Attention Autism Therapy

ByLondon Speech and Feeding
Sonja is kneeling on a multicoloured carpet holding a bucket in one hand and a toy in the other
Sonja

“Attention Autism” is an Early Years Intervention designed by Gina Davies, Specialist Speech and Language Therapist. Gina created this amazing therapy approach based on her many years of working with children on the autism spectrum. It aims to develop natural and spontaneous communication through the use of highly motivating activities. These activities offer your child an IRRESISTABLE INVITATION to engage and attend to.

I love using this approach and have trained in all of the stages including the Curiosity Stage which is for another blog. I use it frequently with all children who have trouble attending, listening, sitting or waiting regardless of whether they are neuro-diverse or neuro-typical, this activity and method is so great for all children!!

Why is it important for our children to attend and listen?

It is commonly assumed that, as our child has passed their hearing tests he/she will be able to listen and respond to being called, being questioned or asked to do something. However, all children I see in my practice have reduced joint attention skills, which means that whilst their hearing is often good, even brilliant to the point that they can often hear a faint noise somewhere outside the house like a distant train rushing by – but strangely they can’t seem to hear their name being called. Parents often ask me why this is the case, why can my child not turn round when I call him?

The reason lies in the difference between hearing and listening. Listening is a skill that needs to be learned and practiced. As a child develops, their hearing tunes into (listening) the sounds and noises they hear on a daily basis. This is how a child develops understanding of the speech sounds they hear every day (which then form the basis of their native language); they also get to know “their door bell, dog barking next door, daddy coming up the stairs” and so on. They tune into those common every day sounds and noises and gradually start to copy speech sounds to form words. So listening is tuning our ears to the sounds that surround us. In contrast, many of us have to work in large office spaces or noisy environment, perhaps even a café, etc, where we are able to tune out those environmental noises and sounds that surround us, for otherwise we will not get that report/piece of work done in time! Our focus means that we become single-minded and single-channelled concentrating on our work and so we do not hear people chat and clutter all around us.

Tuning in and out is a skill that we learn and some of us are better than it that others, it comes largely with practice but also with motivation – I go back to the report that needs doing by end of the day – my motivation is strong and I can now focus and blend out all around me so that I get the work done. Other times when I am not so motivated I might doodle and tune into what is being said at the table next to me, because my focus is not that strongly dedicated to my work.

Many children who are delayed in their development and especially children on the neuro-diverse continuum have difficulty with tuning in. By contrast, they are very good at being single-minded, single focused on what it is they are wanting/needing to do at any one point. And so they cannot listen to sounds, speech, noises around them very easily at all. They are fully absorbed in their activity and are not able to look and listen to mum/dad calling their name. Once we understand this we can start helping our children to practise tuning in a bit more bit by bit and day by day.

Enter the Attention Autism approach!

There are 4 stages to this method:

Stage 1: The Bucket to Focus Attention

The first stage involves filling a bucket with visually engaging toys that aim to help children learn how to focus their attention. Three toys will be presented to the child/group one at a time and the therapist will make simple comments about each toy to help introduce them to the children and expand their vocabulary.

Important to know: the Attention Autism approach does not require the child to look at the adult, or to sustain eye-gaze on the objects. Instead engagement may be indicated by non-verbal signals such as seeming alert and interested, and looking frequently at the object.

Stage 2: The Attention Builder

At this stage the child/group is introduced to visually stimulating activities. This stage aims to build and sustain attention for a longer period of time. Activities may include ideas such as:

  • Flour castles which can be built like sandcastles, using flour, a bowl and moulds
  • Erupting volcano activity
  • Wriggly worms foam – pile shaving foam onto an upside down plastic flower pot with the holes taped over; then slowly press down another plastic flower pot over the shaving foam and the foam will come through the top holes looking like wriggly worms, especially if you have dropped a bit of food colouring on top of the foam

Important: children are not required to make eye contact or sit still during these activities. The focus is on engagement, in whatever way the child demonstrates this.

Stage 3: The Interactive Game – Turn-Taking and Shifting Attention

The therapist demonstrates a simple engaging activity and invites children up to have a turn. This may be the same activity from stage 2 or something new. The aim is for children to learn to shift their attention from the group/sitting experience to doing something and then going back to sitting again.

Stage 4: Individual Activity

In the final stage of Attention Autism, the adult models an activity, and then each child is given the same equipment to use themselves. They do not have to copy exactly what the adult modelled. The aim is for the child watching to have a go independently with confidence, and then to take their materials back to the leading adult at the end. The activity should be engaging and enjoyable for the children. The Attention Autism approach aims to foster an interest in learning new things and to inspire communication in whatever form works for the child.

Ideally this should be practised 4-5 times a week aside from the therapy session. But I have seen it work with just 2-3 practice repeats per week. It can be tough in the beginning until your child gets used to the “no touch just look” rule but with a little bit of practice usually children do sit well for the first part of the Bucket activity within about 10 sessions and after that you are on a roll!

Do get in touch with me if you would like to find out more about this approach! Here is a great link to Gina Davis’s Autism Centre facebook site for more inspiration: https://facebook.com/ginadaviesautism/.

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    Why Imitation is so Important

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    Why imitation is so important and how can speech and language therapy help children who struggle to imitate?

    Imitation or copying starts in early infancy. When we observe a young baby and his parent or familiar adult we can see clearly and frequently that the baby will be intently looking at adult’s face and try to copy their facial expressions, smiles and all those funny baby sounds we often make with young babies.

    These sounds are called “motherese” and are the beginnings of a little conversation between the parent and the baby. The “conversation can go back and forth for a long time and include sounds, as well as facial expressions.

    A little later on, once the baby can crawl and sit up unaided the copying then goes on to include toys and objects. Mum or Dad will show their toddler how to use a drum or how to put a little train on the wooden tracks and the toddler will try and copy this. They may not succeed and be a little clumsy perhaps but the act of copying anything and everything their favourite adult does is typically seen throughout the day.

    We all know and have laughed at mums or dads saying; ssshhh don’t say that in front of the baby he/she will copy you, watch your mouth! (as dad is swearing at the broken radiator….)

    This imitation goes on for years and includes eventually of course little words, more words, putting words together and then creating sentences, all the while our toddler is listening to how their adults speak, not only what they say but how they say it. This is how dialects and accents can be transmitted easily from parent /family to child.

    Copying in Children with Autism

    We know that children with autism often struggle to imitate. We see children on the spectrum typically having great difficulty to copy adults or children; this can be seen in very reduced play with their peers in nursery for example.

    Children with autism tend to have reduced joint attention and engagement with others and need to develop the ability and awareness to copy others in order to then engage more jointly with others.

    Speech and Language Therapy can help with Parent Child Interaction work and Coaching, here is how:

    During my coaching work with parents I teach step by step how to help a child who struggles to imitate:

    We look at all the researched skills and actions that adults can take to help their little one to copy, starting with close observation of their child’s interests, then following and including their child’s play and copying/imitating their child in how they play. I teach steps in a graduated way so that it is easy to see the progress and joyful to have the results at the end.

    The results are clear to see over time: our children on the spectrum learn to imitate actions, with objects and gestures, then sounds and words. Alongside this increased imitation skill the child can then develop more joint attention and engagement.

    I would always recommend Parent Child Interaction Training as a first port of call as we learn so many great techniques which are well researched by the Hanen Programme, www.hanen.org. Do drop me a line if you would like to find out more.

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    Beyond the teddy bear picnic: Why language development doesn’t always need imaginative play

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    As Speech and Language Therapists (SLTs), we are taught from day one that developmental milestones follow a predictable, linear path: first comes functional play, then symbolic and imaginative play (like pretending to feed a teddy bear or talking on a toy phone), and then comes conversational speech.

    But when working with language delayed children, I have seen something that completely contradicts those textbook charts.

    Many of my students have absolutely no interest in doll play, tea parties, or imaginary scenarios. Yet, as they mature, they still manage to develop robust, meaningful, and conversational language.

    How is this possible? And what does it mean for how we approach therapy?

    Redefining the ‘rules’ of play and language

    The idea that imaginative play is a strict prerequisite for language was built entirely on neurotypical developmental data. But neurodivergent brains don’t follow neurotypical roadmaps. That is not a deficit; it’s simply a different processing style.

    When Gestalt Language Processors bypass traditional imaginative play, they aren’t ‘missing’ a step. They are often using entirely different cognitive vehicles to build their language skills.

    The power of monotropic deep interests

    Video clip 2 lining up dinosaurs

    Many autistic individuals have a monotropic cognitive style, meaning they process the world through deep, single-focused passions (think trains, space, dinosaurs or ocean creatures).

    While a neurotypical child might practise social roles by pretending a doll is going to school, a neuro-diverse child practises language by categorising, analysing, and sharing facts about their deep interest. Their language is anchored in the concrete, fascinating reality of their passion, rather than fictional symbolic play.

    Gestalt Language Processing (GLP)

    A significant number of neuro-diverse children learn language in large ‘chunks’ or ‘gestalts’ (such as movie scripts, songs, or favourite phrases) rather than building sentences word-by-word.

    When a child scripts or uses echolalia, they are storing and mapping vast amounts of conversational data. They don’t need to pretend-feed a teddy bear to practise dialogue; they are actively processing the rhythm, intonation, and structural rules of speech through the media and phrases they love. As they grow, they learn to break these scripts apart to form original sentences.

    Structural play is learning play

    Just because a child is lining up dinosaurs or cars, stacking blocks, or spinning wheels instead of making them ‘talk’ doesn’t mean they aren’t learning. This functional and structural play builds crucial foundational skills like pattern recognition, cause-and-effect, and spatial awareness, all of which directly support cognitive and language development.

    Shifting Our Goals

    Meeting our children on their home turf: if that’s dinosaurs, let’s be creative with dinosaurs!

    If imaginative play isn’t the engine driving language, forcing it in the therapy room can quickly turn into an exercise in compliance rather than connection. Instead of trying to pull a child out of their world and into a neurotypical play model, we can meet them exactly where they are!

    Here are three affirming ways to turn deep interests into conversations:

    • Swap questions for comments (declarative language): Instead of interrogating a child about their play (‘What colour is that train? Where is it going?’) make pressure-free observations (‘Wow, that train is moving fast. Look at those wheels spin.’). This lowers conversational anxiety and models natural communication.
    • Bridge and expand: Use their favourite topic to introduce new ideas and concepts. If we love dinosaurs let’s see if dinos can climb up a ladder, slide down a half pipe into some water, then need drying before making footprints across a piece of paper…
    • Validate any scripts or echolalia and find out the EMOTION underlying it: If your child uses a quote from a favourite cartoon clip, let’s try and figure out in what context this phrase was said in the movie; what is the emotion in the movie when the character says this line? Is it upset? Is it joyful? Is it big surprise or a shock? Don’t dismiss it as meaningless. Acknowledge the emotion behind the script ‘You feel worried right now.’ This way we are showing our child that their unique way of communicating is heard and valued.

    So, to sum up:

    Imaginative play is just one way to learn language, not the only way.

    Let’s stop viewing a lack of pretend play as a barrier to communication, and free ourselves to see our children’s true strengths. By embracing their deep passions, we don’t just help them find their voice. We build a real connection that makes communication possible.

    Are you looking for neurodiversity-affirming speech and language support? Contact my clinic today to learn more about how I tailor my therapy to your child’s unique strengths.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    Health Professions Council registered
    Royal College of Speech & Language Therapists Member
    Member of ASLTIP

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    Autism – Benefits of Early Assessment and Intervention

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    I think my child might be autistic – how can we help?
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    Consulting a Specialist Speech and Language Therapist can help you in several ways: assessment, informal and formal observation, discussion and advice, onward referrals, direct intervention, parent coaching, educational support and much more, all geared towards supporting you the parents, and helping your child to flourish and thrive.

    First up, we can help you with assessment and advice: with a wealth of expertise in observing childrens’ play and communication, as well as knowledge of the latest research we can see a child’s strengths and areas of struggle very quickly indeed.

    Within a short space of time, we can identify the areas we need to focus on and start guiding you towards helping your child to connect, respond, react and feel better.

    Early detection is key

    If autism is detected in infancy, then therapy can take full advantage of the brain’s plasticity. It is hard to diagnose Autism before 18 months but there are early signs we know to look out for. Let’s have a brief look at the sorts of things we look at.

    The earliest signs of Autism involve more of an absence of typical behaviours and not the presence of atypical ones.

    • Often the earliest signs are that a baby is very quiet and undemanding. Some babies don’t respond to being cuddled or spoken to. Baby is being described as a ‘good baby, so quiet, no trouble at all’.
    • Baby is very object focused: he/she may look for long periods of time at a red spot/twinkly item further away, at the corner of the room for example.
    • Baby does not make eye contact: we can often see that a baby looks at your glasses for example instead of ‘connecting’ with your eyes.
    • At around 4 months we should see a baby copying adults’ facial expressions and some body movements, gestures and then increasingly cooing sounds we make; babies who were later diagnosed with autism were not seen to be doing this.
    • Baby does not respond with smiles by about 6 months.
    • By about 9 months, baby does not share sounds in a back-and-forth fashion.
    • By about 12 months baby does not respond/turn their heads when their name is called.
    • By around 16 months we have no spoken words; perhaps we hear sounds that sound like ‘speech’ but we cannot make out what the sounds are.
    • By about 24 months we see no meaningful two-word combinations that are self-generated by the toddler. We might see some copying of single words.

    24 months plus:

    • Our child is not interested in other children or people and seems unaware of others in the same room/play area.
    • Our child prefers to play alone, and dislikes being touched, held or cuddled.
    • He/she does not share an interest or draw attention to their own achievements e.g., ‘daddy look I got a dog’.
    • We can see our child not being aware that others are talking to them.
    • We see very little creative pretend play.
    • In the nursery our child might be rough with other children, pushing, pinching or scratching, biting sometimes; or our child might simply not interact with others and be unable to sit in a circle when asked to.

    What sort of speech and language difficulties might we see?

    Our child might do any of the following:

    • have no speech at all, but uses body movements to request things, takes adults by the hand
    • repeat the same word or phrase over and over; sometimes straight away after we have said it or sometimes hours later
    • repeat phrases and songs from adverts or videos, nursery rhymes or what dad says every day when he gets back from work etc.
    • copy our way of intonation
    • not understand questions – and respond by repeating the question just asked:
      • adult: Do you want apple? child: do you want apple?
    • not understand directions or only high frequency directions in daily life
    • avoid eye contact or sometimes ‘stares’
    • lack of pointing or other gestures

    Common behaviours:

    • Hand flapping
    • Rocking back-and-forth
    • Finger flicking or wriggling/moving
    • Lining up items/toys
    • Wheel spinning, spinning around self
    • Flicking lights on and off, or other switches
    • Running back-and-forth in the room, needing to touch each wall/door
    • Loud screaming when excited
    • Bashing ears when frustrated or excited
    • Atypical postures or walking, tip toeing, can be falling over easily, uncoordinated
    • Can be hyper sensitive to noises, smells, textures, foods, clothing, hair cutting, washing etc.
    • Being rigid and inflexible, needing to stick to routines, unable to transition into new environments
    • Food sensitivity, food avoidance, food phobias

    I mentioned this to be a ‘brief’ look at the areas and it is: each topic is looked at very deeply and each area is multi-facetted therefore a diagnosis is rarely arrived at very quickly. We want to make sure we have covered all aspects and have got to know your child very well before coming to conclusions.

    Early detection is key, because we want to start helping your child to make progress as quickly as is possible. If you feel /know that your child is delayed in their speech and language development and you would like a professional opinion then please do contact me, I look forward to supporting you. It is important to know at this point, that if your child only has one or two of the above aspects it may mean that your child is simply delayed for reasons other than Autism and if that is the case, we will be able to help you iron out a few areas of need so that your child can go on thriving.

    If you need help with your child, please do not hesitate to contact me.

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    Discover more about Verbal Dyspraxia

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    What is Verbal Dyspraxia?

    Apraxia or dyspraxia is a difficulty in motor planning, which sometimes can be seen in both gross and fine motor skills, as well as speech. Gross motor refers to difficulties in coordinating the whole body (e.g., bumping into things frequently, often falling over hurting themselves or others through being “clumsy” or unsteady). Fine motor movements refer to smaller, more precise movements (e.g., difficulties doing anything with their hands such as holding a spoon or pen).

    Verbal dyspraxia

    In Dyspraxia of Speech, instead of seeing a coordinated smooth way of talking, we see the articulators (tongue, lips, cheeks) and voice coordinating very smoothly. The voice can be very quiet or very loud. Muscle tone can be weaker at times. Speech sounds are very unintelligible, with a flat voice that can sound forced. It may be that the timings of verbalisation appear random and that children can say a certain word once and never again. This is often what we hear from parents.

    It is interesting to note that many of our autistic clients are either non-speaking or are reluctant speakers. Sometimes they say a word once and then never again. Others say lots of words but the words are very hard to make out. Did you know that about 40% of autistic people have verbal dyspraxia? (Richard, 1997). Because the problem is one of motor planning, not of automatic motor execution, once a plan has become automatic, it is easier to get back to it and this is why we often see repetitive patterns that can be called ‘stims’ (Marge Blanc, 2004).

    How can Speech and Language Therapy help?

    Children with verbal dyspraxia can make great progress!

    We provide frequent and appropriate speech movement opportunities and with time and the right support, children will move forward and begin to speak more fluently and with greater intelligibility. It is important to know this can take time.

    We provide Oral Motor Therapy using a variety of approaches to practise breathing, vocalising on the outbreath, and sequencing our speech movements.

    We design carefully tailored programmes focusing on words that have a lot of power (e.g., NO, GO, UP, IN, OUT, LET’S GO, STOP).

    We offer shared enjoyment, and laughter. This helps a child find their voice. Other ways of finding our voices include singing or humming, or even yelling/shouting!

    The most difficult phase of verbal dyspraxia is initiation, that is to start talking, to start producing a word. Frequent “automatic” repetition supports children with initiation because it removes the element of “thinking to start”. I often ask a child to repeat a word 5-10 times (with rewards at the end. A little game works well). You can see that with repetition the act of initiating is taken out of the equation as you are “on a roll “as it were.

    Once a child starts to find their voice, we will be able to hear them talk lot… And if we give them credit and presume that what they are saying has meaning, we will find in time that their words become clearer and more intelligible. If we listen carefully, we can detect real words and phrases.

    For more tips and support, please get in touch!

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    Stage 2 NLA

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    Last time we asked: is our child ready tp move to Stage 2 NLA (Natural Language Acquisition stage 2) and we looked at how we can know. Now we know: he/she is ready, they are mixing and matching those scripts quite liberally! Hurrah!

    So for example we hear phrases like:

    • ‘let’s go’+ ‘downstairs’
    • ‘it’s’ + ‘downstairs’
    • ‘I see it’ + ‘downstairs‘
    • ‘I want to’ + ‘shoes downstairs’ (I want to put my shoes on downstairs)

    To recap, it’s important to listen out to a variety of contexts because if we only hear the single version of a gestalt —this is so great, hurrah!— but that’s not yet Stage 2.

    What we can now do on a daily basis to help and support at this time:

    1. We need to offer more ‘mix and match’ phrases to help our child establish this new way of communicating.

    Good phrases:

    • It’s … raining / cooking / eating / washing / brushing
    • That’s … great / cool / amazing / wow / so good
    • Let’s … see / look / go / run / chase
    • How’bout … some food / playing / I’ll chase / sleeping / we read a book
    • I see a … bird / large car / fire engine
    • I wanna … have a biscuit / have a book / have a snuggle
    • We’re … going out / going home / going in the car / going upstairs

    Here in my video clip of train play I use:

    • Let’s go
    • It’s going up the hill
    • It’s coming down
    • Ooops it falls!
    • It’s stopping
    • Let’s put on another parcel
    • Ready steady go
    • Off we go
    • It’s come off!
    • Let’s fix it
    • I can do it
    • I don’t need help

    You can offer these gestalts either with an AAC as you can see me do in the video clip or you can just verbally offer these.

    2. Watch out for Pronoun confusion or reversal:

    Gestalt kids repeat gestalts, so we don’t want to create ‘pronoun reversal’.

    Instead model from a:

    • first person perspective: ‘I’ / ‘Our’ / ‘Us’
    • joint perspective: ‘We’ / ‘Let’s’ or a
    • neutral perspective: ‘It’

    You can turn almost any sentence into a good language model once you get used to it. And you can avoid ‘you’ and ‘your’ at the same time!

    So instead of saying, ‘Do you want to go to the park?’

    You could say:

    • We wanna go to the park?
    • Let’s go out?
    • Shall we go out / to the park?

    3. Start providing ‘variation’ in your language modelling:

    Instead of just modelling something one way, start thinking about offering a pattern in a couple of other ways, in a couple of different situations, then several ways in several different situations.

    Example: once you hear your child saying: ‘it’s raining’ and you know it’s a mitigation, because you don’t often say ‘it’s raining’, or haven’t said it in a while and you know your child says other ‘it’s’ phrases.

    Repeat: ‘it’s raining!’

    Then: ‘it’s’ + ‘raining hard’ / ‘it’s wet out there’ / ‘It’s’ + ‘raining lot’s’.

    Then later think of other combinations for ‘it’s’ + ‘something’:

    • (rice) ‘It’s’ + ‘cooking’
    • (water/tap) ‘It’s’ + ‘running’
    • (radio) ‘It’s’ + ‘singing
    • (dog) ‘It’s’ + ‘peeing’ / ‘it’s’ + ‘running’ / ‘it’s’ + ‘jumping’

    In my train video clip:

    • Let’s go
    • It’s going
    • Let’s make it go
    • Ready steady go
    • Oops its gone

    4. Use natural intonation that shows you really mean what you’re saying.

    You can be animated or try for musical if your child prefers that / doesn’t mind you singing —they might not like it if their hearing is pitch perfect and your singing is off key…—

    • ‘I’m’ + ‘trying to find you!’ (animated, goofy face)
    • ‘I’m’ +’ getting tired!’ (exaggerated stretch and yawn)
    • ‘I’m’ + ‘catching up with you!’ (animated goofy)
    • ‘I’m’ + ‘gonna get you!’ (animated goofy)
    • ‘I’m’ + ‘sad right now’ (exaggerated face and tone of voice)

    5. USE SILENCE!

    Important, I might not have said this before but we need to hold back sometimes (hard I know) and not constantly offer models. Let our child sit in a bit of silence with us there just observing and waiting for their own offers. This is a very important point. Silence is golden sometimes. Try it out. I am not talking about the silence that comes with a person scrolling on their phone though, we do need to be present and receptive.

    You will see this works wonders!

    Do get in touch if you would like some in-person or on-line 1:1 support with this. It can be overwhelming to figure it all out alone.

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    Let’s relax about making EYE CONTACT already…

    ByLondon Speech and Feeding

    There’s been a long tradition with teaching staff and with Speech and Language Therapists working in schools that eye contact should be a goal. It is well known that Autistic individuals (whether that be children or adults) mostly avoid eye contact. Whilst it’s part of the way we communicate, it shouldn’t be used as a necessity for an individual who feels that it is uncomfortable. Whilst it does show that you’re listening and showing an interest, it’s not a fair expectation for neurodiverse children.

    Autistic children can find making and maintaining eye contact physically and emotionally uncomfortable as well as unnatural. It adds an extra layer of stress and has been reported to increase distractions rather than reduce them. Children who engage in conversations in their own way (i.e., with reduced eye contact) are not shown to suffer with schooling, work, or social interaction.

    By having fun through meaningful activities, I often experience that ‘BINGO’ moment (a phrase coined by Alex @meaningfulspeech) where the child is enjoying themselves and naturally makes eye contact. There is no demand on them, they are in a fun, engaging environment which suit their strengths and supports their needs.

    Following this, I often reflect on this question ‘Should we make eye contact as a goal?’

    It very much depends on the situation. If it places more demands on the child and becomes stressful. Then no. There are many strategies we can use which gain eye contact without placing extra demands on the child. We need to be mindful to adapt the environment and not place neurotypical expectations to meet the needs of neurodiverse children.

    How can you encourage eye contact without demand?

    • If you’re using toys, try holding them up to your eye level.
    • You can adjust your position, try sitting face to face during play.
    • Always get down to your child’s level. This might mean that you lay on the floor if your child is positioned in this way.
    • During play, waiting is extremely powerful. Before a key part of the activity, wait and see if your child looks at you. Remember silence is golden!
    • The best way I find is: do something unusual during play. It might be that you spray shaving foam with the lid still on. Or you bring out a wow toy and make it spin/light up or make a noise. A balloon can be good – see video clip. Use the excitement of the activity, and wait to see if you achieve that ‘BINGO’ moment.
    • Create opportunities when there are no toys involved such as during ‘tickles’ or ‘hide and seek’. Autistic children find it difficult to shift their attention between a toy and an adult. So by removing one option, you’re setting them up to succeed.

    Remember, it takes practice and time for you to develop these skills. Try one at a time and experiment, see which works best for your child. If you need speech, language or communication support or advice, I am always here to help.

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