Navigating the exciting 9–18 months journey: Your baby’s communication milestones

ByLondon Speech and Feeding February 3, 2025January 31, 2025

Between 9 and 18 months, your little one undergoes a remarkable transformation, blossoming from a curious explorer into a budding communicator. This period is filled with exciting milestones in speech, language, and social development. Let’s delve into what you can expect.

9–12 months: The world opens up

Communication takes flight

Babbling becomes more complex with a wider range of sounds. By babbling we mean syllables like: pa ga ka ma da and then ‘baba’ gohgoh’. First we hear one and two syllables together and then longer and longer strings! This is so exciting!
First words! One day around the 12 months–14 months mark we hear a first word! My older son’s first word was ‘Licht’ which is the German word for ‘light’ as literally every time I carried him along the corridors in our home, I pointed out the light switches to him and turned them off and on a few times. And each time I said ‘Licht!’ and it stuck! PS: sadly I cannot remember what my younger son’s first word was… poor second and third babies they just have to muddle along and call loudly to get noticed!
Understanding grows! Baby now understands simple instructions like ‘where is your ball’ and responds by looking to the ball across the room!

Social butterflies

Your baby now starts to show interest in other children, and may try to copy their actions. Now we are getting proper traction with simple social games like peek-a-boo and patty-cake. Whilst your baby is generally interested in other people and children he or she may show separation anxiety when mum or dad or other familiar person suddenly leaves the room and they feel alone with strangers.

Fine motor skills

Pincer grasp develops. This is where your child puts an index finger to the thumb in order to pick up of small objects, hold them and transfer them to either a box, back on the floor or into the other hand.
Your baby may start to explore objects by banging, shaking, and mouthing.

12–15 months: Words are taking shape

Language explosion: From our early words we now suddenly see baby’s vocabulary expanding, with new words added each week. I would highly recommend parents keep a little journal of all the words they hear. If nothing else this is a wonderful aide-memoire for years down the road when you might like to reminisce about the first ten words. I promise you otherwise you won’t recall! (especially for second and third babies; I would do this now, had I the time again).
Understanding grows:
- By about 15 months our baby can follow simple two-step instructions like ‘Go get your shoes and bring them here.’
- Begins to understand the concept of ‘no.’ and that’s a very useful thing. Though before you breathe a sigh of relief… your toddler may well show you that he is understanding a ‘no’ though he may not stop doing what he is doing or come down off the table!
Playtime gets interactive:
- Now we engage in more complex play, such as stacking blocks, pretending to eat with a spoon, and imitating actions.
- Many toddlers now start showing an interest in picture books.

15–18 months: Communication blossoms

Words combine: Towards 18 months or around about then your toddler may start to put two words together, such as ‘more milk’ or ‘bye-bye dada.’
Gestures and sounds: Now we also use gestures to communicate, such as pointing, shaking head ‘no,’ and waving ‘bye-bye.’
Exploration and curiosity:
- Your toddler is now EVERYWHERE! Turn your back and he or she is gone! Your toddler now shows a strong sense of curiosity and explores their environment with enthusiasm.
Copying
Look out for actions and gestures your toddler will copy such as clapping hands or patting a cushion or banging a spoon on the table .

Remember

Every child develops at his or her own pace.
These are just general guidelines, and some children may reach certain milestones earlier or later than others.
If you have any concerns about your child’s development, please consult with your speech and language therapist. We are always keen to hear from parents and happy to help promote all those lovely early skills.

General tips to encourage communication if you feel your child needs a little more help

Talk, talk, talk! Engage in frequent chatting with your child.
Listen to your child: Allow for periods of silence when playing with your child to allow them to say something or make sounds which you can then copy and respond to.
Read aloud regularly. Use books with simple words and pictures.
Play interactive games: Hickory Dickory Dock, Row Row the boat, Old McDonalds, 5 little monkeys jumping on the bed, chasing and catching, tickling games.
Respond to your child’s babbling and gestures. You can copy them or if your toddler says long strings of babbling you cannot understand you could just say: ‘Oh ok!? ‘yes that’s great!’ ‘who knew!’ ‘wow you’ve got much to say!’ as if you understood.
Limit screen time or if your child is very passionate about watching clips then sit and watch with your child so that you can see what is the best bit, which songs they like the best and what sort of phrases they love hearing.

This exciting period of rapid growth and development is a precious time for both you and your child.

By providing a loving, stimulating, and responsive environment, you will naturally nurture their communication skills! Any more questions, please get in touch!

Sonja McGeachie

Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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Following your child’s lead: A playful path to AAC success
ByLondon Speech and Feeding August 27, 2024August 23, 2024
Unlocking playtime: A guide to child-led learning

Does your child struggle to focus on toys or activities? Do they dart away as soon as you approach? You’re not alone!

The key to unlocking your child’s potential lies in following their lead. Let them guide the play session, and watch their engagement and focus soar.

Why Child-Led Play Works:
- Empowerment: Children feel in control, sparking their curiosity and motivation.
- Focused attention: They’ll stay engaged with activities for longer periods.
- Reduced frustration: By stepping back and observing, you eliminate the pressure and stress that often comes with directed play.
How to Implement Child-Led Play:
1. Prepare the environment: Set out a limited selection of engaging toys.
2. Observe and wait: Sit back, watch, and listen to your child’s interests.
3. Embrace the moment: Resist the urge to direct or question; simply enjoy the process.
Remember: This simple approach can transform playtime and support your child’s development. Give it a try for a week and see the difference!

#OWLing #hanenmorethanwords

Observe, Wait, Listen. It’s a powerful formula for unlocking your child’s potential.

You will likely see:
- Your child will stay put with any toy for longer whilst you are near them.
- Your child will tolerate you being nearby and he/she won’t move away.
- Your child will start giving you brief glances of enjoyment, or perhaps they will hand things to you, or they might take your hand and lead it to something that needs opening etc.
- In other words, you will see that there suddenly is JOINT PLAY. Yes, granted it may not be according to your adult agenda, but there will be more togetherness than there was before. And this is the START of communication and social engagement.
USE Core words and a coreboard — to help your child understand the power of words

Core words are the building blocks of communication. Try using a coreboard like the one below, they are versatile and can be used in countless ways. By modelling these words naturally during play, you expose your child to their meaning and function in context. This approach is far more effective than isolated drill and practice, more powerful than flashcards!

Photo by lemonlenz

A Winning Combination

Combining child-led play and AAC modelling creates a magic effect. To summarise:
- Increased engagement: When you follow your child’s lead, they are more likely to be engaged and receptive to learning. This creates optimal conditions for introducing AAC core words.
- Natural learning: By modelling AAC core words in the context of play, you help your child understand their meaning and purpose naturally. This fosters generalisation and spontaneous use.
- Building relationships: Shared play experiences strengthen the bond between you and your child. This trust and connection are essential for successful communication.
- Reduced pressure: Modelling AAC core words without expectation removes the pressure to produce language. This allows your child to explore communication at their own pace.
- Expanded vocabulary: As your child becomes more comfortable with AAC, they will begin to incorporate core words into their own communication. This leads to vocabulary growth and increased independence.
Practical Tips
- Observe and respond: Pay close attention to your child’s interests and actions. Respond to their cues with enthusiasm and support.
- Keep it simple: Start with a few core words and gradually introduce new ones as your child’s skills develop.
- Be patient: Language learning takes time. Celebrate small successes and avoid frustration.
- Have fun: Remember, play is supposed to be enjoyable for both you and your child. Relax and have fun together!
Example:

Photo by lemonlenz

Let’s say your child is playing with a pop-up toy like you see me do in the above photograph. Here, I followed my child’s lead by waiting to see what she wanted to do with the toy. You are now OWLING! (Observe Wait and Listen)

Once I noticed that there was repetitive opening of the flaps going on I then pointed to OPEN and MORE on the board, as I said: ‘let’s OPEN this one’ / let’s see MORE animals’ / ‘MORE cow! it says moo!’ ‘OPEN another one’ and so on.

Important to know, we are not expecting our child to respond verbally or with AAC, but we are providing language input and demonstrating how these words can be used with enthusiasm.

Naturally in time your child will look at the board and at your pointing and they will eventually want to copy you!

By incorporating these strategies into your daily interactions, you can create a supportive environment that fosters language development and communication growth. If you would like more guidance please get in touch and book in for a consultation, some individual therapy and/ or some parent coaching.

I look forward to supporting you. Please contact me and let’s see how.

Sonja McGeachie

Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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Understanding phonological processes in 3–7-year-olds: What’s typical and when to seek help
ByLondon Speech and Feeding February 18, 2026February 13, 2026
As a speech and language therapist, one of the most common questions I hear from parents is:

‘They can talk, but their speech still sounds immature. Is this normal?’

Many children between the ages of three and seven use speech patterns that make their words sound different from adult speech. These patterns are known as phonological processes, and for younger children, they are a normal part of speech development.

However, when these processes persist beyond the expected age, they can start to affect clarity, confidence and learning, especially once children enter school.

This blog will help you understand:
- what phonological processes are
- which patterns are typical at different ages
- and when it might be time to seek speech therapy support
What are phonological processes?

Phonological processes are patterns of sound simplification that children use while their speech system is developing.

Instead of learning each sound one by one, children initially organise sounds into patterns that make speech easier to produce. This is a normal and efficient strategy for a developing brain.

For example:
- saying ‘tar’ instead of ‘car’
- saying ‘poon’ instead of ‘spoon’
- saying ‘bud’ instead of ‘bus’
These are not ‘bad habits’. They are part of how speech develops.

The key question is how long these patterns last.

Common phonological processes (and when they usually disappear)

Below are some of the most common processes parents notice in 3–7-year-olds.

1. Final consonant deletion

Leaving off the last sound in a word
- ‘ca’ for cat, ‘da’ for dog
- Typically resolved by 3–3½ years
2. Fronting

Replacing back sounds (k, g) with front sounds (t, d)
- ‘tar’ for car, ‘do’ for go
- Typically resolved by 3½–4 years
3. Cluster reduction

Omitting one sound in a consonant cluster
- ‘poon’ for spoon, ‘top’ for stop
- Typically resolves by 4–5 years (some clusters slightly later)
4. Gliding

Replacing /R/ or /L/ with /W/ or /Y/
- ‘wabbit’ for rabbit, ‘yion’ for lion
- Can be typical up to 5–6 years
5. Weak syllable deletion

Leaving out unstressed syllables
- ‘nana’ for banana
- Usually resolved by 4 years
If these patterns continue past the expected age, speech can remain difficult to understand particularly for unfamiliar listeners such as teachers, peers, and also Auntie Karen or grandparents who visit once in a while.

Why phonological processes matter in school-age children

By the time children reach reception and Year 1, speech clarity becomes increasingly important.

Persistent phonological difficulties can affect:
- being understood by teachers and peers
- phonics and early reading
- spelling
- confidence in speaking
- willingness to participate in class
Some children become aware that they ‘sound different’ and may speak less, avoid longer words, or become frustrated when misunderstood.

What’s the difference between a delay and a disorder?

This is an important distinction.
- A phonological delay means a child is following the normal pattern of development, just more slowly.
- A phonological disorder means the child is using atypical patterns, or continuing age-expected patterns well beyond when they should have resolved.
A speech and language assessment helps identify:
- which processes are present
- how many are affecting speech
- how consistent the errors are
- and whether intervention is needed
Signs it may be time to seek speech therapy

You may want to seek professional advice if your child:
- is 3½ years or older and still hard to understand
- is understood well by family but not by others
- becomes frustrated or avoids talking
- has difficulty with phonics or spelling
- uses several phonological processes at once
- has not made progress despite time and encouragement
Early support does not mean something is ‘wrong’. It simply helps speech development move forward more efficiently.Research consistently shows that unresolved phonological processes beyond the expected age can impact intelligibility, literacy and confidence (Dodd, 2014; Bowen, 2015).

How speech therapy helps phonological development

Phonological therapy is not about drilling individual sounds endlessly.

Instead, therapy focuses on:
- helping children recognise sound patterns
- building awareness of contrasts (e.g. ‘tar’ vs ‘car’)
- practising speech in meaningful, playful ways
- supporting generalisation so progress carries into everyday speech
For school-aged children, therapy is usually structured, motivating and highly targeted and progress can be very encouraging.

A final reassurance

Many children with phonological difficulties go on to develop clear, confident speech with the right support.

If you’re unsure whether your child’s speech is ‘just a phase’ or something that needs attention, a professional assessment can give clarity and peace of mind.

If you’d like support or advice, please contact me and I can help guide the next steps.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

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Why auditory memory matters (especially for little ones!)
ByLondon Speech and Feeding August 4, 2025August 1, 2025
Have you ever stopped to think about how we learn to speak, understand, and communicate effectively? It’s a complex dance of various cognitive skills, and one often overlooked but absolutely crucial player in this orchestra is auditory memory. It’s not just about remembering sounds. It’s about remembering sequences of sounds, which is fundamental to language development.

What exactly is auditory memory?

At its core, auditory memory is our ability to take in, process, store, and recall information that we hear. Think of it as your brain’s internal recording studio. When someone speaks to you, your auditory memory is busy at work, capturing the individual sounds, the order in which they appear, and the rhythm and intonation of the words. This isn’t just for long-term recall; it’s also vital for working auditory memory, which allows us to hold onto a small amount of auditory information for a short period, just long enough to make sense of it.

For speech and language, auditory memory is essential for:
- Understanding spoken language: To comprehend a sentence, we need to remember the beginning of the sentence by the time we hear the end.
- Following instructions: Remembering a sequence of commands relies heavily on auditory memory.
- Learning new words: We hear a word, remember its sound, and connect it to its meaning.
- Developing phonological awareness: This is the ability to recognise and manipulate the sounds in spoken language, a critical precursor to reading. Auditory memory helps children distinguish between similar-sounding words (e.g., ‘cat’ vs. ‘bat’) and segment words into individual sounds.
- Producing clear speech: To articulate words correctly, we need to recall the precise sequence of sounds that make up that word.
- Developing conversational skills: Remembering what was just said helps us formulate appropriate responses.
When auditory memory falls short: The impact on speech

When auditory memory is poor, particularly in young children, the ripple effects on speech and language development can be significant. Children might struggle with:
- Following multi-step directions: ‘Put on your shoes, get your coat, and meet me at the door’ can become an overwhelming jumble of sounds.
- Learning new vocabulary: They might hear a new word repeatedly but struggle to retain its sound pattern, making it difficult to recognise or use later.
- Understanding stories or conversations: Missing key details or losing the thread of a narrative because they can’t hold enough information in their working memory.
- Developing phonological skills: Difficulty with rhyming, identifying initial sounds in words, or blending sounds together to form words, which can impact early literacy.
- Speech production: They might mispronounce words, omit sounds, or struggle with the correct sequencing of sounds within words.
- Social communication: Difficulty participating in group discussions, remembering names, or recalling what their peers have said.
- Academic performance: Auditory memory challenges can impact a child’s ability to learn in a classroom setting, where much of the instruction is delivered verbally.
It’s important to note that poor auditory memory isn’t a sign of low intelligence, but rather a specific processing challenge that can be addressed with targeted support.

Nurturing auditory memory in under 5s: Preparing for schooling

The good news is that auditory memory is a skill that can be strengthened and developed, especially during the crucial early years. For children under five, laying a strong foundation in auditory memory is an invaluable gift as they prepare for the demands of formal schooling. Here’s what we can do to help:
1. Read aloud regularly: This is perhaps one of the most powerful tools. As you read, encourage your child to listen for specific words, predict what happens next, and retell parts of the story. Vary your voice, use different intonations, and pause to emphasise key words.
2. Play auditory memory games:
  
  ‘Simon says’: This classic game is fantastic for following multi-step instructions. Start with one command and gradually increase the number.
  
  ‘I Spy’ with sounds: Instead of colours, describe sounds. ‘I spy with my little ear something that goes “moo”.’
  
  Rhyming games: Sing rhyming songs, read rhyming books, and encourage your child to come up with words that rhyme.
  
  Sound matching: Use everyday objects to make sounds (e.g., shaking keys, tapping a spoon) and have your child identify or match them.
  
  ‘Memory chain’: Start a sentence and have your child add to it, remembering everything that came before: ‘I went to the market and bought an apple.’ ‘I went to the market and bought an apple and a banana.’
3. Sing songs and nursery rhymes: Repetitive songs and nursery rhymes are excellent for developing auditory memory, rhythm, and phonological awareness. The predictable patterns help children anticipate and remember sequences of sounds and words.
4. Give multi-step instructions (and praise!): Start with two-step instructions and gradually increase the complexity as your child’s skills improve. Always give positive reinforcement when they succeed. ‘Please pick up the red block and put it in the box.’
5. Engage in active listening: Model good listening skills yourself. When your child is speaking, give them your full attention. Ask clarifying questions to encourage them to elaborate and organise their thoughts.
6. Reduce background noise: A quiet environment makes it easier for young children to focus on auditory information. Minimise distractions like TV or loud music during activities that require listening.
7. Use visual cues: While we’re focusing on auditory memory, sometimes pairing auditory information with visual cues can be helpful, especially initially. For example, when giving instructions, demonstrate the action as you say it.
8. Be patient and consistent: Developing auditory memory takes time and consistent practice. Celebrate small victories and create a playful, supportive environment for learning.
By actively engaging in these strategies, we can empower our youngest learners to build robust auditory memory skills, setting them up for success not only in speech and language development but also in their overall academic journey. It’s an investment that truly pays dividends in their future communication and learning abilities.

Any comments or if you need help and support with your child’s speech please do not hesitate to get in touch with me: simply fill out the contact form here on the website. I endeavour to reply within 48 hours.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

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Dynamic assessment – Let’s look beyond the checklist
ByLondon Speech and Feeding September 15, 2025November 6, 2025
As a parent, you’re always observing your child, celebrating his or her milestones, and sometimes, wondering if he or she is quite on track. When it comes to speech, language, play, attention, and listening, these early years are a whirlwind of development! It’s natural to seek guidance if you have concerns, and that’s where a truly comprehensive assessment comes in.

But what exactly does ‘comprehensive’ mean, especially when it goes beyond a typical checklist? You can find any number of check lists online these days but whilst they can give you an overall idea of what a child is typically expected to do at any given age, it can also start leading you into a rabbit hole of anxiety of ‘what-iffery’.

At The London Speech and Feeding Practice I believe in something far more insightful than a static evaluation: Dynamic Assessment. Think of it as an in-depth, interactive investigation into your child’s unique communication landscape, exploring not just what he or she can do, but how he or she learns and why he or she might be facing challenges. This is so important.

What makes an assessment ‘dynamic’?

Imagine trying to understand a child’s personality by just looking at a single photograph. It gives you a glimpse, but it hardly tells the whole story. Traditional, formal assessments, while valuable, can sometimes be like that photograph – a snapshot of skills at one specific moment.

Dynamic assessment, on the other hand, is a living, breathing process. It’s called ‘dynamic’ because:
- It’s interactive and responsive: It adapts to your child’s needs in real-time. It’s not about sticking rigidly to a pre-set schedule of tests. Instead, it’s about observing, gently prompting, and providing support to see how your child responds and learns. This allows me to understand his or her learning potential, not just his or her current performance.
- It’s holistic and multi-faceted: I look at the whole child. We delve deep into not just speech and language, but also his or her play skills (a crucial window into cognitive and social development), attention and listening abilities, and his or her social engagement. These areas are intricately linked, and a delay in one can often impact others.
- It integrates multiple perspectives: Your insights as a parent are invaluable! Before we even meet, my comprehensive onboarding questionnaire gathers essential background. During the assessment, your feedback, observations, and comments are woven into the fabric of our session. You are the expert on your child, and your voice is central to forming a complete picture.
More than just ‘speech’: A deep dive into development

You might initially be concerned about your child’s speech sounds, or perhaps his or her ability to form sentences. These are vital areas, but my approach goes much further. I’m keen to understand:
- The ‘why’ behind the ‘what’: Is a child struggling with language because of difficulties with understanding instructions (receptive language), or with expressing themselves (expressive language)? Are his or her attention skills impacting his or her ability to follow a conversation? Is his or her play demonstrating imaginative thought, or does he or she prefer more structured, repetitive activities? These nuances are critical.
- Differential diagnosis: This is where the skill of an experienced clinician truly comes into its own. Through dynamic assessment, I can differentiate between a developmental delay (where a child is following a typical progression but at a slower pace) and a disorder (where his or her development is following an atypical pattern). This distinction is vital because it guides the type of support and intervention that will be most effective. Understanding the cause of the delay or disorder is paramount to creating a targeted, impactful therapy plan.
The art of observation

While I draw upon evidence-based practice as well as a formal, standardised assessment as well as my extensive clinical knowledge, I also rely heavily on the art of observation. From the moment your child walks into the room, I’m establishing rapport, engaging them in play, and creating a safe, fun environment. It’s through this genuine interaction – often without them even realising they’re being ‘assessed’ – that the most authentic insights emerge.

This is where the magic happens:
- Building rapport: A child who feels comfortable and connected will show you so much more of his or her true abilities and personality. I pride myself on creating an atmosphere where children can relax and simply be themselves.
- Play as a window: Play isn’t just fun; it’s a child’s natural language. It reveals his or her understanding of the world, his or her problem-solving skills, his or her social engagement, and his or her ability to use symbols and language.
- Skilled interpretation: My years of experience allow me to see beyond surface-level behaviours and interpret the subtle cues that might indicate underlying strengths or challenges. This goes far beyond what any standardised test alone can capture.
Why choose a clinician who offers dynamic assessment?

In essence, a dynamic assessment provides a rich, nuanced, and truly personalised understanding of your child. It’s an investment in:
- Accuracy: Leading to a more precise diagnosis and understanding of his or her unique profile.
- Tailored support: Enabling the creation of highly individualised therapy goals that truly meet your child where he or she is and gently guide him or her forward.
- Empowerment: You’ll leave with not just answers, but also practical strategies and a clear path forward, feeling confident and informed.
If you’re seeking a thorough, empathetic, and truly insightful assessment for your child’s communication development in London, I invite you to get in touch. Let’s work together to unlock your child’s full potential.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

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Stage 2 NLA
ByLondon Speech and Feeding February 23, 2024February 15, 2024
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Last time we asked: is our child ready tp move to Stage 2 NLA (Natural Language Acquisition stage 2) and we looked at how we can know. Now we know: he/she is ready, they are mixing and matching those scripts quite liberally! Hurrah!

So for example we hear phrases like:
- ‘let’s go’+ ‘downstairs’
- ‘it’s’ + ‘downstairs’
- ‘I see it’ + ‘downstairs‘
- ‘I want to’ + ‘shoes downstairs’ (I want to put my shoes on downstairs)
To recap, it’s important to listen out to a variety of contexts because if we only hear the single version of a gestalt —this is so great, hurrah!— but that’s not yet Stage 2.

What we can now do on a daily basis to help and support at this time:

1. We need to offer more ‘mix and match’ phrases to help our child establish this new way of communicating.

Good phrases:
- It’s … raining / cooking / eating / washing / brushing
- That’s … great / cool / amazing / wow / so good
- Let’s … see / look / go / run / chase
- How’bout … some food / playing / I’ll chase / sleeping / we read a book
- I see a … bird / large car / fire engine
- I wanna … have a biscuit / have a book / have a snuggle
- We’re … going out / going home / going in the car / going upstairs
Here in my video clip of train play I use:
- Let’s go
- It’s going up the hill
- It’s coming down
- Ooops it falls!
- It’s stopping
- Let’s put on another parcel
- Ready steady go
- Off we go
- It’s come off!
- Let’s fix it
- I can do it
- I don’t need help
You can offer these gestalts either with an AAC as you can see me do in the video clip or you can just verbally offer these.

2. Watch out for Pronoun confusion or reversal:

Gestalt kids repeat gestalts, so we don’t want to create ‘pronoun reversal’.

Instead model from a:
- first person perspective: ‘I’ / ‘Our’ / ‘Us’
- joint perspective: ‘We’ / ‘Let’s’ or a
- neutral perspective: ‘It’
You can turn almost any sentence into a good language model once you get used to it. And you can avoid ‘you’ and ‘your’ at the same time!

So instead of saying, ‘Do you want to go to the park?’

You could say:
- We wanna go to the park?
- Let’s go out?
- Shall we go out / to the park?
3. Start providing ‘variation’ in your language modelling:

Instead of just modelling something one way, start thinking about offering a pattern in a couple of other ways, in a couple of different situations, then several ways in several different situations.

Example: once you hear your child saying: ‘it’s raining’ and you know it’s a mitigation, because you don’t often say ‘it’s raining’, or haven’t said it in a while and you know your child says other ‘it’s’ phrases.

Repeat: ‘it’s raining!’

Then: ‘it’s’ + ‘raining hard’ / ‘it’s wet out there’ / ‘It’s’ + ‘raining lot’s’.

Then later think of other combinations for ‘it’s’ + ‘something’:
- (rice) ‘It’s’ + ‘cooking’
- (water/tap) ‘It’s’ + ‘running’
- (radio) ‘It’s’ + ‘singing
- (dog) ‘It’s’ + ‘peeing’ / ‘it’s’ + ‘running’ / ‘it’s’ + ‘jumping’
In my train video clip:
- Let’s go
- It’s going
- Let’s make it go
- Ready steady go
- Oops its gone
4. Use natural intonation that shows you really mean what you’re saying.

You can be animated or try for musical if your child prefers that / doesn’t mind you singing —they might not like it if their hearing is pitch perfect and your singing is off key…—
- ‘I’m’ + ‘trying to find you!’ (animated, goofy face)
- ‘I’m’ +’ getting tired!’ (exaggerated stretch and yawn)
- ‘I’m’ + ‘catching up with you!’ (animated goofy)
- ‘I’m’ + ‘gonna get you!’ (animated goofy)
- ‘I’m’ + ‘sad right now’ (exaggerated face and tone of voice)
5. USE SILENCE!

Important, I might not have said this before but we need to hold back sometimes (hard I know) and not constantly offer models. Let our child sit in a bit of silence with us there just observing and waiting for their own offers. This is a very important point. Silence is golden sometimes. Try it out. I am not talking about the silence that comes with a person scrolling on their phone though, we do need to be present and receptive.

You will see this works wonders!

Do get in touch if you would like some in-person or on-line 1:1 support with this. It can be overwhelming to figure it all out alone.

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The quiet power: Why silence and responsiveness boost communication in children with delays
ByLondon Speech and Feeding June 9, 2025June 9, 2025
Supplied by Sonja McGeachie, Practice Owner

As parents and caregivers, our natural instinct when interacting with a child, especially one who struggles with communication, is often to fill every silence. We might ask lots of questions, offer constant commentary, or try to prompt him or her to speak. Our hearts are in the right place. We want to help him or her communicate! However, for children with language delays or those on the autism spectrum, this well-intentioned approach can sometimes inadvertently create more pressure and fewer opportunities for them to truly initiate and develop their own communication skills.

What if I told you that one of the most powerful tools in your communication toolkit is often silence? And that responding to your child, rather than always initiating, can unlock incredible potential?

Let’s explore why these seemingly simple strategies are so profoundly beneficial.

The unspoken benefits of silence

In our fast-paced world, silence can feel awkward, but for a child who is processing language differently, it’s a gift:
1. Time to process: Children with language delays often need more time to process what they hear and to formulate their own thoughts or responses. When we bombard them with words, we don’t give their brains the crucial milliseconds they need to catch up. A pause of 5–10 seconds can make all the difference.
2. Reduces pressure: Constant questioning or prompting can feel like a test. Silence removes this pressure, creating a more relaxed environment where the child feels safe to communicate without fear of being ‘wrong’ or rushed.
3. Creates opportunity to initiate: If you’re always talking, when does your child get a turn to start the conversation? Silence opens up a space for him or her to initiate, whether it’s through a sound, a gesture, eye contact, or a word. This is vital for developing spontaneous communication.
4. Encourages independent thinking: When a child is given space, he or she is more likely to try to figure things out himself or herself. This fosters problem-solving skills and reduces reliance on adult prompts.
5. Prevents overwhelm (especially for ASD): Many children on the autism spectrum can be sensitive to auditory input. A constant stream of language can be overwhelming, leading to withdrawal or challenging behaviours. Strategic pauses can help them regulate and engage more effectively.
The power of responding (not just initiating)

Think of a tennis match: if only one person serves, it’s not a game. Communication is a rally, a back-and-forth exchange. When you primarily respond to your child’s communication attempts, you’re teaching him or her the rhythm of conversation:
1. Follow the child’s lead: This is a cornerstone of effective language intervention, famously championed by programs like Hanen’s ‘It Takes Two to Talk’. When you respond to what your child is already interested in or doing, the interaction becomes immediately relevant and motivating for him or her.
2. Validates his or her attempts: Every sound, gesture, glance, or partial word your child offers is a communication attempt. By responding to it, you’re telling him or her, ‘I see you. I hear you. Your communication matters.’ This builds immense confidence and encourages him or her to try again.
3. Builds confidence and motivation: When a child feels understood and successful in his or her communication, he or she are more likely to communicate more often. It’s a positive feedback loop.
4. Teaches turn-taking naturally: By taking your turn after his or hers, you model the natural flow of conversation. He or she learns that communication is a shared activity, not a one-sided lecture.
5. Makes interactions meaningful: When you respond to his or her interests, you’re talking about things that are inherently motivating to him or her. This makes the language you use more easily understood and remembered.
Practical strategies for parents: Observe, Wait, Listen (OWL)

The Hanen Centre’s ‘Observe, Wait, Listen’ (OWL) strategy perfectly encapsulates these principles:
- Observe: Watch your child closely. What is he or she looking at? What is he or she doing? What sounds is he or she making? What gestures is he or she using?
- Wait: After you’ve observed, wait. Give him or her time. Resist the urge to jump in with a question or comment immediately. Count to five (or even ten) in your head. This silence is an invitation for him or her to communicate.
- Listen: When he or she does communicate (in any way!), listen intently. Try to understand his or her message or intent.
Beyond OWL – More tips:
- Reduce questions, increase comments: Instead of ‘What’s that?’ try ‘Oh, a big red ball!’ or ‘The car is going fast!’ Comments provide language models without demanding a verbal response.
- Expand, don’t just prompt: If your child says ‘Car’, you could respond with ‘Yes, That’s a big car!’ or ‘It’s really fast!’ You’re building on his or her communication with a slightly richer language model.
- Create opportunities for communication: Place desired items slightly out of reach. This creates a natural reason for your child to communicate his or her wants (e.g., reaching, pointing, vocalising).
- Respond to all communication: Don’t just wait for words. If your child points, look where he or she is pointing and comment. If he or she makes a sound, imitate it or respond with a related word.
In summary

Embracing silence and prioritising responsiveness might feel counterintuitive at first, especially when you’re eager for your child to talk. However, these powerful strategies create a nurturing, low-pressure environment that encourages spontaneous communication, builds confidence, and truly meets your child where he or she is. By giving your child the space and the meaningful responses he or she needs, you’re laying a strong foundation for his or her communication journey.

Try incorporating these ‘quiet powers’ into your daily interactions and watch your child’s communication blossom.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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