Let’s relax about making EYE CONTACT already…

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There’s been a long tradition with teaching staff and with Speech and Language Therapists working in schools that eye contact should be a goal. It is well known that Autistic individuals (whether that be children or adults) mostly avoid eye contact. Whilst it’s part of the way we communicate, it shouldn’t be used as a necessity for an individual who feels that it is uncomfortable. Whilst it does show that you’re listening and showing an interest, it’s not a fair expectation for neurodiverse children.

Autistic children can find making and maintaining eye contact physically and emotionally uncomfortable as well as unnatural. It adds an extra layer of stress and has been reported to increase distractions rather than reduce them. Children who engage in conversations in their own way (i.e., with reduced eye contact) are not shown to suffer with schooling, work, or social interaction.

By having fun through meaningful activities, I often experience that ‘BINGO’ moment (a phrase coined by Alex @meaningfulspeech) where the child is enjoying themselves and naturally makes eye contact. There is no demand on them, they are in a fun, engaging environment which suit their strengths and supports their needs.

Following this, I often reflect on this question ‘Should we make eye contact as a goal?’

It very much depends on the situation. If it places more demands on the child and becomes stressful. Then no. There are many strategies we can use which gain eye contact without placing extra demands on the child. We need to be mindful to adapt the environment and not place neurotypical expectations to meet the needs of neurodiverse children.

How can you encourage eye contact without demand?

  • If you’re using toys, try holding them up to your eye level.
  • You can adjust your position, try sitting face to face during play.
  • Always get down to your child’s level. This might mean that you lay on the floor if your child is positioned in this way.
  • During play, waiting is extremely powerful. Before a key part of the activity, wait and see if your child looks at you. Remember silence is golden!
  • The best way I find is: do something unusual during play. It might be that you spray shaving foam with the lid still on. Or you bring out a wow toy and make it spin/light up or make a noise. A balloon can be good – see video clip. Use the excitement of the activity, and wait to see if you achieve that ‘BINGO’ moment.
  • Create opportunities when there are no toys involved such as during ‘tickles’ or ‘hide and seek’. Autistic children find it difficult to shift their attention between a toy and an adult. So by removing one option, you’re setting them up to succeed.

Remember, it takes practice and time for you to develop these skills. Try one at a time and experiment, see which works best for your child. If you need speech, language or communication support or advice, I am always here to help.


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    Halloween without the tears: Supporting children through the Spooky Season

    For many families, Halloween is an exciting time filled with costumes, decorations, and sweets. But for children who are sensory sensitive, whether they’re autistic, have sensory processing differences, or simply find new experiences overwhelming, Halloween can feel like a night of chaos rather than fun.

    The bright lights, unexpected noises, strange textures, and social pressure to ‘join in’ can quickly become too much. The good news? With some thoughtful planning and gentle support, you can make Halloween a positive and manageable experience for your child.

    Understanding sensory overload

    Sensory overload happens when a child’s brain receives more sensory input than it can process. This might mean:

    • Costumes that itch, squeeze, or feel strange on the skin.
    • Loud sounds like doorbells, fireworks, or shrieking decorations.
    • Crowds and unpredictability during trick-or-treating.
    • Strong smells or tastes from face paint or unfamiliar sweets.

    When overloaded, children may cry, cover their ears, hide, run away, or ‘shut down.’ These reactions aren’t ‘bad behaviour’, they’re signs of distress. The goal isn’t to eliminate Halloween fun, but to adjust it to your child’s comfort level.

    Step 1: Choose costumes wisely

    Costumes are often the biggest trigger. Scratchy fabrics, tight seams, or masks that restrict breathing can be unbearable for some children.

    Try these tips:

    • Go sensory-friendly: Use soft, breathable fabrics and remove tags. Many retailers now sell sensory-safe costumes.
    • Test it early: Let your child wear the outfit around the house before Halloween. If it’s too much, simplify — maybe themed pyjamas or a favourite T-shirt with Halloween accessories.
    • Skip the mask: Face paint can be equally challenging, always test on a small patch of skin first. A comfortable headband or hat might be enough to feel ‘in costume.’

    Remember, participation doesn’t require perfection. Your child can still ‘be’ their favourite character without a full costume.

    Step 2: Plan your Halloween environment

    Before the big day, think about what parts of Halloween your child enjoys — and what might overwhelm them.

    At home:

    • Keep decorations minimal and predictable. Avoid motion-activated sounds or flashing lights.
    • Practise knocking at your own front door or saying ‘trick or treat’ with a trusted adult.
    • Have a ‘quiet space’ ready, a cosy corner or room where your child can retreat if things get too intense.

    If you’re going out:

    • Choose earlier, quieter times for trick-or-treating.
    • Visit a few familiar houses instead of the whole street.
    • Bring ear defenders or noise-cancelling headphones.
    • Have a clear exit plan if your child needs a break.

    Sometimes, watching from the window and handing out sweets can be just as enjoyable! it still offers social participation without sensory overload.

    Step 3: Prepare socially and emotionally

    Halloween involves a lot of unexpected social interaction: strangers at the door, unfamiliar greetings, and different rules.

    Help your child by:

    • Using visuals or stories: Read picture books about Halloween or make a short social story about what will happen.
    • Role-playing: Practise saying ‘Trick or treat!’ or handing out sweets in a fun, low-pressure way.
    • Labelling feelings: Explain that it’s okay to feel nervous or to take a break if something feels ‘too loud’ or ‘too much.’

    Children feel safer when they know what to expect. Predictability reduces anxiety and makes participation more enjoyable.

    Step 4: Rethink the treats

    Not every child enjoys sweets; some dislike sticky textures or strong flavours. Offer non-food alternatives like stickers, glow sticks, or small toys.

    If your child has feeding difficulties or oral sensitivities, it’s okay to opt out of the traditional treats entirely. They can still join in by giving treats or decorating treat bags instead.

    It’s also helpful to prepare your child that others might offer sweets they don’t want. Practising polite ‘no thank you’ responses can make these moments easier. (check out my symbol download for children who struggle to speak)

    Step 5: Celebrate your way

    Halloween doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s version. Maybe your family watches a ‘not-too-scary’ film, carves pumpkins, or does a flashlight treasure hunt indoors. The goal is joyful connection, not conformity.

    A calm, happy experience, even if it looks simple from the outside builds positive associations your child will carry into future celebrations.

    In summary

    Halloween can be full of sensory surprises, but with empathy, planning, and flexibility, it doesn’t have to end in tears.

    The more you adapt to your child’s sensory needs, the more they learn that they are safe, understood, and included not just at Halloween, but in every celebration.

    As with all things in speech and feeding development, progress starts with connection. When children feel regulated and supported, communication and confidence follow.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    How do we know our Gestalt Learner is moving to Stage 2?

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    Is our student ready to move to NLA 2 (Natural Language Acquisition stage 2)?

    We know that the GLP (Gestalt Language Processor) will move into the next stage when they are ready. But are they now ready you might think? When are they ready? How do I know? If you are not sure whether your child is ready to move forward then go and see your GLP trained Speech Therapist. Together you can work out what the next steps are and how to help your child settle into NLA 2. It’s very exciting!!

    Tip

    The first useful tip: keep a language sample of phrases your child says. This is very helpful!

    You might want to check with your Speech Therapist and offer some language sampling you have taken so they can help you figure out where your child is currently. Always keep an Utterance Journal that you can share with your Speech Therapist and with others who look after your child.

    Basically, we want to listen out for phrases our child says that you or nursery don’t say routinely; that way you can presume that this is not an echo but a mixing together of two chunks of gestalts. Watch out for those coco melon phrases though: double check it really isn’t an NLA 1 gestalt that is copied verbatim from a favourite you tube video.

    You can best support your child best by listening, and thus figuring out what your child is TRYING TO SAY. Often your child might skip over the parts of gestalts they don’t want to say. This is common in older kids who have long gestalts, sometimes even whole episodes or whole stories!

    Try and tease out their shorter mitigations and then focus on practicing and modelling those as they are so much more useful!

    So back to our question: are they ready?

    Are their gestalts covering a variety of situations and contexts?

    Make a note in your journal to see what the backgrounds are to each phrase you ear, so for example:

    • Transitioning: ‘it’s time for the park’ ‘what’s next’ ‘shoes on’
    • Bed Time: ‘we need to wash’ ‘let’s get in (bath/bed)’ ‘ready for our book’
    • Toilet/nappy: ‘we need the potty’ ‘where’s the potty’ ‘let’s wash hands’
    • Mealtime: ‘time to eat’ ‘go get a spoon’ ‘yummy num num’
    • Park/going out: ‘look at the squirrel’ ‘funny doggy’ ‘I wanna swing’
    • At the shops: ‘let’s get the trolley’ ‘lots of veggies’ ‘no tomatoes’ ‘ooh long queue’ ‘back to the car’

    And… does the child use the phrases for a variety of functions?

    • labelling
    • providing information
    • calling out
    • affirming
    • requesting
    • protesting
    • directing

    We need to offer lots of similar language models so that in their own time our children can extract/mitigate useful phrases for what they want to express. The more similar utterances a child hears around him the more he/she can discover the communalities. Once the child has a small range of phrases, he/she can mix them up and create semi-original own phrases.

    If the answer is YES!! our child has perhaps not all but a range of functions and a range of situations where they use a variety of easily mitigable gestalts then yes they are ready for moving to stage 2 of NLA!

    Hurrah!

    Keeping a journal of what your child is saying and in what circumstance is crucial to help with our ongoing detective work!

    Next time I will be looking at how we can help our NLA 2 GLP produce even more of their own mix and match phrases.

    If you need help with your child, please do not hesitate to contact me.


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  • One book, dozens of therapy opportunities: What speech therapy really looks like

    As speech and language therapists, some of the most effective moments in therapy don’t come from flashcards, worksheets, or even drilling sounds (though to be fair I do drill quite a lot too! needs must…😊).

    By and large they happen in natural interaction — during shared attention, laughter, storytelling, and connection.

    This short video clip captures that.

    In under two minutes, while simply reading a book together with a three-year-old child, we naturally work on:

    • Speech sounds
    • Vowel production
    • Early phonological patterns
    • Motor planning
    • Signing and total communication
    • Visual cueing
    • Repetition and practice
    • Confidence building
    • And engagement through play

    To many people, it may just look like ‘reading a book’.

    But underneath that moment are years of specialist training, clinical decision-making, preparation, and therapeutic skill.

    Therapy hidden inside play

    One of the most important parts of paediatric speech therapy is knowing how to embed targets into meaningful interaction.

    Books are one of my favourite therapy tools! Why: because as speech therapists we need to prepare for our child and our sessions. And having a book gives me the structure to know beforehand what kind of sounds or words might be coming up. Then I can be prepared for providing extra support for them. As you can see in this clip, I had the sound cards just there because I had anticipated what might be coming up!

    A single story can provide opportunities for:

    • Speech sound practice
    • Vocabulary development
    • Sentence building
    • Turn-taking
    • Symbolic understanding
    • Attention and listening
    • Gesture and signing
    • Motor speech cueing
    • And social communication

    In this clip, I follow my little one’s interests while carefully weaving in her individual therapy targets.

    It looks relaxed and spontaneous — and it is — but it is also highly intentional.

    Catching opportunities in the moment

    One lovely example in the clip is when she says ‘yes’.

    She is now starting to say the final /S/ sound, so I immediately model and draw attention to it using the ‘snake sound’ visual cue, giving her positive feedback that she can now also try using this sound at the start of words.

    My gently shaping the word ‘yeSSSS.’ gives her:

    • Auditory feedback
    • Visual support
    • And an achievable opportunity to try again

    A few seconds later, we naturally practise it again.

    That’s responsive therapy.

    Speech therapists are constantly listening, analysing, adapting, and deciding:

    • When should I model?
    • When should I pause?
    • When should I repeat?
    • When should I let it go?
    • How can I keep confidence high while still targeting speech?

    These decisions happen in seconds.

    Working on speech without ‘stopping the play’

    Another moment in the clip focuses on the word ‘out’, where the vowel sound is one of her speech targets.

    Then we move into practising the word ‘open’, a word she has previously found difficult.

    Within this one word, we can support:

    • Sequencing
    • Motor planning
    • Lip shape
    • Vowel production
    • And speech sound accuracy

    We also briefly practise the /K/ sound — a sound produced at the back of the mouth which can be particularly tricky to produce.

    Instead of explaining it verbally (which is often too abstract for young children), I use:

    • Visual demonstration
    • Exaggerated mouth movements
    • Gesture/sign support
    • And playful modelling

    Children learn through seeing, hearing, doing, and experiencing.

    That is why Speech Therapists use multiple layers of cueing simultaneously.

    Why I use signs alongside speech

    Throughout the clip, I also use signs such as ‘book’ and ‘pig’.

    Using signs does not stop children talking.

    In fact, for many children, signs:

    • Reduce frustration
    • Support understanding
    • Increase participation
    • Reinforce vocabulary
    • And help bridge the gap while speech is developing

    Communication always comes first.

    Speech is only one part of communication.

    When children feel successful communicating, they are far more likely to keep trying.

    The skill behind ‘natural’ therapy

    One thing I often hear from parents is:

    ‘You make it look so easy.’

    That is actually one of the biggest compliments a therapist can receive. (Though we also often feel we need to justify our very existence with these thoughts because we don’t just play/just read but we know it can look like that!) 😊 this is the reason for this blog…

    High-quality paediatric therapy should feel warm, playful, responsive, and natural.

    But underneath that natural interaction is:

    • Clinical knowledge
    • Phonological analysis
    • Motor speech understanding
    • Language development expertise
    • Sensory awareness
    • Relationship-building
    • And careful session planning

    Before this session even began, I already knew:

    • Which speech patterns to target
    • Which words would likely appear in the book
    • What visual cues might help
    • Which signs to model
    • And how to adapt depending on the child’s responses

    That preparation allows therapy to stay child-led without losing therapeutic focus.

    Following the child while leading the therapy

    The best therapy is rarely rigid.

    Children do not learn communication through pressure or endless correction. They learn through interaction.

    That is exactly what this short clip demonstrates.

    One book.
    One conversation.
    Hundreds of tiny therapeutic decisions.

    And all within a joyful moment shared together.

    Because good speech therapy should never feel like hard work for a child.

    It should feel like connection, confidence, success — and fun.

    If you’re concerned about your child’s speech and language or wondering whether they might benefit from speech therapy, feel free to get in touch.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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  • Why I love ‘Colourful Semantics’ in speech therapy

    One of the most common concerns parents bring to speech and language therapy is:
    ‘My child understands so much… but they struggle to put sentences together’.

    Some children use only single words.
    Others miss out key parts of sentences.
    Some mix up word order.
    Others find it difficult to answer questions or explain their ideas clearly.

    This is where one of my favourite therapy approaches can be incredibly powerful: Colourful Semantics.

    Colourful Semantics is a highly effective and evidence-informed way of supporting children to build stronger sentence structure, grammar, understanding, and expressive language skills.

    It is a visual approach to language development originally created by a UK Speech and Language Therapist, Alyson Bryan in 1997 to help children understand how sentences are organised.

    Different parts of a sentence are represented by different colours.

    For example:

    • Who? is orange.
    • What doing? is yellow.
    • What? is green.
    • Where? is blue.

    As children progress more colours are added:

    • To Whom? Is pink.
    • Adjectives (what like) is purple.
    • Time Phrase is brown.

    Using colours gives children a visual framework for building sentences in a way that feels structured, predictable, and achievable.

    Instead of language feeling abstract and overwhelming, children can see how sentences fit together.

    For many children, this is massively helpful as it gives structure and predictability.

    Why some children struggle with sentences

    Language development is incredibly complex.

    To build a sentence, we need to:

    • think of vocabulary
    • organise grammar
    • sequence words
    • understand meaning
    • remember sentence structure
    • physically say the words clearly enough to communicate

    That is a huge amount happening all at once.

    Some children may:

    • leave out verbs
    • miss pronouns
    • use immature grammar
    • struggle with word order
    • rely on very short phrases
    • find it difficult to expand beyond single words.

    For example:

    • ‘Boy jump’
    • ‘Him eating’
    • ‘Dog there’
    • ‘Want juice’.

    These children often know more than they can express.

    Colourful Semantics helps bridge that gap.

    Why visual supports matter

    Many children—especially those with language delays, developmental language disorder (DLD), autism, or social communication difficulties—benefit enormously from visual support.

    Visual systems reduce the processing load.

    Instead of relying only on spoken language, children are given an additional way to organise information.

    The colours act almost like ‘anchors’ for language.

    A child may begin to understand:

    • orange = who
    • yellow = action
    • green = object
    • blue = place.

    This makes sentence building more concrete and less overwhelming.

    It also supports children who struggle with:

    • attention
    • auditory memory
    • processing spoken language
    • sequencing
    • confidence using language independently.

    Supporting sentence expansion naturally

    One of the things I love most about Colourful Semantics is how flexible it is.

    It can be used:

    • in play
    • with books
    • during conversation
    • with picture scenes
    • in storytelling
    • during movement activities
    • within everyday routines.

    Therapy does not need to feel rigid or worksheet-heavy.

    Many children who usually avoid talking become much more willing to attempt longer sentences when they feel successful.

    Children often begin to use:

    • verbs more accurately
    • pronouns more consistently
    • better word order
    • improved sentence organisation
    • and more complete ideas.

    For example, instead of:

    • ‘Him running’

    A child may gradually move toward:

    • ‘He is running.’

    The colours help children understand the ‘jobs’ words have within a sentence.

    This is particularly useful for children who need explicit teaching of language structure rather than simply learning through exposure alone.

    Supporting children with speech difficulties too

    One thing I particularly value in therapy is approaches that support multiple communication areas at once.

    Colourful Semantics is excellent for this.

    While building sentences, we can also naturally target:

    • speech sounds
    • intelligibility
    • vocabulary
    • social communication
    • turn-taking
    • attention and listening
    • confidence speaking.

    For example, if a child is working on the /K/ sound, we might intentionally build sentences containing target words:

    • ‘The cat is coming.’
    • ‘The boy is kicking.’
    • ‘The duck is in the box.’

    This allows speech and language goals to work together rather than separately.

    Therapy becomes more functional, meaningful, and engaging.

    Building confidence through success

    One of the biggest barriers many children experience is not simply language difficulty. It is the emotional impact of struggling to communicate.

    Some children become frustrated.
    Others withdraw.
    Some stop attempting longer sentences altogether because communication feels too hard.

    Colourful Semantics can help rebuild confidence because it gives children a clear structure for success. That feeling matters enormously.

    When children feel successful, they participate more.
    They attempt more.
    They communicate more.

    And communication grows through communication.

    Why I use colourful semantics

    There is no single ‘magic’ therapy approach for every child.

    But Colourful Semantics remains one of the most versatile and effective tools I use because it can be adapted so beautifully to individual children.

    It supports:

    • early language
    • grammar
    • sentence structure
    • comprehension
    • expressive language
    • storytelling
    • confidence
    • functional communication.

    Most importantly, it helps children organise language in a way that finally starts to make sense to them.

    And when language starts to make sense, communication can truly begin to flourish.

    Contact me via my contact form if you would like me to work with your child.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Reference

    Bryan A (1997) Colourful semantics. In: Chiat S, Law J, and Marshall J (eds) Language disorders in children and adults: psycholinguistic approaches to therapy. London: Whurr, 143–61.


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  • Help! My child has a lisp. What can we do about it?

    What is a LISP?

    There are different types of LISPS. Let me explain:

    A lisp is the difficulty making a clear ‘S’ and ‘Z’. Other sounds can also be affected by the tongue protruding too far forward and touching the upper teeth or the upper lip even. ‘T’ and ‘D’ can be produced with ‘too much tongue at the front’ and this can also have an impact on ‘CH’ and often also ‘SH’.

    1. Interdental lisp

    Protruding the tongue between the front teeth while attempting ‘S’ or ‘Z’ is referred to as interdental lisp; it can make the speech sound ‘muffled’ or ‘hissy’. Often, we associate a lisp with the person sounding a bit immature. The good news is that this type of lisp is the easiest to correct and, in my practice. I have a 100% success rate with this type of lisp.

    1. Lateral lisp

    In a lateral lisp the person produces the ‘S’ and ‘Z’ sounds with the air escaping over the sides of the tongue. This renders the ‘S’ as sounding ‘slushy’ or ‘wet’. This type of lisp is a bit harder to correct than the interdental lisp. In my experience this can be fixed but it might need a bit longer, more intensive therapy than the interdental lisp.

    1. Palatal lisp

    With a palatal lisp the ‘S’ sound is attempted with the tongue touching the palate, much further back than it should be. The ‘S’ sounds ‘windy’ and ‘hissy’. This is a quite rare lisp production but it is also not difficult to correct.

    These types of speech difficulties come under the category of ‘speech delay of unknown origin’ and may persist into adolescence and adulthood as ‘residual errors‘.

    Some thoughts on Treatment in general:

    Lisps can be treated successfully by a Speech and Language Therapist. However, for the treatment to work well, a student needs to be able to cooperate and want to improve his or her speech. Lisp remediation entails a fair amount of repetitive work and very young children or unmotivated older children don’t make the best candidates for treatment for this reason. Often students present with other speech, language or social communication difficulties and here the lisp might not be the priority for treating. For example, it might be that due to a student’s Attention Deficit Disorder they are simply not able to focus on speech practice in their daily life.

    When should treatment of lisp begin?

    Waiting well past 4½ years is not advisable as the longer we wait and do nothing the stronger engrained the erroneous tongue/speech habit will become. The ‘right’ age for therapy for one child may be different from the ‘right’ age for another child even within the same family. So do make an appointment with a speech and language therapist to assess and see whether your child might be ready to start therapy.

    Do lots of children lisp—is it normal?

    Until the age of about 4–4.5 years old it can be a perfectly normal developmental phase for some children to have the interdental lisp. But when we see and hear a lateral or palatal lisp we ought to act and see a speech and language therapist for sure.

    After the age of 4.5 or 5 years old most speech therapists would agree on at least having a look to see if treatment could be started. The longer we wait the harder it is to retrain the brain pathways to adopt new speech habits.

    What happens during the first Speech and Language Consultation?

    The first consultation takes about an hour and involves screening relevant areas of communicative function. We take a detailed history, examine the anatomy of the child’s mouth and tongue movements. We check for tongue tie, teeth formation, palate structure and function, as well as swallowing patterns.

    Then we begin straight away to try and see if any of the alveolar sounds (T/D/L/N) can be produced correctly with the right tongue placement as that would be the starting point from where to shape a good, clear ‘S’ sound.

    The first consultation usually ends with home practice being given, explained to parents and another appointment being made for follow up.

    Therapy – what does a session look like?

    Each therapy session consists of:

    1. Listening to sounds, discriminating sounds, identifying sounds, listening to rhyming sounds, sound awareness. We call this Auditory discrimination of single sounds: can the student hear the difference between two words that are the same apart from the first sound: ‘sing’ and ‘thing’ or ‘sigh’ and ‘thigh’?
    2. Sound production: using a variety of different prompts and cues we will teach how to physically make the new sound. Often, we work on making a NEW sound, instead of correcting the OLD one. We work on imitation of single sounds then gradually we try and make new sounds in short words, then longer words and then phrases and sentences.
    3. Games! We play games and try and have fun in between listening and producing our new sounds to help students stay motivated and even enjoy the therapy session and process.

    How long does it take to ‘fix up’ a lisp?

    It tends to take about one term with weekly sessions to help a student make good ‘S’ sounds in phrases and sentences. If the student can do the home practice every day in between the weekly sessions, then in most cases I am able to pronounce the lisp as ‘fixed’ after about one term.

    After that the student needs to practise, practise, practise, at home and in daily life to keep reminding themselves of their new skills and their new sound production.

    It is a matter of reminding and wanting to get it right. Occasionally a student returns to me for another term of simply practising their skills together with me as they are finding it hard for any number of reasons to practise at home. But generally, 8/10 students will be fine after some 12–13 sessions and their speech will be perceived as perfectly typical by family and friends.

    If your child has a lisp or any other speech error, please do not hesitate to contact me.


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    How parent coaching turns story time into a communication success

    We often hear from parents who are trying their best to connect with their child, especially when reading books, but are met with frustration. They’ll say, ‘I read the book exactly as it’s written, but my child can’t focus for very long and just runs off!’ or ‘my child just flicks through the pages then turns it upside down and runs off with it’ or similar.

    It’s a common story. Traditional reading—going through the text from cover-to-cover—has its place of course, but for little ones with a language delay or autism it can move too quickly and place all the focus on the book’s words, not on the interaction.

    But what if I told you that story time could become one of the most fun and productive times for your child’s communication development?

    Watch the fantastic little video clip above! You can see the pure joy and connection between this dad and his son. This is the same family who, just a few weeks ago, felt defeated when trying to read a book, with their child quickly losing interest and leaving the reading/book corner.

    What changed?

    The power of parent coaching and Hanen principles

    The difference you see in the video is the direct result of parent interaction therapy, or parent coaching, based on the internationally recognised Hanen principles.

    I didn’t ‘fix’ the child. Instead, I coached the parents in a few simple, powerful strategies that completely changed the dynamic of their interaction. Instead of being a time for teaching and instruction, story time became a back-and-forth conversation.

    Here are the four major transformations that coaching helped this family achieve:

    1. From reader to play partner

    Before coaching, the parents felt their job was to read the text and to teach the words in it to their child. Now, their job is to follow their child’s lead. They learned to Observe, Wait, and Listen (OWL). If the child points to the tree or the badger on the page, the parent talks about the tree or the badger.

    The result

    The child is now initiating and leading the conversation! He is sharing what he finds interesting, which makes him feel powerful and keeps him deeply engaged.

    2. Building connection and attention

    When parents focus solely on reading, they often forget to make frequent eye contact and use animated facial expressions. The principles taught them to put the text aside and prioritise connection.

    The result

    Our little boy is looking at his dad more frequently, making great eye contact, and clearly having fun! When the interaction is fun, the child’s attention span naturally lengthens, allowing him to attend to the book and the interaction for a much longer time.

    3. Creating opportunities for communication

    The parents learned simple ways to prompt communication without pressure. They stopped asking knowledge-based questions (‘What colour is that? Or point to the pig!’), which can feel like a test.

    Instead, they learned to use techniques like ‘Saying less and pausing’ or ‘copying their little one’s echolalia ‘, signalling that they are very interested in what he is saying and that his communication matters!

    The result

    The child is now spontaneously using strings of sounds and gestures to communicate his needs and interests, knowing and enjoying his parents’ enthusiastic responses.

    This video is a testament to the fact that you are your child’s best therapist. With the right tools and coaching, you can transform everyday routines, like reading a book, into the most joyful and effective communication sessions.

    4. Acknowledging and interpreting echolalia

    In the video, you may hear the little boy repeat a phrase from the book or from what his dad just said. This is called echolalia, and for a long time, it was often dismissed or discouraged.

    However, a core principle of our parent coaching is that echolalia is communication. For children who are ‘Gestalt Language Processors,’ these memorised phrases (or ‘gestalts’) are their building blocks of language.

    The key is not to stop the repetition, but to become a ‘language detective’ and ‘interpreter’!

    By modelling the correct, first-person phrase right after the echo, parents/caregivers are teaching a child how to break down the ‘chunk’ and use the individual words functionally. They are showing their child: ‘I heard you. Your communication makes sense to me.’

    This strategy is a game-changer because it:

    1. Validates the child’s communication: It honours the child’s natural way of learning language, which boosts their confidence and willingness to communicate.
    2. Facilitates language development: It provides the child with the next step—a meaningful, functional phrase—to move them from repeating language to generating their own spontaneous sentences.

    Look at the child’s face again in the video. When his dad acknowledges and interprets his communication, you see that spark of joy and connection—that’s the moment when true, functional language learning happens!

    Ready to unlock the potential in your family’s story time? Contact me to learn more about our parent coaching programs.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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