic intervention, practice makes perfect. So little and often is key!
      3. Make sessions fun, perhaps around your child’s interests or allow them to drink from a straw
      4. Comment on how the sound is produced (e.g., /z/ is like a bee, /s/ is like a snake)
      5. Use tactile cues. Your child’s vocal folds vibrate when they produce a sound like /z/ but not with /s/. You could use the words ‘loud’ and ‘quiet’ to describe this.
      6. Start with a /t/ sound and gradually elongate the sound to an /s/

      Having a lisp may not be problematic for some, but for other children, it can have a significant impact on their emotional wellbeing. Intervening at an early age can prevent this from happening. We always advocate for early intervention!

      Contact Sonja for support on resolving your child’s lisp.


      Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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