How do we play with our Gestalt Language Processors?

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Child-led therapy

When working with Gestalt Language Processors, it is always advisable to use child-led therapy. What does that mean? Child led therapy involves following a child’s interests and allowing her/him to lead the play activity throughout the speech and language therapy session. In other words, instead of having my own ideas of what we might want to play with or what activities I might try and use, I provide a range of toys I know the child likes or has played well with before; then I wait for the child to pick what she/he enjoys doing.

Play can be very repetitive and we can often see our child cycling back to the same one or two toys throughout the session. But this is what she/he needs to do at that time and it means that we have focused attention and engagement. This in turn is very helpful for the therapeutic process, which is to offer great scripts and phrases/words alongside what she/he is playing with.

Monotropic minds

Often the mind of autistic children is more strongly pulled towards a smaller number of interests or hobbies as I like to call them. Dr Dinah Murray, Dr Winn Lawson and Mike Lesser have found in 2005 that autistic people have ‘monotropic’ minds. They explain that autistic children focus their energy on a narrow range of activities as the energy required to switch between several toys is much higher than we would see in the neuro-typical population.

Gestalt Language Processors are often also Gestalt Cognitive Processors. This is when experiences are retained as episodic events and memories. An event is remembered by specific parts of the same event. And, therefore, these specific parts should always be part of that event, when the event is repeated.

Should any of the specifics be changed or are missing, then this can cause great upset to Gestalt Cognitive Processors. So, for example, if the last two times in speech therapy we had the train set out and this was played with happily, then this becomes a specific part of the whole session. If, I then don’t offer the train set the third time a child comes to see me, this could be very upsetting.

This is why I tend to try this out and see what happens. Usually in the 3rd or 4th session: I might not bring out the car run that has hitherto been super successful to see if we are able to transition well to other toys. If yes, then we can have new experiences but if not then I will re-offer the car run/or whatever toy pretty quickly so as not to cause complete dysregulation.

A few pointers below which help with child-led play:

Introduce a few new toys and see what happens

Parents are encouraged to bring some familiar toys their child likes to the session. We can then introduce a couple of different toys to see how we go. Try offering a new toy alongside the familiar one; try offering new toys without the familiar one present, but be prepared to re-offer the “old” toy should our child get upset.

Rotate toys and don’t offer out too many toys

I find that children can get overwhelmed and overstimulated by too many items out all at once. I always talk to parents about toy rotation at home and I encourage storage and ‘tidy up’ of toys so that we can increase attention focus, and also maintain freshness and new interest in older toys.

Some children are not yet ready to play with toys

Here I suggest people games: these are games where the adult becomes part of a more motor-based activity. Some call it ‘rough and tumble play’ but it can be nursery rhymes such as sleeping bunnies/row row the boat or peek-a-boo for the younger ones.

Copy/Imitation is so important – try getting two identical or similar play items

When we are copying our child, it is often not desirable to ‘take turns’ with their toys/blogs/cars etc as our child may not be ready to let us take a turn. Instead, if we have the exact same toy that our child is having then we can play alongside our child and copy them perfectly without interrupting their play.

References:

Murray, D., Lesser, M., & Lawson, W. (2005). Attention, monotropism and the diagnostic criteria for autism. Autism, 9(2), 139-156.

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    Transforming Mealtimes

    Speech Therpaist in London

    Transforming Mealtimes

    Below are two reviews I got from grateful clients over the past 4-6 weeks; this blog is more about how Feeding Therapy can help you than blowing my own trumpet…. though that said, it is always so nice and gratifying to hear when parents are happy and hopeful about their little one’s feeding journey. Feeding Therapy is a substantial part of my work as a Children’s Speech and Language Therapist. One of my specialist subjects is Autism and we find that many children on the Autism Spectrum are very specific about eating, and will often refuse a range of typical family foods in favour of a narrow range of foods/snacks.

    Mostly, feeding difficulties are a combination and complex cocktail of factors that have contributed to the current status quo: sure, there may have been some physical problems to start off with, such as reflux causing the baby discomfort, constipation, a very tight tongue tie or a swallowing problem caused by neurological difficulties and of course sensory processing difficulties are also very physical experiences. We always begin with a very thorough case history taking and information gathering, followed by an oral assessment and observation of the actual swallow to establish what might have been – or still might be – the cause for the feeding difficulties.

    In most of the cases I see in my practice, the original obvious cause is no longer present, especially with older children. So, if the swallowing is fine, the reflux is no longer present, the tongue was divided (twice!) why are they still not eating much, refusing to try new foods, only accept certain textures etc.

    The answer is extremely complex and multi-faceted and this little blog is not covering any factors in detail (we would be here all night) -I mentioned sensory processing difficulties earlier on. These are mostly still present but often not acknowledged or recognised by parents. And it is certainly the case that one of the contributors is parental anxiety; this tends to run very high and has been for many months, sometimes years. This in turn often leads to very tense and unpleasant, endlessly long meal times and many times children are force-fed several times a day in order to “get something down there” as otherwise they would probably starve themselves.

    Additionally, parents end up only offering a very narrow range of foods because that is all their child will eat. This ends up in a vicious cycle of children being fed porridge-style food for all meal times and of course they won’t progress to more mature foods if these mature foods are never on offer.

    In order to help address and disentangle some of the issues I often introduce the “Division of Responsibility in Feeding” as researched and recommended by Ellyn Satter (The Satter Feeding Dynamics Model)

    Here are the main points of her approach:

    Children have a natural ability with eating, they eat as much as they need and they grow in the way that is right for them and they learn to eat what their parents eat. (E Satter). The parent is responsible for WHAT the child eats, WHERE and WHEN the child eats. The child is responsible for HOW MUCH they eat or WHETHER to eat. Satter proposes that parents should guide their child’s transition from nipple feeding through semi-solids, then thick and lumpy foods to finger foods and then on to normal family meals.

    Please note: this model is only appropriate for children where the original physical cause is no longer present!

    Of course it’s not easy! It requires a huge shift in thinking about feeding and it requires to trust our children to know what is best for them. This is very big for most parents, as it is not how we were brought up and it is not commonly known that babies and children know what is good for them!

    However, it is certainly true that parents who follow this particular approach and make small, steady changes in the way the offer foods, and in the way they create family meal times differently, children make very nice, pleasing progress and over some months we often see remarkable positive changes.

    I like to work in a team and especially for this type of problem it is essential to have a multi-disciplinary approach. A knowledgeable dietician is an enormous plus in any feeding team as is of course a

    Paediatrician and/ or a Gastroenterologist and the most important people in the team are the parents!

    Feeding Therapy is all about collaboration and a ‘team around the child” approach. When we have this in place and there is trust amongst the team members then we make fantastic progress.

    Do get in touch with me if you would like some help with your tricky feeder.

    Lovely Reviews

    I visited London Speech and Feeding a couple of days ago with my 8-month-old granddaughter and her mother. Sonja made us feel comfortable and at ease from our first introductions. She was able to pinpoint my granddaughter’s mum’s anxiety around weaning very quickly. She not only gave her the tools to do this successfully, but also really encouraged my granddaughter’s mum and instilled confidence that she had everything she needed to make this sometimes-difficult transition without further anxiety.

    Sonja was very thorough in her initial assessment of my granddaughter’s physical milestones and her developing speech. My granddaughter felt very comfortable with Sonja and happily played along with her. Then came the big moment – trying out various foods! We were amazed to see just how easily my granddaughter, with Sonja’s expert encouragement, took to sampling the wonderful array of different delicious morsels Sonja had prepared for the session. My granddaughter even drank from a cup for the first time! Wonderful!

    Sonja then emailed a summary of the session and an extensive array of resources with suggestions for my granddaughter’s mum which she has now put into action. My granddaughter’s mum couldn’t thank Sonja enough for her caring attitude, extensive knowledge, and warm professionalism. I have no hesitation in recommending Sonja, she’s a fantastic Feeding Therapist!

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    Sonja (and her lovely colleague, Sandra) were stupendous. I had brought my one-year-old son to see them as I was concerned that he wasn’t eating enough. They looked at his history and we ate together to make sure they had all the information they needed to give an accurate diagnosis. Whilst our outcome was that Henry was in fact doing brilliantly (and I just needed to chill out a bit!), I would imagine if there was something more serious going on, Sonja would make you feel just as supported and empowered as she did with us. Excellent follow-ups too. Money well spent for a bit of reassurance for a stressed out mama. Thank you, Sonja!


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  • Could mouth breathing be affecting your child’s speech, sleep and development?

    Could mouth breathing be affecting your child's speech, sleep and development?

    Understanding Orofacial Myofunctional Disorders (OMDs)

    Many parents contact me at London Speech and Feeding because they are worried about their child’s speech. Perhaps their child is difficult to understand, has a persistent lisp, struggles with feeding, snores at night, or always seems to have their mouth open.

    What many families don’t realise is that these concerns may all be connected.

    Increasingly, research and clinical experience are highlighting the important role of Orofacial Myofunctional Health, the way the muscles of the face, mouth, tongue and airway work together to support breathing, eating, sleeping and communication.

    When these muscles are not functioning optimally, children may develop what are known as Orofacial Myofunctional Disorders (OMDs).

    What Is Orofacial Myofunctional Health?

    Orofacial Myofunctional Health refers to the healthy function and coordination of the:

    • lips
    • tongue
    • jaw
    • cheeks
    • facial muscles
    • airway.

    These structures play a vital role in:

    • breathing
    • swallowing
    • chewing
    • speaking
    • facial growth
    • dental development
    • sleep quality.

    When everything is working well, the lips remain gently closed at rest, breathing occurs through the nose, and the tongue rests against the roof of the mouth.

    This seemingly simple posture has a profound influence on how a child’s face, teeth and airway develop.

    What is an Orofacial Myofunctional Disorder?

    An Orofacial Myofunctional Disorder occurs when there is an abnormal pattern of muscle function involving the face, mouth, tongue or airway.

    Children with OMDs may experience difficulties with:

    • speech
    • feeding
    • swallowing
    • sleep
    • breathing
    • dental development
    • facial growth.

    In many cases, these difficulties are linked to chronic mouth breathing.

    Signs your child may have an Orofacial Myofunctional Disorder

    Breathing and sleep signs

    • mouth open at rest
    • mouth breathing during the day
    • snoring
    • noisy breathing
    • restless sleep
    • frequent waking
    • dark circles under the eyes
    • chronic congestion
    • fatigue despite a full night’s sleep.

    Speech signs

    • lisping
    • unclear speech
    • distorted speech sounds
    • difficulty producing certain sounds
    • persistent articulation difficulties
    • reduced speech intelligibility.

    Feeding and swallowing signs

    • picky eating
    • messy eating
    • food remaining in the cheeks
    • gagging easily
    • difficulty chewing
    • long mealtimes
    • tongue thrust swallowing.

    Facial and dental signs

    • narrow palate
    • crowded teeth
    • open bite
    • overbite
    • underbite
    • long face appearance
    • receding chin
    • poor lip seal.

    If several of these signs sound familiar, a comprehensive assessment may be worthwhile.

    Why does mouth breathing matter?

    Many parents assume mouth breathing is simply a habit.

    In reality, mouth breathing is often a symptom that something is preventing efficient nasal breathing.

    Common causes include:

    • enlarged tonsils
    • enlarged adenoids
    • allergies
    • chronic nasal congestion
    • recurrent infections
    • structural airway differences
    • tongue tie
    • prolonged dummy use
    • thumb sucking
    • poor oral posture.

    When nasal breathing becomes difficult, children naturally begin breathing through their mouths.

    Over time, this can affect how the face, jaws and airway develop.

    What does healthy oral posture look like?

    Healthy oral posture is surprisingly simple:

    • lips
      • gently closed
    • tongue
      • resting against the roof of the mouth
    • teeth
      • slightly apart
    • breathing
      • through the nose.

    This posture helps guide healthy jaw growth, facial development and airway formation.

    Think of the tongue as a natural orthodontic support system. When it rests in the correct position, it helps shape the upper jaw and supports healthy facial growth.

    The consequences of chronic mouth breathing

    1. Speech difficulties

    Children who breathe through their mouths often have altered tongue posture and reduced oral stability.

    This can contribute to:

    • lisping
    • distorted sounds
    • reduced speech clarity
    • difficulty learning new speech sounds.

    2. Feeding and swallowing difficulties

    A low tongue posture may affect:

    • chewing efficiency
    • swallowing patterns
    • food management
    • oral motor coordination.

    Many children develop a tongue thrust swallow, where the tongue pushes forward instead of moving efficiently during swallowing.

    3. Poor sleep quality

    Mouth breathing can contribute to:

    • snoring
    • restless sleep
    • frequent waking
    • daytime fatigue
    • reduced concentration.

    Poor sleep can have a significant impact on learning, behaviour and emotional regulation.

    4. Changes to facial growth

    Over time, chronic mouth breathing may influence:

    • jaw development
    • facial proportions
    • dental alignment
    • airway size.

    This can result in:

    • narrow palates
    • crowded teeth
    • long facial appearance
    • increased orthodontic needs.

    5. Oral health concerns

    The nose acts as a natural filter and humidifier.

    When children breathe through their mouths:

    • The mouth becomes dry.
    • Saliva protection is reduced.
    • Risk of tooth decay increases.
    • Gum health may be affected.

    Why this matters for speech therapy

    Speech does not develop in isolation.

    The tongue, lips, jaw and airway work together to support clear communication.

    At London Speech and Feeding, we look beyond speech sounds alone.

    A child who presents with:

    • persistent speech difficulties
    • lisping
    • feeding challenges
    • open mouth posture
    • snoring
    • poor sleep

    may benefit from an assessment that explores underlying orofacial myofunctional factors.

    Addressing these foundations can often support more effective progress in speech and feeding therapy.

    How London Speech and Feeding can help

    A comprehensive assessment may include observation of:

    • breathing patterns
    • lip posture
    • tongue posture
    • swallowing function
    • feeding skills
    • speech sound development
    • sleep concerns
    • oral structures.

    Where appropriate, recommendations may include:

    • orofacial myofunctional therapy
    • speech therapy
    • feeding therapy
    • home programmes
    • ENT referral
    • orthodontic referral
    • collaborative multidisciplinary support.

    The good news

    Orofacial Myofunctional Disorders are often highly treatable when identified early.

    Supporting healthy breathing, tongue posture and oral muscle function can positively influence:

    If your child regularly breathes through their mouth, snores, struggles with speech clarity or has feeding difficulties, a specialist assessment may help identify the underlying cause.

    • speech clarity
    • feeding skills
    • sleep quality
    • facial growth
    • dental development
    • overall wellbeing.

    At London Speech and Feeding, we are passionate about looking beyond symptoms and understanding the whole child. Contact me!

    Sometimes the key to clearer speech starts with a simple question:

    ‘Is my child breathing through their nose?’

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Frequently Asked Questions

    Can mouth breathing cause speech problems?

    Yes. Mouth breathing can alter tongue posture, lip strength and oral stability, which may contribute to articulation difficulties and lisps.

    Should I be worried if my child snores?

    Regular snoring is not considered normal in children and may indicate airway obstruction or sleep-disordered breathing.

    Can enlarged tonsils affect speech?

    Yes. Enlarged tonsils may affect resonance, tongue positioning, swallowing and breathing patterns.

    What age can children be assessed?

    Children of all ages can be assessed if parents have concerns about speech, feeding, breathing or oral development.

    What is Orofacial Myofunctional Therapy?

    Orofacial Myofunctional Therapy focuses on improving breathing patterns, tongue posture, lip seal and oral muscle function to support overall health and development.


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    How we can help shape smooth consonant blends

    For many children, especially those navigating Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS), the challenge isn’t just making individual sounds. It’s the ‘speech gymnastics’ required to move smoothly from one sound to the next.

    You might notice that instead of saying ‘Train’, your child says ‘Ter-ain’, or for ‘Frog’, you hear ‘Fer-og’. That sneaky little ‘uh’ sound in the middle is what we call a schwa vowel. In the world of speech science, this is known as epenthesis. It’s essentially a ‘repair strategy’ the brain uses to break up a difficult cluster of sounds into two easier pieces.

    While it might seem like a small detail, that tiny vowel makes a big difference in how fluent and clear a child’s speech sounds. In today’s post (and the video below), I am working with my student on ironing out that schwa by focusing on co-articulation—the art of getting the mouth ready for the second sound while still finishing the first.

    The ‘best friends’ strategy

    To help my student understand this complex movement, I use visual cues and a story. There are many ways to portray two sounds living closely together, but for this session, I used the ‘Best Friends’ story.

    In our story, the /T/ and the /R/ are older brother best friends who want to play together. The ‘schwa’ sound is represented by a little sister who keeps trying to jump in the middle of their game! Because my student has a younger sister, this scenario was instantly familiar and helped him visualise why we needed to ‘close the gap’ between those two sounds.

    Alternative methods I often use:

    Beyond stories, I often use other visual and tactile methods to show the closeness of two sounds:

    • The sliding finger: I draw two dots on a paper—one for /T/ and one for /R/. We slide a finger quickly from one to the other. I might say, ‘Don’t let the ‘uh’ monster jump in the gap!’
    • The rubber band: We stretch a rubber band as we speak. I tell my student that the word is one long, smooth stretch, rather than two separate ‘pops’.
    • Visual cues for ‘quiet’ sounds: I often put my finger to my lips or tap my throat to remind a child to keep the first sound voiceless. If the voice stays ‘off’ during the /T/, it’s much harder for that schwa vowel to creep in.

    The importance of ‘pure’ modelling

    A major hurdle in clearing up these blends is how we, as adults, model sounds. Often, when teaching the alphabet, we say ‘Kuh’, ‘Puh’ or ‘Tuh’. But if you listen closely, you’re actually adding a vowel! If a child learns that /K/ says ‘Kuh’, it’s only natural they will say ‘Kuh-R’ for /KR/.

    To give your child a cleaner blueprint, try modeling ‘pure’ sounds. Think of whispering rather than talking:

    • The /K/ sound: A short, sharp burst of air from the back of the throat. No voice! (A quiet /K/ click).
    • The /P/ sound: Just a ‘pop’ of air from the lips. If your throat vibrates, the vowel has snuck in.
    • The /T/ sound: A tiny tap of the tongue behind the teeth.

    Why is this important?

    You might ask, ‘If I can still understand them, does it really matter if they say “ter-ain”?’

    The goal of speech therapy isn’t just functional communication; it’s building phonological awareness. When a child adds extra vowels, it can eventually impact their literacy. If they hear ‘ter-ain,’ they are much more likely to eventually spell it as ‘terain’ or ‘traint’.

    By helping them master these clusters through co-articulation now, we are setting them up for success in reading and writing. And we are giving them the confidence to speak with ease.

    Feel free to contact me if your child needs help with clusters or other difficulties either aligned with Childhood Apraxia of Speech or other articulation difficulties.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    References

    • Hall, N. (2011). Vowel Epenthesis. In The Blackwell Companion to Phonology (eds M. Oostendorp, C.J. Ewen, E. Hume and K. Rice). In this work, epenthesis is defined as the insertion of a vowel to break up complex consonant clusters into simpler, more manageable syllables. This is often viewed as a ‘repair strategy’ used by the brain when a transition between sounds is too complex to execute quickly.
    • Aichert, I., & Ziegler, W. (2004) Brain and Language 88(1):148-59. Syllable frequency and syllable structure in apraxia of speech. This research highlights that children with Apraxia often struggle specifically with word-onset clusters, leading to distortions like the schwa.
    • Browman, C. P., & Goldstein, L. (1992) Phonetica 1992;49(3-4):155-80. Articulatory Phonology: An Overview. This paper explains that fluent speech requires ‘gestural overlap,’ where the movements for two different sounds happen simultaneously. This supports the ‘Best Friends’ method of keeping sounds close together.

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    There is more than one way to model communication: Using speech prompts, signs, and AAC together in therapy

    One of the most important things I have learned as a paediatric speech and language therapist is this:

    Children do not all learn communication in the same way.

    Some children learn best through listening.
    Some need visual support.
    Some need movement and gesture.
    Some benefit from symbols or technology.
    And many children need multiple supports together before communication truly starts to develop.

    That is why flexible, responsive therapy matters so much.

    In this short therapy clip, I model just two simple words:
    ‘Go’ and ‘Up’.

    But underneath those tiny moments is a combination of therapeutic strategies:

    • speech sound prompting
    • visual cueing
    • Makaton signing
    • AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) modelling
    • repetition
    • motor planning support
    • language modelling
    • total communication principles.

    Communication is bigger than speech alone

    One of the biggest misconceptions about speech therapy is the idea that communication only ‘counts’ if a child says the word verbally.

    In reality, communication comes in many forms:

    • speech
    • gesture
    • facial expression
    • signing
    • pointing
    • symbols
    • body language
    • AAC.

    This is particularly true for children with:

    • developmental language disorder (DLD)
    • autism
    • motor speech difficulties
    • childhood apraxia of speech (CAS)
    • phonological difficulties
    • global developmental delay
    • complex communication needs.

    These children often need communication to be presented through multiple pathways at once.

    That is where total communication approaches become so powerful.

    This is important to know: this does not confuse children. In fact, for many children, it does the opposite. It creates clarity.

    Careful sound prompting helps bridge that gap.

    Research and clinical experience consistently show that signs often support spoken language development rather than hinder it.

    Research suggests that learning signs alongside spoken language does not hinder speech development and may support overall language acquisition, communication confidence, and vocabulary growth in many children.

    For many children, signs actually help speech emerge because they:

    • reduce communication pressure
    • build confidence
    • strengthen understanding of words.

    A child who can successfully communicate is far more likely to keep attempting interaction.

    The power of AAC and LAMP Words for Life

    In the clip, I also model language using an electronic AAC system: LAMP Words for Life.

    AAC stands for Augmentative and Alternative Communication.

    AAC includes any tool that supports communication beyond speech alone, including:

    • picture systems
    • symbol boards
    • communication books
    • speech-generating devices.

    LAMP Words for Life is one of my favourite AAC systems because it focuses on consistent motor patterns and meaningful language development. Because communication is not about achieving perfection. It is about connection.

    And when children are given multiple ways to express themselves, they often become more confident, more engaged, and more willing to interact with the world around them.

    That is the true power of total communication therapy.

    Contact me via my contact form if you would like me to work with your child.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Reference

    Pontecorvo, Elana & Higgins, Michael & Mora, Joshua & Lieberman, Amy & Pyers, Jennie & Caselli, Naomi. (2023). Learning a Sign Language Does Not Hinder Acquisition of a Spoken Language. Journal of Speech, Language, and Hearing Research. 66. 1291-1308. DOI 10.1044/2022_JSLHR-22-00505.


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    Holiday disruptions & New Year routines: How to support your child’s feeding, communication and regulation over the festive season

    Holiday disruptions & New Year routines

    The festive season is a wonderful time for many families, but for children with feeding challenges, sensory differences, or autism traits, December can feel overwhelming. Changes in routine, busier environments, travel, new foods, disrupted sleep, and well-meaning relatives giving ‘advice’ can all affect a child’s feeding, communication and overall regulation.

    As a speech and language therapist specialising in Early Years, I see the same pattern each year: children often make progress during the term, only to struggle in late December when everything becomes unpredictable. The good news? With a bit of preparation, children can not only cope better, but they can actually make significant developmental gains during the holidays.

    This blog will help you feel confident, supported and prepared for the transition from ‘festive mode’ to a smoother, regulated start in January.

    1. Why routines matter so much. Especially now

    Young children thrive on predictability. For neurodivergent children or those with sensory, feeding or communication needs, routine isn’t just helpful: it’s the backbone of emotional regulation.

    In December, typical patterns change:

    • Mealtimes shift or become irregular
    • Bedtime slides
    • New foods appear
    • Loud social gatherings overwhelm
    • Travel disrupts naps and comfort routines
    • Therapies pause
    • Childcare closes

    Any one of these can lead to feeding refusals, more meltdowns, increased stimming, reduced communication attempts or regression in speech sounds.

    It’s simply the nervous system responding to too much change.

    2. Protecting feeding progress during holiday mealtimes

    My last blog and insta post have a nice social story on festive meals. They are often the trickiest part of the season for families I support. Children with sensory-based feeding challenges, or ARFID traits may find holiday foods completely unfamiliar and challenging.

    What helps:

    • Offer one ‘safe food’ at every meal
    • Keep portion sizes tiny
    • Use the ‘buffet rule’
    • Rehearse tricky moments

    3. Supporting communication when routines are disrupted

    Holiday time actually offers more opportunities for communication, just in different ways.

    Strategies:

    • Slow down and follow your child’s lead
    • Use everyday routines as language opportunities
    • Keep AAC going even if casually

    4. Understanding holiday ‘regressions’ and know they’re temporary

    This is almost always due to nervous system overload. Children don’t truly ‘lose’ skills; they temporarily prioritise regulation over learning.

    5. A gentle January reset: How to start the New Year smoothly

    • Re-establish predictability early
    • Return to preferred foods
    • Book early support if needed
    • Focus on regulation first

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.


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    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

    Reference:

    Bronson, M. (2000). Self-regulation in early childhood. Guilford Press.

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    Bilingualism – should I speak only English with my speech delayed child?

    Introduction

    Bilingualism is a beautiful aspect of our diverse world. Growing up in a bi- or multi-lingual household is a wonderful gift, allowing children to communicate with a broader range of people and access many cultures.

    My own two children grew up in a bilingual German-English speaking household. They have both been so enriched by this experience, not only language- and learning-wise but of course also culturally: their world has always been so open and colourful. Growing up in inner London and having their German family and mum’s friends as well, this has been a wonderful experience. Both my boys speak German well (not quite like native speakers but like very good second language speakers) and both have very easily learned 3rd and 4th languages additionally when in secondary school.

    Whilst bilingualism has untold benefits, it’s not uncommon for bilingual children to take slightly longer to reach certain speech milestones. This should not be automatically mistaken for speech disorders but rather seen as a natural part of bilingual language development.

    Bilingualism and speech delays

    Sometimes, of course, we do see speech delays or disorders where a child’s speech development lags significantly behind their peers. We often see a delay in both languages equally, making it extra hard for to communicate effectively. BUT PLEASE KNOW the family speaking in multi-lingual languages never caused the delay/disorder!

    If there is a delay or a disorder any number of other reasons could have caused it, such as:

    • hearing impairments,
    • reduced phonological awareness,
    • sensory processing issues,
    • reduced attention and reduced joint attention,
    • neuro-developmental delays or difficulties,
    • general or specific learning difficulties
    • or sometimes other genetic factors.

    So, to say that the difficulty is due to a child being exposed to several languages is a red herring. (no offence to herrings!)

    Speech therapy

    Speech therapy can be powerful to help bilingual /multilingual children with speech delays unlock their full linguistic potential. By providing individualised assessments, targeted interventions, and involving families, speech therapy can bridge the gap between speech delays and bilingualism. It’s essential for the therapist and parents to work together to support the children in their unique linguistic journeys, helping them communicate effectively and thrive in both of their languages.

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    Speak your home language at home

    Many parents report that they worry about speaking their home language at home and instead they have been focusing on just speaking English at home. They now rarely use their home language with their child. They fear that speaking a language other than English with their child will cause further delay and hinder their progress. All parents want the best for their child and often parents fear that their child won’t fit in or will be seen as ‘different’. So we can understand why parents feel that the English language is the only one worth having.

    But the opposite is the case: it is crucial to speak in both languages freely, both at home and outside the home! Both languages will benefit your child, no matter what the delay or difficulty is. Acquiring a ‘mother tongue’ or native language is absolutely vital for children to have a good, solid linguistic grounding on which to build other languages. Bilingual children may mix languages during speaking and parents may equally mix their languages. This does not hinder language development and is a natural part of linguistic development.

    Speak freely and naturally

    What is far more important than the question: ‘which language should I say this in?’ Instead think: ‘let me speak freely and naturally, let me respond naturally, in good intonation and let communication flow freely to the child.’

    Speech therapy can be a crucial resource for bilingual or multilingual children and their families.

    We work on targeted interventions to address speech and language difficulties, helping your child develop essential communication skills. For home practice between therapy sessions, we can recommend tailored treatment plans to help you help your child in daily life. Our input could be focusing on articulation, phonological awareness, attention and listening, vocabulary development and grammar.

    Family support is crucial in speech therapy. We like to work closely with parents to provide guidance and strategies for fostering language development in both languages at home.

    If you have any worries about your child being delayed in a bilingual or multilingual household do get in touch and we will be happy to support you in your journey.


    Find a speech and language therapist for your child in London. Are you concerned about your child’s speech, feeding or communication skills and don’t know where to turn? Please contact me and we can discuss how I can help you or visit my services page.

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