As professionals, when diagnosing young children with an Autistic Spectrum Condition, it is vital we work as a multi-disciplinary team, so you will likely see many professionals. This may include Educational Psychologist, Dietician, General Practitioner, Occupational Therapist, Paediatrician, Special Educational Needs Coordinator, Speech and Language Therapist and Social worker. Once the evidence is collated, then a diagnosis may be made.
You may be wondering what are some of the early signs of social communication difficulties? Whilst no autistic child is the same and we know Autism is very much a very wide spectrum of abilities and needs there are some autistic spectrum characteristics we do typically see in the early years of childhood. You may wish to think about these areas or presentations to help you prepare for the Speech and Language Therapy appointment.
Twelve questions
Does your child respond to their name?
Are they fixated with watching their hands?
Do they have sensory processing difficulties such as bright lights, food textures, or loud noises?
Are they meeting their milestones or are they delayed?
Do they flap their arms or legs when excited?
Have you noticed any rocking back and forth?
Do they blink excessively or display any facial tics?
Do they play with a particular sort of toy e.g. spinning toys?
Have you noticed that they lack interest in toys?
Have they regressed in their language? Perhaps you’ve noticed they are not using words that they have previously learnt.
Do they use gestures to communicate their needs? How do they communicate their wants and needs?
Do they appear to be in their own world?
You are not alone
These questions are by no means exhaustive and there are many more factors to consider. But it is important to trust your instincts as you are the expert on your child and know your child the best. Regardless of whether you see all of the above points or none, do not hesitate to have an assessment if you are concerned as, even if it turns out to be nothing to worry about, there is always at least one or two great pieces of advice I can offer you on the way and you will leave feeling hopeful and empowered. It’s always best to seek early intervention with communication difficulties. This allows strategies and support to be put in place. Never feel alone, always speak out.
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As a Speech and Language Therapist, one of the most rewarding parts of my job isn’t just working on speech sounds or vocabulary lists. It’s helping parents truly connect with their autistic children.
Recently, I had a 1-hour initial online session with the parent of a 7-year-old boy. In just 75 minutes, we achieved a massive breakthrough in perspective, all without parents setting foot into my traditional clinic setting or me visiting them at home.
I had been sent some video footage of their child along with detailed parent questionnaire and both gave me so much information from which I then worked online with the parent.
Here is a glimpse into what the Hanen More Than Words® approach is, how I structure my initial sessions, and why doing this work online with parents is often far more powerful than traditional therapy.
What is the Hanen More Than Words® approach?
The Hanen More Than Words® programme is an evidence-based framework designed specifically for parents of autistic children or children with social communication difficulties. Rather than treating communication as a clinical ‘lesson’ taught by a therapist, Hanen empowers parents to become their child’s primary communication partner. It focuses on turning everyday interactions, routines, and play into natural opportunities for a child to build connection, express themselves, and initiate communication at their own pace.
How I structure the first session: Reframing expectations
When parents first come to speech therapy, they often arrive with understandable anxiety and big, sometimes overwhelming, expectations. My primary goal in session one is to take those expectations, reframe them into realistic, hopeful goals, and establish a clear baseline of where we are right now.
To do this, I use the Hanen Social Communication Checklist.
In my session with any parent this tool is always a game-changer. Today, for example, it allowed us to celebrate every single achievement our child has already made, while highlighting the specific micro-skills we want to consolidate next. Instead of focusing on ‘fixing’ speech, our baseline focused on three functional social goals:
Responding to comments from others.
Initiating his own comments, requests, or questions (in whatever way he can).
Taking a single, natural conversational turn, even if that turn takes time to come.
Why online therapy for Hanen works so well
People often ask me: ‘Can speech therapy really be effective over Zoom?’
My answer is an emphatic yes. And for Hanen, online is often superior to a clinic.
In a clinic, a child is in an unfamiliar environment with a new adult, which can feel demanding or artificial. Online, the child stays in their safe, natural home environment. I get to coach the parent directly in real time, giving them immediate tools they can use every single day. In just one hour online today with one parent, for example, we got a massive amount of foundational work done without causing a single moment of stress for the child.
Key takeaways: The power of silence, OWL, and agenda-free fun
If you are looking to support an autistic child’s social communication at home, here are the core principles we put into home practice after our first session:
1. Embrace the power of O.W.L. (Observe, Wait, Listen)
We live in a fast-paced world where adults feel compelled to fill every quiet moment with questions (‘What’s that?’, ‘What colour is the car?’). Hanen flips this script.
Observe: Step back and see what truly captures your child’s interest.
Wait: Be comfortable with silence. Give your child the extra time they need to process their thoughts and formulate a response.
Listen: Pay attention to every sound, gesture, or attempt at communication.
2. Become a buddy, not a teacher
Try to play alongside your child the way another 5-to-7-year-old peer would. A peer doesn’t quiz, direct, or lecture; they do their own thing nearby, make occasional fun comments, and signal that they simply enjoy being together. Shift your role from communication director to play buddy.
3. Comment naturally. Don’t ‘state the obvious’
Once you master silence, narration should feel natural, spontaneous, and genuine.
Avoid: Pointing out things they already know just to test them (e.g., ‘That’s a blue car!’).
Try: Generic, enthusiastic reactions that invite connection without demanding a answer (e.g., ‘Whoa, look at that!’, ‘Goodness!’, ‘Hey, that’s cool!’).
4. Have fun with no agenda
School and daily routines carry a lot of demands for a 7-year-old. Take time every day to simply join your child’s world and have fun with zero clinical agenda. Laughter and genuine connection are the ultimate foundations for all communication.
Interested in learning how the Hanen programme can support your family? Get in touch today to learn more about our online parent coaching sessions.
Sonja McGeachie
Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist
Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.
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Is our student ready to move to NLA 2 (Natural Language Acquisition stage 2)?
We know that the GLP (Gestalt Language Processor) will move into the next stage when they are ready. But are they now ready you might think? When are they ready? How do I know? If you are not sure whether your child is ready to move forward then go and see your GLP trained Speech Therapist. Together you can work out what the next steps are and how to help your child settle into NLA 2. It’s very exciting!!
Tip
The first useful tip: keep a language sample of phrases your child says. This is very helpful!
You might want to check with your Speech Therapist and offer some language sampling you have taken so they can help you figure out where your child is currently. Always keep an Utterance Journal that you can share with your Speech Therapist and with others who look after your child.
Basically, we want to listen out for phrases our child says that you or nursery don’t say routinely; that way you can presume that this is not an echo but a mixing together of two chunks of gestalts. Watch out for those coco melon phrases though: double check it really isn’t an NLA 1 gestalt that is copied verbatim from a favourite you tube video.
You can best support your child best by listening, and thus figuring out what your child is TRYING TO SAY. Often your child might skip over the parts of gestalts they don’t want to say. This is common in older kids who have long gestalts, sometimes even whole episodes or whole stories!
Try and tease out their shorter mitigations and then focus on practicing and modelling those as they are so much more useful!
So back to our question: are they ready?
Are their gestalts covering a variety of situations and contexts?
Make a note in your journal to see what the backgrounds are to each phrase you ear, so for example:
Transitioning: ‘it’s time for the park’ ‘what’s next’ ‘shoes on’
Bed Time: ‘we need to wash’ ‘let’s get in (bath/bed)’ ‘ready for our book’
Toilet/nappy: ‘we need the potty’ ‘where’s the potty’ ‘let’s wash hands’
Mealtime: ‘time to eat’ ‘go get a spoon’ ‘yummy num num’
Park/going out: ‘look at the squirrel’ ‘funny doggy’ ‘I wanna swing’
At the shops: ‘let’s get the trolley’ ‘lots of veggies’ ‘no tomatoes’ ‘ooh long queue’ ‘back to the car’
And… does the child use the phrases for a variety of functions?
labelling
providing information
calling out
affirming
requesting
protesting
directing
We need to offer lots of similar language models so that in their own time our children can extract/mitigate useful phrases for what they want to express. The more similar utterances a child hears around him the more he/she can discover the communalities. Once the child has a small range of phrases, he/she can mix them up and create semi-original own phrases.
If the answer is YES!! our child has perhaps not all but a range of functions and a range of situations where they use a variety of easily mitigable gestalts then yes they are ready for moving to stage 2 of NLA!
Hurrah!
Keeping a journal of what your child is saying and in what circumstance is crucial to help with our ongoing detective work!
Next time I will be looking at how we can help our NLA 2 GLP produce even more of their own mix and match phrases.
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‘What kind of speech difficulty does my child have?’
It’s a very understandable question. We often hear different terms such as phonological delay, articulation difficulties, or Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS), and it can be confusing.
The reality is that many children don’t fit neatly into one single category.
In fact, quite often I see children whose speech profile includes a mixture of difficulties. They might have some phonological patterns (where they substitute one sound for another) alongside challenges with motor speech planning, where coordinating the movements needed for speech is harder.
When this happens, therapy needs to be flexible, responsive, and tailored to the child sitting in front of us.
Example
Recently I filmed a short clip from one of my therapy sessions which shows exactly how this works in practice.
The child I was working with has difficulties with several speech sounds. Part of the challenge relates to a phonological pattern called fronting.
Fronting is when sounds that should be made further back in the mouth (like /K/ or /G/) are produced further forward instead.
At the same time, this child also shows signs of motor speech planning difficulty, which means the brain has to work harder to organise and sequence the movements of the tongue, lips and jaw for speech.
This type of profile can sometimes overlap with characteristics seen in Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS).
When difficulties overlap like this, therapy cannot rely on a single approach. Instead, it needs to draw on multiple evidence-based strategies.
That is exactly what you see happening in the clip. We started out generalising the /K/ sound which until recently had been replaced by a /T/ sound. Whilst looking at a sound loaded picture of /K/ sounds we somehow got talking about a ‘dent’ (I don’t recall how we got there!) but the ‘dent’ was a ‘det’ and I decided to tackle this there and then because there are other great words that end in ‘nt’ like : ‘count’ ‘giant’ ‘point’ or ‘paint’.
Using visual cues to support motor planning
Speech is incredibly complex. For children with motor speech difficulties, the challenge is not only knowing what sound they want to say, but also how to move their mouth to produce it.
This is where visual cues can be incredibly helpful.
In the clip, you can see me using a whiteboard with pictures and simple visual prompts. These help to:
Focus attention on the target sound
Understand where the sound occurs in the word
Remember the sequence of sounds needed
Visual supports can act almost like a map for the mouth, guiding children as they practise new speech movements.
For children with motor planning difficulties, this type of cueing can make a huge difference.
Why repetition of a single word (massed practice) is so important
Another key feature you will notice in the clip is lots of repetition.
This is very deliberate.
When we are supporting children with motor speech challenges, the brain needs repeated opportunities to practise the correct movement patterns. Just like learning a musical instrument or a new sport, repetition helps the brain build stronger and more efficient pathways.
In therapy we call this massed practice.
Rather than saying a word only once or twice, we practise it many times in a structured way, helping the child stabilise the new speech pattern.
But repetition alone is not enough. The child also needs to understand why the sound matters.
Showing children that sounds change meaning
This is where another powerful therapy approach comes in: minimal pairs.
Minimal pairs are word pairs that differ by only one sound. For example:
debt
dent
In the clip, I use these two words to help the child realise that the /N/ sound makes a meaningful difference.
Without the /N/, the word becomes something else entirely.
This approach helps children recognise that speech sounds are not random: they carry meaning. If a sound is missing or substituted, the message may change.
Helping children notice these differences can be a very motivating moment in therapy. Suddenly the sound is no longer just an abstract exercise; it becomes part of real communication.
Blending approaches for the best outcomes
In this short therapy moment, I am combining:
• Visual cueing
• Motor speech practice
• High repetition (massed practice)
• Minimal pair contrasts
• Listening and awareness of sound differences
Each element supports a different part of the speech system.
Some strategies help with motor planning, others support phonological awareness, and others build accuracy and consistency.
Together they create a therapy session that is both structured and responsive.
Every child’s speech journey is unique
One of the most important things I want to convey is that speech development is not always straightforward.
Two children may both struggle with speech sounds, yet the underlying reasons may be very different.
This is why careful assessment is essential, and why therapy needs to stay flexible as we learn more about how a child’s speech system works.
Sometimes a child needs more motor-based work.
Sometimes the focus shifts towards phonological contrasts.
Often, as in this example, the most effective therapy uses both.
Small steps lead to big progress
Every session helps us understand a little more about how a child’s speech system works and what support will help them move forward.
And when the pieces start to come together, when a child realises that one tiny sound can change a whole word, that is when the real progress begins.
If you are concerned about your child’s speech sounds, clarity of speech, or possible motor speech difficulties, early support can make a significant difference. A detailed assessment can help identify the nature of the difficulty and guide a therapy approach tailored to your child’s individual needs.
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Apraxia or dyspraxia is a difficulty in motor planning, which sometimes can be seen in both gross and fine motor skills, as well as speech. Gross motor refers to difficulties in coordinating the whole body (e.g., bumping into things frequently, often falling over hurting themselves or others through being “clumsy” or unsteady). Fine motor movements refer to smaller, more precise movements (e.g., difficulties doing anything with their hands such as holding a spoon or pen).
In Dyspraxia of Speech, instead of seeing a coordinated smooth way of talking, we see the articulators (tongue, lips, cheeks) and voice coordinating very smoothly. The voice can be very quiet or very loud. Muscle tone can be weaker at times. Speech sounds are very unintelligible, with a flat voice that can sound forced. It may be that the timings of verbalisation appear random and that children can say a certain word once and never again. This is often what we hear from parents.
It is interesting to note that many of our autistic clients are either non-speaking or are reluctant speakers. Sometimes they say a word once and then never again. Others say lots of words but the words are very hard to make out. Did you know that about 40% of autistic people have verbal dyspraxia? (Richard, 1997). Because the problem is one of motor planning, not of automatic motor execution, once a plan has become automatic, it is easier to get back to it and this is why we often see repetitive patterns that can be called ‘stims’ (Marge Blanc, 2004).
How can Speech and Language Therapy help?
Children with verbal dyspraxia can make great progress!
We provide frequent and appropriate speech movement opportunities and with time and the right support, children will move forward and begin to speak more fluently and with greater intelligibility. It is important to know this can take time.
We provide Oral Motor Therapy using a variety of approaches to practise breathing, vocalising on the outbreath, and sequencing our speech movements.
We design carefully tailored programmes focusing on words that have a lot of power (e.g., NO, GO, UP, IN, OUT, LET’S GO, STOP).
We offer shared enjoyment, and laughter. This helps a child find their voice. Other ways of finding our voices include singing or humming, or even yelling/shouting!
The most difficult phase of verbal dyspraxia is initiation, that is to start talking, to start producing a word. Frequent “automatic” repetition supports children with initiation because it removes the element of “thinking to start”. I often ask a child to repeat a word 5-10 times (with rewards at the end. A little game works well). You can see that with repetition the act of initiating is taken out of the equation as you are “on a roll “as it were.
Once a child starts to find their voice, we will be able to hear them talk lot… And if we give them credit and presume that what they are saying has meaning, we will find in time that their words become clearer and more intelligible. If we listen carefully, we can detect real words and phrases.
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There’s been a long tradition with teaching staff and with Speech and Language Therapists working in schools that eye contact should be a goal. It is well known that Autistic individuals (whether that be children or adults) mostly avoid eye contact. Whilst it’s part of the way we communicate, it shouldn’t be used as a necessity for an individual who feels that it is uncomfortable. Whilst it does show that you’re listening and showing an interest, it’s not a fair expectation for neurodiverse children.
Autistic children can find making and maintaining eye contact physically and emotionally uncomfortable as well as unnatural. It adds an extra layer of stress and has been reported to increase distractions rather than reduce them. Children who engage in conversations in their own way (i.e., with reduced eye contact) are not shown to suffer with schooling, work, or social interaction.
By having fun through meaningful activities, I often experience that ‘BINGO’ moment (a phrase coined by Alex @meaningfulspeech) where the child is enjoying themselves and naturally makes eye contact. There is no demand on them, they are in a fun, engaging environment which suit their strengths and supports their needs.
Following this, I often reflect on this question ‘Should we make eye contact as a goal?’
It very much depends on the situation. If it places more demands on the child and becomes stressful. Then no. There are many strategies we can use which gain eye contact without placing extra demands on the child. We need to be mindful to adapt the environment and not place neurotypical expectations to meet the needs of neurodiverse children.
How can you encourage eye contact without demand?
If you’re using toys, try holding them up to your eye level.
You can adjust your position, try sitting face to face during play.
Always get down to your child’s level. This might mean that you lay on the floor if your child is positioned in this way.
During play, waiting is extremely powerful. Before a key part of the activity, wait and see if your child looks at you. Remember silence is golden!
The best way I find is: do something unusual during play. It might be that you spray shaving foam with the lid still on. Or you bring out a wow toy and make it spin/light up or make a noise. A balloon can be good – see video clip. Use the excitement of the activity, and wait to see if you achieve that ‘BINGO’ moment.
Create opportunities when there are no toys involved such as during ‘tickles’ or ‘hide and seek’. Autistic children find it difficult to shift their attention between a toy and an adult. So by removing one option, you’re setting them up to succeed.
Remember, it takes practice and time for you to develop these skills. Try one at a time and experiment, see which works best for your child. If you need speech, language or communication support or advice, I am always here to help.
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Holiday meals are meant to be joyful and something we all look forward to. But for many children and their families, these occasions can be overwhelming and be the cause of dread and worry. The combination of new smells, unfamiliar foods, loud environments, social expectations, and allergy anxieties can quickly turn what should be a festive time into a stressful one.
For parents of children with sensory processing differences, selective eating challenges, or food allergies, holiday gatherings often require careful planning and a big dose of tolerance and compassion. The good news is that with awareness and a few gentle strategies, you can support your child to feel safe, regulated, and included during festive meals without pressure, tears, or discomfort.
Let’s explore how to make holiday mealtimes calmer, safer, and more connected this season.
🎄 Why holiday meals feel so overwhelming
Holiday gatherings usually combine several sensory triggers all at once:
Noisy, chaotic rooms
Strong smells from a mix of foods we don’t normally cook
Expectations to ‘try everything’ or ‘enjoy it’s sooo good!’
New environments, seating arrangements, or routines
For children with sensory sensitivities, this can feel like a tidal wave of input. Research shows that children who are sensory-sensitive often have heightened responses to smell, taste, and texture, which may lead to avoidance or distress at mealtimes (Cermak, Curtin, & Bandini, 2010).
Add food allergies into the picture and anxiety increases even further for both children and parents. A 2020 study by DunnGalvin et al. found that children with food allergies experience significantly higher stress in shared eating environments, especially when food preparation or contamination risk is hard to control.
So, if your child becomes tearful, shuts down, or refuses to sit at the festive table, it isn’t ‘bad behaviour.’ It’s sensory overload, heightened vigilance, or discomfort communicating through their body.
🌟 Preparing your child for a calmer festive meal
Preparation is especially important for sensory-sensitive or allergy-aware children. Here’s how to set them up for success:
1. Offer predictability through previewing
Before the event, show your child pictures of:
where you’re going
who will be there
the types of foods that might be served
where they might sit
A visual schedule or social story can help reduce anxiety and give your child a sense of control.
2. Pack safe foods without apology
If your child has allergies or selective eating, bring:
‘Safe foods’ you know they will eat
Backup snacks
A separate (their own) plate, if needed
Emergency medication
Announce clear, firm boundaries such as:
‘Ok people, these are Jamie’s safe foods — we’ll stick with these today.’ This will help relatives understand without pressure or judgement.
3. Choose seating that supports sensory regulation
If possible, seat your child:
at the end of the table
near a familiar adult
away from the kitchen (strong smells)
away from noise clusters
give them their favourite toy or fidget whilst waiting
Let them take breaks when needed. This isn’t ‘rude,’ it’s self-regulation.
🍽️ Supporting children during the meal
1. Focus on connection, not consumption
The holidays are not the time to expand your child’s food range. Keeping mealtimes low-pressure actually supports long-term progress.
In fact, the research is clear: pressuring children to eat decreases acceptance and increases refusal (Galloway et al., 2006).
So instead of ‘Just try it!’ try:
‘You don’t have to eat it, you can look at it.’
‘You’re in charge of what goes in your mouth.’
‘You can keep your safe foods on your plate.’
2. Protect your child’s allergy safety
Holiday meals often include:
cross-contamination risks
shared utensils
buffets
homemade dishes without ingredient lists
Use gentle but firm scripts:
‘Because of Ellie’s allergies, we’ll keep her plate separate.’
‘We’ll serve her food ourselves to make sure she stays safe.’
Confidence in your boundary helps others respect it.
3. Manage sensory load in real time
Offer:
headphones
a small chew or fidget toy
a designated ‘calm corner’
time outside for fresh air
a predictable signal for breaks (e.g., a hand squeeze or card)
Remember, sensory regulation is healthcare, not ‘giving in.’
4. Model calm eating
Children learn most from watching.
Slow, happy bites and relaxed facial expressions tell the nervous system: ‘This environment is safe’.
💛 What to say to well-meaning relatives
Families often have big feelings about food. You can prepare nice phrases like:
‘We’re focusing on helping him feel safe around food today.’
‘She has allergies, so we’re sticking to our plan.’
‘We’re avoiding pressure because it helps him eat better long term.’
‘We’re celebrating together, eating is not the goal today.’
Setting expectations ahead of time can reduce awkward moments later.
🎁 The bigger picture: It’s about safety, not ‘picky eating’
Children with allergies, sensory differences, or feeding challenges aren’t trying to be difficult. They are trying to stay safe, regulated, and comfortable.
Your calm presence, gentle boundaries, and preparation create the conditions for a holiday that feels peaceful, not pressured.
Sonja McGeachie
Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist
Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.
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