Why imitation is a powerful strategy to support social communication

ByLondon Speech and Feeding

Before reading this blog, it’s important to understand what we mean by ‘social communication’ and ‘imitation’. Social communication is more complex than it first appears. It refers to many aspects of communication such as body language, voice, conversational skills, social ‘rules’ (such as being polite and using manners), interpersonal skills (such as developing friendships), and emotional literacy (such as appropriacy and developing self-awareness). Imitation refers to the simple act of copying.

You may have noticed that your child has difficulties in some of the areas mentioned above. They might be less responsive to you and appear to be quite happy in their own world. Whilst we do not want to change their unique characteristics, we do need to prepare them for future experiences, and what is socially acceptable.

How will copying my child develop their social communication?

  1. If your child is already engaged with a certain activity, they are already interested and motivated. You’re not competing for their attention.
  2. Both yours and your child’s attention is on the same activity which makes imitating for you (as the parent) easier.
  3. Studies have demonstrated that when a parent imitates a child, they are more likely to look at the adult.
  4. Imitation not only supports eye contact but supports facial expressions (such as smiling), may increase vocalisations, and encourages your child to sit closer to you.
  5. Children learn through trial and error. They may start to try to perform new actions to gain their parents attention. Let your child lead the play!!

How do I start imitating my child?

  1. Start with observing them. Take the time just to watch. You don’t need to make notes. Sit back and observe their actions, movements, and sounds they make.
  2. Wait for your child’s reaction when they realise you are copying their actions. Remember they may not notice, you don’t need to remind them, simply copy them again.
  3. Having the same set up as your child allows them to feel in control. So, you may have two sets of the same activity rather than copying using their set of toys.

This may sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Start with a ten-minute time frame where you choose to copy your child. This is where you can practise your imitation strategy. Ten minutes a day is far more effective than an hour every two weeks. You may feel self-conscious but trust the process. Build your confidence, whilst exposing your child’s to increased language and communication, enabling them to develop vital social communication skills.

Look at the video above to watch the strategy in action!

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    The /R/ sound is notoriously challenging for many children (and even some adults!). It’s one of the most complex sounds in the English language, with various pronunciations depending on its position in a word. If your child is struggling with their /R/s, you’re not alone. As Speech and Language Therapists (SLTs), we frequently work on this sound, and a key component of our therapy is focusing on proper tongue placement.

    Why is the /R/ so difficult?

    The /R/ sound requires precise coordination of the tongue, jaw, and lips. Unlike sounds like /P/ or /B/ that involve simple lip movements, the /R/ involves intricate tongue movements and tension. There are also different ways to produce the /R/ sound, which adds to the complexity:

    • Retroflex /R/: The tongue tip curls up and back towards the roof of the mouth.
    • Bunched /R/: The body of the tongue bunches up towards the roof of the mouth, while the tongue tip remains down.

    The importance of tongue placement

    Regardless of which /R/ variation is being targeted, accurate tongue placement is crucial. Even a slight deviation can result in a distorted or inaccurate sound. That’s why SLTs dedicate significant time to teaching and practising tongue positioning.

    Speech therapy techniques: Focusing on the tongue

    Here’s a glimpse into how I address /R/ sound difficulties, with a focus on tongue placement:

    • Visual aids:
      • Mirrors: I use a mirror to help children see their tongue movements and make adjustments.
      • Tongue diagrams and models: These visual tools provide a clear representation of where the tongue should be positioned.
    • Tactile cues:
      • Tongue depressors: These can be used to gently guide the tongue into the correct position.
      • Food-grade tools: Sometimes, I use flavoured tongue depressors or other tools to provide tactile feedback and increase awareness of tongue placement.
    • Auditory discrimination:
      • I help children distinguish between correct and incorrect /R/ sounds.
      • I use auditory cues and verbal feedback to reinforce proper pronunciation.
    • Exercises and drills:
      • Tongue strengthening exercises: Strengthening the tongue muscles can improve control and coordination.
      • Tongue placement drills: We practise positioning the tongue in the desired location and holding it there.
      • Sound approximation techniques: Sometimes we use other sounds to help approximate the /R/ sound. For example, I use the /L/ sound, to help achieve the correct tongue placement. Once my child has found the /L/ sound it is then a matter of pulling back just slightly to get a good /R/.
    • Contextual practice:
      • Once the child can produce the /R/ sound in isolation, we gradually introduce it into syllables, words, phrases, and sentences.
      • We also practise the /R/ sound in different contexts, such as at the beginning, middle, and end of words.

    Tips for Parents:

    • Be patient and supportive: Learning the /R/ sound takes time and practice.
    • Practise regularly: Short, frequent practice sessions are more effective than long, infrequent ones.
    • Make it fun! Use games, stories, and other engaging activities to keep your child motivated.
    • Work with an SLT: A qualified SLT can provide personalised guidance and support.

    In conclusion:

    The /R/ sound can be challenging, but with targeted speech therapy and a focus on tongue placement, most children can achieve clear and accurate pronunciation.

    I hope this blog post is helpful!

    Get in touch with me via my contact form if you need support

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    You feel so busy, you are taking them to other appointments, or trying to get through your daily activities, all whilst still ensuring your child’s emotional needs are met. You know life should not get in the way of your child’s therapy activities at home, but it does. We know your spare time is precious and limited, so let us achieve your child’s or young person’s goals in the allotted time you have which meets their way of learning (using Gestalts).

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    Children with verbal dyspraxia can make great progress!

    We provide frequent and appropriate speech movement opportunities and with time and the right support, children will move forward and begin to speak more fluently and with greater intelligibility. It is important to know this can take time.

    We provide Oral Motor Therapy using a variety of approaches to practise breathing, vocalising on the outbreath, and sequencing our speech movements.

    We design carefully tailored programmes focusing on words that have a lot of power (e.g., NO, GO, UP, IN, OUT, LET’S GO, STOP).

    We offer shared enjoyment, and laughter. This helps a child find their voice. Other ways of finding our voices include singing or humming, or even yelling/shouting!

    The most difficult phase of verbal dyspraxia is initiation, that is to start talking, to start producing a word. Frequent “automatic” repetition supports children with initiation because it removes the element of “thinking to start”. I often ask a child to repeat a word 5-10 times (with rewards at the end. A little game works well). You can see that with repetition the act of initiating is taken out of the equation as you are “on a roll “as it were.

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    Your child’s speech, language and communication difficulties may impact their self-esteem. And they may show signs of increased frustration. You want them to be full of confidence, increasing their participation in school and fully engaging with their peers.

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    Speech difficulties can mean that it’s more challenging to understand what your child says. It’s important to show that you’re paying attention, giving them time to express themselves. Focus on what your child says rather than how they are speaking. Remember to maintain eye contact, and actively listen. Active listening and giving time can be trickier than it sounds. I can provide strategies to support your active listening skills.

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    3. Praise efforts

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    4. Have clear start and end points in activities

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    Holiday disruptions & New Year routines: How to support your child’s feeding, communication and regulation over the festive season

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    Holiday disruptions & New Year routines

    The festive season is a wonderful time for many families, but for children with feeding challenges, sensory differences, or autism traits, December can feel overwhelming. Changes in routine, busier environments, travel, new foods, disrupted sleep, and well-meaning relatives giving ‘advice’ can all affect a child’s feeding, communication and overall regulation.

    As a speech and language therapist specialising in Early Years, I see the same pattern each year: children often make progress during the term, only to struggle in late December when everything becomes unpredictable. The good news? With a bit of preparation, children can not only cope better, but they can actually make significant developmental gains during the holidays.

    This blog will help you feel confident, supported and prepared for the transition from ‘festive mode’ to a smoother, regulated start in January.

    1. Why routines matter so much. Especially now

    Young children thrive on predictability. For neurodivergent children or those with sensory, feeding or communication needs, routine isn’t just helpful: it’s the backbone of emotional regulation.

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    • Travel disrupts naps and comfort routines
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    Any one of these can lead to feeding refusals, more meltdowns, increased stimming, reduced communication attempts or regression in speech sounds.

    It’s simply the nervous system responding to too much change.

    2. Protecting feeding progress during holiday mealtimes

    My last blog and insta post have a nice social story on festive meals. They are often the trickiest part of the season for families I support. Children with sensory-based feeding challenges, or ARFID traits may find holiday foods completely unfamiliar and challenging.

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    • Offer one ‘safe food’ at every meal
    • Keep portion sizes tiny
    • Use the ‘buffet rule’
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    3. Supporting communication when routines are disrupted

    Holiday time actually offers more opportunities for communication, just in different ways.

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    • Slow down and follow your child’s lead
    • Use everyday routines as language opportunities
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    4. Understanding holiday ‘regressions’ and know they’re temporary

    This is almost always due to nervous system overload. Children don’t truly ‘lose’ skills; they temporarily prioritise regulation over learning.

    5. A gentle January reset: How to start the New Year smoothly

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    Sonja McGeachie

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    Reference:

    Bronson, M. (2000). Self-regulation in early childhood. Guilford Press.

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    Great toys and books for our toddlers (around 1–2 years old)

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    As a speech and language therapist, I often get asked by parents what toys and books they should buy for their toddlers. It can feel overwhelming with so many options available! So, I’ve put together a list based on my experience and what I’ve found works well.

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    Observe your toddler’s interests and play style. Some toys that are popular might not be engaging for your child.

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    • Sensory balls: Balls with different textures (soft, bumpy, squishy) provide tactile stimulation. (Various brands)
    • Push and pull toys: Encourage gross motor development and exploration. (Vtech, Fisher-Price)

    Communication-focused toys:

    • Picture books with flaps: Engage curiosity and encourage language development. (Various brands)
    • Talking toys: Introduce new vocabulary and encourage imitation. (Vtech, Fisher-Price)
    • Simple puzzles: Develop hand-eye coordination, problem-solving, and spatial awareness. (Melissa & Doug, Ravensburger)
    • Musical instruments: Encourage exploration of sounds and develop auditory skills. (Bright Starts, Fisher-Price)

    Now, let’s talk about books:

    • The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle: A classic with repetitive text and vibrant illustrations, great for introducing vocabulary and concepts like days of the week.
    • Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? by Bill Martin Jr. and Eric Carle: Simple, repetitive text and engaging illustrations make this a favourite for many toddlers.
    • Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown: A soothing bedtime story with calming illustrations.
    • Pat the Bunny by Dorothy Kunhardt: An interactive book with textures and flaps to engage young children.
    • Corduroy by Don Freeman: A heartwarming story about a teddy bear who loses his button.

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    • Observe your child’s interests: Choose toys and books that capture their attention and encourage exploration.
    • Engage with your child: Play with the toys together and read books aloud with enthusiasm.
    • Keep it simple: Start with a few toys and books and gradually introduce new ones.
    • Rotate toys: Keep playtime fresh by rotating toys and books regularly.
    • Most importantly, have fun! Reading and playing with your child should be a joyful experience for both of you.

    Also consider the power of open-ended play

    In today’s world filled with electronic gadgets, it’s easy to overlook the value of open-ended play. Open-ended toys lack specific functions or prescribed outcomes, allowing children to use their imaginations to explore and create. Unlike toys with pre-determined ways to play, open-ended toys encourage:

    • Creative thinking: Children can use them in countless ways, developing their own rules and narratives. A block can become a car, a house, or a spaceship, depending on the child’s imagination.
    • Problem-solving skills: Children learn to figure out how to use the toys, experimenting and adapting as they go. Don’t immediately rush in and fix things for your little one, let them think for themselves and then communication incentive: let them come and find you!
    • Fine motor skills: Many open-ended toys, like blocks, encourage the development of fine motor skills like grasping, stacking, and building.
    • Cognitive development: Children learn about cause and effect, spatial relationships, and problem-solving as they play with open-ended toys.
    • Social-emotional development: Open-ended play can foster social interaction and cooperation as children play together and share ideas.

    Simple toys with big impact

    Some of the best toys for toddlers are often the simplest ones. Here are a few examples:

    • Wooden blocks: Building towers, bridges, and forts encourages creativity and problem-solving.
    • Balls: Throwing, kicking, and rolling balls promote gross motor skills and hand-eye coordination.
    • Fabric: Bits of fabric can be draped, draped, and used for imaginative play.
    • Empty boxes: From cardboard boxes to tissue boxes, these can be transformed into anything a child can imagine: a car, a house, a spaceship!
    • Natural materials: Sticks, leaves, pinecones, and rocks can be used for imaginative play and sensory exploration.

    Remember, the key to open-ended play is to let children explore and discover

    Step back and observe, allowing your child to use his or her imaginations without too much direction. You might be surprised at the creative ways he or she uses simple toys!

    Happy play times with your little one!

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    Sonja McGeachie

    Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

    Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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