The tricky /R/: Mastering tongue placement for clear speech

The /R/ sound is notoriously challenging for many children (and even some adults!). It’s one of the most complex sounds in the English language, with various pronunciations depending on its position in a word. If your child is struggling with their /R/s, you’re not alone. As Speech and Language Therapists (SLTs), we frequently work on this sound, and a key component of our therapy is focusing on proper tongue placement.

Why is the /R/ so difficult?

The /R/ sound requires precise coordination of the tongue, jaw, and lips. Unlike sounds like /P/ or /B/ that involve simple lip movements, the /R/ involves intricate tongue movements and tension. There are also different ways to produce the /R/ sound, which adds to the complexity:

  • Retroflex /R/: The tongue tip curls up and back towards the roof of the mouth.
  • Bunched /R/: The body of the tongue bunches up towards the roof of the mouth, while the tongue tip remains down.

The importance of tongue placement

Regardless of which /R/ variation is being targeted, accurate tongue placement is crucial. Even a slight deviation can result in a distorted or inaccurate sound. That’s why SLTs dedicate significant time to teaching and practising tongue positioning.

Speech therapy techniques: Focusing on the tongue

Here’s a glimpse into how I address /R/ sound difficulties, with a focus on tongue placement:

  • Visual aids:
    • Mirrors: I use a mirror to help children see their tongue movements and make adjustments.
    • Tongue diagrams and models: These visual tools provide a clear representation of where the tongue should be positioned.
  • Tactile cues:
    • Tongue depressors: These can be used to gently guide the tongue into the correct position.
    • Food-grade tools: Sometimes, I use flavoured tongue depressors or other tools to provide tactile feedback and increase awareness of tongue placement.
  • Auditory discrimination:
    • I help children distinguish between correct and incorrect /R/ sounds.
    • I use auditory cues and verbal feedback to reinforce proper pronunciation.
  • Exercises and drills:
    • Tongue strengthening exercises: Strengthening the tongue muscles can improve control and coordination.
    • Tongue placement drills: We practise positioning the tongue in the desired location and holding it there.
    • Sound approximation techniques: Sometimes we use other sounds to help approximate the /R/ sound. For example, I use the /L/ sound, to help achieve the correct tongue placement. Once my child has found the /L/ sound it is then a matter of pulling back just slightly to get a good /R/.
  • Contextual practice:
    • Once the child can produce the /R/ sound in isolation, we gradually introduce it into syllables, words, phrases, and sentences.
    • We also practise the /R/ sound in different contexts, such as at the beginning, middle, and end of words.

Tips for Parents:

  • Be patient and supportive: Learning the /R/ sound takes time and practice.
  • Practise regularly: Short, frequent practice sessions are more effective than long, infrequent ones.
  • Make it fun! Use games, stories, and other engaging activities to keep your child motivated.
  • Work with an SLT: A qualified SLT can provide personalised guidance and support.

In conclusion:

The /R/ sound can be challenging, but with targeted speech therapy and a focus on tongue placement, most children can achieve clear and accurate pronunciation.

I hope this blog post is helpful!

Get in touch with me via my contact form if you need support

Sonja McGeachie

Early Intervention Speech and Language Therapist

Feeding and Dysphagia (Swallowing) Specialist The London Speech and Feeding Practice

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    Speech is just one way to communicate.

    And when speech is not yet clear, not yet reliable, or not yet available, children need other ways to get their message across.

    This is where Total Communication comes in.

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    Total Communication is an approach that encourages the use of all available ways to communicate, not just speech.

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    It’s not about replacing speech. It’s about supporting communication in every possible way.

    Think of it like this: if speech is currently unclear or limited, why restrict a child to the hardest route? Why not give them more tools to succeed?

    ‘But won’t this stop my child from talking?’

    This is one of the most common concerns I hear in clinic.

    Parents often worry that if a child starts using signs or a communication device, they will become ‘dependent’ on it and stop trying to talk.

    The research tells us something very different.

    Studies consistently show that AAC does not prevent speech development. In fact, it often supports it.

    • A review by Millar, Light & Schlosser (2006) found that AAC interventions do not reduce speech production and may actually increase it.
    • Romski & Sevcik (2005) demonstrated that children given AAC often develop stronger overall communication skills, including spoken language.
    • More recent work continues to show that providing AAC early can accelerate language development, not delay it.

    So rather than ‘giving up on speech’, using AAC is actually building the foundations that speech needs.

    Why Total Communication matters, especially for unintelligible children

    When a child is very difficult to understand, they are often experiencing a hidden frustration:

    ‘I know what I want to say, but no one understands me.’

    Over time, this can lead to:

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    • behavioural frustration
    • withdrawal from communication
    • fewer opportunities to practise language

    If a child cannot successfully communicate, they communicate less. And when they communicate less, their language development slows down.

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    By giving a child reliable ways to be understood, we:

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    • increase interaction
    • build confidence
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    And importantly, we allow them to show us what they already know.

    AAC is a bridge, not a barrier

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    A child might have lots of ideas, vocabulary, and understanding but their speech system (especially in cases like phonological disorder or childhood apraxia of speech) cannot yet keep up.

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    But if we support all communication, we give them:

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    14. Using exaggerated repeats: When your child tries a sound or word, give it back with exaggerated, tuneful repeats.

    Try out all or even just a few of these strategies, and I can promise you, you’re not just encouraging language; you’re building a joyful, reciprocal relationship based on genuine communication!

    Which strategy are you excited to try first? Let me know in the comments!

    If I can help you with any of the above, if you want to practise these a bit more, I would love to help you!

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    When most people think about speech or feeding difficulties, they picture the tongue, lips, or chewing skills, but how a child breathes at rest plays a surprisingly big role too.

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    Recent research supports this link between mouth breathing and speech difficulties. For example, a 2022 study by Alhazmi et al., published in the Journal of Pharmacy and Bioallied Sciences, found that 81.7% of children aged 9–17 who breathed primarily through their mouths presented with speech sound disorders. The study highlights how mouth breathing can significantly influence orofacial development and articulation patterns.

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    Our bodies are made for nasal breathing. When we breathe through the nose, the air is filtered, warmed, and humidified before reaching the lungs. The tongue naturally rests against the roof of the mouth, the lips close gently, and the jaw stays relaxed, all of which encourage healthy oral development.

    In contrast, mouth breathing often means the tongue rests low in the mouth and the lips stay apart. Over time, this posture can subtly reshape how the muscles and bones of the face grow.

    Children who breathe through their mouths most of the time may develop:

    • A longer face and narrower palate
    • Forward head posture
    • Slightly open lips and low tongue position at rest
    • A tendency toward drooling or noisy breathing
    • A dry mouth and consequently bad breath
    • At times the tongue pushes constantly against the front teeth causing them to grow forward (buck teeth)

    These changes are not anyone’s fault, as they often start because of blocked noses, allergies, enlarged adenoids, low facial muscle tone or habits formed when a child was younger. But understanding the pattern helps us know how to support change.

    🗣 How mouth breathing affects speech

    Speech depends on precise coordination between the lips, tongue, and jaw. The resting position of these structures affects how ready they are to move.

    1. Reduced tongue strength and placement, i.e. the tongue rests low in the mouth (as it does in mouth breathing), it’s harder for children to lift it efficiently for sounds like /T/, /D/, /N/, /L/, and /S/. This can lead to speech that sounds slightly slushy or unclear, or a frontal lisp.
    2. Open mouth posture and resonance: An open mouth at rest may affect how air vibrates in the oral and nasal cavities. Children might have speech that sounds a bit ‘muffled’ or lacks crispness because the lips and jaw aren’t fully supporting articulation.
    3. Fatigue and breath control: Mouth breathing can lead to drier mouths and less efficient breath support. That can make longer sentences or conversations feel tiring, especially in noisy environments.

    🥄 How mouth breathing affects feeding and chewing

    Feeding involves the same structures that control speech, so posture and breathing patterns matter here, too.

    1. Chewing efficiency: Children who habitually keep their mouths open often have low tongue tone and reduced jaw stability. They may prefer softer foods, chew slowly, or struggle with mixed textures.
    2. Swallowing pattern: A tongue that rests low may push forward when swallowing. This ‘tongue-thrust swallow’ can interfere with efficient chewing and even affect dental alignment over time.
    3. Breathing while eating: Since it’s hard to chew, swallow, and breathe through the mouth simultaneously, children who can’t comfortably nasal breathe may rush bites or pause to catch their breath. This can contribute to coughing, choking, or food refusal.

    Common signs to watch for

    Parents often notice subtle clues before realising mouth breathing is a pattern. Some red flags include:

    • Lips habitually open at rest
    • Drooling after the toddler years
    • Snoring or noisy breathing during sleep
    • Preference for soft foods or grazing eating habits
    • Dark circles under the eyes due to allergies
    • Frequent colds, congestion, or mouth odour
    • Speech that sounds slushy or unclear despite good effort

    If several of these sound familiar, it’s worth mentioning them to your child’s GP, dentist, or speech and language therapist.

    👩‍⚕️ What can help

    1. Address the underlying cause: If nasal blockage, allergies, or enlarged adenoids are making nasal breathing difficult, a medical assessment is the first step. ENT specialists can rule out or treat physical causes.
    2. Encourage closed mouth rest: Gentle reminders like ‘Lips together, tongue up, breathe through your nose’ can help older children become aware of their resting posture. For younger ones, visual cues (stickers or mirrors) can make it a game.
    3. Build oral-motor strength and awareness: Speech therapists can design activities to strengthen the tongue and lips, improve jaw stability, and encourage balanced breathing. This might include blowing games, tongue-tip lifts, use of dental-palatal devices or oral-motor exercises disguised as play.
    4. Support good posture: Sometimes mouth breathing goes hand-in-hand with forward-head posture. Encouraging upright sitting during meals and screen time helps keep the airway open and supports better breathing habits.
    5. Make nasal breathing part of daily routines: Gentle nose-breathing practice during calm times (reading, bedtime, car rides) helps normalise it. Avoid making it a battle: calm, consistent reminders work best.

    🌱 A gentle note on change

    Patterns of mouth breathing develop over time, and change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s important to approach this with curiosity, not criticism. The aim isn’t ‘perfect breathing,’ but to give your child the tools and awareness to breathe comfortably and efficiently.

    Small improvements in nasal breathing and resting posture can lead to big gains in speech clarity, eating confidence, and even sleep quality.

    💡 The takeaway

    Breathing seems automatic, and it is! but how we breathe matters. Mouth breathing and open-mouth posture can quietly shape how a child speaks, eats, and grows.

    By noticing early signs, addressing underlying causes, and building supportive habits, you can help your child move toward stronger, clearer speech and more comfortable mealtimes.

    Just like every area of development, progress starts with connection, patience, and gentle consistency, one calm breath at a time.

    Sonja McGeachie

    Highly Specialist Speech and Language Therapist

    Owner of The London Speech and Feeding Practice.

    References

    Alhazmi, A., Alshamrani, A., Alhussain, A., et al. (2022). Mouth Breathing and Speech Disorders: A Multidisciplinary Study. Journal of Pharmacy and Bioallied Sciences 14(5):911. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/361978128_Mouth_breathing_and_speech_disorders_A_multidisciplinary_evaluation_based_on_the_etiology


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