Getting down on their level: Why face-to-face play is a speech therapy superpower

ByLondon Speech and Feeding

As parents, we spend a massive portion of our days multi-tasking. We are talking to our toddlers while washing dishes, shouting encouraging words from across the living room while folding laundry, or answering their questions from a few feet above them while walking through the supermarket. It is a completely natural dynamic, after all, the adult world happens up here, and their world happens down there.

But when it comes to actively boosting your child’s speech and language development, one of the simplest, most profound changes you can make costs absolutely nothing and requires no special training.

It is simply this: Get down on the floor, sit cross-legged, and get face-to-face.

At London Speech and Feeding I call this physical positioning ‘face to face’. It is also one of the major ‘Hanen Programme’ Strategies. It completely reshapes how your child interacts with you, transforms how they process language, and turns ordinary playtime into an instant communication opportunity.

Our mouth is the magic: Visual cueing and speech imitation

When a child is learning to talk, they aren’t just listening to the sounds you make; they are watching how you make them.

Speech is an incredibly complex motor skill. To say a single word, the brain must coordinate the lips, tongue, teeth, jaw, and vocal cords in a fraction of a second. When you speak to your child from a standing or even a seated chair position while they are on the floor, your mouth is entirely out of their direct line of sight. They miss the visual roadmap of speech.

When you sit right in front of them at eye level:

  • They see mouth shapes: They can see how your lips round for an /OO/ sound, how your teeth touch your lip for an /F/ sound, or how wide your mouth opens for an /AH/.
  • They read facial expressions: Emotions give context to words. Seeing your eyes widen with excitement or your eyebrows lift in surprise helps them map meaning onto the vocabulary you are using.
  • They mimic naturally: By putting your face directly in your child’s field of vision, you make it infinitely easier for her or him to try and copy your oral movements.

If you are working on a specific word like ‘pop’ while blowing bubbles or ‘more’ during snack time getting your face just a foot or two away from your child gives her or him the front-row seat she or he needs to learn the mechanics of that word.

Unlocking joint attention: The foundation of all languages

Before a child can say their first words, they need to master a milestone called joint attention.

What is joint attention?

It is the magic moment when a child looks at an object (like a toy train), looks up at you to share their excitement, and then looks back at the object. It is a three-way loop of shared experience.

Without joint attention, communication cannot thrive. If a child is entirely hyper-focused on a toy and ignoring your presence, or if you are commenting on a book they aren’t looking at, true communication isn’t happening.

When you get down on the floor on a play mat, you naturally insert yourself into their bubble. You aren’t a distant narrator anymore; you are a co-player. Being at their level makes it incredibly easy for their eyes to flick from the toy straight to your face. This shared gaze is the exact moment language takes root. It signals to the child, ‘We are experiencing this together, and this thing we are doing has a name.’

The ‘wait and see’ technique

Once you are down on the floor, the temptation is often to take over by pointing at everything, asking a million questions like ‘What’s that?’, ‘Is that a blue train?’, or somehow driving the play.

Instead, the most powerful thing you can do at eye level is to practise the ‘Wait and See’ technique.

In the video clip you can see this exact dynamic in action. Look at how I am sitting cross-legged on the mat, at eye level with the toddler. Notice how my hands are on the toy container, but my eyes are locked on the child. I am not forcing the interaction; instead, I am waiting.

Here is how you can use this strategy at home:

  1. Set the stage: Get down on their level with a high-interest toy that requires help (like a wind-up toy, bubbles, or a tight-lidded box with toys inside).
  2. Create anticipation: Hold the object near your face or place your hands on it, but don’t open or activate it right away.
  3. Lean in and wait: Lean slightly forward, open your eyes wide, adopt an expectant facial expression, and completely pause. Count to five or ten in your head. Do not say anything.
  4. Capture the gaze: Wait for the exact moment your child looks up from the toy to meet your eyes, as if to say, ‘Well? Are you going to open it?’
  5. Reward the eye contact: The instant they make eye contact, deliver the language reward! Model a simple, functional word like ‘Open!’, ‘Go!’, or ‘Look!’ as you immediately do the action.

By pausing and waiting at eye level, you create a ‘communication temptation’. The child learns that looking at you and engaging with your face is the key that unlocks the fun.

Making it a daily habit

You don’t need to spend hours a day sitting on the floor to see a difference. Start small by dedicating just 10 to 15 minutes of undivided, face-to-face play time each day. Turn off the television, put your phone in another room, get down on their level, and let them lead the play while you focus on being their visual communication partner.

Whether you’re opening a little toy briefcase, pushing a plastic train along a track, or stacking blocks, remember: your face is the best toy in the room.

Are you wondering if your toddler’s speech and language milestones are on track? At London Speech and Feeding I love helping families navigate early communication. Feel free to explore my services page and reach out directly to schedule a consultation.

Sonja McGeachie

Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

Health Professions Council registered
Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
Member of ASLTIP

Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Joint attention for children with autism

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
    Kids Speech Therapist London

    Why is joint engagement important for communication development?

    It has been well-documented that the development of joint attention is impaired in children who have social communication difficulties or autism. It is, in fact, this impairment which distinguishes children with ASD from children who have other developmental delays.

    A lack of joint attention in very young children is an early sign of autism as it is a signal that there is a disruption in the motivation to connect socially with others. Since this is a crucial element, I thought I would outline what we mean by Joint Attention as supported by the research undertaken at Hanen.org.

    In typically developing children, the ability to shift attention between a person and an object for the purposes of connecting socially or for requesting develops around the same time. However, for children with ASD, these components emerge one at a time and in a linear fashion. Children with ASD usually start with requesting something and later they may learn to share attention for social sharing. (see pattern below as a general guide).

    As with typical development, there is variation in the order that these skills emerge but the following patterns of development is commonly seen:

    • Reaching, taking adult’s arm/hand or pointing to ask for something — but without looking at the adult
    • Gradually alternating looking between person and object of desire
    • Then learning to follow the point of another — which is responding to joint attention initiated by another
    • Directing attention to share interests — without looking at the adult: pointing to a truck on the road/ helicopter circling above
    • Then directing attention to share interest by alternating gaze shift between person and object — here the child is now initiating joint attention.

    What is important to note is that in order to fulfil the criteria for true joint attention, the purpose of directing the attention of another person must be social in nature. In other words, it must not be exclusively to obtain a desirable object or event/action. True Joint Attention is seen verbally or non-verbally; we want to share a thought with another person and direct them to something we are interested or excited or spooked by.

    For example: we can see an amazing firework display in the distance and we want to quickly direct our friend’s attention to this. In order to do this we might be tugging their sleeve/arm whilst pointing to the display in the distance, and perhaps we might add “wow look over there!” We are doing so simply to share an interest without obtaining anything, we are just being social with each other. So True Joint Attention is not just looking at what we want to have, then look at the person who can get this for us and then point to the item. We can say that this is the precursor to true joint attention, which is purely social in nature.

    Because true joint attention is an essential precursor to typical language development, the absence of joint attention in children with ASD contributes to difficulties with language learning. Beuker, K., Rommelse, N., Donders, R. & Buitelaar, J. (2013).

    The Hanen programme for Parent Child Interaction teaches parents of children with Social Communication Difficulties step by step how to enable their children to learn to pay attention to an object and the parent at the same time.

    We learn how to enable a child to:

    • engage take turns
    • shift eye gaze between toy and adult
    • copy adult’s actions, gestures and then words
    • play with toys in different, new ways
    • interact and for longer periods of time
    • have fun whilst playing

    If you would like to know more about the Hanen programme please get in touch. I look forward to exploring the topic with you and help guide you forward if this is something your child is struggling with.

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  • Submucous cleft palate: What is it and how does it impact on speech?

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
    Submucous cleft palate: What is it and how does it impact on speech?

    What exactly is a submucous cleft palate?

    A submucous cleft palate (SMCP) is much less obvious than its counterparts, cleft of lip and/or palate, and can profoundly impact a child’s speech development. It leads to often extreme hyper nasal speech and difficulty with producing many sounds (/K/ /G/ /T/ /D/ /P/ /B/ /S/ /Z/ /F/ /V/).

    In short, the muscles and bone of the soft palate, and sometimes the hard palate, do not fuse completely during foetal development and the mucous membrane that lines the roof of the mouth remains intact, effectively camouflaging the underlying muscular and bony deficit.

    So, while the surface of the palate appears normal, the essential muscle and functions responsible for sealing off the nasal cavity from the oral cavity during speech are compromised. This cleft (or lack of muscle) can be seen as a bluish midline discoloration of the soft palate, often a bifid (split) uvula, and at times a notch in the posterior border of the hard palate can be felt upon palpation. However, these signs aren’t always present or easily discernible, contributing to the difficulty arriving at a diagnosis.

    Diagnosing a submucous cleft palate is often akin to searching for a needle in a haystack, especially for the untrained eye. Unlike overt clefts that are visually apparent at birth, an SMCP can go undiagnosed for years, sometimes well into childhood or even adolescence. Paediatricians and even ENT surgeons have been known to miss it during routine checks due to the intact mucosal lining. Parents might notice their child’s speech sounds ‘different’ or ‘nasal’ but struggle to pinpoint the cause. Children might undergo extensive speech therapy without a proper diagnosis, as the underlying structural issue continues to hinder progress.

    My experience as a speech therapist in private practice:

    Over my years of practice, I have encountered several children presenting with persistent hyper-nasal speech and significant difficulties producing plosive and fricative sounds.

    It has been incredibly rewarding, though at times challenging, to successfully diagnose SMCP in a number of these children. My approach often involves:

    • a meticulous oral motor examination,
    • careful listening for the specific qualities of hypernasality,
    • and a deep understanding of the physiological requirements for clear speech sound production.

    When I suspect an SMCP, I refer these children to Great Ormond Street Hospital where a fantastic multidisciplinary team, typically including ENT surgeons and a specialist speech-language therapist can conduct more definitive assessments. These assessments often involve instrumental analyses such as videofluoroscopy or nasoendoscopy, which provide objective measures of velopharyngeal function and visual confirmation of the anatomical deficit.

    The path to resolution: surgery, therapy, and successful outcomes

    Surgery

    The journey for these children, once diagnosed, often involves surgical intervention. It’s not uncommon for children with SMCP to undergo multiple operations to achieve optimal velopharyngeal closure. These procedures aim to reconstruct or augment the velopharyngeal mechanism, enabling it to effectively separate the oral and nasal cavities during speech. The specific surgical approach depends on the individual child’s anatomy and the severity of the velopharyngeal insufficiency. It’s a testament to the skill of these specialised surgeons that such intricate repairs can be performed with remarkable success.

    Speech therapy

    Following surgery these children embark on the crucial phase of speech therapy. While surgery addresses the structural problem, speech therapy helps a child learn to utilise their newly improved anatomy. It involves intensive work on developing oral airflow, establishing correct articulatory placement, and reducing learned compensatory strategies that have developed due to the original structural deficit. It is immensely gratifying to witness the transformation. Children who once struggled to produce basic sounds, whose speech was difficult to understand, gradually develop clear speech.

    Next steps?

    If you’re a parent concerned about your child’s speech and feeding, you’re not alone. The journey can feel confusing, but professional guidance can make all the difference. Never hesitate to have a second opinion when you have that niggling feeling that there is something that has not yet been explored. At London Speech and Feeding I specialise in being thorough and thinking outside the box.

    I am here to provide the support you need. Reach out to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards helping your child communicate and thrive.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    The great air debate: How different swallowing patterns impact breastfeeding and reflux

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    The great air debate

    As a Speech and Language Therapist specialising in infant feeding, I often hear from worried mums describing their breastfed baby’s fussiness. ‘My baby is so burpy and gassy,’ ‘might it be reflux?’ or ‘she just seems uncomfortable after every feed’. While these concerns are incredibly valid and distressing for both baby and mum (and dads!), the underlying cause isn’t always what you might think. Often, the culprit isn’t primarily a digestive issue, but rather a mechanical one: how effectively your baby is managing air during feeding.

    Many parents are told their baby has ‘colic’ or ‘reflux’ and are offered solutions that don’t quite hit the mark because they overlook a fundamental aspect of feeding: the suck-swallow-breathe sequence. Understanding this intricate dance can be the key to unlocking a calmer, happier feeding experience for your baby and you.

    Understanding the suck-swallow-breathe sequence

    Your baby’s mouth, tongue, jaw, and throat muscles work together in a precise rhythm like a beautifully orchestrated symphony. First your baby draws milk, then swallows it, and then takes a breath, all without interruption. This is the ideal suck-swallow-breathe (SSB) sequence.

    When the SSB sequence functions optimally, a baby latches deeply, creates good suction, draws milk, swallows efficiently, and then pauses just long enough to take a gentle breath before the next suck. This smooth, coordinated process minimises the amount of air swallowed.

    However, for various reasons (it could be a shallow latch, oral motor challenges, an uncoordinated suck, or even an overly fast milk flow) this sequence can get a bit out of sync. Instead of a smooth rhythm, you might see:

    • Suck-suck-swallow-gasp!: Too much air pulled in with the swallow.
    • Rapid, shallow sucking followed by gulping: Inefficient milk transfer and air intake.
    • Clicking noises during feeding: Loss of suction, indicating air entry.
    • Frequent detaching and re-latching: Often to ‘catch a breath’ or because of discomfort.

    Each of these patterns can lead to increased air intake.

    The root cause: Air trapping leading to a gassy breastfed baby

    When a baby swallows too much air during a feed, that air must go somewhere. It builds up in the stomach, causing bloating, discomfort, and often leads to the familiar reflux-like symptoms parents describe: arching, spitting up, burping excessively, or simply appearing distressed.

    It’s a common misconception that all gassiness or reflux symptoms in a breastfed baby are due to something in the mother’s diet or a genuine digestive disorder. While these can be factors, as an SLT, we first look at the mechanics of the feed. If a baby is constantly struggling to maintain a seal, sucking inefficiently, or having to gulp to keep up with flow, he or she is inevitably swallowing air. This air then creates pressure, which can push milk back up (silent reflux) or out (visible reflux).

    Think of it like trying to drink through a straw with a hole in it. You’re sucking, but you’re also pulling in air, making it harder to get the liquid and leaving you with more bubbles in your stomach.

    Why mechanical speech therapy assessment is key

    This is where the distinction between a medical diagnosis (true gastro oesophageal reflux disease or GORD) and a functional feeding challenge becomes critical. A paediatrician will assess for medical causes and may prescribe medication to reduce stomach acid. This can be appropriate for severe cases of GORD.

    However, if the primary issue is air being trapped due to a suboptimal suck-swallow pattern, medication only treats the symptom (acid burning) and not the root cause (air intake). This is precisely where a Speech and Language Therapist specialising in infant feeding comes in.

    My role is to meticulously observe and assess your baby’s oral motor skills, latch, tongue function, and the efficiency of their SSB sequence. I look for subtle signs of inefficiency that contribute to excessive air swallowing.

    • Is the tongue elevating correctly to create suction?
    • Is the jaw stable, or is it excessively moving?
    • Is the latch deep enough to prevent air leaks?
    • Can the baby coordinate suck, swallow, and breathe without gasping?

    By identifying these mechanical challenges, I can then implement targeted strategies to improve feeding efficiency and reduce air intake, often leading to a significant reduction in reflux-like symptoms and overall discomfort.

    Strategies to optimise air management during breastfeeding

    The good news is that many babies can learn to feed more efficiently with the right support. Here are some general strategies we might explore:

    1. Optimise latch and position: A deep, asymmetric latch is crucial. Experiment with different positions that allow for a deeper latch and better head/neck alignment, such as laid-back feeding or upright positions.
    2. Paced feeding (even at the breast): If your milk flow is very fast, consider removing your baby from the breast briefly if you hear excessive gulping or see him or her struggling to breathe. This allows him or her to catch up and manage the flow.
    3. Support the jaw and cheeks: Sometimes, gentle support to the baby’s jaw or cheeks can help them maintain a more stable, efficient suck. I can demonstrate specific techniques for this.
    4. Burping effectively: While burping won’t get rid of all swallowed air, upright burping positions and gentle back rubs can help release some of it.
    5. Pre-feed oral preparation: Gentle oral massage or stretches before a feed can sometimes ‘wake up’ the oral muscles and improve coordination.

    Addressing the ‘Great Air Debate’ isn’t about blaming anyone; it’s about empowering parents with a deeper understanding of their baby’s feeding mechanics. By focusing on the how, not just the what, we can often resolve persistent feeding challenges, reduce discomfort, and make breastfeeding a more joyful, peaceful experience for both you and your little one.

    If you suspect your baby’s gassiness or reflux symptoms are related to how they are managing air during feeds, don’t hesitate to reach out for a specialist assessment.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Let’s live and breathe AAC

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    We all have the right and want to express thoughts, feelings, and needs. For non-speaking or minimally speaking children, finding an avenue to communicate effectively can be a challenging journey. Parents are often at a loss as to where to start. Sometimes a little bit of Makaton signing has been used here and there but we mostly find that gradually signing fades as parents feel that it just doesn’t seem to get copied and used by the children.

    They live and breathe their system

    This is where we need to pick up the pieces and start again: because all successful families where children start using their boards or their electronic AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) systems do this one thing: THEY LIVE AND BREATHE THEIR SYSTEM.

    • They have boards in every single room of the house;
    • They have a board in the car, attached to the side of car door so their child can point to it as they need to;
    • They have a smaller board in their handbag/rucksack when out and about;
    • They have a board for shopping and attach it to the shopping trolley;
    • They are never ever without their board.

    Because they realise that a child should never be without their mouths to speak, should never be without a means to speak. They use their own board to model and the child has always access to their board to model back or to just look.

    This is where success begins

    Success begins at consistent and joyful use of the board/AAC system throughout the entire day. If we think about it, doesn’t it make sense? Of course, it does! We talk to our child for the first two years of their life continuously wherever we are and our child is continuously encouraged to use their mouths for talking in all situations.

    Same goes for Signing: Makaton or any other sign system is a very powerful means to aid communication and I certainly advocate and use it in practice. Though much like words, signs are very elusive and temporary—as soon as the sign has been made it is gone and no longer present. Same with words of course. This can be difficult for people who need longer to process information.

    The beauty of symbols or photographs is that they are permanent: they don’t vanish, they stay and with the core board they stay in the same place! This is very reassuring. We can learn where a symbol is and we can be assured that it will still be there the next time we look at the board.

    AAC core board

    Here is a picture of a core board:

    AAC board

    You can download this and other boards for free on the Saltillo Word Power website.

    It has 48 cells and we can see the most frequently used core words on here, words that we use 80% of the day when talking with our non-speaking/minimally speaking children, younger children and children with cognitive delay. We keep our sentences short and we say phrases pertaining to their daily lives;

    • Let’s GET your toy
    • PUT it here, PUT it away, PUT it IN
    • Let’s READ a book
    • UP you get
    • WANT some MORE?
    • That’s GOOD isn’t it?
    • Let’s OPEN the box and LOOK

    And so on… All these phrases can be aided with the above board. Your child will learn OVER TIME and OVER CONTINUOUS USE where GET/PUT/MORE/WANT/IN—where these symbols are. For children who are slow to process this is so helpful, to have a visual representation of what has just been said. It aids understanding in the first place. Gradually as a child starts to copy they will point to powerful symbols themselves and if they want to speak they can also speak of course:

    A child might point to WANT + MORE and then say with their mouths: BANANA!

    Board examples

    Here are some other boards I have made specifically for daily situations and preferences of some of my students. Here is one for toileting:

    AAC toileting board

    And another one:

    These boards incorporate high-frequency and versatile words, enabling us to make little sentences.

    Building Language and Literacy Skills

    AAC Core Boards are not just tools for immediate communication. They also play a pivotal role in language and literacy development. By using these boards, non-speaking children engage with words and symbols, reinforcing their understanding of language structure and grammar.

    Over time they naturally absorb language patterns, laying the foundation for improved literacy skills.

    Customisation for Individual Needs

    Every non-speaking child is unique, and their communication needs can vary significantly. AAC Core Boards are designed with this diversity in mind. The boards can be adapted to include specific vocabulary relevant to the child’s daily life, interests, and activities. This personalisation ensures that the AAC Core Board is a true reflection of the child’s personality and needs, making communication more engaging and effective.

    Collaboration between AAC Core Boards and Speech Therapy

    While AAC Core Boards are an incredible tool, they are only used effectively by the non-speaking child when the board is used BY ALL COMMUNICATION PARTNERS around the child.

    Again, I know I am being repetitive here, but the board needs to be used and modelled by the adults constantly in the first place and for a period of time before we can expect our children to take an interest and use the boards themselves. Think how long it typically takes for a child to learn their first word: around a year! During that time the adults talk constantly to their child without hesitation or expectation! The same goes for introducing this new way of communicating.

    Collaborating with your child’s speech-language therapist (SLT) ensures that your child receives the right guidance in using the AAC system. SLTs can assess your child’s communication abilities, recommend appropriate boards and provide guidance on how to best implement them.

    Conclusion

    For non-speaking children, AAC Core Boards are bridges to their world.

    These boards foster language development, social interaction, and personal expression. AAC Core Boards offer a beacon of hope, helping non-speaking children break through communication barriers and thrive in a world that is waiting to hear their voices. Boards are simple for anyone to use and understand. Have a go! You will be surprised how lovely it is to use a board with ease and once your child sees you do this, you have a chance for your child to start copying you…and express something! HOW ABOUT THAT! I look forward to hearing your stories!

    The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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  • Why imitation is a powerful strategy to support social communication

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    Before reading this blog, it’s important to understand what we mean by ‘social communication’ and ‘imitation’. Social communication is more complex than it first appears. It refers to many aspects of communication such as body language, voice, conversational skills, social ‘rules’ (such as being polite and using manners), interpersonal skills (such as developing friendships), and emotional literacy (such as appropriacy and developing self-awareness). Imitation refers to the simple act of copying.

    You may have noticed that your child has difficulties in some of the areas mentioned above. They might be less responsive to you and appear to be quite happy in their own world. Whilst we do not want to change their unique characteristics, we do need to prepare them for future experiences, and what is socially acceptable.

    How will copying my child develop their social communication?

    1. If your child is already engaged with a certain activity, they are already interested and motivated. You’re not competing for their attention.
    2. Both yours and your child’s attention is on the same activity which makes imitating for you (as the parent) easier.
    3. Studies have demonstrated that when a parent imitates a child, they are more likely to look at the adult.
    4. Imitation not only supports eye contact but supports facial expressions (such as smiling), may increase vocalisations, and encourages your child to sit closer to you.
    5. Children learn through trial and error. They may start to try to perform new actions to gain their parents attention. Let your child lead the play!!

    How do I start imitating my child?

    1. Start with observing them. Take the time just to watch. You don’t need to make notes. Sit back and observe their actions, movements, and sounds they make.
    2. Wait for your child’s reaction when they realise you are copying their actions. Remember they may not notice, you don’t need to remind them, simply copy them again.
    3. Having the same set up as your child allows them to feel in control. So, you may have two sets of the same activity rather than copying using their set of toys.

    This may sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Start with a ten-minute time frame where you choose to copy your child. This is where you can practise your imitation strategy. Ten minutes a day is far more effective than an hour every two weeks. You may feel self-conscious but trust the process. Build your confidence, whilst exposing your child’s to increased language and communication, enabling them to develop vital social communication skills.

    Look at the video above to watch the strategy in action!

    Support is only a click away. I’m here to help.

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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    Four struggles parents face when out and about with children with speech, language, and communication difficulties

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding
    A man and a woman hug a young girl at a table
    Hug

    You (as parents) often describe yourselves as being under constant pressure and stress when looking after your children and young people with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND). You may find going out to do the simplest of tasks a challenge. And you will try to avoid social situations out of fear and anxiety. One of the most important factors to you is having like-minded people who understand your position as a parent with a young person with additional needs. Let’s look at some of the challenges you face and how I can support you and your family.

    1. Challenging behaviour and going out to the shops

    When your child displays challenging behaviour and won’t go into a shop without buying a toy that they insist on having, it can be tough on your family. You see people around you staring as you try to manage the situation. They do not understand the pressures you face, or that the simplest of tasks are a huge challenge.

    I can support you by giving strategies to use when out and about. I know that using visuals is important for your child. They may not understand or take in language when they are in a heightened state of anxiety or feeling overwhelmed. You could print pictures of the places you’re going to and put them on an easily accessible chain. Then you could use that chain when out and about at the shops. You may want to introduce a visual timetable at home. That way your child or young person understands where they are going. This may lessen their anxiety and subsequent behaviour.

    2. Your child is not able to communicate their needs to an unfamiliar communication partner

    When your child has difficulty communicating to an unfamiliar person it can be hard to manage. You feel yourself explaining your situation repeatedly. I can provide your child with individualised strategies or communication aids which support your child to communicate with both familiar and unfamiliar communication partners. We’ll work together to find which communication methods work in different situations and how your child will use these to help their independence.

    3. Being overwhelmed

    Your child or young person may easily be overwhelmed which may contribute to behaviour changes. I’ll work with your family to understand what the behaviour means, looking at what happened before and what happened afterwards. We’ll not only look at the behaviour but at the environment as well. This can inform how you can support your child or young person in the future, to reduce sensory stimuli (if needed) and for them to feel emotionally regulated.

    4. People avoid engaging with you

    One of the hardest things as a parent is for others to avoid you. You see them crossing the street because they don’t know what to say to you. All you want is them to accept you, to maintain your identity as a person and not as a SEND parent. I can support you emotionally. I can give you advice on local support networks where you can find other parents in a similar situation.

    We know the stresses that being a parent with a child with SEND comes with. Please know I am always here to support you, to find solutions so that when you’re next out and about. Your experience will be a little easier and you’ll feel less isolated.

    Improve your child’s communication, confidence, reduce overwhelm and feel supported here.

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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